June 27, 2011 Obara Meji 31Comment

I had my second child when I was still a teenager, If you read my story “Diamond In The Rough”, you will have read that I had gotten pregnant young, after having the baby, my parents told me to leave their house, I had to find a way to survive on my own for the first time, a child with a child, but I did. The details of How I did this is too much for me to recount in this story so I will leave it for another time, but it was not as bad because I found a room and people helped watch my baby while I finished school and worked at the same time. I met this man and in a whirlwind he took my baby and I as his, and took care of us. He was in his early twenties but he was a hustler and was making money so he got us an apartment and my life changed, immediately I got pregnant again, but I was fine because he was happy this being his first child. He was the pride and joy of his mother, and so the baby in my belly, was a joyful news to them. I was loved and cherished, they all loved me. Because he hustled, he got caught up with the police and went to prison while I was pregnant, but the time he got was short and the support of his family comforted me. I wanted for nothing, well except him at the time but he called every day and I visited him every week. I delivered my beautiful son  on my own. His family would have been there with me, but by the time I went into labor it would have been too late for them to get to the hospital as they lived in another state, not too far from New York, but nevertheless.

Giovanni was as handsome as his father, he had my light complexion, but his looks was a cross between his father and myself. My little baby daughter was happy that she had a new baby brother.  Growing up my son was a real little boy he was independent strong and just a delight to be around. He was mischievous, he would throw all his toys out at whoever stepped into his room, and there was a time when he went through a phase as the shoe bandit, He would take our shoes and throw it through the window, at least he would take One foot of all our shoes and throw them away. We all thought it was cute, but now I wonder. There was one time when he was about three years old and he had done something wrong and I had slapped him, in the night he stood by the kicthen door fuming and he  refused to go to sleep, he had something behind his back,I looked to see what it was, It a small frying pan (he is Oguns child), in his hand. I asked what was he going to do with it, he said beat us all when we sleeping.  I never forgot that. I had no problem with any of my children while they grew up, none what so ever. Our neighborhood was good, but as we know school can be a strong influence. Gio had gone through his high school years of not getting into trouble in or outside of the house. He did not smoke or drink like many of his friends, he couldn’t!, not with a mother like me. By this time I was a single mom. Now a days Gio has started acting up, wanting to back talk ,  going out late at nights and coming in whenever he feels like it, something he never did before, and something that does not sit well with me, he would try to argue back with me with his new found masculine voice, which shocked me. He has many girlfriends, and he seems to be craving for more…lololol…when I complained to my sister and others, they say that first, I ought to thank God that he is straight, and that he is very handsome so what do I expect. My sister who is a nurse gave me almost a garbage bag full of condoms and I asked him if he knows how to use them, his response was to run out of the house and say, “mom this is not a conversation that I should be having with you!”, but I notice that they (the condoms), have been dwindling down. My problem with my son is that he blames me for everything, and I Obara Meji am trying to figure out why?, I have always been there, I live a good clean life, my children has never wanted for anything, and I give them a lot of love. I believe that it is important to tell your children that you love them often, and I did and still do that so what the &*^%!!

I Was told in Africa that all my children has to be initiated, and especially him because the spirit was bothering his head. I know what that means, but how do I get a young hot handsome beyond belief young man who has a flock of girls and is tattooed up, slim but with defined muscles, who dresses fresh every day that he has to become a Babalawo?. Even though  I was the young good-looking, light-skinned, fresh everyday hot gal hairdresser that became a Osun Priestess!, when THEY came for me. I had to take heed!, it felt as if I was losing my mind, But then the way how my beautiful son acts it is as if he is another person, and not my son. Not the boy that I grew, the one who fed from my breast. I am sad and I Obara Meji am worried. Please pray for me. Please pray for him.

 He will have long life ase! he will have good health ase!, he will change for better ase O!, he will have respect for his mother ase!, he will not let the pressures of life get to him ase!, he will find a good wife ase!, he will have good children ase! he will respect his household and his siblings ase! his head will lead him to a good place in life same as a fish uses his head to guide it through water, ase! and any enemy that rise against him shall fall ase!, he will always have victory over his enemies ase!, May he find Ifa, Ase!!!….This is my prayer for my son, please pray it also for me. ASE is pronounced ASHE! and it is a power word creating light on all your wishes ASE O!!!!!!

 A good name is better than gold…..Yoruba Proverb.

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Obara Mèjì
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Obara Mèjì

I will pray for yours also because my prayers has been answered prayers work

Obara Mèjì
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Obara Mèjì

Total turn round bubblez, total turn round praise God!

KTB
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Greetings mi deh yah a read di post n is like write it myself!! Obara mi hope ur prayers fi ur son av been answered..pray fi mi child as he is displaying sum a dem defiant behaviors

Tiffany Anderson
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its normal for kids 2 act out things is not gna be perfect all the time but it don’t mean that your son dont love you just give him time & space

Rayne888
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Rayne888

I see.

sharlenerose
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sharlenerose

well, i don’t know if you know, Jamaican parents are just like that…they want to have you with them as long as possible…even for those who don’t really have it they want to give their kids the best they can…they fight their battles…they let you stand on your own all the while saying lean on me…obara’s kids just like my mom’s live at home…these parents are the best there are…my mother still sends me money when needed or sends money for her grandkids…some parents are overprotective…my mom will openly admit that to you….i was a rebellious child as is Gio because of Ogun…the spirit that rules our head…we do not likes rules or discipline…even though we know we need it, and that is why he will truly never leave home…and she knows that

Rayne888
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Rayne888

Well thats a very bad thing Sharlene. Every child has to one day leave home. How else will they know or learn how to make it in this world if they don’t at least try. Every parent wants to love and protect there children. Keep them close. but the hardest part is letting them go and thats what needs to happen. When a child is hit with life and really have to change they will appreciate what they had more.

Rayne888
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Rayne888

Exactly Sharlene. However you want to say it the issue is still women. He has devotes the majority of his attention to them. I’m sure if you took the woman out of the equation you wouldn’t have the problem. However, he will find a way to substitute. Where its to call one or text one. Either way. One will be there. lol. I’m sure thats pissing Obara of cause he could be doing something more useful with his time.

sharlenerose
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sharlenerose

she is a giving, caring mother that protects her young like a hawk…and i don’t think she wants any of them to leave the nest

sharlenerose
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sharlenerose

yes rayne…i see what your saying…i don’t believe women are the issue…it is that when he finds a woman they become his weakness in that he will want to be in and around that individual without a care for anything or anyone else, and i believe that is one of things that is aggravating obara.

sharlenerose
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sharlenerose

kkk

sharlenerose
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sharlenerose

ok now me a get a better understanding…

Rayne888
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Rayne888

I understand Obara but you have to understand he still young. Right now thats all he tends to think about or cares to think about which is bad. If that is the case. He needs drive. He needs something else to focus on. Change his mind frame otherwise his whole life will pass him by, nothing accomplished and nothing to show for it except chasing women. I’m sure he’ll change his game up when he realizes that. Taking his regular tests is a great thing to hear. Proud to hear that.

sharlenerose
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sharlenerose

let me ask you this…for you to put him on the path…does he have to come to you and say i’m ready…maybe that’s what we need to look into…ask Ifa what is the first step…when you say weakness…is like every girl him see him want or dem can tun him head?

sharlenerose
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sharlenerose

he will find and embrace Ifa…Ase…o….straight liked dat…law god…when de young hot gal dem come fi get help…Gio a go give it to dem…when dem see him…lawd me no know…idk

sharlenerose
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sharlenerose

Obara…you no easy too enuh..u never have no problem wid my son when him did a grow up…and now him on becoming a man…dis man is to be a babalow…how you a go curb him…dat impossible too…all when de man initiated and evrything you still a go waan rule him…and de woman ting is not de problem…de spirit want what it want…so give it to them

sharlenerose
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sharlenerose

ok…i reread he belongs to Ogun…definitely my son…but Obara as far as the woman part him naw go stay so forever…he is young…him will curb that…with maturity and responsibility…he will get better…you have to find a way to incorporate the spirit more into his daily life…maybe give him some spiritual exercises or something like that…idk

sharlenerose
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sharlenerose

your kids know that they have to come to the spirit…dem always a ask fi reading and waan know spirit message fi dem…i like that…me can relate to Gio because sometime wid da spirit ting ya…me just woulda want shake it off…like how you shake your shoulder and that’s impossible so…it is going to be a battle…when you are chosen…that’s it…me can tell him bout can run but can’t hide…kakarass how you a go hide from whe you cant see

Rayne888
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Rayne888

Afternoon Obara. Everyone. I read everything and i must say I’m shocked about everything. I also admit that even though he’s straight for him to have a craving for more females is a bad sign. A real bad sign. That should have been seen then. Now an additional girl from the one you have or two is ok. I’ll let that slide but any more than that should be frowned at. I don’t care how good you look. It just shows you have a lack of respect toward women in my opinion. ‘m sure he argues about this when the situation comes up. And if one doesn’t like it you’ll just replace her its that easy for him. Thats how his mind thinks. I’ll pray Obara. Again and again. In faith that this madness your going through comes to an end.

sharlenerose
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sharlenerose

cheer up my darling…every thing you prayed fo him is his destiny…ase.o….and nothing can change that…sit him down calmly and let him know he has to take heed soon…one thing me like bout you family…each and every one of them embrace your spirituality and that’s a wonderful thing…my two kids…yeah the baby…the big one think me mad…but she fascinated and frightened and some time nonbelieving

Maniac
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Maniac

Obara, mi juss ah read dis an mi going sey a prayer for you and your children….I can amlost feel your pain…..You who always ah pray fi ppl….I’m sure that I speak on behalf on all Embracers when I say this….We hope it gets better and that he will find his true calling

sharlenerose
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sharlenerose

obara’s son Gio is my son and i know what she’s going through…spiritual life not easy…wait me smell flowers….nice flowers too…light and sweet round me…me a tek deep breath…no sah…it nice and fresh bad…obara…you know it naw go easy fi tell him say him destiny is to be babalow when him a hot boy…all now me still a rebel…sometime…cause me love party and bwoy…i don’t know…him a go sex off de client dem…a chango pitny or wha

sharlenerose
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sharlenerose

where the hell is everybody…..ringalingling…roll call…where is the prefect…the way me in and out of class…me hav to be the hall monitor cause that gives me a permanent pass….whe de peple dem deh…wasavirgin…gg…rayne…curious…hotgalbrowngal…nubizness…ohajimass…splendid….whe unno deh…come come me waan go talk bout forbidden love…hi opti…waving…blushing…mr hungman…lol

sharlenerose
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sharlenerose

you make me

sharlenerose
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sharlenerose

oh god…why uou must make a bawl ana say this prayer lady…everything you said,,,amen…ase.

Gog3tt3r
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Gog3tt3r

SORRY TO HEAR THAT OBara.. i just prayed and will do so again.. wappen to ur #

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