While I grew up in Kingston Jamaica, I had the most fun and I remember the most intriguing characters. Miss Will, remember our tormentor in the tenement yard where we lived who would steal chicken and other meats and drink items from our kitchen when my mother was not looking, and mind you enuh, if Hilda Willis goes into your pot, it is CONDEMNED!!!, because Hilda Willis does not bathe and she urinates on herself, and attributes it to a bout with Malaria a few years back. Whew!!!.
Then there was Mr. Fergie, the resident drunk, Bunny the mad man from pain land!, Dog, who came from Waltham Park road, Mumzel, the prostitute on Langard Ave and more. Across the street from where we lived there was the big tenement yard that the chinese man, Mr. He who owned the big grocery shop was the landlord, we use to live there. My friend Jackie, lived there, upstairs, with her mom Miss Collins, and her sister Meagan and Miss Collins Man/boyfriend/fiance..whatever I do not remember his name. This man was a very handsome man, he was light skin, (not that it made him handsome, being light skinned), slender and quite pleasing to look at, I was young but I remember this very well, I have always had an appreciation for good looking men, still do,– ah suh mi tan, oonu low mi!. The people in the community use to talk about him and called him Miss Collins Maama man,(effeminate man). He was very clean, and he would wash cook and clean. What was odd was that being a tenement, everybody would wash almost on the same day, which was on Saturdays, and he would wash Miss Collins underwears and hang them out, bright and brawling for every one to see. Now that I am grown and think about it, I do not see anything wrong with it, it’s rather cute. This was taboo in Jamaica, because real men wouldn’t wash their women undies?…would they?. I would suck my finger, (love that finger and miss it still), and listen to people tease this poor man, who was quite feisty and who didn’t really speak to people in the community, and who was strict stepfather to my friend Jackie and her sister Meagan!. Jackie heard the rumors and how the community mocked her stepfather and was very disturbed by it. She never said anything about it and they soon moved.
Then there was Lloyd, Miss Joyce youngest son. Miss Joyce was the fat higgler woman who had a stall across the street beside Miss Hilda. Miss Joyce lived in Frog city a community behind Maxfield Park, this was a very poor community. She had fourteen children and the youngest one was Lloyd, who would sell for Miss Joyce when she went to market or was busy. Lloyd would put on his mothers apron, and had all the mannerisms of his mother or a big higgler woman when he was selling. Jamaican people would call hin “Joyce gallish bwoy”, and when people would call him so to his face, he would curse them and say, “yes is oonu father or bredda tell oonu!”, he was fourteen when I knew him. Lloyd acted like a girl even outside the apron and I was surprised to see after I migrated and returned for a visit Lloyd was manly and seemed to be interested in me for a girlfriend!?…..BRIGHT AND OUT OF ORDER!!..
I saw a an Interview with Jackee Harry’s husband Elgin Charles and…. you know what google it and see for your self. Then there was Michael Jackson, the husband from Ashford and Simpson, well with them I do not know how the man acts but he certainly has the feminine look down pat. Then there was the time when a guy came into my salon looking and acting like a girl and had the nerve to try to holler at me!!?. When I told him that I thought that he was gay, he got offended and asked me how could I think so?. How could I!, well lets see brethren, you hair extensions was a big hint, along with your both pinkys being extremely long, you Louis Vuitton women sneakers was another clue and then there is the sitting with legs crossed and lastly that effeminate laughter pulled it all together. He said he has never been attracted to men even the slightest and loved women very much and wondered why they did not seem to take him seriously, he had grown up with ten sisters, and a dress-maker mother, who use to use him as a mannequin. He seemed genuinely sad at this. Wow!!. Was he mad?.
There are many spirits in the realms that has these characteristic traits, and they are quite good as messengers and healers. They come in visions and dreams to assist us very well. But lots of them look like women and act like them also. I will write a whole subject on them over the weekend, please remind me and we will learn why it is so. I will not be giving away any Occult secrets and will only write on this topically. Some things are only for the initiates. The reason being is that it can disturb the mind if it has not been prepared to receive the knowledge. There are effeminate souls or beings that walk the earth and some have penetrated the minds and bodies of men. There is a spiritual reason. This is not a topic on homosexuality, nor am I saying that all effeminate men are gay, but they do make you wonder. It would be hard for me Obara Meji to accept one as my husband, I love de ruff neck one dem, whey sey, Come yah Obara and mi juss go!! (oonuh doe laugh). but dat is neither here or there..lol!!. I am very strong and even though I am a very feminine looking, feeling and acting woman my character is masculine. I would not have it any other way. Man to mi ting doah!!..
Tru yuh know ah maama man run de world, yuh gooda find out sey yuh girl name Earl…Beenie man song Wickedest Slam.
Obara Meji is a spiritualist, Ifa-Orisa practitioner, and teacher of metaphysics. Since 2011 she has used her online platform to share her personal experiences to those seeking answers about spirituality. Her teachings will expand into short stories, novels, and public speaking to continue her mission of bringing enlightenment to the world.