There are times in your life when people have hurt you so much, so badly without thought to your feelings, emotional well-being or even physical well-being; and most times you’re hurt by the ones you love. A child born to a parent comes into this world innocent, sinless, faultless. That child depends on the parent for care, for sustenance, love; but when the parent violates the child, in some cases by harming them, neglecting them, abandoning them, molesting them, scarring them or whatever pain that has been inflicted on this innocent, it never goes away. The teacher who embarrasses the child in class when the child doesn’t know the answer to a question so the other children laugh and scoff at the poor humiliated child has sinned against not only the child, but also against the spirit that is within that child. The child who abuses and beats the parent, steals from them, humiliates them, again has affected the spirit within the parent.
The husband who has abused the wife physically and emotionally; who has brought her STD’s and has had mistresses upon mistresses unapologetically and vice-versa, leaves a terrible impact on the psyche of each other; the one that is hurt again also that person’s spirit. What I know for sure is that God loves us all, no matter who you are, no matter what you do, no matter what your orientation in life, your goals and aspirations and every human being that is living on this planet has a guardian angel that watches over them. Whether you believe or not, I care not, it is so and there is a universal law and this law will never change; it has been through creation and will remain so through the end of time and that law is the law of causation; in other words, cause and effect. Call it Karma if you will….what goes around comes around to explain it further. Anything that you do has been done already back to you. People have to choose their actions well in life, think carefully about hurting another. The force that is called God made us all and even if we do not believe it, he loves us all as a parent should love a child.
God has given us all many keys to unlocking doors to assist us on our journey here in life. One of those keys is tears. There is a mystery with tears and tears are a key that is given to us by God. It is the first thing to show itself when we arrive here on earth. The baby at the birthing table, the child cries when it wants the attention of the parent so from an early age we are given this power. We cry to God for favor, we cry when we are happy at times and also when we are sad. Tears are mysterious and they can arrive at any time and for whatever reason; but when it comes to defending us tears are a great weapon, because once you are true and clean-hearted God will stand still and listen to your cry and give you victory like a good parent does once tears are present. Let me tell me something that happened many years ago.
After the breakup of me and the wicked baby father, I was left with the children on my own. My business had been destroyed and things were very rough. One night the wicked babyfather’s equally wicked mother called me saying that she was checking on how the kids were, which got me upset because she knew bloody well that the father was not doing anything for them and that we were struggling. I was upset while she spoke and I cried very hard recounting the horrible relationship I had with him while we were together, how terrible he treated me and the children and it was because of him that I had lost my business. What I did not tell her was that a friend of mine had just opened a new business for me and that I had just started again with my hairdressing a couple of days before this phone call. I ended our conversation swiftly by telling her good night and I hung up. That night I visioned that I was in my shop which had 13 chairs and while I was washing someone’s hair the shop door opened and an Italian, mafia-looking man dressed in full black walked in. His hair was pulled back into a ponytail and he sat at the first station that was by the entrance. When I saw him I recognized him from a previous vision that I had, which I will tell you about another time. I was shocked and frightened because I knew of his power but did not know his name. I tried not to show my fear and I asked him ‘can I help you?’ he slightly twirled his body to me and looked at me and said ‘the master sent me to look after you’ then he said ‘how much is it to do my hair?’ Trying not to sound nervous I asked ‘what do you want to do to your hair?’ He said ‘what about a perm?’ I said ‘you don’t need one.’ He said to me ‘step outside with me for a minute’ With heart beating fast because I knew of his power, I went. As we stepped out on the sidewalk he turned to face the window of my shop which had half the glass piled high with red phones to the top, one on each other and the other half with black phones piled high one on each other. He said to me seriously ‘choose a phone out of the red and black, choose a phone’ I timidly chose the red phone and then I jumped up out of my sleep only to hear my phone ringing which must have woke me up.
It was 6 am according to the cable box and I answered the phone quickly and groggily only to hear the wicked babyfather’s mother on the phone and she said to me ‘Obara, remember last night when you cried and complained hard against my son’ I answered her and said ‘yes, what happened?’ she said ‘you should not cry again to another person so hard’ again I insisted ‘what happened?’ She said ‘my son is in the hospital, he was at a game when he collapsed; the doctors don’t know what is wrong’ and then she hung up. He ended up recovering from whatever, I don’t know what it was; but when I examined what it was from a spiritual point of view, that night when I cried while remembering the horrific abuse that I suffered at the hands of that wicked man, my guardian angel came to defend me, but because God has given man free will and possibly because my children are related to this man, my guardian angel gave me a choice of what type of message I wanted to receive via the telephone of this man. If I had chosen the black phone he would have died. The red phone was chosen by my subconscious and it represented judgment. So regardless of his maltreatment of me, I was still compassionate. The minute I chose the red phone my physical phone rang to give me the news that he was hospitalized.
We all should take care of who we hurt in life; no one is bigger, higher or mightier than the next. Being a billionaire does not mean that one is better than the homeless. As a matter of fact the homeless might be the one with the better heart, the compassionate ways, and the selfless spirit. We should all rethink how we treat each other because there is no crime that goes unpunished…at least not by God.
The spider that knows what it will gain sits waiting patiently in its web. The praying mantis is never tired waiting all day…….Yoruba Proverb.
Yes because once you set up your altar you have given them their own space and have acknowledged them, you have embraced them and they are glad this I know for sure
I also believe in the power of tears that is why, when someone cross me, I try to hold it back and ask the universe to take care of it. I was warned so many times as a child about this very power. It is said that my grandaunt’s son was killed by a gunman in jamaica. She had many children and the one that killed, was the most promising that she loved and was her hope for a better life. Being an old maroon, she cried, went to a crossroad with an egg before the sun rise for 3… Read more »
Yes Ty tears very powerful when true doe not false tears lol yuh granny pain wake her ancestors from there slumber
Dem old maroons were powerful and had a great connection with their ancestors. So sad that my parents did not embrace the heritage as much, but all is not lost. For here I am trying to get it back because I feel the most connected to it.
@Ty this is your lineage and someone has to embrace it it is like a crown handed down eventually seine has to wear it
Thank you, you are always so reassuring. My father ran away from his roots and I feel that he regret it because what has keep him, has been his grandmother’ s spirit that walks with him. She guides him daily. she was said to be an obeah woman but really was a herbalist who knew herbs, and helped many people. He is great with numbers and I have asked him recently to teach me. I was not sure if he would and surprise surprise he said yes. I feel after setting my altar my ancestors are nudging him to teach… Read more »
GG, Teacha…..whey yuh sey gg Auntie Rosie skin ah guh bun har??? 🙂 🙂
HAHAHA ROSIE SKIN AGUH BUN HER.. DEM SEH BETWEEN 5-7 WORKING DAYS IT SHUD REACH U
bullit bullit bullit bullit!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!———————to rass de bullitttttttttttttttttttttttttttt!!!!! GG mi glad bag bus!!!!!! mi glad fi mi auntie Rosie!!!
mi is here just a come from post office.. guh send off dem tings to u….BULLIT BULLIT
hi GG, how yuh do!
I know. Always here to help. I do what I can. Thanks.
Gwaan Rayne techa naw feel so good suh u ah fill in…..good bwoy
Well thanks Maniac. I appreciate that. I’m no where near as good as Obara but…I try. I try to help, enlighten and of course entertain. There’s nothing wrong with a little humor every now and then.
Nubizness how yuh do? Yuh ah miss nuff mama….Rayne is certainly doing a good job…
Hello nubizness. Just filling in. lol. You have a great evening too.
hello everyone can’t stay cyaa mi ah tief a type offa dah work computa….sup soon come to rawtid Rayn tun dha new techa a nuff mi miss man…Maniac, Sharlene, GG…Opti, Rayn….Obara everybody have a blessed evening tt unu tomorrow…
I would love to hear the answer to that myself. But then again why would I want to forget? I’m sure I learned a lesson for dealing with the people I know. lol
Hmmmm. Well..Obara is right. You have to go with the flow. Let nature run its course. All your doing is altering the balance and your getting the feedback of it all. In other words what your controlling ways want. Its what you get. Just sometimes what you want isn’t always EXACTLY what you ask for. So just take your time and have patience and faith. Things will come round for you. The remedy I’m sure you already know by now.
Obara is there such a spell?
Lol…Sharlene mi nah lie….ah di same ting mi deh yah ah wonda to misself enuh….mi did ahgoh ask Obara….but mi sey mi nah badda….
rayne…obara…maniac…gg…opti…nobody no know one spell(for want of a better word)…fi mek u figet somebody…please hurry up gi me di remedy
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part of my problem is im constantly trying to control the flow of my life…i want to control everything that happens…but as Obara says you have to go with the river of life…true me is a hothead…sometime me forget…and in de case like dis now…true me feelings hurt…me no want a bwoy even talk back to me…ever…so me work pon de situation to make sure him don’t…even if destiny would have him to return or anybody in that situation…my feelings mek me waan turn dat upside down….
Well that’s good news to hear Sharlene. In the end do what makes you happy. In the end no one can truly make you happy but yourself. Dating is good.
well…i don’t plan to and with the help of Obara and this site…i can try to curb my emotions somewhat…and look at things in perspective so i don’t end up in this situation again…i will be dating only…and not really doing the relationship thing…cause i dont want to put any more tears on anyone else…but God bless dem if dem fuck wid me
Well ok. That I understand. You were upset.and you had to express yourself. However, leave it there. Don’t take it out on the next one.
yes….your are right…but himdid have to feel my wrath…yea
Ok. I’ve read everything and i can say this. Yes, jumping in full body isn’t the way to go and as far as these guys. Shouldn’t waste your time. Its still early and new. Move on. I’m sure there are other man that would love to occupy the time that he is allowing. Now, when you do meet someone else conserve yourself. Don’t give out too much information and yourself. Give yourselves time to grow. That way if things don’t work out it won’t hurt so much and you won’t feel so vulnerable.
I’m here Sharlene. I was a little busy taking care of business but i’m back. Catching up on what you wrote then I will give feedback.
okkkk….so Connie and i have a bit in common…as well as a few women the world over…cause my friend remarked to me…in my relationships its like taking a bath…you know you dip your foot in to test the water…i dont dip…i just jump in full body right to the middle…so maybe i need to change that…but usually it’s not us…where are you on this Rayne?…haven’t heard you in a while
In an established relationship, when a man changes the patterns like this, but doesn’t say why, I think a woman should ask him about it. I wouldn’t ask this right away, but after – as Connie describes – several repeated signs of waning interest – it’s time to remark that you notice that things are different. Then this might spark a conversation that clarifies how things really are – and save you the wonder and worry and the need to be “patient.” It’s a tough call – and it depends on what the expectations were – that were unspoken but… Read more »
Why shouldn’t you feel that way? He risked this by suddenly dropping you – without telling you why. It’s one thing when there is a reason. It’s different when no reason is given – and one would be expected when you’re seeing someone a lot. I am a little leery of men like the recent one you describe who go all out in the beginning and seem like they really want what they think women want… Sometimes the ones who go too fast into relationship mode are the very ones who may be quick to exit also. It’s better to… Read more »
So anyway, before I torch him, I thought maybe I could get a more objective opinion on a better way to handle it. Thanks in advance, I really appreciate your insight.” — Connie Thank you, Connie! I can understand exactly what you mean. It’s not JUST that the men are repeatedly changing after a long time of closeness and attentiveness, but it’s the effect this is having on your feelings over time. You say you lack “patience” – but I see your point. Things change significantly with no explanation – I wouldn’t feel very “patient” either. I think the fact… Read more »
“Now the thing is, I’ve read all the relationship support mailers that this is a normal thing that guys do when they feel overwhelmed, blah, blah, and not to take it personally, etc. “Anyway, now I’m dating a man I met recently. It’s only been a couple of weeks. He’s very relationship-oriented, we’ve had conversations already to clarify the nature of the relationship. We’ve talked or texted numerous times a day, and saw each other for planned outings three times last week! (I know, it seems fast, but it was entirely natural, and he even initiated it!) “But then this… Read more »
“At first he’s attentive, gentlemanly, respectful, and so on. Then, suddenly he starts acting like he doesn’t care, not returning calls or whatever. “Now the problem is that I don’t have any patience for this game. Usually while I wait for the inevitable phone call with apology, I’ve gotten to the point that when he does finally come around again, I’m so completely done with him that it’s dead forever. “It hurts me everytime, though, and I find I’m unable to just act aloof like you and Bob recommend, and I am becoming more and more reluctant to trust, because… Read more »
It’s one thing when a man disappears very early on, when you’ve only dated once or twice. But it’s quite another thing when you have become a solid “couple” where you expect to see and/or talk to each other just about daily – and when this has gone on for months or more! That’s what has happened to Connie more than one time – and her biggest concern is the turn in her feelings toward all of this. She writes: “Ok Mimi, This same thing happens over and over to me; I’m stumped, it’s time I get some advice. “I… Read more »
me no believe inna man fi get up and deal wid woman like we a ediat…so me de yah now…man a carry me go work everyday…one day man say him figet…and cold up…okay you waan me lose me work…cause you no look pon me and say…yow me caan do Dis no more..so me find a solution or an alternate way and means…den man go so…oohhh you know me haffi get me priorities together and bere foolishness…me say we lef…no me will call u….man no come out and seh it over…some man naw go ever say it over because dey want… Read more »
Sharlene yuh bad nuh backside…..so fi do dem!!!! Dem nuh noe sey wi ah schemeaz
so me go so…hahahah…we laugh wid dem…psykes man a use cause a crawfish dem…yeah
sharlene! sharlene! sharlene! man mek yuh so bad !
So my friend whe no know what a gwaan…see him last night and a hail me…she say de bredda inna daze…him not even a acknowledge her…she walk up to him…like “hi, tom….him just siddung a look….so she say’ tom a me enuh stacey”…tom just siddung a look and nod him head…
tawk di tings dem Sharlene
whe unno seh unno caan digest it…me a sickhead…don’t fuck with me…when you step and tink you lef me fi pop duung…me no see no reason fi u step…now me see de bloodcloth reason…cause my sickhead aunty whe grow me inna foriegn…always SAY…”whe no hair no deh…no put razor deh…cause it will BURN…AWHOAAA
ehhm…so me just say who…you know wha…me jus get de bredran numba…link de bredren and start tell him all type a tings…like you know…a long time me a look you and a try offa you…cause me want de bredren fi tell di bredren so dem can mek him know seh me bloodcloth different…so when me go pon de road and see him wid woman which me no see yet…me know seh a two a play de game cause…me did dun a look you friend,…so checkmate…
Come Sharlene tell wi di story
No teacha but him dee juss too brite….afta wi deh fram 19 ow lang come brite himself wid mi….wen him call mi ah bawl bout how mi wikid caw how mi sort him out an den juss leff…..I’m like…’a fuck is just a fuck memba?…your words, not mine’….. eee Open shop wid mi retro money so wi cudda mek life betta an instead ah him in deh ah day time mi deh ah wuk, him lock shap an gawn wid gyal….wen cyaar fi deh pon di road ah mek ah money, him tek e fram di driva an gone pick… Read more »
do tell sharlenen plz
yes…me a preee de odda post…yield not to temptation
unno want me fi tell unno whe me do yesterday…when dem odda one come test me…
yes..maniac you right..plan and mek a rass move…mek dem tink everyting ok…and den aiyeeee…inna dem rass…
nutten wuss dan a woman scorned!!! maniac
Hurt mi an ah goh gwaan like yuh nuh kya….ah desso mi stawt plan fi yuh…. mi wii laaf wid yuh an ah plan mi move inna di back ah mi mine….yep same way soh…..
Mi dee git up won mawning…..cook di bess brekfus…..gi him a prappa prappa sawt howt….an sen him goh supermarket…..yuh noe by time him come back….MI GONE!!!!! Ebbry furnicha, appliances ebbryting…..ongle ting left standing was di two curtain…..mi plan dat shit fa weeks an bide mi time an den mi strike…..yeah, yuh ah bawl….now yuh c how it feel
ok inna me beenie man voice
dis bwoy walk inna me life
wid him crazy version love…whe him find…
dem know me cazy but….him just start play wid time..
after all de guys i been around…i never let my guard down
so after de wall dem bruk…london bridge mek a big rass sound..
mek me hear some gunshot inna de air…him haffi pay fi dat dis year
fi come try tek me like clown..
de bloodcloth saga continues
mi impatien and vengeful bad, but it calm dung wid wisdom!
thank you rayne88….i was ehhemmmm busy!!!
Welcome back Obara. Class is doing pretty well. We were waiting for your return.
Teacha mi like di picha dem mi nah lie….di one uppa top deh have mi a way doe….mek mi waa bawl to….
Nuh ask if uunu nuh impatient an vengeful Sharlene….mi ah ceet fram early
so from a one mek me bawl and a gwaan like seh dem no know whe dem do…or dem no care seh dem do me dat…wid like no apology…me start tink different…like how me a go mek you feel it…
me nuh know…from me born…me father did a try teach me patience…but me hard ears…and me always used to say vengeance is mine said the Lord…but true me no like wait…me wi escalate di situation…especially when dem tekki too far…and me a aries and me vengeful…and me same one will tell u de shit dem
Dats rite Sharlene, if ah won ting di dranko teach mi…is nuffi jink yuh parij wen it hot….wait till it cool…..dat mi sey
Teacha yuh finally get whey? Po yuh….
No man, it look like him neva heard ah Hubert…..Him muss tank God fi mi mumma, caw if ah neva she, mi puppa wudda dun him….but ah leave him to time….him is luddddy
gg an mi nuh like tink wikid enuh….mi all stawt tink bout fi bun dung dem mumma howse an bere tings….
yes…gg…caw when me start pree u different…is like you jus a get pree…and me no care…me step out and do all kinda shit whe no normal…dem mad
me no drink de porridge when it hot…cause it will BURN…me drink it when it cool likkle bit…mek you ask yourself den a reaally she do dat….
cause me have some spirit deh…when me angry dem talk…but me no drink…me no like people fi play games wid me…cause me get frazzled
maniac a same suh wid mi. if yuh mek mi bawl instant hatred fi.. n mi start pree yuh… if mi even hear d person name mi heart get heavy
@maniac de dranco neba know sey yuh ah smaddy pickiney!!!
yuh kno seh as much as mi tink otherwise i’m going to admit it mi sometimes believe seh a cawz mi mek mi mother bawl nuff back in d days all dis stress a reach mi now even tho mi kno she wud never wish bad fi mi but just d bawlin
I am backkkkkkkk! de bwoy Optimic1 narly done mi!!!.mi haffi squeechie crass de barda when him neh deh look….good evening class!! teacha tiad e ci!!!!!
Tonk yuh ggg, mi soon come fi ee
Dats y mi try mi best nuh fi get angry Sharlene….to di point whey ppl walk ova mi….caw when mi get angry mi nuh calm dung soh ez an ah bare wicked thoughts come inna mi head……wen mi done mi beg God fi pardon an fi cleanse mi heart…..mi nuh like ppl mek mi bawl…..mi wii hate dem
yas maniac mi leff e’ fi yuh
yes…a true…de man mek him know seh you caan deal wid me family like dat…sometime dem no know who dem a walk wid…and me spiritual but me naw go gainst nobody wid my spirituality cause that’s not what it’s for…but i’m a human being…so sometime me get angry…and when you see me get angry trust me a better me cuss you…cause if me no cuss you…me a go try fi create some devious ting fi do you…me start wrack me brain
Mi ah tell yuh Sharlene, at di time wen dat happen an mi tell him soh, mi neva too believe dem tings deh cudda happen….but there was no other explaination….how him noe sey ah mi grandpa pinch him….unless him dee recognize his face from di finnaral program caw him neva meet him yet…..shuda did get 50 more pinch
and is not like me wish bad fi him…people have to take responsiblity for their actions…him dont do right…how him a go get right?
de spirit come inna me head and tell me tell him say if him nuh tek care a de baby my obeah man say him naw go mek dollar…him a go dung like dog…my obeahman father God send the spirit come tell me dat directly inna my head…from desso…slowly but surely him trickle dung to nothing…my bf a entrepeneur…de same day me tell him dat him lose a shipment…and the next day…and ever since…everything try fail…because when me bawl…God a listen
ggggg…yuh leff di likkle bickle fi mi? Mi ansa yuh oba soh enuh, ah hope mine still deh deh
@maniac….wow…dats so interesting….dem tings do happen…dats why dem always God help the fatherless and the widows…and me know a true…cause fi mi wukliss babyfather cannot mek a dolla de mount a bawling me do…and evrytime him call me a pere problem…but me did warn him
Sharleneeeee mi dey yah mum. Did ah write mi eppisl uppa top deh
Oh the power of tears. Mi nah lie, mi luv bawl – mi ma use to sey ah cause mi bawn inna rainy munt y…….I always feel so much better after a good cry… Here’s my story…. I was with my son’s father for quite a while, over 10 yrs….anyway after tings stawt gwaan feem an him stawt hav di one bag ah gyal, disrespect an pure tings….one night wen mi cudden tek it nuh more mi pu dung ah peece ah bawling….Couple days later while my girlfriend and I (mi hear sey him did sleep wid she to, nuh… Read more »
so whe evrybody deh…maniac no come a school
i am touched by this post…i jusst came to school and yes i am always late and sometimes absent in words, but never in spirit…as soon as i saw this post without even reading it…i burst into tears…and it has had a profound effect on me…reading it…Sometimes you are just looking for a word or a message…thank you Obara
Thank you rayne888 and GG, it is something that connects you to God, Tears are very powerful and should not be taken frivolously
This is something I’m oh too familiar with. A lesson I’ve learned and yet still learning as I progress in my life. This is a real good one Obara. Good choice.
good read…this goes to show that the saying “DO GOOD AND GOOD WILL FOLLOW YOU” is true