Often times I wonder how my life would have turned out if I had never met my children’s father, but it makes no sense to do that because I know through spiritual understanding that this was predestined and it was something that I could not change at least at the time. I did not know IFA!. I met my children’s father at a time when I needed help. I had a child as a teenager and was put out of my parents home along with the baby. It was sad but not detrimental because my innocence protected me, protected my mind from being angry or sad, or becoming hatefull. I found a room, still went to school and friends helped out. I met him when I was at a friend’s house minding my business, when he and his friends came to visit. He saw me, wanted me, pursued me, got me. It seemed at that time as if I had no choice.
Because of my children I can never regret us being together, coupled with the knowledge that the trials and problems that came with that horrible relationship led me to where I am now, as a Priestess of Osun, to which I am Glad. Finding my place in my Spiritual and Traditional life was a rocky road, but it was worth it. We have read stories on Embracing Spirituality on Family Disconnection, but I know now that although we are related by blood our so-called family is not always our true family. I listened to one Of Jamaica’s new artist this morning while I sat inside my car outside my house just chilling, I-Octane, and he had a line in one of his songs (Study yuh friends dem), it said………”before yuh pree yuh enemy it’s best to pree yuh bona-fi”….. WISDOM!!!…..also the same with some family members. I could write a book on some bad ones.
I thought as a woman, my mother-in-law (we were not married), would understand when I cried out to her at the disrespect I faced at the hands of her son. Not so!!. Instead she welcome the other women and children into her home, and complained that he gave me a hair salon and that is the reason why she did not like me. As if I had charmed (bewitched) her son!!!. I DID NOT!!…. My own mother turned her back when it became too much and I thought I would die of the shame and disgrace that I faced at the hands of him and his woman/women, being a well-known hair stylist in our small community. I begged her please let me stay with you until I could find my own place with my children and the answer was a solid No!!!.
Even when I ran to my parents home for a day, because it could not be more than that, and he would come for me, begging and pleading and promising me that he would stop his wild ways, and I instinctively knew that he lied and refused to go, preferring to go to a hotel instead, until I could find my way, OUT!, but they (my parents) would be kind to him and urge me to go with him, ignoring my distress, and I foolishly went. Not because I was so much in love with him, I don’t think I ever was, looking back on it all now, but he was kind to me at a moment when I had no one!. Parents stand behind your children!!!.
He had met this bitch who had decided that she had met a rich guy and HE was not going to get away regardless of what!. I do not blame her alone although she was hell-bent on breaking us up, he had confessed to me more than one time that his intention was just to have a one time LAY with her, and went about his way, but SHE had other plans and a baby was born. The beginning of my nightmare, but thank God it happened, because it was it that sent me on my spiritual journey. If she had not plagued my life with witchcraft, I OBARA MEJI would not be who I am today. She came to earth to set me on my spiritual path. He came also to help me along, this I now know, and so I have forgiven them!.
As usual I will share one of my distressful stories with you all, but remember I share with you for the possibility of opening up your own eyes to things that may be similar in your or others that you know life. Experience teaches wisdom!!!.
He had ben sleeping out frequently, the girl had consumed his mind. We at the house were there and he felt that we were not going anywhere. I was in war, a spiritual wicked battle with one of the most evil women that I have ever encountered. She tried to kill me and my children, (I am quite sane, and I alone know what I went through), she had tied him up spiritually to her so bad that he did not know himself!. I saw that he still loved me, but he could not help himself and I wanted to help him but he would not allow it. Yet whatever she had done to him, did not quell his desire for me, he wanted me often and would fight me if and when I resisted. And I did, Resist, because I, a proud dignified woman should not knowingly allow anyone to sleep with me when they are involved sexually with another!!.. I was too fearful of diseases, which thank God I eluded.
He came home one night, we never knew which night he would come home, it seemed to me that when he did come he resisted going to her, and that showed some strength on his behalf, at least a little. He slept out in the living room on the couch, upset with me because I had refused quite viciously to sleep with him. While I slept, around 3.30am, I woke up to see a spanish man at the foot of my bed. He wore a hat on his head and a white tee shirt. He sat at the edge and had my drawer to my dresser out which contained the baby’s father clean underpants. The man was quite aware that I was watching him but he did not care and I could not speak. From the position of my bed I could see out into my living room even though the door was closed, I saw myself (my spirit had left my body to do this), trying desperately to wake the baby father up, so that he could see the man. The man had a cigarette in his mouth and the ashes at the tip of the lit cigarette was so long, I was fascinated by it. He slyly smiled, took the underwear out and stood up to leave, and then he turned to me and said from his mind “your eyes are quick, maybe I will work with you one day, it will be my pleasure”, and then he calmly walked out.
The next day I opened my salon, and a couple of my friends were in the shop talking to me, some shouted look!, I turned my head to see the same man who I had seen the night before dressed in the same attire, white tee-shirt and a kongol looking white hat. He had a huge cigar in his mouth and he stood at my shop window blowing the smoke unto my glass. He did so not caring that we saw him and when I was able to move and confront him, he calmly walked down the street.
The man was the person who did the witchcraft for her (her Obeah Man), he had sent his own spirit to my house to steal my baby’s father clothes, and he had come in person doing rituals to ruin my Salon.
I know now that my own ancestors/Astral mates allowed it to happen because, I had to witness these things to be able to understand them and be able to deal with them. When we go through trial and crosses, we should log them into our memory, because they come to teach and place us on a higher plane in life. A shift in vibration. They come to elevate us. Whenever we fall, there is nowhere to go but up!. We have to be able to understand the lessons that God is teaching us. I was allowed to experience these things so that I could find my life’s path. Everything connected, my mother had to put me out, he had to find me, she had to come in between and so on. I do not tell myself these things to comfort my mind, I know this is how the universe works. I do not regret my life with him, I would have preferred to have gone through less pain, But God makes no mistakes, This I am sure!. I anm sure!!…. I Obara Meji urge you all to Pray my darlings. I urge you all to Pray!!
A hunter who has only one arrow does not shoot with careless aim…..Yoruba Proverb
my experience is similar. there’s a reason i found this place. love and light
Sed ting mi do Opti….ah soh mi tie 2 an 2 togedda…..an dem all mek SIX to rawtid!!!! caw dis ah more dan 4…..when yuh naive is a hellava ting
Mawning Opti, how u do? Long time….
mi mumma clawt is a baby croc dat
Mawninggggggg GG dearest…..all ah whey wi write ah chue mi lub One did jump pon mi to when mi preggo GG, but mi brush dat aside as whey ole time ppl sey to, so mi nuh tink nutten much bout it……but ah di hellava green lizzad whey did deh pon di grille an jump pon mi pikni puppa as him open di door…..nawmally ah mi wudda go out fuss, but dat mawning mi beg him back out di cyaar fimi……ennyhow ah mi did go howt deh, mi wudda prob lose di baby caw di way mi friten fi dem wi… Read more »
mawnniiinnnnn a all a dis mi miss lastnite.. Sharlene Mainy and Obara trust mi uno hab mi wid mi mouth a grung… Mi want fi kno more mi dearies.. uno teach mi…. but Obara and mainy dah lizard thing deh mi fraida dem enuh but mi never kno seh dem dat dangerous U kno mi first pregnancy one lizard did jump pon mi enuh but u kno ole time ppl seh a a cawzen seh mi a breed mi never think nutten of it.. soh uno tell mi oh mi nuh kno cawz really and truly mi neba kno mi… Read more »
Cho, mi cyaa badda enuh….whey yuh ah lawwf afta mi fah???? YES DED PIJIN!!!! Cho!!!!! rite ah mi bedroom winda!!!!!
ded pijin mainy!!! lololl
Obara yuh sey God protect di innocent an ah really chue….. ah nuff tings mi dodge….ded pijin ah mi winda an alla dem tings deh
LOL….mi naw sey nutten
yuh done know!!! lol!!
Okaaaaay. I’m sorry mommy
THANKS TO MI MADDA OBARA
cho baxide afta all
thank sharlenerose and oddas by dem selves
wha yuh ah share mi thanks fa maniac!
Mi sey nuh ask if mi nah larn nuff tings since mi meet mi Madda….Tenk yuh Obara!!!! You too Sharlene and oddas
yes lizard nuh good!
An mi nuh like dem enuh 🙁
Mi use to hab some whey mi use to lib wen mi did rent…..an mi did kip on ah tell ppl sey dem deh lizzad neba nawmal…..now (an mi mean NOW) dat mi tink bout it, di pikni puppa an har did deh during dem time deh!!!!….mi neva noe whey nah nawmal bout dem, but dem juss neva seem rite
dawg shit dem!!
yes…damn dutty lizard a dem dutyy duppy…old craft worker dem
mi deh pon de phone!!!
Whey Obara deh????? Whey yuh do Sharlene? juss tell dem fi f*^K off an stay di f@*K away? Gudda all she did sen di big rawtid green lizard wen mi pregnant, caw chue dem noe sey next to God lizard ah mi nex biggest fear (mi tawk it all di while, so maybe dem pick up pon it)…..Mi sey ah – mek mi count – ah 7 man it tek fi kill di one lizard an one man whey did come fram dung di road sey ‘no sah anuh good lizzad dat, mi gone’…..but tank God dem did block in… Read more »
But Sharlene memba mi new to di ting enuh man…..mi noe sey sum’n wrong y mi kip ah dream har, but mi neva get confamayshan till few munts agoh
when dem caan beat u dem try friend u…dutty bitches…me no ramp fi tell de fucker dem…stay outta mi dream
u a dream…she a work…simple…as me see my fucking enemy dream me ands me and she buck up a dance…she fling stone…me ssight…everything she c ome wid me miss it…hear har come ya sharlene…me no know whe me and u a fight fah…if u caan beat dem join dem…somebody just call tell me say dem see her a walk out a road widout shoes inna de rain…schadenfreude to rass
An mi noe shi did hab han inna mi life caw mi MADDA tell mi soh…..Awoe!!!!! Plus y she of all di gyal dem whey him did hab? Y dream bout she soh much?
Ah whey nite mi dream bout har ahgen enuh….awfta ova 2 yrs, but mi feel sey ah not a ting but chue mi go JA an mi did c har same cousin whey mi dream bout wid har an whey use to dash wud pon mi wen mi an mi pikni puppa pass (caw shi eva deh pon di street side)…..Mi dream sey di gyal ah try fren mi!!!!!
Ah MI ah di MONKEY Obara….chue mi dark skinned an shi lighter dan mi……Not as light as you Obara but yuh noe how some ppl tan
a whe maniac deh man…cho…we a wait
Ppl….bout 45 mins layta mi cell fone ring and mi si mi fawda numba but mi cudden hear nutten…..it happen bout 4 more time, soh mi sey to misself sey ‘no man summen wrong’ so mi call mi madda an ask har ef him reach yet; shi sey ‘no’ so mi call him fone till mi weak…awfta awhile mi finally get him an him tell mi sey him crash an mi fi call mi madda an tell har whey him deh….. Believe it or not, di cyaar (ah we dem did buy it fram) goh ova a 20ft precipice….can you… Read more »
stay home and wha??
a who ah de monkey?
Few years awfta, mi have mi baby….wen mi goh home an reach ah FIMI house mi did affi tek a bee line goh uppa mi madda howse caw him bredda did have him gyal deh, an awfta mi run har out, mi leff caw mi decide sey mi yung baby neva did ahgoh sleep pon nuh ‘fuck pon’ bed…..Anyway mi keep dreaming bout dis gyal Mi deh ah mi madda yawd caw mi did deh pon maternity leave still…..Ah day time mi and di baby use to goh wid mi fawda goh pick up mi madda fram werk…..One day in… Read more »
Anyway, like mi sey shi did deh wid di man…..even doe mi an har did goh skool togedda, wi pass har fi goh home ebbryday an ting, soh ah nuh like seh shi neba noe…..Long tory short, it look like shi did breed feem (mi affi sey soh, caw up to tiddeh day him sey ah nuh feem….) mi gi him ultimatum….him mek him choice….look like shi tink sey ah mi mek him disown di pikni an ting (inna dis case mi nuh sarry fi har caw di whole ah wi all buck up ah dance an mi sure shi… Read more »
maniac `why yuh teasing us!!..wha bout de galla wax gal??
Obara yuh noe mi naw goh pay yuh nuh mine…..it look like ah full moon tinite loll
ah wha do maniac man!!! yeah we memba de gal…an sooo!! in mi angel voice!!
maniac…tell we de story
Mi waan learn how fi kill dem an done to Obara….tiad ah dem nawsiness
Mek mi tell oonu one tory…..
Memba di said gyal whey mi did tell oonu bout whey mi dream sey look like gallow wasp an di dove pick har up?
OONUHFUNNY NUH HELL!!
no maniac…da one deh no easy at all…go c we a war duppy inna we sleep…yes obara…dat dutty duppy siddung wid de scissors surround by my clothes a cut and a look inna me face…a learn me waan learn how fi kill dem all and dun…
Hear Obara ah lawf afta mi…cho
dwl! dwl! dwl!…sharlenerose an maniac…lolollllll rotffl!!! yow de two ah oonuh ah comedian!! cut up yuh clothes nuh good!
Sharlene mi sey ah nung ahdays mi ah pree seertin tings…..mi distinctly memba one nite one man did ah try tek mi ‘guard’ ring awfa mi finga….one peesa sinting between me an him fi him nuh tek ee awwf…..up to tiddeh day mi dee tell misself sey ah dream mi probably did ah dream, caw mi cudden cum up wid nuh odda explanayshan; but deep dung mi noe sum’n did wrong…..now mi undastan….wen mi wake up di ring did tun upsidey dung pon mi finga….NOW MI NOE (Mi noe sey mi neva mad, but mi cudden tell ppl bout it… Read more »
a dat me a say…dem come inna u house when u a sleep and when u wake cause u caan see dem and a tak tings come out wid…bumbokissderasscrass…a caan bodda…sometime when me tink some evil dutty duppy me seh me woulda kill da fucka deh…cho
Rawtid Sharlene!!! ah dem damn duppy deh brite
Tenk yuh Sharlene!!!!!! Ah juss couple minits ahgoh mi noe dat!!!! Maybe ef ah neba Obara seh soh, mi hudden believe…….Mi notis mi cyaan fine one ah mi drawzz….all di look mi ah look feet an two top, mi juss did put it dung to maybe ah mi misplace it….mi ahgoh look ahgen fi mek sure
hello….we know u naw lie…a jus de idea of the violation…the world no level
bout 2 yr ago…one night me dream seh me inna one big house wid me ex…we hear some horse hoof a circle de house…so me a seh sumaddi a try get in…me rass…me tell me ex say mek we go round and start lock up de house..when me reach a one a de window me see two hand come from outside a close the window fi me…kakarass…me go inna de living room go see one sed spanish man a siddung pon de couch a cut up me rass clothes dem….hear me but dis ya duppy bright…me wake up a say… Read more »
i tell no lies!!!
but a true maniac a talk…me neva know seh dem coulda send duppy come tek physical tings out a u place
dwl!!! maniac yuh mad enuh!!
Bwoy mi nah lie, it mek mi look pan tings diffrant…..nuff clothes mi miss, but chue mi TINK sey nuhbaddie cudden tek it out caw ah mi one…….now mi ah wonda
@ maniac lol
yes mainy de man tek out de clothes in front ah me, wid him cigarette inna him duttie mouth!!
Mi nuh noe enuh Obara…..fram mi did ah read an reach di pawt whey yuh sey wi fi read caw maybe summen similar happen to wi or smaddy wi noe, mi juss get dis feeling inna mi belly battam……like mi fi brace misself fi di wuss…..like when yuh ah get bad news
But Obara, mek mi get di full undastanding…..u mean di man (spirit) tek out yuh babydaddy clothes fi chute? Yuh mean like how smaddy wudda bruk inna yuh howse an teef yuh clothes? Ansa mi deh pls caw mi mout deh ah grung an cyaan close
some a dem duppy ya whe dem people a send out…no easy at all…u just haffi say ah bwoy…what a ting eeh
@maniac why was your stomach sick!
serve har rite….puss an dawg nuh hab di same luck
sharlene mi did spiritually young man!! mek him come now nuh!!
de gal all go beauty school fi get salon…nutten
trust me…me know it real…all dat de spanish man deh him brite…him sey maybe him work wid u some day…wat a way him outta a order
Obara, afta mi tumuk calm dung an mi read yuh tory…tings stawt add up…..some ah dem ooman yah nuh ez atall…..dem si yuh wid yuh man an chue dem si like likkle money ah run, dem want him an wii all kill yuh an yuh pikni dem fi get him!!!!
and me no understand wha do dem people ya…true man have little money demm wha hold him…dem lucky…de woman no tell de obeahman fi mek she get money…she say di gal no fi get nothing…so when she a box food outta mouth she box it outta fi har
mi ah living proof sey obeah real
me say me have a friend whe did have her babyfather and dem did lef and him new woman go obeah de man fi him no mind de pitney…so de gal seh she tell fi har obeahwoman seh if fi har pitney naw get nuttin him no fi mek no money…so now him bruk and no body naw get nothing
dem a dawg sharlene
so dem pass and gone…a dat dem fi do…come out a u life…crosses…why man put demself inna sum position…
mi glad mi outta him!!
Yeah caw shi realise sey widdout yuh, har son is NUTTEN….damn user
yes sharlene rose, mi know now it all had to happen!!!
de ole bitch have de nerve fi say to mi a few years ago dat she wish we get bacl togedda
but as you say sometimes it’s a starting point…fi u wake up and smell the coffee…and see where to go and what to do
Well ah fi har prablem dat Obara….Ef nutten else shi shudda memba har gran pikni dem
fi real sharlenerose!!!
sometimes you drop inna some deep waters…you no know how fi come out…only God alone…yeah
whey oonu deh nut see yah!!
de dutty ooman did hate mi tru mi beautiful!
No man, dem is a wikid set…..mi juss ah tell mi ma bout won dream whey mi hab laas nite….ppl really wikid, nuh noe whey dem get outta it, but as yuh sey, dem come pon earth fi a reason soh dem cyaa help it
some a dem woman ya too wicked…red eye mumma and babymodda
maniac yuh see wha de ppl dem did do mi doah!
Maniac in da buildingggggggg
Whey de rass pickney dem deh!!!
OBARA IS IN DAH HOUSE!!!
GG yuh mad yuh nuh, mi know anuh mi yuh a chat!! lol
MAINY MI JUST SEE MAN LOL
Lol…GG yuh nuh eez atall…
RASS MI JUST REALISE WEH WRITE..OBARA IS D BABYFATHER MOTHER MI REFERING TO U HEAR DARLING
wicked mother in law but obara u need fi write more of ur personal experiences… mi find seh when i start read mi nuh want stop
Shi lucky!….nuff ah dem need fi larn wen fi leggo