ABUSE AFFECTS IN MANY WAYS-MEN ARE PEOPLE TOO

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Domestic abuse

Yesterday the post was on abuse and it mainly focused on women and what we sometimes go through at the hands of men. I told my story, because of the recent media attention given to Ray Rice and the hitting and subsequent knockout of his wife Janay in an elevator. Janay stayed after the beating and had even married him after the occurrence, here is hoping I got the story correct. We are always appalled when we hear stories of women being abused,  but what of men?

As usual I always speak about things from a Jamaican perspective being that I am Jamaican and I know my people and some stories coming from there and also I have memories of living there as a child, but this argument/issue on a whole is not only with a culture or even a race of people it is something world wide, and it is a problem.

When I was a small girl in Jamaica, there was a man named Rat, a mousy looking fellow, true to his name in looks and demeanor,who never wore shoes. There was a big Yard next door  of where we lived which had a huge fowl coop, almost big like a house, sans fowls however, that was where Rat slept almost every night. As a child, I use to feel sorry for Rat, because I felt he had no home, he wore no shoes and people called him Rat (this is a child thinking). I had no idea that he indeed had a home with wife and children, I was to find out one morning in the most horrific way.

I would often times sleep with my parents. I was a child afraid of Ghosts/duppies, and would climb in between my parents at nights. One morning as we slept we heard a huge commotion out in the streets, my parents jumped up and went outside to look, of course I pushed my thumb in my mouth (my thumb was my besty back then) and ran right behind them, people were crying and screaming and the ambulance were in the streets also the police. My mother held onto me as she and daddy walked up to some people and asked what happened.

Apparently Rat had gone home last night, (I was puzzled, because home to me for Rat was the fowl Coop) and he had gotten into an argument with his wife, (wife???, I was shocked!). At sometime the argument had quieted down, enough for Rat to finally get some sleep, ( he had been sleeping in the fowl coop trying to avoid a cankerous wife, but real Rats had been competing for his bed space and perhaps threatening to kill him, Jamaican Rats are no ordinary Rats,  so last night he tried to sleep home) Rat awoke screaming like banshee witches, to the wife pouring hot oil all over him. The neighbors ran to help Rat as his screams seemed to come out of the Twilight Zone, or of a cat being skinned. All his flesh had melted from his body and amid the whole craziness the woman had fled. Who know about the Al Green story, here is the link;

http://www.history.com/this-day-in-history/soul-singer-al-green-is-attacked-in-his-own-bathtub

I do not remember the rest of the story as to what happened after the incident, but as with Pet from the story yesterday, I have never forgotten Rat.

I know of a woman who had a very dysfunctional relationship with her baby’s father, he ,like the “Wicked One”, who fathered my children were serial cheaters, horrible men, and of the same kind of character in almost every way, it was almost like t badge of honor to them, when women quarrelled over them, I think mine was the worst of the two however. In other words they could not handle their “bitches” outside the home. These women would call and curse her something fierce, and he would act as if it was nothing, she would cry and cry and complain, she was so hurt at the way he disregarded her feelings. She, according to her, needed to get revenge on him, she could not beat him as in fight him physically, so she scrubbed the toilet with his toothbrush, and watched him use it day after day. She laughingly told me what she did, I could not laugh or rejoice with her, I thought that was very wrong, and I have not changed my mind, it was wrong. It would have been better to have left him.

There was another time she had another boyfriend, she had wanted this one to move out, he too was a cheater and she had found hard evidence against him and had called me over to their house as the quarrel was blazing. She had thrown all his clothes out and he was refusing to go, actually pleading with her for him to stay. She looked at him in front of me and asked him seriously if he was not leaving and he replied a vehement no!

She walked away, into the kitchen, by this she had called the police, she came from the kitchen with a butcher knife and was cutting both her arms, blood was dripping all over, and to our shock and horror she began crying and screaming at the guy “see what you did!

The guy looked at me, horrified, heard the sirens of cops car from a far and ran from the house. What do you call behaviors like these. In the Ray Rice video, someone called to my attention that the wife had spat in his face, I did not see that, but we must know that every action cause a re-action. Men are not suppose to hit women but it does go both way. There are some women out there who will use the system to their advantage, and will go above and beyond to humiliate their man and get their way.

Also we speak of physical abuse, but what of emotional abuse, this, I believe is even worse than the physical, because the emotional abuse often times does not heal. Men often suffer in silence, protecting their masculinity. Too embarrassed to complain, and society adds to his pain and shame, calling him a sissy or as Jamaicans would say Mampala, encouraging to fight back, knock out his abuser the woman, and when he does, then same society condemns him and imprison him, how do we handle this?

Men because of shame often times endure the abuse, too embarrassed to say anything. Immigrants also fall victim to abuse regardless of sex I realize, they are put into the position of helping their spouse secure a green card. The very fact that they have to do this, and often times the other person cannot work until a work permit is secured, they suffer all kind of abuse at the hands of their partners, families, and other parties.

Let us reason on this today,  add your own story. Men stop peep and speak up. Below there are some stories I found on the internet, there are 25 stories, so I have placed the link for you.

25 Domestically Abused Men Reveal Their Horrifying Stories

 

Alágbẹ̀dẹ tó ńlu irin lójú kan ó lóhun tó fẹ́ fàyọ ńbẹ̀ /
A blacksmith who kept hitting an iron at a single spot has his reasons….Yoruba Proverb!

[Be tolerant; people have their reasons.]

 

All religions are valid as long as it teaches peace and love…..Obara Meji!

There are no disappointments in life, only lessons learned…..Obara Meji

 

1. “Dug her fingernails in” – a literal metaphor

My last ex was pretty controlling but I never guessed she would resort to violence when I tried to break up with her. I sat her down and explained to her that I didn’t want to be in the relationship anymore and when I tried to leave she dug her fingernails into my arm and wouldn’t let me go. I tried to remove her hand but she dug her fingernails in even harder. I pushed her off of me, at which point she looked at me like I hit a small puppy because “men aren’t allowed to push girls!”… So she retaliated by punching me in the nose. Blood was getting everywhere and instead of trying to calm her down again I ran out her bedroom and burst into her roommate’s room where she and her boyfriend were hanging out. They knew what was going on immediately. The boyfriend restrained my girlfriend and gave me enough time to run out the front door. The roommate ran after me saying, “I don’t care how big you are! You can’t take that abuse and feel fine.” I broke down right there and wept like a schoolgirl. Glad that’s over with and I’ve found someone who makes me very happy.

This is my arm over a year later after the incident.

2. No personal boundaries

We had an argument, and she suddenly escalated and started to hit me repeatedly. This included low blows.

I immediately left, called it off, and told her to get out of my life.

She then proceeded to stalk and harass me over the next several months. It was annoying but mostly harmless- she would mostly leave me degrading notes in various places, such as my car.

It all occurred in public areas, up until she managed to leave me a message in my home while I was away. I was terrified that she had been there. I didn’t feel safe at home afterwards.

I proceeded to obtain a domestic violence restraining order against her in court, and won the case. She’s been out of my life since.

None of her actions indicated to me that she wanted to severely injure me, but she did want control over me- the ability to lash out at me when she wanted to. She had little respect for my personal boundaries.

The violence was primarily of an emotional/terrorizing nature rather than a constant physical threat.

 

3. This is sickening

Old ex-girlfriend was visiting from out of town for a week. We were having a good time I thought . Some conversations about relationships that she didn’t like, but nothing resembling an argument or fight. I guess she thought her coming out to visit would turn into a long term relationship.

Anyway, one night we’re watching a movie, she goes upstairs to get something to eat. While she’s up there she starts yelling at me out of nowhere and then throw a large pot of soup down the stairs. Then some dishes. Then comes downstairs and throws a hammer at me which sticks in the wall, then a jar candle. She then tries to stab me with the broken jar.

This is all out of nowhere, no exaggeration. I had paused the movie, she went upstairs and then just flipped out.

Eventually she calms down. I am terrified of calling the police knowing that I’d probably go to jail. So I encourage her to sleep, and the next day tell her she can’t stay here after what happened. I pay for a hotel room just to get her out of my house. She goes to stay with family in another town and I guess tells them how we got in a fight and who knows what else. Anyway, 2 days after she left my house, I’m home playing skyrim with my daughter when the police come. They ask me if I put my hands on her, I say no, and then I’m arrested and going to jail.

Now I’m out on bail on a form of probation while I wait to set a trial date that can take up to a year.

4. False self-defense

My ex roommate had some serious issues with his girlfriend.

They’d split up at one point and she used a spare key she had (made a copy before giving his key back to him) to break into his house and walk into his bedroom while he was sleeping. She stood over him and then took her lanyard with keys attached and began beating him. He woke up being hit over and over with keys being swung around on a nylon rope. She was screaming at him while doing it. He threw her out of the house and she threatened to call the police to report that he’d started the physical portion of the fight and saying she hit him back in self-defense.

They got back together for some reason.

Same situation happened again with her coming in while he was asleep, only this time she crawled into his bed and began rubbing on him. While he was in this half awake/half asleep state, she started fucking him. He said when he realized it was her on top of him and he wasn’t just dreaming or something he threw her off. She again threatened to report him for physical abuse.

He never reported either incident but I know the rape was terrifying for him and he actually had some issues as a result. There’s not much help and if he went to report it anyway, it would have been his word against hers.

5. Let’s the story straight – boyfriend walks in on girlfriend cheating, girlfriend stabs boyfriend in anger

ComI was stabbed in the arm by my ex with a nail file thing when I walked in on her sleeping with some random she met earlier that night. Before that, she’d never even raised her voice at me. It was like something completely flipped in her head and she turned violent. I did not press charges and we weren’t living together so I simply left, went to the hospital for stitches and never spoke to her again.

6. How about not hitting people – male or female

I was with a girl for about a year. Things got stressful. We both had a couple kids from our first marriages, I worked so she could go to school.

To be fair, I can be a total, disgusting asshole when something makes me defensive. An ability she had in spades. One day I was laying back down. We were both tired and fighting viciously. I said “whatever” and closed my eyes and bam! She punched me three times in the head. I was freaked out, because my mother physically abused me as a child. I’m also 6’2″ and 230 pounds and was an amateur fighter. Violence is a huge insecurity for me and I was afraid I’d put my 4’11” 100 pound girl to sleep or worse, as a reaction, someday. It kept escalating and I was hit with a twenty pound mirror, had countless mugs thrown at me, a pewter figurine, hit, scratched, bit, holes in the walls.

Eventually, I started using explosive, but non injurious force on her. I became violent back after a year. Within a month of me becoming violent in return I made the statement that if I ever touched her in anger again, I was gone. Next day was a knock down, drag out fight that ended with me holding her violently on the floor. I moved into a weekly rental crack house that day and we haven’t lived together since. Took another four years to completely end the relationship. I blew my thirties on that madness and I’m a worse person than when I went into it, but I’m getting over that trauma slowly.

 

 

 

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TY
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TY
6 years ago
Reply to  Obara Meji

lol….

I fell asleep …

MTH
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MTH
6 years ago

Morning (well a afternoon fi unno) Nunu & Toy. No Nunu, mi juss a sey draws, ratchet, draw to di side all dem tings dey a big peeprle tings. Mi juss watch how New Name come bruk out Teach & Cami. Nunu mi juss a wait fi dem buss mi wid likkle custom wuk.

Yazzy
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6 years ago

Mawnin fam! Happy Wednesday!

NuNu
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NuNu
6 years ago

Hey Toy! Love and light to you too

toy7318
6 years ago

Nunu, Mth good morning ladies!

toy7318
6 years ago

Morning everyone! Love and light!

NuNu
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NuNu
6 years ago

Howdy M! Dem gwaan bad nuh chue, lol, mi neva inna it. Have a good day at work yuh hear!

MTH
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MTH
6 years ago

A suh unno did a gwan last night? Unno get wey…Mi naah sey nuttnen cause mi well waan prisps wey inna Teach & Cami ‘travel kit’. Mi wi tun custom officer. Mi will tag the items and ensure that each is accounted for.

NuNu
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NuNu
6 years ago

Good morning folks!

NuNu
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NuNu
6 years ago

Good night Camilla lol, I’m going to bed myself. Night teach. Hopefully tomorrow we’ll be on our best behaviour so that Ty can come back!

Cami
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Cami
6 years ago
Reply to  NuNu

lol, yu gwan, yah gi me name lol

NuNu
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NuNu
6 years ago

Lol!!!Cami mi cyaan manij di whole a unoo one time! Unoo wi gi mi body come dung an heartburn

Cami
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Cami
6 years ago

Bye…or better yet good night to all peepers.

Good night, NuNu and Obara, me gone since onu gone to, lol

NuNu
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NuNu
6 years ago

Good night New Name

NuNu
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NuNu
6 years ago

Blame it pon Yw yes, dats why him did get suspension from di class, not a good influence!

Cami
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Cami
6 years ago
Reply to  NuNu

I won’t forget when you had to adjust yu sash! dwln, Yw had you on a panic, lol

New Name
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New Name
6 years ago

Good night peeps
It was great being here. Sweet dreams everyone

Cami
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Cami
6 years ago
Reply to  New Name

Night, New Name.

NuNu
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NuNu
6 years ago

Cami mi want guh get mi docta check up and mi ashma pump refill before mi guh check Obara parcelment causen mi nuh tink mi constitution ready yet. Memba seh shi seh not even moon light ie nuh star!!! Mi haffi guh buil’ a flood lamp fi dat! Custom and clearance! Next in line!!!!!!

Cami
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Cami
6 years ago
Reply to  NuNu

Yah go need de infrared xray machine.

NuNu
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NuNu
6 years ago

Wait!! Mi juss si whe Cami seh ‘grip’and ‘front outside compartment’ somebody please ro resurrect Friday nights causen mi want Cami carry dat dulcimena come suh wi can guh chue it compartment by compartment lol

Cami
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Cami
6 years ago
Reply to  NuNu

Yu tun custom agent? lololol Go turn CIA fi go through Obara own whey cannot be divulged on air.

Cami
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Cami
6 years ago
Reply to  Obara Meji

Try get up cause that NuNu is really a set on fi true. Yw teach har how fi be mischievous, lol

Hail up we Federal officer NuNu, lol

New Name
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New Name
6 years ago

Night night Toy. Misself soon turn een

Cami
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Cami
6 years ago
Reply to  New Name

Mek sure yu have one fi give up when yu come back on, lol

See Obara sey fi har own dem a fi stay inna confidential files.

toy7318
6 years ago

goodnight everyone.

Cami
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Cami
6 years ago
Reply to  toy7318

Toy, night, night. Have a wonderful day tomorrow.

Obara Meji
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6 years ago
Reply to  Cami

My own dem cayman rawly out Pon national tv Cami, dem too bad lol

NuNu
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NuNu
6 years ago
Reply to  toy7318

Night toy

New Name
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New Name
6 years ago

Cami, come shell man. Nunu promise sey nuh slip naw gi out tonight

Cami
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Cami
6 years ago
Reply to  New Name

Me gi onu one already…see Obara de mek she gi another since a she start it, whoieee

NuNu
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NuNu
6 years ago

Yuh si causen seh mi want know wha else Cami got eena da purse deh, mi wi turn a blind eye an’ lef di slip dem alone fi now…
, firs’ electricity, now ratchet, wha else mumzy loo??!!

Cami
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Cami
6 years ago
Reply to  NuNu

Make Love and NOT war!

Yazzy said no “Martial arts”, dwln!

Cami
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Cami
6 years ago
Reply to  NuNu

NuNu, me a bad lonnnng time so me have a suitcase/grip and not a purse! lololol All yu a get is from the outside, front compartment!

Obara Meji
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6 years ago
Reply to  NuNu

Night Toy!

NuNu
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NuNu
6 years ago

Obara yuh haffi guh mek Trevor walk wid dat ratchet ie nuh! Di ratchet haffi get special mention lol

NuNu
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NuNu
6 years ago

Ty nuh shame a wi yuh hear! Lol

New Name
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New Name
6 years ago

Lawd mercy! Mi figget bout di slips. Sorry Nunu, mi ah beg perden, dhu nuh badda gimmie any please, pretty pleaseeeeeee

Teacha, beg fimi nuh….. 🙁

NuNu
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NuNu
6 years ago

CCaaammmiiii!!!!!!! Lololol mi nuh like how Cami mek ppl look well thirsty in here!

New Name
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New Name
6 years ago

Camiiiiiiii
Whey yuh sey, yuh deh mek big tawk like sey yuh ah dare di man? I cyaan manij

NuNu
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NuNu
6 years ago

Lol New Name deh ac’ brand new bouten seh bruk out one one lol! Mi deh orda special slip fi she

New Name
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New Name
6 years ago

Tonks fi di karekshan Teach,
Yuh draw wi outttttt

Natta ‘Aye’ fi mi @Nunu
Not aye lol

NuNu
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NuNu
6 years ago

Ask pardon yuh hearTy Ty!!
how di ratchet guh? It did well sharp?lol

toy7318
6 years ago

lmao killing me @ Obara and New name

New Name
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New Name
6 years ago

Hey Toy
Yuh si teacha ah tek time bruck wi out one by one?

All who ah goh getti laytah sey ‘Aye’

NuNu
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NuNu
6 years ago
Reply to  New Name

New Name yuh did enter class well bruk out aready! Si yuh put up yuh han’ an seh ‘aye’ fuss deh!

Cami
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Cami
6 years ago
Reply to  NuNu

lolol, New Name! a true though! lolol

See a one timer de me gi onu by breaking the 5th.

Cami
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Cami
6 years ago
Reply to  Obara Meji

It’s the simple act of gwan like yu nu want to give it up to a yard man similar to TREVOR and SPLING! lol Panty waste get wrapped a round a finger, Mr. mention say “yu nah gi me none” and you being coy and saying a breathy “no”.

Next thing ratchet flash and him bet you sey him cut it off! lol next thing the baggy elastic snap to one side and you have no choice but to step out of it. Ass get caress mean time till BAP!

Now onu leave me alone! lol

toy7318
6 years ago

Ty just vanished

NuNu
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NuNu
6 years ago
Reply to  toy7318

Cami betta come wid dat story ie nuh! Wi waiting

NuNu
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NuNu
6 years ago

Ty nuh flee yuh hear!

Cami
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Cami
6 years ago
Reply to  NuNu

Ty mussy drop a grung and Yw a resuscitate har! lolol Yw! a Obara! lol

New Name
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New Name
6 years ago

Shame fi wah Teacha? Mi sure sey 1 or 2 ah wi who ah read ago getti tinite.
Yes iyah!!! Drap drawz nite tinite

NuNu
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NuNu
6 years ago

Mi fraid a Cami ie nuh!!!!! Wha kinda….

Cami
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Cami
6 years ago
Reply to  NuNu

lolol, a Obara start it o, nu me i a plea de 5th!

Cami
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Cami
6 years ago
Reply to  Obara Meji

lolo, de essence of that gonnnnne because dem type a yard man de gooone to! lol

Cami
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Cami
6 years ago

oh, boy…yu know dem have baggie cutters too? dwlnnnn dem use dem ratchet and bus baggie pon de side. ijs i don’t know nothing! plea 5th!

toy7318
6 years ago
Reply to  Cami

lmao lmao

NuNu
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NuNu
6 years ago

Lol dat nuh sound like joke! Mi notice yuh from wha day wid dis biting ting ie nuh lol

New Name
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New Name
6 years ago
Reply to  Obara Meji

Massi, mi sey!!! Oh Lawd memriz… Juss ease it to di side. Woieeeeeee

Cami
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Cami
6 years ago
Reply to  New Name

Mek dat a memriz? lol dat fi still a gwan inna de car, inna de bar, inna de restaurant….ooooppps me a plea de 5th!

New Name
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New Name
6 years ago

‘gyal ah tear off mi garments, an ah bawl fi com eena mi apartment ooo……’

Rayyyy, ah him affi tek off di baggy yes Teach, mi wii bex tuh. Matta ah fack, if him nuh tekki awf, it gwine stay rite dere

toy7318
6 years ago
Reply to  New Name

lmao @ new name

kiabubblez
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kiabubblez
6 years ago

Grung

toy7318
6 years ago
Reply to  Obara Meji

Lmao! lmao! You just like them a little rough, lol you crack me up

NuNu
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NuNu
6 years ago

Lol! Den yuh suppose to buy them quite often cause if dem a get tear off yuh supposen have a stash! Lol

toy7318
6 years ago

Sorry I am late I was just catching up. Night Obara,Nunu,Ty ,New Name, Yw. Nunu you brother is so sweet. Obara, you like them thug style, lol. I am going to look at this article Ty.

NuNu
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NuNu
6 years ago
Reply to  toy7318

Night Toy!

kiabubblez
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kiabubblez
6 years ago

Hey nunu ♥ it makes a bad situation worse enuh children can sense things not good. Gn ty yes mi love fling. All fling iron one time. I did waa it bus him head isi. Pray fimi family i havent been pushed to violence in years thank god

NuNu
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NuNu
6 years ago
Reply to  kiabubblez

Kia yuh nuh di running type….iron!!!!

NuNu
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NuNu
6 years ago

Well I know of this woman that use to provoke her man to anger so he could hit her. I’m not talking a slap either really knock her down and that’s when she’d try to have sex with him.That’s taking man handled to another level! If dat nuh mad

New Name
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New Name
6 years ago
Reply to  Obara Meji

Grung to backside!!!
Seet deh

New Name
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New Name
6 years ago

Ennybaddie hear Teach how shi deh galang bad? Lol

Ty
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Ty
6 years ago
NuNu
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NuNu
6 years ago
Reply to  Ty

Ty I’ve seen the interview with Tanya

Cami
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Cami
6 years ago
Reply to  Ty

How much fi fi har kit? Shouldn’t her “kit” be a checklist found on the pamphlets directed to abuse women?

Cami
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Cami
6 years ago
Reply to  Obara Meji

Yu nu easy…lol out a de blue wid dat.

Yes de bedroom bully is acceptable because it’s cosigned by the Bully and the Baggie wearer, lol

Ty
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Ty
6 years ago

Kiab, we glad u with us…we missed you sweetie…

Obara Meji
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6 years ago
Reply to  Ty

Pop off draws inna haste dat is not de rape kine

NuNu
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NuNu
6 years ago
Reply to  Obara Meji

Wait what?! Draws….

Cami
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Cami
6 years ago
Reply to  Obara Meji

UH?

Obara Meji
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6 years ago
Reply to  Obara Meji

Cami plead de fifth Nunu!

New Name
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New Name
6 years ago

Rayyyyy. TY mi waa know yuh fawda or maybe between you and Obara, oonu can teach mi some more tings.

Teacha, where art thou?

kiabubblez
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kiabubblez
6 years ago

Good night everyone reading the posted stories hurtful. My big brother gal give him a hard time but me never see him even talk loud. True him waa stay wid shi fi my niece sake make him endure di dutty gal. I talk to him straight n say my niece deserve two happy parents. And the living arrangement toxic n nobody not happy. I dont say nothing else. Him realize it couple years later n left her. My niece adjusted n i think she happier. She like having two bedrooms at the different house. Lol

NuNu
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NuNu
6 years ago
Reply to  kiabubblez

Hey Kia mi glad fi si yuh! I don’t like when parents decide to stay together for the kids when their relationship has broken down completely and is irreparable. It nuh mek sense as you said it gets toxic

Cami
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Cami
6 years ago
Reply to  kiabubblez

Hey Kia! I am absolutely against this hanging on to dead weight for the kids sake. Whomever in the household has more money then that person should pay maintenance , who want a new residence should move out. Children aren’t stupid and said kids you sticking around for will reach that age and move on with their lives while the warring parties miss out on life. Sadly, while the adults stick it out they create havoc in their children lives because of the false environment or the aggressive environment they create.

New Name
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New Name
6 years ago

Mi feel it fi Rat, mi naw lie. Imagine him sleep eena fowl coob fi avoid dis crawsses ooman an di one nite him go home, is dat reach him.

Di people dem shudda hole har an flog har backside. Shi deserve it!!!

Cami
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Cami
6 years ago
Reply to  New Name

I relate to the burn,not the return home. If you as a human being have to leave your home to sleep in an animal shelter, night after night because of your spouse behavior….then returning is a no. If she didn’t have a dime in that household she would have to leave. God know why me don’t born man!

NuNu
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NuNu
6 years ago
Reply to  Cami

Mi sorry him allow her to bully him like that Cami! What a wicked woman

New Name
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New Name
6 years ago

Hey Cami, Ty.

Cami
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Cami
6 years ago

Hey New Name.

All the men featured in the stories (except #5…well on second thought) should have called the law. Since the domestic violence law favors women more then men should work to get equality. I’m not a feminist (quiet obvious isn’t it, lol) I’m an equal opportunist and men should report these nutcase females.

Obara, rat and al green bun up nu normal. Al green story have me a wonder how did woman able to be in the kitchen heating grits…no guards, gateman or whatever people of his status have in their homes as company/security?

NuNu
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NuNu
6 years ago
Reply to  Cami

Wasn’t she is woman Cami? Mary fling on di grits

Cami
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Cami
6 years ago
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is de burst into his bathroom got me…and the article said she showed up unexpectedly. She shot herself…regardless I feel the burn me self because those types of cereals cling to you when they bubble up during cooking and even after you finish eating, hours later that burn still register. So a whole pot is liquid fire…between it and oil I don’t know which worst.

NuNu
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NuNu
6 years ago

Well wi did haffi run mi neva know Ty fadda back then

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New Name
6 years ago

Hey Nunu boo, Mi waiting to hear oooo When mi read Ty 19’32 comment, meed affi buss outta laaf, caw mi memba when mi madda an this ooman did ketch ah fite (neva know sey mi madda wudda do such ting). Fight stawt and mi ma lose har balance an drop. (dat time mi well tek up big stone an run gone, but mi did know better than go eena big ppl tings – shi wudda did flatten mi) Di woman nuh do nutten more dan fling one big rawtid stone afta mi madda. Ah Truxie it ketch an yuh… Read more »

NuNu
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NuNu
6 years ago
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But a unoo a fighta man! Mi one did fool fool suh fi dis tan up an bawl. Teach a bite people and New Name a fling big stone!

Ty
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Ty
6 years ago
Reply to  NuNu

Nuns, I can fight…taught by my father…I was taught it fight until death or them take me off…I have a temper so I choose not to fight…it takes a lot to get me there and when I am there, hard to turn back…I fought only 2 times in my life, was not pretty and had to be taken off both times…I fought guys bigger than me and won each time…not very proud of the fighting but know my limits…

I am small and many people try me just because of that…that is why I pray so much daily…

Cami
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Cami
6 years ago
Reply to  New Name

Mek we love fling things? lol we love wan fi buss head.

Ty
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Ty
6 years ago
Reply to  Cami

Ogun one the Orishas for Jamaica…we can fling stone, stab wid ratchet and chop with cutlass…

Ty
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Ty
6 years ago

Cami, Nile, Nunu, new name blessings…

Cami
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Cami
6 years ago
Reply to  Ty

Blessings Ty…inna de morrows

Ty
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Ty
6 years ago
Reply to  Obara Meji

Lol…

NuNu
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NuNu
6 years ago

Oh gosh di bredda seh him bawl like school girl! Mi heart!

NuNu
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NuNu
6 years ago

New Name mi want hear tuh! Lol

NuNu
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NuNu
6 years ago

Hi Cami and New name

New Name
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New Name
6 years ago

Hear yah nung. Tell mi di ways dem dere please an tonks

NuNu
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NuNu
6 years ago

My goodness Ty one year after and lpok at the man’s arm, and all bruk the man’s nose like that would desuade him from leaving

NuNu
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NuNu
6 years ago

Yes man Teach! Mi cyaan fight and mi did want fi tear up di ole gyal. Di man did lose a heap a weight to how stress bruk him dung

Obara Meji
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6 years ago
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Mi can fight, but mi too cute and mi hand dem soft and clean fi dem tuff turn turbit deh but many ways fi sling dawg!

NuNu
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NuNu
6 years ago
Reply to  Obara Meji

Body come dung woulda tek mi instant instant! Mi woulda leas’ try still lol

Obara Meji
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6 years ago
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Mi like ah lickle man hangling but in de bed room, de pop off drawers kind!

New Name
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New Name
6 years ago

Guess everybody gone. Good night all.

Obara Meji
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6 years ago
Reply to  New Name

We deh yah ooooooo!!

NuNu
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NuNu
6 years ago
Reply to  Obara Meji

Lol mi wi tell him

Obara Meji
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6 years ago
Reply to  NuNu

Nunu live har bredda ei si

Obara Meji
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6 years ago
Reply to  NuNu

Nunu live har bredda ei si

Ah wicked de gal wicke Ty

NuNu
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NuNu
6 years ago

Mi bredda did married to a ole dutty dragon tuh, and mi ask him how him deal wid all a dat and he said he had to think about his objective and that was greater to him than allowing her to win. Him neva fight back or use none of it against har

Ty
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Ty
6 years ago
Reply to  NuNu

He clearly a gentleman…

NuNu
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NuNu
6 years ago
Reply to  Ty

Hi Ty!Yes he is

Ty
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Ty
6 years ago
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Hey Nunu…

Not sure why #1above with the nail digging offend and bother me…if a man seh him a leff u, mek him gwaan…how di hell digging in a man arm with you nails will make him stay….

Cami
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Cami
6 years ago
Reply to  Ty

it bothersome because it’s juvenille and senseless.

Hey NuNu.

Ty
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Ty
6 years ago
Reply to  Obara Meji

Yes yes yes… I expected nothing less…

Ty
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Ty
6 years ago

I agree that when faced with a violent situation, there is no telling what your reaction will be….let me give you my two childhood stories: 1. I was about 2 and my parents were arguing…my dad hit my mom and I ran over and bit him…I would not let go of my grip and he had to beg me to let go and promise that he would never hit my mom again…he still has my teeth marks on his leg to this day… 2. When I was about 4, a good friend of my dad who is a police officer… Read more »

Cami
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Cami
6 years ago
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I, I, you’re a biter, lol

Ty
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Ty
6 years ago
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Lol….

Ty
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Ty
6 years ago
Reply to  Obara Meji

I swear I could hear his screams…burns are a nasty way to be injured and an even nastier way to die…

I cry when I see the pics of slaves and blacks who were tarred and feathered…remember this is still done during the civil rights fight era…1950-1960s…

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Ty
6 years ago

That would be great, there is so much for us to saturate our minds with and I feel we all have more to say…truly deep topics…

Ty
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Ty
6 years ago

As to the story of Rat, I felt sorry for him… We really need to focus on love….learn to walk away…not to say there are not times when we have to defend ourselves…but in intimate relationships, we really need to work hard on the love part,..

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