June 19, 2011 Obara Meji 66Comment

This is another re-post that I felt it necessary to bring back. My son recently got a little job at a popular fast food joint, the  manager woman has been tormenting the kid with this $7.50 cent per hour job, first she called in to come for his first day of work, he went in, then she told him that she did not tell him to come in. Then she called him again another day, happy, he went. When he got there she told him she didn’t need him dismissively. Two weeks passed, she called him in today and told him to bring a void check again as she had lost the first one he gave her, (without this he will not be able to get paid, as it was to be direct deposit), he happily went in nicely dressed, he gave her the voided check, again she screamed at him in front of everybody and said why did you not bring it yesterday, he told her that she was the one who told him to bring it in today, (she said nothing),then she told him to go home and shave off his almost non-existent goatee. He called me very upset I told him “come home son, yuh nah suffa”,. He took off the uniform and came home. I will help him to find a new job, but nobody is going to mis-treat none of  my kids…not on my watch!!

Tormentors comes in all shapes, size and form and they are usually some yellow-bellied ass hole with a complex, never the less they have their reasons why they are here, God in his wisdom has created these living demons to live among us for a reason, they could even be as close as your parents. Read and learn.

We have all encountered here on earth those who have come in the form of tormentors like the Land lord, the boss the co-worker the neighbor the bill collector our family members, our husbands or wives or even our children, to name a few.  What most of us do not realize is that these that we see as our enemies or tormentors are playing out their role that they came here  on earth to do.  Our mistake is to allow their actions toward us hold us back in life. Because while we are lamenting about their character they are elevating in the spiritual realm, Huh? you ask well let me tell you.  You read correctly, every human being has his own destiny and never has two persons come from the womb the same time. Even twins, one comes before the other. Our destinies are all different and as such we all will operate differently from one another. Ironically though what we know as bad behaviour in a person does not mean that the person is not operating in compliance with his reason for being here.  There are many who, when left by themselves wonder why do they act the way they do, and sometimes even vow to change but find it a struggle to. Holding some one who has done you wrong,  with malice in your heart will only hold you back from your spiritual growth which might not seem important to you now because all you have ever heard about is heaven and hell, but it is important to your evolution in the spiritual realm that of which you will learn of  here, on this blog site.

While I do not believe in the Devil I must say I have met a couple of people who the description fits very well, but the Devil is always the fall guy for questionable things.  Growing up as a child in Jamaica I remember a woman who lived in the same tenement that we lived, we called her Miss Will, she will be the star of many of my topics She was quite a character, but I must acknowledge that her personality has assisted me in using her as example of wickedness, that was her reason for being .  I remember her and my mother always cussing and fighting, well my mother fighting and Miss Will running. This woman was tormented or perhaps crazy because we had one side of the house which was a two bedroom apartment and she shared the other side of the house with some roomers. We had our own kitchen and bathroom while they all shared on the other side. On numerous occasions we would catch Miss Will running from our kitchen with meat that she had stolen from my mothers pot or watch from our window as she picked up dirt and looked around to see if any one was looking and throw it on the white clothes we had on a piece of zinc soaking up the sun. I could spend hours telling you about Miss Will and her mischievous ways but let me move on to others.

 I have a sister who is my mother’s child, while growing up I adored and looked up to her because she was older than me and to tell the truth she was not half bad. Our relationship changed years after when life took a good turn for me and I had a business and money befriended me for a while. When ever she would come around me she would make comments about my shop closing down or what if I should ever lose my home, she even started telling our mother lies that I spoke badly about her, which ruined my parents and I relationship. Needless to say these were lies. Her onslaught of me continued,and has even affected the way her children treated me because there is no relation between none of us. These two are just a few examples of some of my tormentors. My child’s father was one, not to mention his mother, she was an example of the mother in law from hell, what she did not expect though was my strength and because of that I was able to have victory over them  These type of people that we all encounter while on our journey have their reason for being, and believe it or not it is often times good that we meet them because they send us into prayer more often, seeking out an answer from God to remove them as obstacle, or to evoke in us emotions that would motivate us on to bigger or better things if for nothing else but to prove them wrong or show them what you can achieve. The land lord as tormentor will motivate you to try harder to get your own, the mother or father who torments will only let you try harder to supersede their expectations of you, the child will make you work harder at disciplining and so on. I urge you all to look ahead and allow no one what so ever with their negativity to hold you back. At the end of life’s journey and you have passed the halls of judgement and are ready to be placed in your new home in the astral realms, let it not be that because of earthly tormentors that you allowed to distract you, you have ended up where you started only to begin the same journey again.

 Our elders quote the cock as saying that “it would not be good if one becomes the only person in the world, and that is why they crow every morning to show their number……..Yoruba proverb 

“The Wind Always Exhaust The Patience Of Trees”.   Yoruba Proverb

 
 
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[…] Our Ancestors, wedda dem did good or wicked, caws some people would say to me Obara my mother was a wicked woman, I do not want to entertain her, RELAX!….There are many realms in the universe, and when someone crosses over, regardless of who they were when they had a physical body, the minute they transition they see and understand things differently. Now many people often say to me, “no Obara, my aunt crossed over and when she was here she was akin to Hitler, and since she left she has been haunting the family”. Let me explain, regardless if the spirit of the person who has crossed over went to the light or not, they have changed, trust me, they (while not having a body) are still very conscious and have realized the terror of who they were when they had bodies. Often times they came to this realm just for that very reason, read my post Tormentors. […]

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Tormentors come in all shapes, sizes, ages, races, etc. I had experiences in that field with my previous job. For the life of me I couldn’t figure out what I could have done to make her talk to me in such a way and treat me so. In the end I left that job and I was rather upset at the ordeal but I came to realize I shouldn’t hold grudges and be upset at it. Must keep a positive head and a new door will open for me. And I must say I like my current job. Its tiresome at times but I’m getting use to it. For the most part Tormentors due what they due because somewhere in there life it was done to them or their just miserable. And we all know misery loves company.

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maniac some valid points there but wat happen when that same boss is d HR person. cawz mine was nuh care how we had meetings wid her d ooman neba change.. d entire department even wrote to the CEO n dis ooman was d same

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Hi Gg, Teacha
I found this article in today’s Gleaner and thought I would share…..Interesting indeed.

My boss, the bully
Published: Tuesday | June 21, 2011 0 Comments

Q: I work with a bully boss. The better I work, the more he verbally abuses me.

He shows his power by asking me to do one thing, and shortly after, asks me to undo it.

He gives me menial tasks, which he claims are in my job description as, “any other duty that may be assigned to me from time to time”.

He never has a word of encouragement, though I have been working there for five years and my performance has benefited the company. And, I have to do tasks that are rightfully his responsibility.

The man is also very lazy and goes for long lunches. He often comes to work late.

How do I survive in this environment?

A: You need to get up and stand up for your rights. By standing up, it does not mean you will enjoy your work more, or that the abuse will stop. But, it will make you keep your dignity and give you confidence that you can handle hostile work environments.

However, be careful you are not judging him too harshly because of his bad behaviour.

It could be that his long lunches are power lunches, to make deals for the benefit of the company.

There are times when arriving late at the office could mean he was on the road working on a deal. He, however, could let you know when he is arriving at the office after opening hours.

Bosses are bullies for many reasons. Sometimes, bully bosses have internalised the behaviour of their bosses, or they imitate the behaviours experienced early on in their own careers.

Intimidation tactics

Some bosses at various levels, including security personnel, believe they have to manage by intimidation. They become bossy to anyone who dares to question their authority or orders. Some claim that they are bossy because they have high standards and are perfectionists, while some bosses are task driven and are exacting on employees. However, your boss does not appear to be in that category.

The attitude of your boss could be a sign he may not be confident in his abilities to manage. He might also be suffering from poor self-esteem. Perhaps, your boss is unkind because he is unhappy with his own situation at work. He could be taking out his frustrations on you because you are in a weaker position. He appears to be deliberately humiliating and berating you to cover up his own insecurities. He is perhaps trying to break your spirit and make you feel incompetent. And, in doing so, he fails to recognise or reward your good work.

You must be commended for doing good work in a hostile work environment for five years. You have not crumbled under the constant pressure, but are tired of the situation which may affect your productivity and ability to perform at your best.

Your boss needs to know you will perform best in a healthy work environment. You need to sit down and talk to him. Let him know of the negative effect he is having on you. Be open to suggestions from him on how you can handle him in a different way. Do not mention his long lunches, but be clear, calm and constructive in the issues you would like to change, and avoid being confrontational. Be prepared for the meeting and take specific problems to the meeting, with as much details as possible. Concentrate on the problems and not the personality. Also, ask what else he would require of you in order to help him at work.

If the meeting with your bossy boss does not work, and the stress is severe and consistent, then talk to a counsellor and/or doctor. If there is a confidential and competent human resource manager at your workplace, then you could also have a talk with him/her about your frustrations and what you need to do.

Ensure you take coffee breaks, lunch breaks and vacation leave to ease the stress. Additionally, make sure your diet is balanced and you are on a physical-exercise programme.

Furthermore, draw on your spiritual resources to overcome or endure your hostile work environment.

Continue to perform to the best of your ability while you are on the job, but if there is no change, then it is time to change your job. Update your résumé and begin to apply for other jobs; both those advertised and unadvertised.

It is not good to work in a hostile environment for too long.

Contact the counsellor at [email protected].

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Mawning ebbrey baddy!1

Gog3tt3r
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mi a good behaving pickney

Gog3tt3r
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maaaaaaaaaawwwwwwwwwnnnnnnnnniiiiiiiinnnnnnnnn Teach and fellow classmates..mi early

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a mus bloodcloth mavado…cause everywhe me turn

sharlenerose
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so me a talk to miself again

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goodnite gg….whe de hell maniac deh cause she need fi come help me try dis case

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but dis ya man if him did a gi me likkle satisfaction fi like answer when me a dip up under him…after me say u need fi apologize…him seh wha…me say you need fi apologize…him seh wha….u need fi say you sorry…him seh fi wha…me say fi fuck wid mi head and tell me pere lie…right now me feel like me hate u…him say MEK ME CALL YOU BACK…me say whe de bombocloth you a go call me back fa just say you fucking sorry…de pussy heng up…you no see seh him a torment me…cause if him say him sorry me can forgive him dont and move on…but know…is like him a fuck wid me fi sspite..

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see u guys in d laters a mawnin time fi mi now… minutes to 5 suh mi ago hit d bed

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dem tormenta…oh gosh man…dem got me fucked me up…all dat deh dutty gal deh a fuck wid my son…me woulda just spit inna har face…me a my father daughter

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happy fathers day….happy fathers day…happy fathers day……happy fathers day….obarrararrrrrrrrrr

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me sarry…how much time mi fi ell you…tek me apology please…i beg

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dem dutty tormentor ya…people fi jus tek dem lightly…me no know how fi release dem ting ya…like me haffi release de pent up energy…

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me know…boo HAPPY FATHER’S DAY…i am sorry it is so late i thought about you too….i apologize it was remiss of me….i wuv you…..

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anyway…yes me have a tormentor…my ex man…and i feel like doing him things because i don’t like people fuck with me…however…me a tek a deep breath…because some bwoy fi know dis…yow…me call him and tell him straight up him need fi apologize to me…me naw play wid him…him need fi apologize…after me call him tell him say him need fi apologize him say fi wha…me seh fi fuck wid me head and tell me pere lie…right now me feel like me a hate you…me a go hate him more fi know seh him a fulfill fi him destiny by fucking with me…do no tell me dem something…

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YOU ALSO FALL IN THE CATEGORY…HOWEVER YOU ARE NOT SINGLE…SO BIG UP YOUR HUSBAND TOO

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HELLO OBARA…ME SHARLENEROSE PRESENT…I SEND THE FATHERS DAY CARD TO MANIAC BECAUSE A DE SONG BIG UP DE SINGLE MOTHERS WHE A RAISE DEM PITNY PON DEM OWN…DEM DEH A MOTHER AND FATHER INCLUDED….YOU ARE THE MATRIARCH THAT IS AN ENTIRELY DIFFERENT TITLE…YOU NOTICE ME DO IT PRIVATELY CAUSE ME NO WANR NOBODY GET OFFENDED FI ME SAY DEM A FATHER….

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sure ting Teach..good reading stuff and life learning articles

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hush mama..Obara yuh kno mi just read d candle burning article and to tell u d truth a d other day d same thing mi eamil yuh bout mi did online a try find which is d best to use and wat prayer to say.. is a good ting me never do it

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Sas crise!!! gg yuh really seh dat bout mi???? doan sey dat mon 🙁

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maniac u a terrorist man..bad is too much of a good word fi describe yuh

Maniac
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I sed!!! I are not bad

Maniac
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Teacha beg yuh stap call mi BAD, mi madda errr mi fawda will very much disagree wid yuh

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mi a try mi best Maniac..thanx mama..dats why i luv my cyber family enuh

Maniac
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mek sure yuh study enuh gg…wi luv yuh pon di site but wi also want u to succeed…nope not SUCK SEED….

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mi di dose off awhile aguh a do assignment..good ting mi mother call mi n wake mi

Maniac
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Mi wuda lub fi noe whey bigga dan di ress deh fram mawning

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Mi ah tawk bout mi Anti whey walk an tell ppl bout how mi ah get mad chue mi pikni puppa leff mi…..ah mi picha smaddy si ah won ah mi cuzin dem howse an ask har if ah di mad one dat woo ah goh crazy caw har babyfawda leff har (mark yuh enuh, ah mi put out di dutty dawg)….dat time ah some Obeah did deh unda mi kakafawt….an shi ah tawk har shit….mi cudden tawk to har fi munts….an shi do summen even wussara recently…..mi juss ah try hole it dung

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Mi nayvn tink shi really noe sey ah mi perse….probly juss ah sen it to evribaddi….Tonks Sharlene

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Obara nuh badda wid it atall, u noe betta dan dat…..

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Dutty shithouse dem…
Ah same way mi ave won Aunty deh enuh….har fucking mout is a damn prablem…..an mi nuh realise if ppl nuh realise di power of words

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Oh b4 mi figget…HAPPY FATHERS DAY to all ah di mothers who are also fathers to their children (wukliss dranco dem whey gone an nuh bizniz wid dem pikni) an to those fathers who are on this site….Continue nurturing and caring for our children.

Thank you Sharlene, it was you who made me realise this…..Big up yuhself and others

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Nuh rawse gyal nor bwoy….Ah di fuss inna long time mi c summen draw mi out soh….mi ah try nuffi go back to dem days deh enuh…but mi sey ANY PUSSY whey romp wid fi mi pickni….den dem shall surely c why mi name whey mi name

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mi wudda affi guh to her enuh..outta orda

Maniac
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Mi did have one supervisor enuh….mi sey ah di living tormentor dat….mi deh pon fone an man all come behine mi chair an ah tap pon it an ah rock it….ah ongle di grace ah God mek mi neva tun roun an raas him one lick….mi did turrble back den….dem use to sey how mi antisocial….lissen mi get pay fi wuk….nuh fi be yuh fren…wuk done, mi gone ah mi yaad…mi will decide woo fi socialize wid….

Wen mi cudden tek it nuh more, mi sen di meccij (wen u inna won organization yuh affi noe woo fi sen di msg wid – juss chat inna di tea room wen certain ppl een deh and yuh noe seh MISSION ACCOMPLISHED, it muss reach)

Mi mek sure mi tell dem sey, ennyday him mek mi affi tek up my belongings an leff…..him ah come rite backa mi…..caw whey him ah do is wrong….an chue him have a higher position dan mi, him ah abuse it. Dem fi gwey man

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Mi nah lie, mi undastan whey yuh ah sey Obara…mi feel like mi wuda help yuh gi har won raas box cross har face an spit pon har front ah everybaddy. How dare you humiliate di boy in front ah him peers???? How fucking dare you???

Yuh nuh c sey is a mad ooman dat….Ah 3 demon shi have ah walk wid har….damn schizo

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mi seh mi all end up walking off d job cawz of her

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reading this yow i will learn to forgive more.. i had this manager n every day, when mi say every day mi mean every single God given day this ooman tek set pon mi fi some reason..now i’ll just move on from her cawz i was really carrying something insid mi for her

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