SERENDIPITY!!!

The faculty of making fortunate discoveries by accident……This the meaning of Serendipity. In other words…Good fortune found least expected. We all wish for goodness and happiness in our lives, no matter who we are or where we come from. Often times we are down and out emotionally, worrying about what next is going to happen in our lives and then….SERENDIPITY Occurs, and brings forth a positive change. “Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life” is what the writer chanted when he wrote this psalms or incantation and it is a mantra that can be beneficial if it is repeated daily and believed by the petitioner.

There was a time when I was pregnant and feeling very low, emotionally drained. I have written on this site many a times of the distressfull and haggard relationship that I had with the father of my children. Things had gotten from bad to worse for me, in terms of my emotional health. I cried daily, wanting at times just a hug, but I did not know how to ask for one. People saw me as strong. To appear vulnerable to them would kill my pride, so I put on a stiff upper lip and only showed my pain to myself when I was alone. It was a Monday morning and I went to open my beauty salon. I was perhaps about 6 months pregnant, and I had no money. I had paid all my shop bills, including the rent and so I was flat broke. By 1pm, the hunger became unbearable, the other stylists did not work on Mondays, and no walkins had come. I refused to call the baby father to ask for money to buy food, it would have pleased him to hear me beg. I refused!!. So I spoke to the baby in my belly and begged its forgiveness for not being able to provide. I did so with tears in my eyes. Feeling sorry for myself.

 Being pregnant and hungry is not a nice feeling at all. So I sat in my shop with the doors locked with the key and I began to think about my life and what was to come. How could I continue to live like this. I thought about my family and wondered why they did not love me and examined myself and saw how much I still loved them all, despite the treatment that they gave me. While I pondered off into space, I heard a noise at my door, I lifted up my head to see what was making that noise and saw a man that I knew tugging at the door handle, beckoning me to open the door. I dried my tears quickly and discreetly,by turning my back and I opened the door with a smile. He came in. This man was a very good friend of my family and a true spiritual mentor to me. He went into his pocket and handed me something folded up into in palm and urged me to take it. Hesitantly, and at his insistance I took it and unfolded fifty dollars in my hand. My knees buckled from under me and he held me up before I could fall, mindfull that I was pregnant.

 He walked me over to my chair and sat me down. I fell apart, I began to cry, and cry and cry, not noisely but painfilled. He hugged me and held me for a while until I could speak again. I knew that I had baffled him with my behavior and so I needed to explain to him why I reacted like that. Using his handkerchief to dry my tears, I haltingly told him, that I had not eaten since that morning and I had no customers from I came in and I was almost feeling faint, the baby was not happy with me and I was distraught before he came, I felt shamed telling him this but I had to!. I continued to tell him that I was just thinking before he came how nobody seemed to care about me not even the father of the child, and that I was so hurt within my spirit, wondering what would happen to me, what will the future bring. Iwas having a  major introspection before he came and gave me the money. He listened to me intently and I could see his eyes tear up and he reached into his pocket and pulled a hundred dollar bill and gave it to me in addition to the fifty, making the total one hundred and fifty dollars. I protested!!, but he insisted. He told me that he had been on his way to meet a woman in my area to do something for her. He was a spiritualist. A very Good One. He did not live anywhere close to me, he lived all the way down town. While he passed my salon he made a mental note to stop and see me if time allowed it. On his way back he stopped, he said determined to share some of the money he had just picked up with me so that I could buy lunch. SERENDIPITY!!!…good fortune found least expected, or in this case, it came to me. He had No idea that I was not in a good way and he listened to his spirit and stoped to bless me. I have not seen or heard from him in a while now, I know that he has crossed over, I can feel it in my own spirit, I pray and light a candle for him, that he will be given a comfortable home in the realms, and be peacefull there. Walk Good My friend!!. Obara Meji remembers you!!

I went walking one day, pregnant with my second child, (I know I am always pregnant, lol….It is Osun!, she gives babies, no matter your age, she will give it to you!!). I was very young then, remember I started off having children young. My baby father was in prison so I lived alone with my daughter. I Passed a woman that I Knew in passing, just to say Hi!, and Bye!, to. I didn’t even remember her name. She looked distressed and so I stopped to ask how she was doing. she broke down and began to cry and my heart moved at her story. She told me that she had been locked out of her house by her best friend, because she had gone to a party the night before with some man, and that friend with whom she lived told her to go stay with the man she was not welcome there anymore. Yvonne was her name, I remembered while she spoke to me. I did not want her to feel that I was feeling sorry for her, in case she was like me and had a lot of pride, But I had made up my mind that she would not be homeless, as long as I had somewhere to put her, she would not be on the streets. My own mother had put me out when I had my baby, it was not a nice feeling to have nowhere to go. So I told Yvonne that I was on my way home to cook Ackee and saltfish would she like to come with me, again not wanting her to feel like a charity case, and she said yes. She lived with me for three months, and the she left. SERENDIPITY, for her at the time. Good Fortune found least expected, can be anything.Walking down the street and finding money, buying the lotto on a whim and winning!, meeting a good person who instantly hooks you up on a job that you needed, meeting the man/woman of your dreams. SERENDIPITY!!. 

Spiritually I would say SERENDIPITY is the name of a spiri, it really is not, but it functions like it. It is Our guardian angels and our ancestors that sets these happenings before us. It is our spirit guides that, cares for us on this earth plane!. who works to make our journey here better, It is them that knew my plight and send my friend to me, in my time of need. It was them that guided me to Yvonne. It is important to sow good seeds. Parents, remenber that you have children,  DO GOOD!!!, so that blessings can be your childrens reward!!!. There is a saying that we have in Jamaica that says “Parents suck the sour grapes and mek de pickney dem teeth nedge!”,…..There is no good reward for Evil, and If you have children the return will be their legacy!!.  A kind act will forever be repaid, but do not look for it!!., do not do something with an agenda!1, do it because your heart has directed you to!!.. and many times your reward will come from an unknown source, in another way!!, If you see someone in trouble and you can assist them…DO!!!..please I implore you!!, and when you do, do not speak or brag of it!. Appeal to your heart for empathy. Do not judge the person ethinicity, poverty range, looks, educational background, infirmities, sexual orientation, or whatever, see them as your brother/sister. Great shall be your reward!!. I assure you!. The universe, when it rewards you is kinder than Oprah can ever be, and wwe all know how kind Oprah is.The Universe can surprise you even better!!. But you must sow good seeds. Pay a kind act done to you forward!. Even if no one has ever shown you kindness, neglect those feelings, of hurt and pain, and YOU, be kind, and then you will surely feel God!!. We all are under deep scrutiny by our elders in heaven, let us not disappoint them…… SERENDIPITY….good fortune found least expected…..is Gods way of rewarding us…… The Universe way of saying thank you!!,……… I an your friend Obara Meji!!

sow good seeds….Proverb