July 19, 2011 Obara Meji 25Comment

The first two paragraph of this post was taken from an article written for seniorservices.co.za. The rest is a re-post of mine. I find it so very sad to see the elderly mistreated. I love old people and yes I understand not all Pops Or Moms are the sweet little things that we think they are supposed to be. There are many personalities placed here on earth to live together we all could not be the same. However we must not remove from our minds that the elderly needs our strength in order to continue living out their lives. We should respect them, be patient with them, assist them in what ever way we can. We must love and cherish them. They cared for us when we needed the care let us always remember that it is our duty to do the same for them. I honor all the elders in my life..nuff love and respect!! 

In the Asian society, the elderly are respected and looked up to. Unfortunately, in our society this is not always true. Older people in our society are sometimes viewed as a nuisance and not valued for the wonderful people they are. The medical community can be very harsh on the elderly by using the justification that they have already lived their lives. They tend to ignore conditions that would never be ignored on a younger person. My mother would not have lived to eighty-nine without my intervention. There seems to be a misnomer in society that older people are useless and have nothing to contribute

Seniors are sometimes told that they are useless or just simply ignored. They are people with feelings that are a bit older and would like to enjoy the same respect and joy that a younger person enjoys. You see the elderly working at the Wal-Mart doors. They also work with the county to use their skills and knowledge to help the people who are starting out in business. They are the volunteers at hospitals (pink ladies). They man many of the soup kitchens and are an asset to our community. They are the Grand Mothers and Grand Fathers of our children. These people are our Mothers and Fathers, and they deserve our love and respect. They are the people who know how to get things done. We owe a lot of our successes in life to our seniors.

They are the ones that have gone before us to show us the way, (From senior service.co)

It is Important for us to realize the Importance of an Elder, they are deserving of respect  and honor. Respect is due to all and that is what we were taught as children growing up, where ever you grew up.  If you were not taught this at home by your parents, then the school would have filled you in. Age is honor and for a person to be blessed with long life, it is something wonderful. In Africa when an elder is praying for you the first words that are uttered are  “May you have Long Life”  and then Health, and prosperity will follow.  I have seen this new generation of people across the world, disrespect their elders often, although I must say I have never seen it in Africa, It is Our Elders that we learn from, the ones who pass down oral tradition, they must be revered! Growing up in Jamaica, when our neighbor Miss Will would make trouble, when she and my mother would argue, being very protective of my mother, I would try to join with my mom to curse Miss Will.  As soon as my mother heard me she would slap me and tell me to shut up, this was between big people.  Afterwards she would lecture me, telling me that Miss Will was a grown woman and I should never disrespect her, If I see her carrying bags I should offer to help her or if she falls and I am around I should not walk away, rather I should help her, the only caution she gave me was if she offered me food, drinks, or candy I should refuse, but do so politely. In the traditional practice of  IFA/ORISHA, it is not only important that we honor our elders by theirs physical age, but also by theirs spiritual age too, the wealth of spiritual knowledge that they possess and how long have they been initiates.  When I travel to Ogun State, Nigeria and I go on my God Fathers compound, Olowu Okegbemi, I immediately drop to my knees, and grasp his right leg, and  greet him while he prays for me. Parents we must instill this in our children, they do not say, Miss this or Mr. that any more. No Good morning, evening or night when ever they call or come around!! why? Where are the Please and the thank you. Gone are the days when youngsters did not curse in front of the elders. Shame!! What has the world come to, then is it any wonder that nature is turning against human being.  There is a quote by Jame Baldwin that says;  

“Children have never been very good at listening to their elders, but they never fail to imitate them”

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Sa-Fo
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Can I tell you!! One of my biggest pet peeves! I’m a late 80’s Gen-Y and I can safely say that most persons born after 1990 are a bit lost. I say this because Elders are not held in high regard like how they used to be. Why do you think that is? Media and social media are raising our children. Like you Obara, I spent my crucial years in Jamaica and then the later part in North America. At first, I thought it was a cultural thing. Younger persons would pass elders on the road, no Good evening no nothing. People have grandma and grandpa standing in the buses, cursing at them, abusing them, laughing at them. And it’s sad today that the younger was in Jamaica have adopted this behaviour too. I never thought I would see the day.

I’m not going to lie, I feel like we’re losing and it scares me. It’s like no one is interested any more in what they have to say or teach. This is a “hands off” kind of time. What will we passing down for the future generations to come? Seflies and hasgtags? I cant’…… smh

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I live in Florida and it pack up with elders. Some of them will try you patience, they have no manners. Others are sweet that you would take home. Most are here without family and so are depressed. They are abused, robbed and preyed upon here. It is sad to see how they are treated here, most are parked in nursing homes and cared for by a strangers.

Obara meji
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Obara meji

Some ah dem bad man but Mek sem sin not us

Sa-Fo
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That really hurts me. I loved my Grandmother to death!!! She plays a huge part in who I am today. People forget, once a man twice a boy. It soon lick dem though.

Ty
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Me and you both. My grandmother died when I was 7, but I still remember and love her. I can even remember her scent. She helped to mold me into who I am today and am grateful for her.

Gog3tt3r
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a true mainy

Maniac
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bwoy mi ah tell yuh…an moas ah dem very grateful wen yuh help dem…..di one dem ah Jamaica always ah tell yuh ‘God Bless yuh mi darling, an tenk yuh yuh hear’

Gog3tt3r
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dem nice enuh.. mi lub d feisty one dem

Maniac
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But fi real GG, mi like tawk to older ppl…..dem wise an some ah dem really kool an dung to earth

Yuh noe di one dem whey mi use to like heng out wid….di one dem whey use to come ah mi madda bar….ah dem sey joke

Maniac
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Ah dat mi waan noe to GG. Guess shi bizi…Mussi hav client or sum’n

Gog3tt3r
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mi is hear mainy weh mumma deh

Maniac
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GG wat ah gwaaannnnn?

Gog3tt3r
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Gog3tt3r

Maaaaaaaaaaawwwwwwwwnnnnnnnnnnnnnninnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn mi latttttttttteeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

Maniac
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Mawninggggggg
Virgin, GG, Sharlene, Opti, Obara, everybody
Maniac Present!!!

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Only in the West we see this kind of disrespect to the elders. In the traditonal people the elders are treated with a certain degree of reverece. Obara your stories of growing up in Jamaica always make me feel connected you. It would have happened to me, if I tried to do the same thing with two adults, I would get slap across the head. Nowadays they treat elders very badly, its a shame!!!

Maniac
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Jeezam peeze…..Obara yuh noe yuh mad doe!!! Fi real some ah dem nuh eazy atall, an wen dem gwaan wid dem antics, chue dem owl, ppl tek up fi dem an mek it look like ah you ah di bad apple.

Lol GG mi noe yuh enuh…..po granny lol ….gudda repeat 10 hail Mary wen yuh done wid har

Gog3tt3r
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mainy one day mi deh a d stop lite a wait fi it guh pon read suh mi can cross.. n e way d green walking man come up suh mi kno seh a time mi cross.. dis lil ole ooman wen deh deh too suh mi walk pass her mi baily bunx d ooman mi turn to her n seh sorry now dis ooman ready fi tek mi on nuh ask if mi neba dip up under her n walk weh enuh.. suhpo uno see d ooman too..barely can walk to rass

Maniac
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Tell mi yuh tory deh GG, caw mi noe yuh hab nuff 🙂

Gog3tt3r
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Obara mi respect mi elders enuh but some a dem tink cawz dem ole dem have alrite fi disrespect others and dont get back d same treatment.. more time mi ignore dem but anuh all d time mi do it cawz some a dem rass feisty

Gog3tt3r
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MAINY MI SISTA MI DEH YAH MI HUNI

Maniac
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GG mi sista-in-law, where art thou?

Maniac
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Obara, mi respek mi elders enuh…..but mi muss admit sey some ah dem tormenting badddddd……dem believe sey chue dem older, dem muss sey ennyting an disrespek yung ppl sometime…..Ef mi si dem pon bus, inna line, pon di road etc. as long as mi nuh sick (mi hab one kandishan suh sumtime mi cyaan really git up gi dem seat an ting) mi try mi bess help dem out…..mi wii all falla dem goh bus stop, wait wid dem an ting…

Mi memba one time wen mi deh JA, mi teef whey goh pon di road goh buy gas caw mi neva waan fi stap pon mi way home (traffic ruff inna di eveling deh!), anyway, mi drive up inna di gas stayshan, si dis elderly ooman (shi dee look bout inna har 60s) stan up inna di way like shi ah dweet fi spite an nah waa move outta di way fi ppl get fi goh ah di pump……mi toot mi hawn n bekan to har….shi look pon mi an still tan up inna di way, so mi maneuver di cyaar an goh ah di pump……Kakarawtid!!! ah woo tell mi fi do dat? (mi neba touch di ooman enuh) di ooman stawt pon one peesa cussing, alla tell mi badwud….mi hignore har….dat neva enuff, shi come dung to mi winda nung and stawt cuss an alla pint har finga pon mi bout whey ah whey shi wuda do (by dis time di bwoy dem whey werk deh ah tell har fi gwaan caw mi neva touch har, an ef shi nuh si sey mi naw pay har nuh mine)…..Wen mi cudden tek har nuh more mi sey ‘Mek mi tell yuh sumn lady, mi madda teach mi fi always respek mi eldas enuh but mi tiad ah yuh raas now, soh move yuh damn crawses self fram mi cyaar an mi ah beg yuh PLEASE nuh mek mi an yuh have nutten oh’…

Guess shi dee si how crus mi bi or di hawf ah lass eena di door, but shi neva sey anneda werd….

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