September 29, 2011 Obara Meji 31Comment

The subject of a true friend is touchy for me, because I have NEVER had one. I have always wondered why, and even have cried and lamented about it. It always seems to me that even while growing up, as soon as I made a new friend something would come up and we would separate. It was not until I embraced my spirituality that I realized that my Eguns (ancestors), and my spiritual guides were the ones protecting me from I was a wee babe, from untrustworthy people, deceptive individuals. I was marked for spirituality, (to become a spiritualist), before I came into the world and as such could not have certain characters as friends. With age brings wisdom, and I have come to realize that it is for the benefit of me why some people are removed from my life. The woman I wrote about in yesterdays post, I had hoped could have been a friend, but my astral mates made her reveal herself quickly to me. I still like her and will pray for her, but I must thank them for that revelation. For all those who have experienced good and true friendship, I Obara Meji say HOOORAYYY for you!!!. it is good when you have found people that will always be there for you through thick and thin. You must do all you can to uphold this friendship and pray fervently that nothing bad EVER enters the relationship, because PRAYER works, and GOOD FRIENDS ARE HARD TO FIND!!.

Here on Embracing Spirituality, the focus is to share as much as I know with you how to understand if even just a little all things that are spiritual, and why. How they manifest through any and everything in our lives. How to recognize the messages that are being sent to us through the many avenues and channels provided to us by the Universe. Often times our messages comes to us through people that we know, or  family members, mentors, or people who we randomly meet. Sometimes people that we randomly meet becomes our good friends and can often times become a blessing as well as a curse in our lives, if only we relax and watch the signs that will show itself up real quickly. Now you would wonder why would the Universe send you a bad person in your life, the answer is simple. Bad experiences even if it cost death or destruction comes to teach, not only the victim but the world!. It is difficult to understand I know,  but that is the truth!. For instance, a child is kidnapped, and found murdered, the country is outraged and disgusted that someone could do this. What eventually comes out of this is that a new law is made to protect the children of our land, Read the Post titled DEATH PART 1!, and you will realize that death does not exist!.

Often times we have a friend who we believe is true, real and genuine. Sometimes we have been with them for  a while, possibly since Kindergarten. Life becomes good for you and suddenly that friend becomes your worse enemy. Or you marry and begin your life with your lovely husband or wife, seeding up a couple of children and the friend withdraws from you and all of a sudden they are out of your life. The possibility of jealously is there, Jealous because you got married perhaps, or jealous because you are no longer free to roam the streets with them, whatever the case maybe. There is also the friend who suffers from SCHADENFREUDE, who is happy when problems enters the marriage or when the boss threatens to fire you!. When you bring all your hurt and pain to them they secretly rejoice at your hurt. Wasn’t Judas a friend?, What was Brutus to Caesar?, Peter denied Christ. Oh Oprah such serendipity when you found Gayle!!.

Good friend is better than gold someone said and how true is that, but does that really exist?, and I Obara Meji who is asking this question should very well introspect, to see if I am truly a good friend myself. It all boils down to compatibility. We should choose our friends I believe, on the basis of the energy that person brings into our lives. For example, If you are a weak person then you should look for a strong and determined friend, who will give you the inspiration to learn your strength and that will be by example, do not get me wrong, because there will be the strong ones who will try to exert power over you which will cause you to run. This strength of character should be also filled with love and compassion. Opposites attracts and I believe that to be true.  There maybe personality traits missing in someone but they find themselves in another who has that missing link and the relationship works because you understand them, and they understand you. Incredible but true. Friendship begins with the heart, and it should be cherished, because we all need each other and no man is an Island. Respect and communication should be the root of all friendship and those two will, bring along trust. Whenever you have a friend, inquire through prayer or meditation what has this person brought into my life, how will their energy assist me to evolve. What contribution do we have to give each other, is this friendship a waste of time. The answer to the latter should be no, because nothing happens by chance, so you have met that person for a reason, the wisdom here is for you to calmly examine their purpose around you!. Oprah says of Gayle, that she is very truthful to her, and that Gayle is happy for Oprah more than Oprah is for herself whenever Oprah achieves anything in life!. Oprah has recognized Gayle’s purpose in her life and that has forged and unbreakable bond. It is time to use your spirit of discernment and look for answers, we all have that innate ability. USE IT!!.

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MTH
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Thanks everyone that has been praying for me, I feel the positive vibrations. Thanks and God bless you!

Sa-Fo
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Oh woooow. I get you now!!!

Sa-Fo
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Evening lovely. I hear you on this one. As I grow older, I realize that the thousands of “friends” I had were none at all. I thank God for my ONE true friend all the time. I cannot tell a lie, I make friends easily and I lose them just as fast. I have this “cut and guh through mentality.” I am very trusting and I hold everyone to a high standard and when they disappointment me, I find my self just freeing them and moving right along. My mother warns me that I shouldn’t do that. She says that you never know where you will be in this world and who will be able to help, even when you don’t think they have the best intentions for you at all times. But I just don’t have it in me to be fake and play like everything is all right. My tolerance is very very low and this is why I keep very few people in my circle.

Oh gosh Obara, when I read sometimes that you don;t have that ONE true friend in your life I just can’t believe it. After speaking with you last night, I was just smiling from ear to ear, even though our topic was serious. Lawd you just have such a nice vibe!!

Obara meji
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Mi kids dem sufficient and you guys in cyber world, this is why I thank you again Sa for dragging me back to blogging muah!!!!!

Obara meji
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My ifa says no animals and I live dogs but I cannot have one because my ifa is a hunter and it’s energy is strong and it would drive the animals crazy

Sa-Fo
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Bless. If you like it , I love it.

Ty
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Quick question for you Obara, the other day before I knew I am a child of the sweet Osun, I had a bee hive in my compost bin… It have fresh honey and all… I was scared because the boys play outside right it… So me and mi husband use water and chase the hive… They moved but I now feel bad.. Do u think she will be upset with me?

Ore eye Osun..

Obara meji
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And i love to laugh

Obara meji
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No, because you did not know

Obara meji
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Obara meji

Ah yuh ppl come visit yuh lol bout yuh chase yuh mumma wid water dwl

Ty
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Lol, u shoulda see me and mi husband out there wid di bees… Trust me you would a deh pon di grung a laugh.. Not one sting, now mi can look back on it on a different light..

Ty
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Ok thank you…

Ty
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Me have nuff animals, so maybe that is mi friends.. I have a 14 yo dog, had her from she was 2 months old, she is mi oldest child. I have fish tanks in each of my boys rooms, and one at my office.. I have 4 love birds : Frankie, pepper, kay Kay and sunshine..

Obara meji
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Gracias mi amor! I like missy.

Ty
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My dead weight dem drop long time…lol

Obara meji
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I wish I could have animals but my ifa says no

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Why no animals? I have two kitties, I love them sooooooooooo much. Pets bring lots of Joy. I wish I had dogs but I won’t get them. I had a dog when I was little and someone poisoned him and burnt him. Flassy, he was the best, everyone loved him. I can’t go through that trauma again.

Ty
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Well I have enough for us both.. Mi casa es su casa mi querida..

The birds are cute they hug up, kiss and feed each other..they fight sometimes too and a just spray dem with water and fight bruk..

Missy my dog is older and now have arthritis and poor vision but she sweet same way.. She is my constant companion.. She watches my kids, bark at them when they throw a ball or play soccer in the house…

Me and hubbie plant lots of things too to keep busy… We have cane, pear, a eke, orchids, roses, lychee and Camodin.

Ty
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I can so relate… I have no friends… The closest thing I have is gf that I see once a year and text every now and then… I could u all some stories….my grandfather told me once, if u feel a friend is not for u, tell them a lie ans wait for it to come back to you…that trick work so many times…

I love to read biographies for I learn so much thru others. Once will smith was asked about how he keeps friends and he said, if they have nothing positive to contribute to your life, release them…

Obara meji
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Release them, don’t be afraid fi cut then off

MTH
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My guides just whispered to me where I keep going wrong.

MTH
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Sometimes I wonder why I attract a certain type of person to me.

MTH
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I had to use someone else’s log-on, but praises be to the most High. Obara, our spirits are aligned as I sent you an email to discuss this very topic and by time I came over, I saw the post. Here is my story.

I have a friend who encouraged me to migrate. Aproximately 2 weeks after being there a guy I knew from school contacted me and said that he had a change to give me as I had my daughter with me and it was a new country etc. When I went home my friend complained about something my daughter did. She cursed very badly. When I was away, my friend had had sent her to the room and proceed to chat mi. My daughter told me everything that was said. Anyways, I would be in the house and she wouldnt talk to me. The only time she spoke to me was when she wanted me to cook some “Jamaican food’. The treatment was so bad, I decided to come back home.

After I got back my Jamaican friend would say horrible things like mi nuh know wey yu run gane a farrin fah. Anyways, the Jamaican friend (JF) would ask me to accompany her to the supermarket and she would not offer to get me anything. She then started to compare her children to mine saying her children were brighter which is not true and the only reason they did well was that I have the time to teach them and she on the other had was busy making money from various ventures. This same girl got over $150,000 USD and said she knew I didnt have it so she gave me less than $10 USD. She seems to enjoy the struggle that I am going through.

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Ok Obara, mi feel betta. Ef is deeven ah wan ping nung an den, juss mek mi noe oonu good.

Maniac
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Mi starting to worry!!! whey oonu deh?
Sharlenerose whappen? Obara???? mi cyaan get to none ah oonu

GG mi know yuh good an mi glad yuh back

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