Have you ever felt as if you are alone in this world, all by your self, even though you are a social person, you just cannot seem to make friends? You know you are attractive but you never had a boyfriend or a girlfriend depending your gender, or if you meet someone it never goes anywhere?….no call back for a second date, no contact what so ever? All your school friends have married and have children but here you are not even able to be asked out on a date. Have you ever heard of women who, every partner/spouse they have had, has either died or gone to prison, or they just do not get along with anyone long enough for that relationship to go somewhere? If you have not personally experienced any of this, I am sure you have met people who has. Often times children, while young and just beginning to talk, will have what we call Imaginary Friends, who they would talk to, play with, eat with and even call them by name. To the parents, it is cute, and we tell our friends and families about our child and their imaginary friend not knowing that there is more to the story and that this child is no ordinary child. My children had imaginary friends when they were younger and I thought it was cute and would humor them. When Science do not understand somethings they make stuff up, the pediatrician will tell the parents when he is asked that the child is just going through some kind of change and this is his or her coping mechanism or some will tell the parents not to worry it will soon stop or go away.My youngest child imaginary friend was called Sansa, she began speaking to Sansa as soon as she could talk and would always play with her. I was used to these imaginary friends and I had spoken to the doctor when one of my sons began to talk to his friend Brian who assured me that it was perfectly normal and that Brian would disappear around age seven which he did. One Christmas when my little girl received a gift which she was very happy with, so happy she hugged tightly me and told me thanks. As she pulled away from me she turned to her imaginary friend Sansa, who we were all used to and showed her the gift, but what happened after that was kinda scary, at least to my other children who did not sleep the whole night after that. She showed Sansa her gifts while telling Sansa that she could not wait until Grandma and Grandpa came so she could show then the gifts she had received from her mommy. We all gave each other side eyes while hearing the noise of crickets, but said nothing. She was about five or six at this time and my other child who had Brian the imaginary friend, had since stopped playing with him. We had cleaned up the room after opening all the gifts and had our Christmas meal, and had all gone to the living room to watch movies. Three hours had passed since the gifts were opened. In the middle of watching the movie my little girl was snuggled under my arm, jumped up and went to the front door while shouting, “Grandma, Grandpa, Devon, Donovan you’re here!, come, come and see what mommy gave me for Christmas”, she came and sat down on the couch, and proceeded to talk to these people we could not see. That night my children all slept in the living room together, too afraid to sleep in their rooms, and I prayed. I asked to be able to see and know who these people were that my daughter saw, but I couldn’t. That night they all showed themselves to me, I saw my little girl in my yard riding a pink tricycle. I saw Sansa, Grandma, Grandpa, Devon, and Donovan all playing and laughing with her, the scene in the dream was a happy one. As I stood to the side and watched these people surround my daughter like a family, I asked someone beside me who is always in my dreams with me but I have never seen him, who were these people and what do they want with my child and he answered that they were her astral mates, her family, who she left in heaven when she began her journey here.
Egbe (Egg-beh) is a Yoruba word, which literally means society or groups. Egbe Orun (Orun means heaven), is our spirit group or companions associated with us from heaven. Here, “Heaven” means from which ever realm you lived within the universe. Ayo Salami in his book Egbe, The Heavenly Mates Of Every Human, describes Egbe as the Heavenly/Spiritual Peer Group of a human being. Other explanations of Egbe are that they are our spiritual companions who lived with us, enjoyed us, played with us in the realm of spirit from where we came and has agreed to watch over us, protect and guide us, as we choose to be born into this realm. Often times when a soul chooses to be incarnated to earth, they will leave their spirit husband or wives and family, some will make the promise to return at a certain point, if that contract is broken, for instance between husband and wife, and it is the wife who has incarnated and is living here on this realm, then while on earth (remember she has no knowledge of this, because once a child has passed through the birthing passage, the womb and born, all knowledge of their spiritual life is left behind) she will find herself having problems. She may not be able to find a boyfriend, marry or have a family, or if she manages to have a family, the union is plagued with problems, or the husbands keep dying or going to prison. (If you are a male you will find yourself having issues with women as well). In our Jamaican society we see or hear it often, when women curse other women and tell then that they are bad luck because every man they have either die or have gone to prison, they do not know it, but often times it is their Egbe, or spiritual family that is disturbing them.
There was a time when I went to a woman for a reading. As I sat down before this very stern looking woman in all white smoking a cigar, she asked me in a very stern voice, what was I there for? There is nothing for her to tell me, she said, you came here to live but your husband was left in heaven, he is with you and he teaches you and guide you. I do not need to tell you anything, he tells you all, just pray to him and beg him to allow you to have an earthly husband here because he is in heaven and you are not, tell him to release that side of you so that you can enjoy your stay here. As I type this, my eyes well up with tears, because what she told me that day made sense to me. During those times with the baby father and after he had gone, when ever I went to sleep I would dream of me and a man dressed in black pants and white shirt. I never saw his face clearly but I didn’t need to, we would cook together, clean the house together, do everything together, and he would hug me and I would hug him back for long never wanting to let go of him, I felt loved and very safe. My dreams with him were often, and they were filled with so much love that when I woke up and realized that it was not real, I would cry and be depressed for the rest of the day, missing him. He is here with me as I am writing this, but he now understands that I am here and he is not, so those visits in my dreams have stopped, or else I would not have been able to have my husband now.
There are many different Egbes and this depends on the realm of spirit which you resided before you were born. For some people their Egbe are in the Ocean while some will be under a tree. Egbe often connects to us through our dreams and when the dream is recurrent Egbe wants your attention. Every human are connected to Egbe, most just do not know. This is the reason why it is important to embrace your spirituality in every form, reach out for knowledge, trust your head, trust yourself, pray for guidance so that you can be able to find your truth while you are here. Life is more than, money, sex, the big house and the sexy man or woman. Life is a journey. We are all here to learn!..while also teaching others. When the student is ready the master will appear. No one is above another when it comes to knowledge, it matters not the degree you have on your walls or the amount of years you spent in college, without knowledge of our spiritual selves we are lost. Instead of fighting and hating each other because of race, color or creed we should know that we are all apart of each other instead apart from each other. Somewhere out there is a fifty year old spinster with thirty cats, who is still a virgin, sad and depressed because of her life, who, if she had this information and by seeking spiritual consultation, might have been informed about her spiritual agreement with her spirit husband. The necessary rituals would have been performed to release her and she might have married and had ten children.
My husband’s sister in Nigeria told me her Egbe story. Their entire family on the mother’s side are all Orisha worshipers, she however tried to stay away from tradition. She told me that up to age twenty-five she was a virgin, while all her mates had husbands and families. Ashamed of not being married and not ever having a boyfriend, despite her looks and shape, she said she pretended to her friends that she was dating and all was well. One day she said she was passed a celestial church, what we know in Jamaica as Zion church, or spiritual church, upon hearing the drums she went in. She stood in the back of the church, not knowing anybody, but enjoying the service. The prophetess of the church came to her and began to hold onto her and pray. She said the woman told said “Young lady, run home to your family, because I see where you come from a powerful family, you have to honor your Egbe, they are calling you, and it because of them why you have no child and husband, run home do not walk and appease your Egbe or you will not enjoy your life”. She went home told her Grand father who was Babalawo and he consulted his Ifa, and of course just as the prophetess warned she had to receive Egbe right away. In Africa there is an initiation where you receive Egbe in form of a vessel or pot, and through this you are taught to communicate with them, thus making things much better for you. She said immediately after she did her fifteen day initiation, she met and married her husband and has since had three wonderful children. Even though she came from a traditional family, she did not know this. This was due to her staying away from her birthright, but never the less, her head led her to the church which was where she got her message
There is so much more to write on Egbe, such as their likes and dislikes, the different names of Egbe, where in the realm or with-in the dimension they reside and much more, but I will re-vist this topic again at a later date.
I will be writing more about Egbe on my second site www.ifaorishaunveiled.com
Bí onírèsé kọ̀ tí ò fín’gbá mọ́, èyí tó ti fín ò leè parun. /
Even if the calabash carver no longer carves, those already carved will remain….Yoruba Proverb!
[We are outlived by our legacy.]
Wisdom is wealth. ~ Swahili Proverb
Obara Meji is a spiritualist, Ifa-Orisa practitioner, and teacher of metaphysics. Since 2011 she has used her online platform to share her personal experiences to those seeking answers about spirituality. Her teachings will expand into short stories, novels, and public speaking to continue her mission of bringing enlightenment to the world.