I have been meaning to do a topic on Soul Connections/Soul mates and on Twin Flames for a while now, but at times when I sit down to write, something else comes a long and pushes that subject away and it never happens. Of course you all know my beliefs as I have often shared them with you “Everything happens for a reason, and everything comes when it must”, so I try not to swim against the currents of life, and do things when the time is right. There are people in this life who you will meet and immediately you will connect with them in a certain way. It may be someone on a bus or in the supermarket, or someone visiting your home. When a connection happens you are drawn inexplicably to him or her, and the fascination becomes almost like a haunting.
When I met my dear Padrino who has since made his transition into the realm of spirits, he was 79 years old. Tall, strong and handsome. Dressed in full white and had a very pleasant face, but when he spoke his voice had such command which seemed to call respect to attention. I was amazed of him when we first met, I could not believe his age, he seemed quite younger and also the energy, strength and vigor he had for his age, to me was quite remarkable. He spoke with such passion of his religion and also he, despite the fact that he was white skinned Cuban, spoke of being an African and I loved that. I felt connected to him, and I would try to find every way to spend time with him. I would some time bring my junior sister to see him and she began to feel the same. We did not see him as an old man, we saw someone we were in love with. I was afraid to tell her my thoughts and she was afraid to let me know that she felt the same. One day we sat at his reading table with him and we both were staring at him while he was preparing some sort of medicine, by this we had discussed the emotions we were having for our sweet Padrino and between ourselves we wondered why, because he could be our grand father. On this particular day as we watched him work, we both looked at him with googly eyes, feeling love way deep in our hearts for him, he suddenly looked up at us and smiled, while we smiled back at him.
I began to worry that he would know how we were feeling. He looked up at us smiled and told us not to worry. He said what we were feeling was love for the spirit within not him. We were shocked that he would know our thoughts, much less to smile and tell us exactly what they were. He saw the shocked and embarrassed looks on our faces and hugged us together and explained to us that it is a spiritual connection and that we bonded through spirit. To this day whenever I think about him, my heart flutters and go to a place of love and deep emotion at the very thought of him. I was blessed to have known him and when I saw him the other day in the realm of Spirit in a dream, and he came over and hugged me, although it was a dream I felt the same feeling.
Our spiritual or soul connection does not have to be one of a sexual nature or even a love connection. It can be a connection with even an animal. It can be a connection with a house or land or even a country. We have incarnated to this realm many times and we have met each other before, at some point during our travels. All of us have been coming to the world over and over again and we may not know it but just before we leave the realm from whence we came, we promised each other to meet up again somewhere on the earth plane, and when we do meet, it is an instant connection. A person may live in America and have never been to Jamaica, but there is an urge to go there, a need to visit the Island and they cannot tell why, a fascination even. The minute they get there they meet someone, an instant connection, marriage buss and all those nice things and the happily ever after begins. Or the urge leads them to Jamaica and they see what they can do to assist the country and its people in some humanitarian way.
We are all under the impression that we have our soul mates out there somewhere, and like me who is a sucker for romance or a great romance story. I love to see people in love, since love it self has always eluded me. I am happy to see couples fall in love and be together. Many people believe that who they are with may be their soul mate, depending on the relationship and the connection they have, and for the most part they are correct. Then there are those who, at first, when they meet the desire of their hearts, they fall in love and perhaps marry, convinced that they have found the ONE, and then the children comes along but after a while the passion leaves, the love begins to wane and both want out, but for the love of the children some stay while others throws caution to the wind and step. They wonder to themselves, how could this be?, I thought him or her to be the one, my mate, my twin flame, what happened? The connection may have been the children, the coming together in bringing those children born of you both here. You may go on and have other children with someone else, but those born between the both of you were meant to come into the world by you both and so you were chosen and that is where the connection came in.
Now that the person who you believed was the one has gone, do not think that there aren’t any others. The person who you broke up with may have been indeed a soul mate, but in connection with one area of your life, not all. Some people have more than one soul mates or soul mate connection. You connect with this person for a particular reason and then you both go your separate ways, and you are once again walking your path. There is something called your Twin Flame, and this is where it gets tricky. We tend to believe what is written out there and readily accept it as gospel, which is quite understandable, because if you read upon a subject you have no idea about, then it is easy to understand why you would believe the author, but you must also believe your own spirit of discernment which travels with you everywhere you go, and teaches you, but you must pay attention. Your Twin Flame can also be described as your soul mate but they are two different things.
The Twin Flame, is you gender counterpart as it relates to a love connection. Please bare in mind that what I am telling you is what I, Obara Meji, have been taught by my spiritual elders, non-physical teachers residing in other dimensions. Running to Google this and seeing something different does not mean what you read here is incorrect, it simply means that I am sharing with you knowledge taught to me, as oppose to information recycled on the internet. We all have our Twin flames, and for some we will find that Twin Flame while alive here in this realm. Our Twin Flame may not be of our own ethnicity, our age, of our social standing or be an academic equal, heck he or she may reside in another country or may not speak the same language as you. When you both see each other you will know each other, like Dracula and Mina in the movie Brom Stoker’s Dracula. One would only pray that they find a love such as this in their life time, I have never found it. This person is you in everything they do, the way they think, the things they like and in how they feel. When in the presence of this magnificent you, you are awed, and your heart quickens its beat and he or she is in your thoughts every waking moment of the day and night.
You will tremble at the sound of their voice and fall asleep to the lull of their heartbeat. Everything you see as you walk along life’s way will remind you of this person and the feeling for you with them will be the same, they will feel the same as you do. Both of you living in the same world with each other and not realizing that other people also inhabit the world in which you live, because you are oblivious to them or anything else outside your love for each other. The love may not connect at first sight or at first encounter. You may meet him or her and an immediate dislike is felt by either both of you or just one, but after you both step away from each other, this person who turned you off at first encounter, cannot seem to leave your thoughts, they haunt you and you try to wave them away like an annoying fly but the thoughts of them persist. While you may be in Jericho and they in Timbuktu, what ails you also ails them. Both of you may have gone on to marry other people have a couple of children, a dog and a cat even, only to meet suddenly on a flight or at a conference or some where and there the connection begins to unfold and you are now enamored by each other and know that you must be together breathing the same air, loving each other till death do you part. My parents are Twin Flames, for never have I ever witnessed a love like theirs. I believe I stayed and took the pain, shame and humiliation from the children’s father, wanting it to eventually end (no pain, no gain) and be like my parents, but it was never to be, and I have since stop looking. Never settle if you can help it. Love is the single most significant element of happiness. Pray in finding. When you find that person, know that love makes you happy, never sad. It does not meant that you will not quarrel or even disagree, all of those things comes with life, but true love rises above all that, and the quarrel will be resolved and all will work itself out between you two.
As a young little girl about twelve, I fell in love with a boy called Eric, no one knew, just me. When I saw Eric, my heart would skip several beats, (it has never done that again for anyone), and I became an idiot, a sweet idiot. I wrote poems about Eric and the very mention of his name threatened to make me faint, because my heart palpitated upon hearing anything about him. Eric was about 17 years old and I would sit on my veranda and admire him everyday when he passed our house. One Sunday Eric came into our yard and was talking to me, he had no idea I loved him, or maybe he did, I don’t know, but he sat with me and was helping me with my homework, this was around 9pm, my mother called me in to give her water and he said, as I went to my mother that he would soon be back and he left to go next door which was a gambling yard, as I fetched the water for my mother I heard three three shots ring out, and I dropped the water and shouted while running outside, “Mama Eric has been shot!”, I ran outside to see Eric being held up by people and he was bleeding from his face, he had been shot in the face by robbers at the gambling yard. In love you will feel the danger of the other person or their pain and even their joy, even out of their presence, it is a connection, a great one. Eric lived, Yay!
Many of us are here in search of our Twin Flame, we may not know it, but we are. Many of us yearn for that soul or spiritual connection, but we do not know if it will ever come. I am in love with love. I am so loving and I have always wanted to love someone with the passion which I know exists deep down within me. The fire which I hold, burns way deep and has never risen to meet my Twin Flame, because I have never met him. I may not be one who will find my Twin Flame here in this earth plane, because maybe my true husband lies in heaven, and awaits my return to him when the mist have rolled away, I wish it not to be so, because love is so sweet, and I am one who love to be loved and be in love, but maybe I am the one who is here to assist in connecting love. I pray not, but then again I have so much love to share and some men are so fine. If you have not found your Twin Flame keep your eyes open she may be the boss that you dislike, or the Spanish teacher with the funny accent, or the pool boy, or the fat girl around the road, or the higgler (market seller) at the road side, you never know.
Igi ò lè gbé abẹ́ igi, kó rúwé /
A tree cannot be shielded by another tree and consistently sprout leaves. Yoruba Proverb!
[Get off your comfort zones; nothing ventured nothing gained.]
All Religions are valid as long as it teaches peace and love…Obara Meji!
“It is an absolute human certainty that no one can know his own beauty or perceive a sense of his own worth until it has been reflected back to him in the mirror of another loving, caring human being.”
― John Joseph Powell, The Secret of Staying in Love
“For some people, “the point of no return” begins at the very moment their souls become aware of each others’ existence.”
― C. JoyBell C.
“The minute I heard my first love story I started looking for you, not knowing how blind that was. Lovers don’t finally meet somewhere. They’re in each other all along.”
~ Jalal ad-Din Rumi
“A soulmate is someone to whom we feel profoundly connected, as though the communicating and communing that take place between us were not the product of intentional efforts, but rather a divine grace.”
“As we grow older together, As we continue to change with age, There is one thing that will never change. . . I will always keep falling in love with you.”
“We recognize a soul mate by the supreme level of comfort and security we feel with that person. That doesnt mean that there arent issues that remain to be ironed out. Rather, it means we know intuitively that we can resolve issues with our soul mate without losing his or her love and respect.”
Obara Meji is a spiritualist, Ifa-Orisa practitioner, and teacher of metaphysics. Since 2011 she has used her online platform to share her personal experiences to those seeking answers about spirituality. Her teachings will expand into short stories, novels, and public speaking to continue her mission of bringing enlightenment to the world.