May 9, 2014 Obara Meji 55Comment

Update: Since being initiated into Egbe, I have discovered even deeper knowledge about this phenomena. READ HERE and HERE.

Have you ever felt as if you are alone in this world, all by your self, even though you are a social person, you just cannot seem to make friends? You know you are attractive but you never had a boyfriend or a girlfriend depending your gender, or if you meet someone it never goes anywhere?….no call back for a second date, no contact what so ever?  All your school friends have married and have children but here you are not even able to be asked out on a date. Have you ever heard of women who, every partner/spouse they have had, has either died or gone to prison, or they just do not get along with anyone long enough for that relationship to go somewhere? If you have not personally experienced any of this, I am sure you have met people who has. Often times children, while young and just beginning to talk, will have what we call Imaginary Friends, who they would talk to, play with, eat with and even call them by name. To the parents, it is cute, and we tell our friends and families about our child and their imaginary friend not knowing that there is more to the story and that this child is no ordinary child. My children had imaginary friends when they were younger and I thought it was cute and would humor them. When Science do not understand somethings they make stuff up, the pediatrician will tell the parents when he is asked that the child is just going through some kind of change and this is his or her coping mechanism or some will tell the parents not to worry it will soon stop or go away.My youngest child imaginary friend was called Sansa, she began speaking to Sansa as soon as she could talk and would always play with her. I was used to these imaginary friends and I had spoken to the doctor when one of my sons began to talk to his friend Brian who assured me that it was perfectly normal and that Brian would disappear around age seven which he did. One Christmas when my little girl received a gift which she was very happy with, so happy she hugged tightly me and told me thanks. As she pulled away from me she turned to her imaginary friend Sansa, who we were all used to and showed her the gift, but what happened after that was kinda scary, at least to my other children who did not sleep the whole night after that. She showed Sansa her gifts while telling Sansa that she could not wait until Grandma and Grandpa came so she could show then the gifts she had received from her mommy. We all gave each other side eyes while hearing the noise of crickets, but said nothing. She was about five or six at this time and my other child who had Brian the imaginary friend, had since stopped playing with him. We had cleaned up the room after opening all the gifts and had our Christmas meal, and had all gone to the living room to watch movies. Three hours had passed since the gifts were opened. In the middle of watching the movie my little girl was snuggled under my arm, jumped up and went to the front door while shouting, “Grandma, Grandpa, Devon, Donovan you’re here!, come, come and see what mommy gave me for Christmas”, she came and sat down on the couch, and proceeded to talk to these people we could not see. That night my children all slept in the living room together, too afraid  to sleep in their rooms, and I prayed. I asked to be able to see and know who these people were that my daughter saw, but I couldn’t. That night they all showed themselves to me, I saw my little girl in my yard riding a pink tricycle. I saw Sansa, Grandma, Grandpa, Devon, and Donovan all playing and laughing with her, the scene in the dream was a happy one. As I stood to the side and watched these people surround my daughter like a family, I asked someone beside me who is always in my dreams with me but I have never seen him, who were these people and what do they want with my child and he answered that they were her astral mates, her family, who she left in heaven when she began her journey here.

Egbe (Egg-beh) is a Yoruba word, which literally means society or groups. Egbe Orun (Orun means heaven), is our spirit group or companions associated with us from heaven.  Here, “Heaven” means from which ever realm you lived within the universe.  Ayo Salami in his book Egbe, The Heavenly Mates Of Every Human, describes Egbe as the Heavenly/Spiritual Peer Group of a human being. Other explanations of Egbe are that they are our spiritual companions who lived with us, enjoyed us, played with us in the realm of spirit from where we came and has agreed to watch over us, protect and guide us, as we choose to be born into this realm. Often times when a soul chooses to be incarnated to earth, they will leave their spirit husband or wives and family, some will make the promise to return at a certain point, if that contract is broken, for instance between husband and wife, and it is the wife who has incarnated and is living here on this realm, then while on earth (remember she has no knowledge of this, because once a child has passed through the birthing passage, the womb and born, all knowledge of their spiritual life is left behind) she will find herself having problems. She may not be able to find a boyfriend, marry or have a family, or if she manages to have a family, the union is plagued with problems, or the husbands keep dying or going to prison. (If you are a male you will find yourself having issues with women as well). In our Jamaican society we see or hear it often, when women curse other women and tell then that they are bad luck because every man they have either die or have gone to prison, they do not know it, but often times it is their Egbe, or spiritual family that is disturbing them.

There was a time when I went to a woman for a reading. As I sat down before this very stern looking woman in all white smoking a cigar, she asked me in a very stern voice, what was I there for? There is nothing for her to tell me, she said, you came here to live but your husband was left in heaven, he is with you and he teaches you and guide you. I do not need to tell you anything, he tells you all, just pray to him and beg him to allow you to have an earthly husband here because he is in heaven and you are not, tell him to release that side of you so that you can enjoy your stay here. As I type this, my eyes well up with tears, because what she told me that day made sense to me. During those times with the baby father and after he had gone, when ever I went to sleep I would dream of me and a man dressed in black pants and white shirt. I never saw his face clearly but I didn’t need to, we would cook together, clean the house together, do everything together, and he would hug me and I would hug him back for long never wanting to let go of him, I felt loved and very safe. My dreams with him were often, and they were filled with so much love that when I woke up and realized that it was not real, I would cry and be depressed for the rest of the day, missing him. He is here with me as I am writing this, but he now understands that I am here and he is not, so those visits in my dreams have stopped, or else I would not have been able to have my husband now.

There are many different Egbes and this depends on the realm of spirit which you resided before you were born.  For some people their Egbe are in the Ocean while some will be under a tree. Egbe often connects to us through our dreams and when the dream is recurrent Egbe wants your attention. Every human are connected to Egbe, most just do not know. This is the reason why it is important to embrace your spirituality in every form, reach out for knowledge, trust your head, trust yourself, pray for guidance so that you can be able to find your truth while you are here. Life is more than, money, sex, the big house and the sexy man or woman. Life is a journey. We are all here to learn!..while also teaching others. When the student is ready the master will appear. No one is above another when it comes to knowledge, it matters not the degree you have on your walls or the amount of years you spent in college, without knowledge of our spiritual selves we are lost. Instead of fighting and hating each other because of race, color or creed we should know that we are all apart of each other instead apart from each other. Somewhere out there is a fifty year old spinster with thirty cats, who is still a virgin, sad and depressed because of her life, who, if she had this information and by seeking spiritual consultation, might have been informed about her spiritual agreement with her spirit husband. The necessary rituals would have been performed to release her and she might have married and had ten children.

My husband’s sister in Nigeria told me her Egbe story. Their entire family on the mother’s side are all Orisha worshipers, she however tried to stay away from tradition. She told me that up to age twenty-five she was a virgin, while all her mates had husbands and families. Ashamed of not being married and not ever having a boyfriend, despite her looks and shape, she said she pretended to her friends that she was dating and all was well. One day she said she was passed a celestial church, what we know in Jamaica as Zion church, or spiritual church, upon hearing the drums she went in. She stood in the back of the church, not knowing anybody, but enjoying the service. The prophetess of the church came to her and began to hold onto her and pray. She said the woman told said “Young lady, run home to your family, because I see where you come from a powerful family, you have to honor your Egbe, they are calling you, and it because of them why you have no child and husband, run home do not walk and appease your Egbe or you will not enjoy your life”. She went home told her Grand father who was Babalawo and he consulted his Ifa, and of course just as the prophetess warned she had to receive Egbe right away. In Africa there is an initiation where you receive Egbe in form of a vessel or pot, and through this you are taught to communicate with them, thus making things much better for you. She said immediately after she did her fifteen day  initiation, she met and married her husband and has since had three wonderful children. Even though she came from a traditional family, she did not know this. This was due to her staying away from her birthright, but never the less, her head led her to the church which was where she got her message

There is so much more to write on Egbe, such as their likes and dislikes, the different names of Egbe, where in the realm or with-in the dimension they reside and much more, but I will re-vist this topic again at a later date.

I will be writing more about Egbe on my second site www.ifaorishaunveiled.com 

Bí onírèsé kọ̀ tí ò fín’gbá mọ́, èyí tó ti fín ò leè parun. / 
Even if the calabash carver no longer carves, those already carved will remain….Yoruba Proverb! 

[We are outlived by our legacy.]

 

Wisdom is wealth. ~ Swahili Proverb
 

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DrJMann
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Hello. I loved this article. I received a divination of many today. For the first time I learned of my Egbe. This is why I don’t have success in my marriage(s) as I am in my second marriage of only three years and my husband is in the act of filing for a divorce. I am in the act of trying to save my marriage. I don’t have any friends. I just have a hard time with people in general. Can you please help me to appease my Egbe so that I can save my marriage? In my divination today, Ifa said my marriage can be saved but there are many sacrifices of which I am willing to do. One of them was to ask my Egbe to release me. I want to do this properly so that I can be set free. Please help me if you will…thank you so ver much.

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Don’t mean to pry but… shouldn’t you have asked the Babalawo who did your divination about the sacrifices needed?

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[…] and prepare. In case you don’t know what a ‘spiritual divorce‘ is (see here and here), there are many people who have not had luck in relationships, or have not been able to connect […]

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Hi Obara,

Thank you for this amazing Blog! I have been plagued with this Egbe problem for about the last 7 years (being aware of it that is), and just about a week ago after receiving my hand of Ifa the babalawo mentioned it. I quickly ran home and started researching everything that I could find and found your blog. I have a spiritual husband. Mine is by far NOT loving however. He has been extremely abusive to me over the years calling me all types of names and telling me to kill myself over and over, among many other things. I started hearing or realizing that I was actually hearing and not completely crazy about 8 years ago and since then he has been on the attack. My “twin” self in heaven I believe he has her in prisoned and abuses her constantly. This is by far a crazy situation even when I think about it, lol. I have so much more I could say, but I guess most importantly I want to know if you know anyone here in los angeles where I am. I also am a Jamaican and was thinking of heading home to find someone, but like I just said- I don’t even know where to begin. The babalawo said I needed to do a divorce and maybe initiation, but he does not do it. Please help, I want to get this taken care of immediately if I can. This “husband” has been sabotaging my life my whole life. Ruined marriage, relationships, can’t find work, no friends, no kids, etc… As he has said over and over in my ear- “No love, no success, no children, no happiness” This has to stop so I can salvage the remainder of my life.

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Good evening miss obara . How would I be able to find out which spirit realm I can from .Also if initiation is required to know which Egbe a person belongs then how does one go about getting initiated ?? And does doing this really bring about change in your situation or life?

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[…] initiations and also I was (still am) fighting the flu. I have written on Egbe here before (read here), and I have done many initiations for people here in Nigeria. I even have initiated Egbe myself […]

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Mums, above you stated some egbe are located in the ocean and some under a tree. And a few days ago we spoke about water and fire people. Is the location of your egbe related to you being a water person, fire person etc.? I know this post is old but I think you should put it on your to do list to revisit the egbe topics. But for now I will stick to the oldies but goodies on egbe lol. Love and light.

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[…] their philosophy and perspective on life, that is what fascinates me. It was when I initiated into Egbe I realised that my destiny had a lot to do with the betrayal I faced, but way before I initiated […]

LaTonja
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This explains it!!!!!!

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[…] Hello everyone, I pray all is well for you. I know you have read in the comments of Prosperity’s post that I am busy doing initiations, this is why I have been silent. Initiations rides high on energy and there are so many things going on at once, many people from near and far are here, the place is filled with so much power and live wire energy. I love the whole vibe it creates, and I am always curious to see the birth of the person being initiated, all sorts of things are revealed, the person’s destiny opens like a book and we all read a chapter to the initiate of their life’s journey, the negative and the positives, and instruct them of the do’s and dont’s of their life. If the person is to be blind in their later years, the odu, (the destiny book) states this and solution in way of prescribed sacrifice is done to remove it. This is why I love this tradition. Well, this short post is just me sharing with you a little about how powerful Egbe is. […]

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This message is confirmation for me because it seems like every since I can remember I am always being visited in my dreams more like every couple of months by a man who appearance always changes but his spirit /energy is the same. He is so loving, nurturing, attentive, kind and passionate. Everytime he visits that’s when I feel safer then I ever have in my life and at my happiest moments. He makes me feel like no one will love me harder than him. I am upset when I awake and see that it’s a dream. I am on my second marriage and it always seems like I choose opportunist or men that in the long run uses me. But this message was on point and I thank you for it.

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I received a reading from a Babalawo and he told me that the Orisha that I am connected to, or, should I say, the Orisha that has always been connected to me are the Egbe. Makes a lot of sense, as I have very profound and prophetic dreams and the older and more spiritual I have become, the stronger and more vivid they get. I also don’t have as many friends as I used to and I enjoy solitude and being single.

Do these spirits/beings have a specific color that is associated to them, like most other orishas? Is there a physical representation or idol that represents them?

Thank you so much for this amazing information.

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Ifaocha

Can you write about what the role of an iyanifa is and what they can and can not in comparison to a babalowo? Also is there a way to contact you privately?

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Alex

Wow I found the very enlightening, I can relate to having a troubled love life, no one ever dying or going to prison but just never working and always heartache and no peace. I do also remember having a imaginary friends called Fred. I’ll be doing more research, have you written anymore blogs?

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[…] have written about Egbe our astral mates on my spiritual site (here) already, but in this revision of that post, I will go further into it as I have now initiated […]

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[…] thing and cannot be solved by this formula. (To understand what Egbe is and more about it read here). When this happens, a person who uses the “formula” will know by it’s […]

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Nyaha

Thanks Ty for the welcome. I am looking forward to learning and sharing what knowledge I have.

Obara Meji, I am emailing you now

Obara Meji
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No problem nayah

Yemisi
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Hello ma, it was recently i found out i have serious egbe.i have done some inititions but still no good results, how can i make my egbe leave completely?

Nyaha
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Nyaha

thanks for replying. How did you find people that could help you?

Ty
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Nyaha welcome to the blog..come back and blog with us…we are a fun bunch that ask lots of questions and are all learning…

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Nyaha

I came across this site and find the information to be useful. Please post more information on this topic. I have a similar question as Sa-Fo “Do we have to receive this initiation or just tell them to release us while we are hear on earth?” And how do you tell them to release you?

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I can relate to his posting too. I don’t remember having any imaginary friends however. I do sit and wonder why all my friends and family members found love, getting married, having kids and I’m just here by myself. I feel sad sometimes but I think I’m more driven to be successful career wise. I get looks all the time and I think I’m pretty attractive (intellect, spirit, and physically). I will say that I’m picky but that can’t be it. Millions of men on this earth and I’m yet to meet “the one.”

This post put some things into perspective for me. I do dream of children I believe to be mine every now and then. I have quite a few dreams where I’m pregnant or caring for a baby/twins I think are mine in the dream. Their so cute hehe.

Do we have to receive this initiation or just tell them to release us while we are here on earth?

Obara meji
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I will explain it maybe tomorrow Sa-Fo

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Alright

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lawd man is like im relating to everything a post wow tink ive had a egbe husband. Him used visit me alot in my dreams, never see him face only kno him dark like night n it was always near di ocean he took me. Last time him came to me sexually n it frighten mi bad bad. My pray him away tru mi tink is a duppy a ride mi. Lol mi nuh dream him ina couple years. Ive also lost two man to deportation so maybe my Egbe a stop mi from my earthly hubby?? smh

Ty
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My maternal grandfather father was from Cuba. Yes dem have black people deh too. He came to jamaica and married a jamaican maroon woman, and had my grandfather and 4 other children. He was thought to be a high priest and She was thought to be an obeah woman. They had 5 children, my grandfather being the first. Only one is left alive. My grandfather was good with metal, chemicals and herbs. That was his gift. He was able to do many magic tricks when we were younger. As i got older, I realized that what he did was more than magic. For example, When my grandmother died, like I said he was very depressed and lost a big part of him. Sometimes when his mood was down, I would hear and see coins dropping around the house whenever he was near. Being a kid and seeing coins just dropping I would try to pick them up but would always hear his voice yelling to me to not pick them up. He had a neighbor named miss meemee and she was in love with him. When my grandmother died she would constantly seek his attention. One day I saw him talking with her thru a window, then heard some coins dropping in the room beside me. I ran to pick them up as saw him next door. As I pick up the first one I heard his voice loud in my head like a speaker telling me that I am never to touch those coins because they are a manifestation of his sorrow and his loss in strength due to sad spirit. I then began to cry not for the money but for my grandfather’ s pain. Within seconds he was there comforting me and telling me of the power of love and that death was not final. That his sadness was more of a pinning and longing for his wife.

Ty
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Lawd mi miss you guys, had to do some stuff with the kids today…. We on the same wavelength Obara. I have 5 books in my amazon list to buy and one is on how to connect with your spiritual guide and astral mates…..lol

Not sure who Phaedra is but will look her up….

I came from a powerful family. My father left home when he was 14 and so did not know his roots and had to grow himself. His mother is still alive but is a wicked woman, I will share her story one day. My maternal grandfather was an alchemist and very awesome. He had 3 girls, none of which he was proud of and so he did not teach anyone of them. Through his grandchildren he found joy but after my grandmother’ s death when I was 7, he was never the same. A part of him died with her. His brother was a mighty conjurer, will tell u his story too.

I have had a weird childhood, played with many imaginary friends. So when my four year old tells me of his friends, I laugh. He will also tell you of his friends here and those that are in another realms. Lol

My calling to regain my spirituality is because I feel as if I cannot run from it anymore. My seven day Adventist mother has been trying all my life to get me to dissociate but I cannot. I have now made the pledge to regroup and dig deep. I am excited at the journey and feel like it is one of the best decisions that I have made. I am grateful to you all for the space to ask, vent, be up lifted and feel the love . Muah.

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And muah! To you also Ty, yuh see how yuh name call in yah today, an alchemist? Wow plz to send on the story, mi live read enuh cho, you cannot run away, I tried, it is a crown you must wear it

Obara meji
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Wow it real doe bubbles, but it can settle I will explain when we chat

MTH
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She does make clownish faces…………………… Serious now Obara, in the earlier seasons, she never made those faces. Is because that dam husband of her is taking her for a clown. She has actually started making the clown faces. Most of the times its after they come at her with a big diss (usually because of her husband dutty behaviour). She makes the face, then quickly catches her composure an ‘dun’ dem.

MTH
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Obara wi naah talk bout looks wi a talk bout brilliance. Phaedra have up har PHd. Unlike Kenya and Nene, shi nuh upitty. Kandi nice but beat har bad in being slick and smart. Hope mi naah dig miself inna a bigger hole. On the real doe, Ty know har ting.

MTH
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Mi sense seh shi is a smart girl. I picture her like Phaedra Parks on Real Housewives of Atlanta. (Bright but nuh inna yu face and over the top)

MTH
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Obara well mi caan really sey nutten still cause mi been peeping a while before mi step forward. Suh maybe dem soon step forth. Yu know sey mi a wait fi hear Ty comment, bet sey yu a guh come wid a nice little one-liner mek wi tink deep or laugh. Mi still a pre harblue boot comment from yesterday.

MTH
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That explains why a nice, pretty, big batty girl like me nuh married and mi did a ting sey a cause mi picky-picky. LOL! Straight enlightenment!

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