Greetings to all and sundry. For many years I have been writing on this Embracing Spirituality blog, sharing knowledge that most dare not speak of openly. I took a brief pause recently to build my online school — The Celestine Council Mystical School — where I write for students and deliver weekly Zoom lectures. But this platform will go on forever, because there is simply too much to share and too much to teach. So here I am, back again, with something that I know many of you have been touched by whether you realise it or not.

Today we talk about Love Spells and Charms — what they are, how they are administered, and most importantly, how to know when you are under one. I have written on this topic before, but I have new experiences and deeper insight to bring to it now. So let us begin.

The Story of Joy — The Maid That Charmed Me

Some years ago, while living in Nigeria, I hired what Nigerians call a house girl. Her name was Joy. She came from Kaduna and identified as a Christian, which surprised me — being from the North where Islam predominates, and from the Hausa tribe, whom I have generally found to be honest and principled people.

Joy worked well for a time, then had to travel, and we had to let her go. When she returned to Lagos without work, I took her back — through familiarity, through kindness. Now, bloggers, I must be honest with you about something: Joy was a good worker, but she carried an underarm odour that would make pigs grunt and hide. We were wearing masks in that house long before COVID made it fashionable.

When Joy returned, however, her work was no longer what it had been.

She came late — I was fine with it.

She did not come at all and did not call — still, I was fine.

She did not clean the bathrooms? — Maybe next time.

What’s worse? I adored her. I pampered her. I became a big bubble head idiot. I would finish cooking and ask her if she wanted anything. I would give her gifts of my old clothes, jewelry, shoes or bags.

Then one day she asked me for an enormous sum of money to move into a new house. And I — who had already bought her a Mouka Foam mattress worth plenty — was about to give it to her without a second thought.

It was my daughter who stopped me. She said, “Mommy, what is wrong with you? Are you sure Joy didn’t charm you?”

And just like that, I woke up.

Literally. I blinked and stared at her. It hit me.

I called a priest and asked him to check whether I had been put under a spell. I was laughing through the whole thing, mind you — but I was serious. He consulted the oracle while I was on the phone. The answer came back: yes. Shortly after, Joy called to say the money had not entered her account. I told her cheerfully to wait for it to land but that I no longer needed a maid. She never called back.

Just like that, Joy disappeared from my life.

In certain parts of Africa that is known for scamming (wink wink) this is how the scam works. It’s not just smarts– it’s spiritual influence to compel people to want to give them things and to want to serve them.

The good news is— it doesn’t last (There is God o!). Eventually, the victim wakes up.

I chuckle at the memory. But that charm was strong enough to catch me — me, who knows better. During my time in Nigeria, the number of charms and schemes that have been directed at my pocket was staggering. Some got through. Others are still trying. Nigerians, Ah!!

How to Know You Are Under a Love Spell or Charm

Let me be clear about something before we continue: this will not be easy to know on your own.

When you are inside the spell, you cannot see clearly. Most often, it is someone who loves you and notices the change in you who will have to sound the alarm. And here is the difficulty — when they do, you may turn on them. You may want to fight your own mother for trying to wake you up. You may curse the very friend trying to save you.

Others will hear the warning, may even agree something feels wrong — but they still cannot act. They are like zombies, so deeply steeped in the spell that even after acknowledging something is not right, they will rush straight back to the captor the moment that person calls, or still feel compelled to serve them. or too afraid and powerless to do anything.

There are many marriages and relationships that are just spiritual hostage situations. But the victims are locked inside of a bubble, not able to see or hear the outside world.

Here are the signs:

1. A Drastic Change in Personality

A person under a love spell will become uncharacteristically obedient to the one who cast the spell. Someone who was once strong, assertive, and a natural leader will grow inexplicably soft and compliant around this one person. Many will say, “But this is love” — as Bob Marley asked, “Is this love that I am feeling?”

But watch closely. The captor will regularly test the work — quarrelling with the victim, embarrassing them publicly, being rude and dismissive to them. And the bewitched person? They will sit quietly. They will not talk back. They will not defend themselves. Tears may run silently down their face, they may even find the strength to fight back— but they will not leave.

This testing is not random.

The captor must regularly confirm that the spell is well secured — both in the physical body and the spiritual self of the victim. If the captor is a boyfriend/girlfriend, the charm may have been administered through several avenues:

→ through copulation

→ through food

→ through the passing of gifts

→ through dreams — where the victim finds themselves having vivid, often sensual dreams, or dreaming of eating and drinking with the person.

You will also find that you act out of character. Usually move slow in relationships? With them you move in together after a week. Usually cheap and frugal? For them, you are generous. You love your family? For your captor, you will cut them off.

Once the charm has fully taken hold, the victim cannot stop thinking about the captor. He may be round as a barrel with a nose like a tennis ball, a belly like a drum, and an enormous backside no man should possess — but to the charmed person, he could be modeling for Calvin Klein.

2. Obsession and Deteriorating Mental Health

A love spell will challenge your mental health profoundly. If the person is not home, you cannot eat. You cannot bathe. You cannot sleep. You will have frequent arguments with them — remember, those arguments are part of the work. The captor must keep testing your resolve. Your inner self — your Ori, your higher Self — is fighting to free you, to wake you, to push you out of the entanglement. But you will not leave. You will qualify their behavior. You will make excuse after excuse for them.

Part of the illusion is that you will see the captor as perfect. Even if everyone else can see their flaws or that they mistreat you, you still see the “good” in them. In fact, sometimes there is even a slight obsession.

You can not stop thinking about them, talking about them, checking about them (constant readings to know what they’re thinking? Checking horoscopes? Social media? Asking friends their opinion?). For some, it gets to a point where even you wonder about yourself.

There was a story that came out of Nigeria about a man of around sixty-nine years old. He had been married to his wife for over forty years. They had six children together. But one day, in the middle of an ordinary afternoon, he woke up. Just like that.

He looked at his wife — a woman he had spent his entire adult life beside — and realized that she was not the one he was meant to be with. It was like he had knocked out cold for all 40 years of marriage. She had taken him from her own cousin through a charm– a love spell. They found the actual spiritual work buried beneath a heavy stone in the yard.

40 years under a spell!

They filmed the man’s awakening. It was pitiful. He wailed like a baby. He picked up a shovel to attack the woman. People had to physically restrain him. The woman cried and begged his forgiveness. And all I could think of, hearing that old man cry from his soul, was all the years that had simply been taken from him — without his knowledge, without his consent.

And how many relationships in the world right now are not natural but bondage. Spiritual hostage.

3. Unexplainable Fear and Powerlessness

You will want to leave. Something inside you will keep pulling toward the door. But you will be afraid. That fear — that inexplicable, irrational nervousness — is itself a symptom of the spell. You may feel powerless to fight back, or walk away. One should never be afraid of their lover or their friend. Not that kind of fear. The kind that makes you jump when they call. The kind that compels you to do whatever they ask without question. The kind that has you defending them with everything you have, even when everyone around you can see the truth.

I will confess to you— and I say this rolling on the ground laughing but I promise it is true and serious — I was captured again in Nigeria.

I saw someone talented and decided in my naturally generous heart to help advance their career. Jesus Christ. They captured me again. I had to fight my way out. One day I will tell that full story. They emptied my account and ran away on legs the size of golf sticks. My mysterious experiences in Nigeria alone could fill a book. I feel sometimes as though I have fought the Vietnam War. But I share these things so that you know — it can happen to anyone.

4. Destroyed Self-Esteem

The frequent arguments serve another purpose beyond testing the spell. They are also used to break you down. The captor will berate you, shame you, diminish you — and then turn around and shower you with compliments, leaving you confused and relieved. You will sit at home like a trained animal, conditioned to their moods, waiting for their approval.

5. Loss of Ambition

All desire to advance yourself simply vanishes. In your mind there are so many things you want to do, so many dreams you can see clearly — but you cannot move. You cannot push forward. You cannot act. Remember, you are deeply asleep, and everything you are feeling for this person is an illusion constructed around you like a cage.

6. Physical Symptoms

If the charm was administered through food, the captor — the one who prepared and used the food — will often develop stomach problems themselves, because the work carries a cost. But the enslaved victim is not spared either. They too will suffer in the stomach — ulcers, colitis, and other digestive afflictions that doctors may struggle to fully explain, because the root is not physical but spiritual.

If the charm was administered through copulation, the victim’s libido will die — and in many cases it will exist only for the enslaver. For others, the libido dies entirely, for all and sundry.

I have been made into a zombie several times myself — particularly through fine foot — I will not lie to you. But those captors were not lovers; they were opportunists. Vultures who saw in me a generous spirit and sought to exploit it. And then there was the time in 2009 when I attended an Isese event in Lagos, held at the Sheraton Hotel. I was warned beforehand to guard myself carefully — that the people there had Ase, power on their very tongue, and that before I knew what had happened I would find myself living on a hill somewhere, barefoot and pregnant.

I returned to America and told my children: “Any time you see me pack my suitcase and head to Africa, just know that it is obeah.” Three years later, I packed my suitcase and left for Nigeria. I managed — barely — to escape the barefoot and nine months pregnant fate. What in the world is it about me?!

Also beware of strange physical ailments such as boils and styes! Especially those that recur and are hard to cure.

7. Strange Dreams

When bonded, charmed, or under a love spell, we must remember that we have a higher authority that is within us, that supervises our lives, and that is our Higher Self. And this is a reality, it’s not a fallacy. We do have a higher self, and it is that which guides us, so the minute we enter a nap, a deep sleep, it shouts telling us that something is wrong.

Specifically pay attention to dreams of snakes, theft, loss or being lost, copulation, eating, or attacks of any kind by animal, or person.

8. Inner Sadness, Woe, Hopelessness, or Dread

These feelings are your inner self knowing that you are lost, that something is wrong, that you’re not able to function because your spirit is bound somewhere deep in the Earth or behind a headstone. We all know, even under the heavy influence of spiritual interference, that something is wrong. But we’re so bogged down that we can’t focus on the feeling.

The sun is removed from life. There is no enjoyment. No genuine happiness or peace.

Also– there is often great dislike for the captor, but you can’t communicate it. Sometimes you are even apologetic for it. It is a tortorous and pitiful lifestyle.

9. Excessive Servitude and Generosity

You will give and give and give — everything you have, everything you are — to please this person. Even if you resist, even if you disagree, even if you try to refuse the request, eventually you will cave. Now, generosity is a beautiful thing and there is nothing wrong with giving. But there must always be a limit, a natural boundary that healthy people feel instinctively. Under a charm, that boundary dissolves entirely. You will do whatever is asked of you, without question, without hesitation, without regard for yourself. The victim will feel bothered, uncomfortable, troubled, anxious, until they perform the request.

Even if you know that what they ask is too much, or that you can’t deliver, you will feel compelled to do it. You will feel a needling desire to give.

It is a slave service. The victim feels pressured to serve, and can not feel peace until the other person is settled the other person. If you made plans with the person to meet them at 7:00, then you will be checking your watch every hour until it is time, uncomfortable and a sense of anxiousness to keep your commitment to them.

Make no mistake, this spiritual science of capturing people has been practiced across the world for ages. It is not confined to one country or one culture or one people. But it is a terrible and pitiful thing to happen to anyone. It is robbery of a persons free will, destiny, and joy.

Even when the person becomes freed, the trauma lingers and takes years to heal.

Even my own father was captured. It is written here in this blog. He came home one day to find his woman steaming her lady parts over his rice and peas. That discovery sent him digging — and he found the Obeah jar she had planted, containing both of them bound together. The work was right there, buried in his own home.

So how do you know? If you are not by nature an obsessive person, if you have never been a stalker, if you have never been this way before — and yet you find yourself behaving in ways that feel unlike you toward one particular person, lover or platonic friend — pay attention. If you have no energy to clean your own home, cook your own food, or advance your own life, yet you will go to this person’s house and work yourself to the bone just to be near them and ask for more to do pay attention.

When the normal becomes abnormal, evil is at work.

And again– it is very hard to wake yourself up. Many of you reading this right now is probably still asleep, tied up for years in somebody’s curry goat and white rice. Someone else has to help you out of the deep slumber, and it takes time.

The Raw Truth…

My people, there is one thing you should all know when it comes to Love Spells & Charms, which fall under the category of obeah/juju: when one engages in such practice (in its malevolence), you alter both the victim’s destiny and yours. Things shift in order to make room for the new false reality that was manipulatively created. An ambitious person may lose drive, motivation, and self-belief. A wealthy person may lose a great portion of his wealth or future wealth. A great person may become less of himself.

When the victim finally becomes free, then the years and purpose stolen from them becomes a burden to the person who had them in bondage.

In other words, now the captor’s own personal hell begins.

Protecting Yourself

So how do you protect yourself? Your personal belongings can and will be used against you. Your hair must be flushed or burned — never left carelessly where others can access it. Your fingernail clippings carry your energy; in the wrong hands they can be used to harm you, but handled wisely they can also protect you. Your bodily fluids should be cleaned up by you after intimacy do not leave this to chance or to them.

Be careful about photographs. I know, I know — in the age of social media everyone must show the world every corner of their life and every angle of their face. Some people post pictures and their mirror has long since cracked from the shock of seeing them, yet they remain boldly, beautifully delusional. But be careful. A photograph in the wrong hands is a spiritual doorway. Keep your underwear clean. Do not leave your dirty anywhere just anywhere.

Be vigilant. Protect yourself — not only from the seen world, but from the unseen forces that seek to control, drain, and defile you. There is so much more to share on this topic, but I do not wish to make this post too long.

(If you are a student of the Celestine Council Mystical School, please remind me to go deeper into this and explain what is happening behind the spell and why/how it works. Very important to know.)

Peace and Love,

Obara Meji