In recent posts I have written about Sex and spirituality. I have even told stories of sexual encounters I have had with spirits read this, and even though those encounters were in the dream world, I woke up feeling sated and tired as if I had ran a marathon. In my real life, I do not discuss Sex, at least not in public, it is a hard subject for me to speak on because hard as this may be for you all to fathom, I am quite shy. Behind a computer screen you can be who you want to be, so I may joke and play around at times, but that is really all it is a joke. While growing up, the subject was never spoken of in our household, and even to this day I can never imagine my parents “doing it”, ewww! Mama is however a very sexy lady, bandy leg and dress good, and daddy tall and handsome, so if I had to cringe and think about it I can see them getting there, but oh what a thought! Of course there is no such thing as a virgin birth but in the case of my mother having us, I will make an exception to my beliefs. Read this
Sex, so provocative a topic, and yet such a curious word in any topic. The energy this little three letter word gives off is so strong that even writing about it make me Obara Meji blush, yes I am currently blushing now, as I am not too sure where my words will go as I type. Again, this is cyber world, so I can get as wild as I dare because who knows if any of us will ever meet for me to remember what I may write here and become painfully embarrassed. This is where I laugh and say I am joking, this post will deal with this subject respectfully and in a way where we can have a discussion and no one is embarrassed, however I am not too sure, I can get a little quirky at times lol, mi head can tek mi at any moment.
Ok but seriously the mere mention of the word evokes many different emotion and gets peoples attention. No matter who you are in this world people are curious about sex. May it be the Dali Lama, to Mother Theresa, to the Pope, nature is in all of us, and while some would like us to believe that they have suppressed that which is innate, I am not buying it, because when night comes and the lights are off and they are alone by themselves, with just themselves their trusty, handy dandy hands and fingers will suffice, lol, I believe this to be so, nobody cyaan tell mi nutten! Human beings are human beings and the brain calls for sex as much as it calls for food, the fulfillment of copulation cannot be denied if there is a willing participant, and if there is not, some people will opt to satisfy themselves which the medical community encourages. Professor Ty, come expound on the reason why this is encouraged please and thanks!
Sex sells and when the word titles a book or a movie or an event or whatever, the response is astounding. The book Fifty Shades of Grey, flew off the book shelves, I tried to read it on the plane travelling to Nigeria but I could not even go half way, it did nothing for me, it made no sense and my imagination is active and can be wild at times, but not a shiver or a spark to this book, nothing! Sexual energy is dynamic and explosive, and regardless of the times we are living in with all the new diseases which are cropping up nowadays, it is surprising that people are even having more sex, and there seems to be even a sexual revolution, as in Sexual liberation and a call for sexual acceptance outside of what is known as traditional heterosexual sex, or monogamous sexual relationships (the very popular threesomes and orgies), People are constantly seeking some kind of sexual freedom and the more salacious the better, the more raw and inventive the best! Jamaican sey head top, and the women become acrobats, not caring of the possibility of breaking their necks, as long as de man can use dem as wheel borrow, wow.
How do you place sex and spirituality together, how do we put the two into the right perspective? How do we spiritualize sex? Some one once contacted me on the internet, and we began to email back and forth, me in my Position as Obara Meji, they as someone wanting to find their spiritual path (lies, ah smaddy him did ah look, gwan read), after a while he began sending emails to me asking me about sex and spirituality and of course being who I am I explained many things to him, all the while slightly being disturbed by some of his emails he was sending, after which he graduated to wanting to (telling me his fantasy) have sex before the Orishas shrine, I told him with Ifa that is possible, as Ifa did not mind, but with all other Orishas it is an abomination, then he went further with him becoming comfortable with me by sending an email to me of a desire to lick honey from my legs, needless to say the emails back and forth between he and I ended. I laughed secretly, not of him per say, but of the many different fantasies some people have concerning spirituality and sex, how intrigued some maybe of the Pastor screwing his wife (yes, I use the word screwing, maybe because I like the word, lol), oh if I could be a fly on the wall, although being voyeuristic was never my thing, and I just would not want to see that. What of the Rabbi and his wife, the doing it through the sheets is intriguing as they say of some religious people namely Jews, of Sex within Judaism this is what is said;
Jewish Attitudes Towards Sexuality
In Jewish law, sex is not considered shameful, sinful or obscene. Sex is not thought of as a necessary evil for the sole purpose of procreation. Although sexual desire comes from the yetzer ra (the evil impulse), it is no more evil than hunger or thirst, which also come from the yetzer ra. Like hunger, thirst or other basic instincts, sexual desire must be controlled and channeled, satisfied at the proper time, place and manner. But when sexual desire is satisfied between a husband and wife at the proper time, out of mutual love and desire, sex is a mitzvah.
Sex is permissible only within the context of a marriage. In Judaism, sex is not merely a way of experiencing physical pleasure. It is an act of immense significance, which requires commitment and responsibility. The requirement of marriage before sex ensures that sense of commitment and responsibility. Jewish law also forbids sexual contact short of intercourse outside of the context of marriage, recognizing that such contact will inevitably lead to intercourse.
The primary purpose of sex is to reinforce the loving marital bond between husband and wife. The first and foremost purpose of marriage is companionship, and sexual relations play an important role. Procreation is also a reason for sex, but it is not the only reason. Sex between husband and wife is permitted (even recommended) at times when conception is impossible, such as when the woman is pregnant, after menopause, or when the woman is using a permissible form of contraception.
From the Christians;
God Himself created human sexuality and said it was “very good” and His first commandment to man and woman was to “be fruitful and multiply.” Yet, it only took one sly serpent in the Garden of Eden to foist upon humanity one of the cruelest lies imaginable-that contrary to Scripture, which quotes God as saying, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a help meet for him” and “Be fruitful, and multiply and replenish the earth” ( Genesis 2:18 ; 1:28 ).-God had lied about sex, that sex was “very bad” and not “very good,” that God’s physical creation, the human body, was evil and shameful, and that it was not good for man and woman to dwell together, “to be fruitful and multiply.”
Sexual pleasures, so the lie went, sprang like an evil forbidden fruit planted by the Devil himself in the garden of human goodness, and it had to be crushed, uprooted and cast out if the human soul hoped to escape the flames of Hell. Once the Devil, the “father of lies and of all that is false” ( John 8:44 , Amplified), had successfully planted his evil seeds of doubt about God, Creation, and human sexuality in the hearts and minds of humanity, the tragic wedge between spirituality and sexuality was in place.
Those who believed the lie and chose the anti-sexual body-rejecting path to perfection soon found the Biblical account of Adam and Eve frolicking naked and unashamed through the Garden ( Genesis 2:25 ) a rather embarrassing quirk in the religious record that needed to be explained away. Hence, Adam’s expulsion from the Garden was taken to mean that he had been booted out for having had sex with Eve , who was portrayed as an evil sexual seductress who caused the curse to fall upon an otherwise perfect man. Sex, therefore, was to be viewed as part of the curse, the evil deed that got man into trouble; and woman was responsible.
The approach of sex from the angle of religion is through marriage which is encouraged as it represents stability and family. We, however are living in a time where marriage, although still held in high regard, is not needed to support the sex act or even family, but it is quite disconcerting to me as a spiritualist how frivolous most people view sex and even act upon it as nothing. Often times no importance is placed on emotions, just the quick release more achievable by men more than woman, which is so sad, because it is the men who gets the most pleasure than the female..lol, we just make the noise to make you feel good like you are really the Don so that you can release and we can go back to the real fantasy in our heads (sexy body Trevor across de street, wid him spliff ah him jaw cawna, big up yuh self Trevs, draw fi mi shades), while you knocked out cold,(ah we do dat, women, up yuh lighter!!), ask your woman if I lie, and if she feels like telling you the truth, she will agree with me, but she bloody well may not, lol… Hardly is that “Bed room Bully ever found”, Lady Saw big up yuh chest, in one of your songs, you said you heard of one who could do the act and you begged him to come and “stab the meat”, you even promised him that is all you wanted, and that you would not even mention his name, lol, I totally understand you, the great Marion Hall.
I found this on the internet, interesting have a read;
But how do we redeem sexuality and elevate it to the spiritual status it deserves? How do we reconcile the square of sex with the circle of spirit when sexual pleasure is often responsible for so much shame, trauma, and pain? One place to begin searching for an answer to these questions lies in identifying the fundamental, seemingly irreconcilable differences between male and female sexuality. Those differences swiftly become apparent in the bedroom.
Stereotypically, male sexual energy flares up and is exhausted quickly, (this is so true, lol) like a match, while female sexual energy boils slowly and remains hot for a long time, like a pot of boiling water, (who sey ooman can done?). These different tempos are a source of shame for men who climax too fast and frustration for women who may not climax at all. This problem is then compounded by the notorious fact that when male sexual energy is activated men often become emotionally unavailable, and the other notorious fact that the female sexual experience is often laden with sentimentalism that men normally can’t relate to.
Obviously, we can’t alter our sexual instincts. What we can do, however, is use spiritual practice to overcome the limitations imposed by nature on our sexuality. In fact, we can transform the inherent mismatch between male and female sexuality into an incredible opportunity for spiritual growth.
Sex is a good thing and should be treated as something sacred I believe, of course, as it is now and from the beginning of time it may never change the way some people approach it. The body of the woman is a temple and therefore sacred and so is the body of a man. He carries the seed and she will host it and cultivate it and bare the fruit when the time arrives. This is what Sex is really for, procreation. I really cannot see God in my minds eye, planning for us to tun back ways, side ways, or sitting down on it, even going down on our knees as if in prayer and acting like bobble head dolls *covers eyes while typing* (speaking properly, and praying to God mi children do not read this blog, and by de way Pinchers stawt play inna mi head), but if it takes that to bring forth Little Billy, or Little Suzie, den galang wid yuh ting Rambo and Suzie you tun up de bubbling, in other words go right on ahead *no pun Intended, maybe*. And always remember that it is not the size of the gun, that matters, but the effect from the bullet, ……………………lololol grung!
Other than for being fruitful and nuff multiplication according to the Rasta man, the pleasures which sex gives can hardly be denied, even a quicky, but we should be mindful that there are heavy responsibilities which lies with this as sex is deeply tied in with the realms of spirit and that “Release” (or even the lack of ) which is chased can also bring about energies/entities which,depending on the circumstances under which the act is done, can affect us in our human state. There are a lot of sexual deviants out there and this is not by mistakes, Yetzer ra, as mentioned above in relation to Judaism is a real sephiroth, the sephiroth of sexual desire, and desire is never a good thing, as this emotion is so strong it takes on the personality of a spirit and can lead the person wanting astray, and away into whatever it takes for the desire to be achieved, these things brings about rape and pedophilia and then some, this topic we will discuss one day.
Of the realm of Sex;
Of these realms, there are many, and there are also realms which are called, Out of Bounds! Of these, I cannot speak of, at least not until I have the school, and some people are found worthy to be able to manage these topics which will be mind blowing, *pun intended*. Here is hoping to have a wonderful discussion on this topic.
A kì í fi ojúbọ́rọ́ gba ọmọ lọ́wọ́ èkùrọ́.
One does not easily or casually take the child from the palm-nut.
All religions are valid as long as it teaches peace and love…Obara Meji
Every pum ah de same pum pum…Jamaican Song!
That is so not true….Obara Meji
Obara Meji is a spiritualist, Ifa-Orisa practitioner, and teacher of metaphysics. Since 2011 she has used her online platform to share her personal experiences to those seeking answers about spirituality. Her teachings will expand into short stories, novels, and public speaking to continue her mission of bringing enlightenment to the world.