October 15, 2014 Obara Meji 271Comment

compassion

Good morning everyone, the post today is about compassion. I often wonder about some people I meet or read about, naively believing that everyone on this planet have the ability to feel or have compassion for another. It is just not so. There are some who are hard and unfeeling, cold and unemotional. Are they, these unfeeling ones to be pitied? Recently Thomas Duncan died in Dallas Texas from Ebola. It was reported that he got it from helping a pregnant woman into a taxi in Liberia, the woman apparently died afterwards from the same disease. While he helped her, he never thought Ebola, he saw someone who need help and he did what was right. Iba Thomas Duncan! Read his story here;

 http://www.cnn.com/2014/10/06/health/ebola-liberia/

Compassion and the Individual

Tenzin Gyatso; The Fourteenth Dalai Lama

ONE GREAT QUESTION underlies our experience, whether we think about it consciously or not: What is the purpose of life?  I have considered this question and would like to share my thoughts in the hope that they may be of direct, practical benefit to those who read them.

I believe that the purpose of life is to be happy.  From the moment of birth, every human being wants happiness and does not want suffering.  Neither social conditioning nor education nor ideology affect this.  From the very core of our being, we simply desire contentment.  I don’t know whether the universe, with its countless galaxies, stars and planets, has a deeper meaning or not, but at the very least, it is clear that we humans who live on this earth face the task of making a happy life for ourselves.  Therefore, it is important to discover what will bring about the greatest degree of happiness.

How to achieve happiness
For a start, it is possible to divide every kind of happiness and suffering into two main categories: mental and physical.  Of the two, it is the mind that exerts the greatest influence on most of us.  Unless we are either gravely ill or deprived of basic necessities, our physical condition plays a secondary role in life.  If the body is content, we virtually ignore it. The mind, however, registers every event, no matter how small. Hence we should devote our most serious efforts to bringing about mental peace.

From my own limited experience I have found that the greatest degree of inner tranquility comes from the development of love and compassion.

The more we care for the happiness of others, the greater our own sense of well-being becomes. Cultivating a close, warm-hearted feeling for others automatically puts the mind at ease. This helps remove whatever fears or insecurities we may have and gives us the strength to cope with any obstacles we encounter. It is the ultimate source of success in life.

As long as we live in this world we are bound to encounter problems. If, at such times, we lose hope and become discouraged, we diminish our ability to face difficulties. If, on the other hand, we remember that it is not just ourselves but every one who has to undergo suffering, this more realistic perspective will increase our determination and capacity to overcome troubles. Indeed, with this attitude, each new obstacle can be seen as yet another valuable opportunity to improve our mind!

Thus we can strive gradually to become more compassionate, that is we can develop both genuine sympathy for others’ suffering and the will to help remove their pain. As a result, our own serenity and inner strength will increase.

Our need for love
Ultimately, the reason why love and compassion bring the greatest happiness is simply that our nature cherishes them above all else. The need for love lies at the very foundation of human existence. It results from the profound interdependence we all share with one another. However capable and skillful an individual may be, left alone, he or she will not survive. However vigorous and independent one may feel during the most prosperous periods of life, when one is sick or very young or very old, one must depend on the support of others.

Inter-dependence, of course, is a fundamental law of nature. Not only higher forms of life but also many of the smallest insects are social beings who, without any religion, law or education, survive by mutual cooperation based on an innate recognition of their interconnectedness. The most subtle level of material phenomena is also governed by interdependence. All phenomena from the planet we inhabit to the oceans, clouds, forests and flowers that surround us, arise in dependence upon subtle patterns of energy. Without their proper interaction, they dissolve and decay.

It is because our own human existence is so dependent on the help of others that our need for love lies at the very foundation of our existence. Therefore we need a genuine sense of responsibility and a sincere concern for the welfare of others.

We have to consider what we human beings really are. We are not like machine-made objects. If we are merely mechanical entities, then machines themselves could alleviate all of our sufferings and fulfill our needs.

However, since we are not solely material creatures, it is a mistake to place all our hopes for happiness on external development alone. Instead, we should consider our origins and nature to discover what we require.

Leaving aside the complex question of the creation and evolution of our universe, we can at least agree that each of us is the product of our own parents. In general, our conception took place not just in the context of sexual desire but from our parents’ decision to have a child. Such decisions are founded on responsibility and altruism – the parents compassionate commitment to care of their child until it is able to take care of itself. Thus, from the very moment of our conception, our parents’ love is directly in our creation.

Moreover, we are completely dependent upon our mothers’ care from the earliest stages of our growth. According to some scientists, a pregnant woman’s mental state, be it calm or agitated, has a direct physical effect on her unborn child.

The expression of love is also very important at the time of birth. Since the very first thing we do is suck milk from our mothers’ breast, we naturally feel close to her, and she must feel love for us in order to feed us properly; if she feels anger or resentment her milk may not flow freely.

Then there is the critical period of brain development from the time of birth up to at least the age of three or four, during which time loving physical contact is the single most important factor for the normal growth of the child. If the child is not held, hugged, cuddled, or loved, its development will be impaired and its brain will not mature properly.

Since a child cannot survive without the care of others, love is its most important nourishment. The happiness of childhood, the allaying of the child’s many fears and the healthy development of its self-confidence all depend directly upon love.

Nowadays, many children grow up in unhappy homes. If they do not receive proper affection, in later life they will rarely love their parents and, not infrequently, will find it hard to love others. This is very sad.

As children grow older and enter school, their need for support must be met by their teachers. If a teacher not only imparts academic education but also assumes responsibility for preparing students for life, his or her pupils will feel trust and respect and what has been taught will leave an indelible impression on their minds. On the other hand, subjects taught by a teacher who does not show true concern for his or her students’ overall well-being will be regarded as temporary and not retained for long.

Similarly, if one is sick and being treated in hospital by a doctor who evinces a warm human feeling, one feels at ease and the doctors’ desire to give the best possible care is itself curative, irrespective of the degree of his or her technical skill. On the other hand, if one’s doctor lacks human feeling and displays an unfriendly expression, impatience or casual disregard, one will feel anxious, even if he or she is the most highly qualified doctor and the disease has been correctly diagnosed and the right medication prescribed. Inevitably, patients’ feelings make a difference to the quality and completeness of their recovery.

Even when we engage in ordinary conversation in everyday life, if someone speaks with human feeling we enjoy listening, and respond accordingly; the whole conversation becomes interesting, however unimportant the topic may be. On the other hand, if a person speaks coldly or harshly, we feel uneasy and wish for a quick end to the interaction. From the least to the most important event, the affection and respect of others are vital for our happiness.

Recently I met a group of scientists in America who said that the rate of mental illness in their country was quite high-around twelve percent of the population. It became clear during our discussion that the main cause of depression was not a lack of material necessities but a deprivation of the affection of the others.

So, as you can see from everything I have written so far, one thing seems clear to me: whether or not we are consciously aware of it, from the day we are born, the need for human affection is in our very blood. Even if the affection comes from an animal or someone we would normally consider an enemy, both children and adults will naturally gravitate towards it.

I believe that no one is born free from the need for love. And this demonstrates that, although some modern schools of thought seek to do so, human beings cannot be defined as solely physical. No material object, however beautiful or valuable, can make us feel loved, because our deeper identity and true character lie in the subjective nature of the mind.

Developing compassion
Some of my friends have told me that, while love and compassion are marvelous and good, they are not really very relevant. Our world, they say, is not a place where such beliefs have much influence or power. They claim that anger and hatred are so much a part of human nature that humanity will always be dominated by them. I do not agree.

We humans have existed in our present form for about a hundred-thousand years. I believe that if during this time the human mind had been primarily controlled by anger and hatred, our overall population would have decreased. But today, despite all our wars, we find that the human population is greater than ever. This clearly indicates to me that love and compassion predominate in the world. And this is why unpleasant events are news, compassionate activities are so much part of daily life that they are taken for granted and, therefore, largely ignored.

So far I have been discussing mainly the mental benefits of compassion, but it contributes to good physical health as well, According to my personal experience, mental stability and physical well-being are directly related. Without question, anger and agitation make us more susceptible to illness. On the other hand, if the mind is tranquil and occupied with positive thoughts, the body will not easily fall prey to disease.

But of course it is also true that we all have an innate self-centeredness that inhibits our love for others. So, since we desire the true happiness that is brought about by only a calm mind, and since such peace of mind is brought about by only a compassionate attitude, how can we develop this? Obviously, it is not enough for us simply to think about how nice compassion is! We need to make a concerted effort to develop it; we must use all the events of our daily life to transform our thoughts and behavior.

First of all, we must be clear about what we mean by compassion. Many forms of compassionate feeling are mixed with desire and attachment. For instance, the love parents feel of their child is often strongly associated with their own emotional needs, so it is not fully compassionate. Again, in marriage, the love between husband and wife –  particularly at the beginning, when each partner still may not know the other’s deeper character very well – depends more on attachment than genuine love. Our desire can be so strong that the person to whom we are attached appears to be good, when in fact he or she is very negative. In addition, we have a tendency to exaggerate small positive qualities. Thus when one partner’s attitude changes, the other partner is often disappointed and his or her attitude changes too. This is an indication that love has been motivated more by personal need than by genuine care for the other individual.

True compassion is not just an emotional response but a firm commitment founded on reason. Therefore, a truly compassionate attitude towards others does not change even if they behave negatively.

Of course, developing this kind of compassion is not at all easy! As a start, let us consider the following facts:
Whether people are beautiful and friendly or unattractive and disruptive, ultimately they are human beings, just like oneself. Like oneself, they want happiness and do not want suffering. Furthermore, their right to overcome suffering and be happy is equal to one’s own. Now, when you recognize that all beings are equal in both their desire for happiness and their right to obtain it, you automatically feel empathy and closeness for them. Through accustoming your mind to this sense of universal altruism, you develop a feeling of responsibility for others: the wish to help them actively overcome their problems. Nor is this wish selective; it applies equally to all. As long as they are human beings experiencing pleasure and pain just as you do, there is no logical basis to discriminate between them or to alter your concern for them if they behave negatively.

Let me emphasize that it is within your power, given patience and time, to develop this kind of compassion. Of course, our self-centeredness, our distinctive attachment to the feeling of an independent, self-existent �I�, works fundamentally to inhibit our compassion. Indeed, true compassion can be experienced only when this type of self- grasping is eliminated. But this does not mean that we cannot start and make progress now.

How can we start
We should begin by removing the greatest hindrances to compassion: anger and hatred. As we all know, these are extremely powerful emotions and they can overwhelm our entire mind. Nevertheless, they can be controlled. If, however, they are not, these negative emotions will plague us – with no extra effort on their part! – and impede our quest for the happiness of a loving mind.

So as a start, it is useful to investigate whether or not anger is of value. Sometimes, when we are discouraged by a difficult situation, anger does seem helpful, appearing to bring with it more energy, confidence and determination.

Here, though, we must examine our mental state carefully. While itis true that anger brings extra energy, if we explore the nature of this energy, we discover that it is blind: we cannot be sure whether its result will be positive or negative. This is because anger eclipses the best part of our brain: its rationality. So the energy of anger is almost always unreliable. It can cause an immense amount of destructive, unfortunate behavior. Moreover, if anger increases to the extreme, one becomes like a mad person, acting in ways that are as damaging to oneself as they are to others.

It is possible, however, to develop an equally forceful but far more controlled energy with which to handle difficult situations.

This controlled energy comes not only from a compassionate attitude, but also from reason and patience. These are the most powerful antidotes to anger. Unfortunately, many people misjudge these qualities as signs of weakness. I believe the opposite to be true: that they are the true signs of inner strength. Compassion is by nature gentle, peaceful and soft, but it is very powerful. It is those who easily lose their patience who are insecure and unstable. Thus, to me, the arousal of anger is a direct sign of weakness.

So, when a problem first arises, try to remain humble and maintain a sincere attitude and be concerned that the outcome is fair. Of course, others may try to take advantage of you, and if your remaining detached only encourages unjust aggression, adopt a strong stand, This, however, should be done with compassion, and if it is necessary to express your views and take strong countermeasures, do so without anger or ill-intent.
You should realize that even though your opponents appear to be harming you, in the end, their destructive activity will damage only themselves. In order to check your own selfish impulse to retaliate, you should recall your desire to practice compassion and assume responsibility for helping prevent the other person from suffering the consequences of his or her acts.

Thus, because the measures you employ have been calmly chosen, they will be more effective, more accurate and more forceful. Retaliation based on the blind energy of anger seldom hits the target.

Friends and enemies
I must emphasize again that merely thinking that compassion and reason and patience are good will not be enough to develop them. We must wait for difficulties to arise and then attempt to practice them.

And who creates such opportunities? Not our friends, of course, but our enemies. They are the ones who give us the most trouble, So if we truly wish to learn, we should consider enemies to be our best teacher!

For a person who cherishes compassion and love, the practice of tolerance is essential, and for that, an enemy is indispensable. So we should feel grateful to our enemies, for it is they who can best help us develop a tranquil mind! Also, itis often the case in both personal and public life, that with a change in circumstances, enemies become friends.

So anger and hatred are always harmful, and unless we train our minds and work to reduce their negative force, they will continue to disturb us and disrupt our attempts to develop a calm mind. Anger and hatred are our real enemies. These are the forces we most need to confront and defeat, not the temporary enemies who appear intermittently throughout life.

Of course, it is natural and right that we all want friends. I often joke that if you really want to be selfish, you should be very altruistic! You should take good care of others, be concerned for their welfare, help them, serve them, make more friends, make more smiles, The result? When you yourself need help, you find plenty of helpers! If, on the other hand, you neglect the happiness of others, in the long term you will be the loser. And is friendship produced through quarrels and anger, jealousy and intense competitiveness? I do not think so. Only affection brings us genuine close friends.

In today’s materialistic society, if you have money and power, you seem to have many friends. But they are not friends of yours; they are the friends of your money and power. When you lose your wealth and influence, you will find it very difficult to track these people down.

The trouble is that when things in the world go well for us, we become confident that we can manage by ourselves and feel we do not need friends, but as our status and health decline, we quickly realize how wrong we were. That is the moment when we learn who is really helpful and who is completely useless. So to prepare for that moment, to make genuine friends who will help us when the need arises, we ourselves must cultivate altruism!
Though sometimes people laugh when I say it, I myself always want more friends. I love smiles. Because of this I have the problem of knowing how to make more friends and how to get more smiles, in particular, genuine smiles. For there are many kinds of smile, such as sarcastic, artificial or diplomatic smiles. Many smiles produce no feeling of satisfaction, and sometimes they can even create suspicion or fear, can’t they? But a genuine smile really gives us a feeling of freshness and is, I believe, unique to human beings. If these are the smiles we want, then we ourselves must create the reasons for them to appear.

Compassion and the world
In conclusion, I would like briefly to expand my thoughts beyond the topic of this short piece and make a wider point: individual happiness can contribute in a profound and effective way to the overall improvement of our entire human community.

Because we all share an identical need for love, it is possible to feel that anybody we meet, in whatever circumstances, is a brother or sister. No matter how new the face or how different the dress and behavior, there is no significant division between us and other people. It is foolish to dwell on external differences, because our basic natures are the same.

Ultimately, humanity is one and this small planet is our only home, If we are to protect this home of ours, each of us needs to experience a vivid sense of universal altruism. It is only this feeling that can remove the self-centered motives that cause people to deceive and misuse one another.

If you have a sincere and open heart, you naturally feel self- worth and confidence, and there is no need to be fearful of others.

I believe that at every level of society – familial, tribal, national and international – the key to a happier and more successful world is the growth of compassion. We do not need to become religious, nor do we need to believe in an ideology. All that is necessary is for each of us to develop our good human qualities.

I try to treat whoever I meet as an old friend. This gives me a genuine feeling of happiness.  It is the practice of compassion.

Ọ̀mọ̀ràn ní ńmọ oyún ìgbín /
Only a person of knowledge will know when a snail is pregnant….Yoruba Proverb!

[Seek knowledge; it confers privileges and power]

All religions are valid as long as it teaches peace and love…..Obara Meji!

There are no disappointments in life, only lessons learned…..Obara Meji

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Yw
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Greetings Obara Meji!!! Hugs and kisses are not enough to thank you for all that you do. You share so much of yourself which takes extraordinary strength. When you pray for us (which you do so often) that takes tremendous compassion. Compassion, to me, is true power because it is internal and is the driving force behind forgiveness, empathy, and (in my belief) iwa pele. Compassion is steeped in love which is such an amazing thing. – Hopefully this is correct –
Iba Se Olodumare Oba a rere “k” aye – Reverence to God that spreads all over the universe
Thank you Obara Meji, Thank you!!!

MTH
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YW now dat mi conk yu inna yu far-rid, mi can hug up up and buss big laugh again…YW tonks yu mek mi a get wey inna di ppl dem hawfice. Yu si why wid did haffi write poem and bwal fi yu come back…Thanks for adding a few more letters to my name and with being said, I want to say, welcome back mother so and so. Hahahah. Mi nuh wey fi type sey….

Yw
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Yes I are…and quite proud to be. heeheee

MTH
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Morning Teach, wad up mi chargie?

MTH
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Morning heverybody, unno know how mi did a pray fi mawning light fi si wey unno did a gwan wid. Sorry I could not sign out properly my loved ones, the page was loading slowly and my ride was here.

Teach, a doe know f a di poem dem or the pleas but mi glad sey mi fambo come back. A going gi him one cunk inna him forehead an tell him doe dweet again…Ty blessings fi drag him out…

Cami mi leff you fi lass cause yu know a nuff and plenty tings mi haffi discuss. Cami mi a tek time draw yu obeah working skills, unno haffi guh call mi profit-tess MTH. Mi sey nuh duss yesterday morning wi ball out bout di wicked nurse wey gone pan plane? Now di edda one cane pan cruise. Mi might soun harsh but right now mi brain chip…Dat dam woman is a wicked, look how shi mass several hundred people trip. Dem woulda muss refund har har money. However shi choose fi put self infront a humanity and fi dat mi class har as a wicked.

Mi keep hearing dem sey there is no threat to anybody if dem come in contact wid smaddy wid Ebola if the person not showing no symptoms. However, why di excitement den, fi fine di ppl pan di flight wey di 1st nurse dey pan. Also, any a Mr. Duncan fambily ketch it?

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Morning Fambo!!! Mi haffi sey yuh lyrically inclined. Let us put the other letters in your blog name. That would be “o”, “e”, and “r”. Put it together and yu get Mother. Why that important? because we sey Mother Earth and Mama Africa…Si it? Wi also say mother fu#$%^ but dat one do not go wid what I are saying….

Obara Meji
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Morning MTH

Cami
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Went to the gym, ate and started my current event query and this is the venting stage. Be back in the afternoon.

Have a great work day and TGIF to all.

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Ty just show mi these postings…This is the sweetest thing ever!! I know you all probably resting up for book club tonight but I had to say that I am overwhelmed by this…”Yw must come…COMPASSION”…heehee bruk dat word in two – cut off the “com” and yuh have passion but how yuh fi do dat without passion? Yuh Wait (YW) mi wi si unto soon…

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If me was on skype yah now yu would see me dimple sink in and all a me teeth dem! YYWWWWWWWWW!!!! HEYYYYYYYYYYYY Love yu bro!!!!!

Obara a yu fuss spot him so a fi yu basket a luck! lololol me glad bag busssssssssssssss Yw! lolol Sneak up pon we at 8 lolololllllllllllllllllllllllll THANKS TY!

Cami
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Miss you man…nu tek so long fi push in yu head nex time. 7 minutes to book club me ago get drinks and come back.

Yw
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I missed you both so much also. Mi nah leave out di rest of mi mambo – MTH dun know, big up!!!

Cami
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Boy, this is an overwhelming effort to bring our brother out of hibernation…bless we little sad hearts. lol

Obara, if these pleas don’t work we going to have to recruit some seniors fi say Ashhaaaaay! lol

MTH
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Teach yu owe mi a baggy cause dah piss upone caan wear again…Huum much pinching gwan yah suh….Teach mi naah lie, dis is one a mi best days. Mi like how yu neva have nuh book leave and yu get one.

You tink YW will get my letter and yearns quick-quick?

Cami
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Mth, I swear Yw drop out of the computer chair a few times already…him a peep! We nah watch nu face cause him de wid we in spirit, Ty just carry some a him energy here wid her.

Go change yu wet up baggy! lololollllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllll me ago res up fi book club.

MTH
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Teach mi know sey yu nuh chatty-chatty suh mi a guh pinch yu a tell yu diss. One likkle birdie prisps mi an tell mi sey YW win di lotto. Him a shap fi di whole a wi. Mi hear sey him buy diamond fi yu nose and buy out one whole hat store suh di whole a wi can bashy fi first Sunday service. Mi hear sey mi chilvren dem get nuff-nuff tings cause him like girl chilvren. Mi hear sey a Brenda him spen pan.

Cami
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Mth, yu can tan de cause YW write back and say him soon come. Yu can wear fi yu hat go a church. Me and Obara ago wear fi we go watch when TY a beat out yu cousin Brenda rass! lololol

MTH
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Teach, Mi nuh reach Yazzy stage a madness yet…Teach mi caan wait fi di your letter.

MTH
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Teach, yu can sen some pampas come? Mi muss piss up dah baggy yah 100 times from mawning…Teach mi nah lie, mi makit woman laugh jump out…A wey TY a guh duh inna yu bands, Teach? Play di fife….NO Teach mi crown yu, yu a di real General.

MTH
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Lot 3 Embracing Spirituality Boulevard
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Merica

Dear YW,

I hope when these few lines of mines reaches you it will find you in the best of health. I diss want to tell you that sense you gane wey, nuff thing happen out here. Mass Berris have Chick-V, Miss Donna and Sister Hermine. All a dem over Miss Vie yard too.

YW I am sorry if is true I asked you to buy me some licka why yu disappear, it was little fun me was making. I am sorry. Anyways, member that you never pay Juicey last fawt-night and him say him want him money. Him say that you owe him far 2 bun and cheese and 1 box drinks. Remember that you dont pay Miss Millie are parnda money.

I close in the might name of Jesus.

Love always,

MTH

PS. Kiss dem bwoys for me.

Cami
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MTH lol, you should have enclosed the foot print paper…dwln

MTH
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Teach nuh bada sey nutten bout bus head, next ting YW use it fi excuse an sey him did feel scared….(Woieeee, Teach dem caan sey dem nuh enjoy di happy hour).

MTH
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Teach & Cami unno tink YW wi like dis?

YW yu come in wid fambo
a suh mi know yu badda dan Rambo

YW yu joke dem eva connect, never miss
yu mek wi laugh, bwal an even piss
No is not a diss
(but hef yu nuh come back by tomorrow mi a guh gi yu a fiss)

YW wi a try everything fi get yu back

(What a way YW boassy? Have woman a beg him like baby fi come back)

MTH
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Brap, brap…Teach mi jus bus out a di askel…Dat bad….

YW mi know sey yu hype
But mi nah lie, mi yu link Teach even by skype

YW yu si how wi a beg yu fi come back
Duh nuh badda stay wey mek di whole a wi have heart attack

Cami is showing off, but I know she is in pain
Crying tears, as heavy as rain
So much tears I had to set a pail
In her tears I could sail

YW mi moody fren
Conme back know and make the separation hen (end)

Cami
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Lawwd MTH! mek yu do me so?
Yw muss come bout and that is a Muss…
It could be early in the morning or way after dusk
Yw must come bout and that is a Muss…

The first one to sight him will have many a good luck
when him drop get ready fi tuck
cause you know him fling him logics… you can’t help but duck
It could be early in the morning or way after dusk
Yw must come bout and that is a Muss

MTH
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hehehehhe Teach a you mi learn from…Mi nah lie, mi love how yu care bout yu chilvern dem.

MTH
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YW… Why W?
We miss you my friend
You are a fine man, among the many hen…

I am here in Jamaica worrying about Ebola
Come quick and lend me your Shoulda…

Y, YW, YW, mi nuh inna nuh bag a lang talking or rhyming,
Jus bring yu behind and come back to us.
Nuh mek wi haffi badda cuss
Cause when yu write, deep thinking is a muss

I have you as a man that is slim
To have you back, I would even sell all of the car rim

MTH
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hahahahaha!!! Cami nuh buss pan mi. Yu a YW a bredda an sista suh him naah guh rush yu…

Teach yu neva si mi sey dats Courtney a fight hurricane.

MTH
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Teach wi nuh muss know sey a joke yu a mek. YW sey him love tek wey himself suh nuh baddy caan too-too penny him. How YW fi guh fight Ebola an him suh moody? Next ting him start put on the PPE and sey unno a hear mi, mi nuh feel fi duh dis today…

Yow Yazzy, mi juss si yu post, bout di blood of Jesus…Nuh plead di blood of Jesus gainst mi again..

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M, sarry! Is a REFLEX mek a plead di blood! Mi get hignarant and ready fi REBUKE and stawt fling oley wata … sarry M! Mi figet seh Jeezas drunk and nah come back!

Cami
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Yazz whey yu de? Milk come visit yu mums? lol

Cami
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GRUNG!!!!!!Yazzy! NuNu “milk” whey Milk the paper eater from yu, lolol No mind cause de ice cream duppy will find the milk useful…lol

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Cami, Milk is now history… I’ve moved on. I’ve matured. I’m no longer a paper chaser… di grass greener on the other side fi Nunu.. she tek di whole Cow…

Mi a tug it out as a loner till Obara find a nex man gimmie!

Cami
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How YW fi guh fight Ebola an him suh moody?

DWLN,

Cami
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Boy! the importance of “quotations”…lol that I left out.

YW! a MTH say so…me jus figet fi use quotations on quoting her. Me know yu and Perceptions, so me need to use the proper tools of grammer, lolol

MTH
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Teach, mi nuh waan nuh baddy tink sey mi a tek set pan Portia and Fenton Ferguson, but nuh care how big a PNP supporter you are, you must can call friggery when yu si friggery…

Mi sey it alreaady and dem nearly nam off mi head, but as how mi can stan up an argue, dem neva faze mi…Mi sey dutty Fenton Ferguson did a sey a 24 chick-v people inna di country wey a nearly 30,000. Dem di a play it down cause dem di want people turn up fi dem conference. Now dat is self interest. Now what reason could a sensible government allow a million man march wey a guh gadda up a arena…Are these people for real…Fenton Ferguson says its in the days the mosquitoes dem bite…How di heaven dem allow a day march…Unno si wey mi a sey? Mi daughter had Chick-V and when mi si how it duh har…Mi still di semi-quarantine har, cause mi neva waan nuh mosquito bite one and dem bite di nedda.

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From him come wid the smoking ban and christian language inna politics I knew he was a d**k.

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Teach yu love di slackniss ehh? Minaw lie, mi did a bwal while a guh nung mi a laugh. YU know how long mi waan know fi spell ookubit. LOL…

Teach mi a guh fass an pray fi Super-man YW…How yu mean whyw? Yu get it, YW-Why W?

Teach on a serious note, hurricane/ storm dey a Bahamas and Courtney dey a Bahamas. Mek mi pray fi har and har fambily.

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Yes … we pray for our Courtney!

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“Courtney dey a Bahamas. Mek mi pray fi har and har fambily.” ASE MTH.

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Teach unno dun know mi…I suh mi tan, a suh mi tan (singing Konshen’s song)…

Teach made this post in July 2014, Something is brewing:

There is an attack on us, human beings through the food which we eat, more and more women are dying now a days after they have delivered their babies, something is not only brewing, something has gone into effect. There will be very soon a call for all the world citizens to go to clinics for a certain shot against some sort of poisoning which would have come from some foods which we may have eaten, when this call comes, and it will, sometime in the near future, for all who will remember this post, find the aloe vera plant and blend it with a little salt and drink it, it will neutralize whatever you have been exposed to. If you have canned corn in your cupboards, remove them, the water that is is packed with is the danger, but do not drain the water and believe that all is well, just remove it and do not buy it again. Try to distance yourself from meat, if you can, it is hard, but if you cannot, then go to the live animal market and get your meats there, not the ones sold in the supermarkets, heed my warning, this may be hard for some but “prevention is better than cure”!

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Me can’t forget it MTH cause she mek me dash whey me can a corn, lol

We’ve revisited it a bit. Nuff times we need to rehash old posts cause there are many we have left incomplete.

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Had fun n learned my sweeties! loool I shall return tonight.

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Cool beans Kia. Hope Yw come bout lata.

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Teach di man inna Vegas bed is a doctor. Dat man is worse dan a germz bukit. Him have Vegas baby madda a spin like pop-pi-la. Mi nah lie, dat gal want a million lick cross har back. Shi cudden duss mix likke tea and gi di baby an when di baby drop a sleep shi gu pan har joy ride. Nasty gal. But a good fi Vegas. As dem get 2 dalla inna dem packit, brown gal dem draw fah. YU si how Ishawna and D’Angel gwan. All browning….

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Teach a suh when mi a cuss mi get mad. LOL. Teach a bare dem guys a run di cut dung yah.

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Teach yu so right. YU memba how nutten neva used to ketch wi? Now everything a ketch wi. Bwoy, wi haffi duh something, we get so concerned bout human rights that we dull down the ting and have become accepting of everything. Mi haffi guh leggo mi fren.

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Ina straitjacket next to Yazzy a roll pon grung looooooooooooool

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A weakkkkkkk!!!

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Teach mi like how yu tek bad some mek laugh enno. Mi naah lie, yu mek mi start laugh to. But a lie mi a tell? Million man dey yah. Half dey a prision an de ress a gully queen naah march fi bun up inna sun…

Teach yu know sey all doe yu a di Teach, mi a guh gi yu detention slip. Yu neva hear every body sey dem follow yu advise. No Teach, tan dey, yu students dem a learn. Memba mi di write up bout something brewing post how di plane di missing 2 days afta yu write it.

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LMFAOOOOOOOOOOOOO…. seriously mi like seh wi can laff inna dis ya crisis ya!

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Teach, I took your post serious. Tuesday, I posted it, I know I will not get Ebola nor Chick-V. However, I know I will not be able to bare to see the sufferation that will come with it.

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Teach, mi fada is a news junkie. Its about 7 years now he has not watched tv. All he does is listen to the news and call in program.

Mi nuh like dis Portia enno but shi a big biggest ediat. Portia sey dem can procure PPE (Personal protective Equipment) quick. Look from when wi hear sey Ebola dey a Merica. All now dem nuh have di something fi tess fi fever. God help us all. Portia shi allow Farrakan fi come yah. Wey fi fu*k him nuh guh somewey else. Him si million man dey yah? Portia caan sey no. The Min. of Health bwal out sey him waan get Chick-V, seet dey, di ediat get a rawtid cyst. Yow Obara right yah now mi nuh only angry mi rrrrrrrrrr.

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Girl me feel yu said speed!

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Teach mi belly a drop out. Mi daughter’s job is where she collects money daily and not even a globs dem gi har. Mi haffi guh buy masks and gloves fi har. Teach a true yu nuh know.

With Farrakan coming, people all over the world will be coming. They take taxi, go to our beaches and such delight and a dun di whole a wi dung yah done fah.

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Don’t forget a sex vacation nuff a dem come pon NOT no unity march. Is the discount rates bring them come and de likkle careless gal dem open up fi dem…ewww

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I don’t see why him even de de…kmt.

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Obara yu know where i am daily, right……dem people nuh readdddddyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy c-rus c-rus ting dem nuh ready

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You and Yazzy don’t feel no way but I call spades out…not a good poker player at all. No disrespect to onu occupation but you cannot ignore the fact that too much short cut schools out there pumping out halfass nurses.

I’m an administrator by trade and schooling. When the job market and recession hit my industry got it bad and I went back to doing CNA work and I thank the creator that I have a private duty for over 4 yrs now because I cannot work in the hospitals or nursing facilities cause my level of compassion (I’m pulled towards people emotions/spirit) would cause me to go jail because of the lack of empathy and professionalism I’ve encountered in these facilities…plus knowing nurses outside of the facilities. Can’t wait to go back to my office work come 2015.

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Teach right inna mi office mi hear dis. Mi sey when I call my fada him a guh mi di bill and receipt.

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Teach mi know more to di story but mi caan post everything.

Farrakan have million man march out yah Sunday. Ppl all ova a come dung… Teach not even a mask ova di Immigration ppl dem face.

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No CAmi I don’t agree with the racism card the nephew is trying. Nopes i ain’t joining that one. I do wonder if Mr. Duncan got admitted and tested the first hospital visit could he have been saved? Did he tell the nurse he went to Liberia but she didn’t relay that information to the doc? the stories are with that part have changed…so idk. He could have been delirious but I would have said i can’t leave here like this and drap a grung like drunkaready freddie looooooool

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lolol, drunkaready of course! lol. But I’m sorry to tell the US that they have some VERY INCOMPETENT HEALTHCARE WORKERS CALLED NURSES! Gone are the days of COMPASSIONATE nurses. Today we have paycheck nurses! Haitian nurses working in hospitals with attitudes (Jamaicans too!) and don’t speak a lick of english or pretend not to when you ask a medical question.

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Cami I haffi agree wid yuh. Some a dem nurse ya a paycheck nurse! Talk di tings!

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Teach after everybody seet dis mi a beg yu duh tek it dung.

One man went to Liberia then went to America, then went (unno guess) JAMAICA.

Here is the story, di man sey within the last 10 days him guh Liberia, den Merica. Him come a Jamaica but him tell di immigration officer sey him did dey Liberia. Dem sen him one nedda part a di airport, “Information/Help Desk”. Dem question him and sey everything irie mon, an mek di man guh a him hotel. Di man a tan suh back inna him room when poilce run guh up dey hat-hat fi him. Dem carry him guh quarantine him. Now wi nuhknow if di man have Ebola or nat, but wey it show a sey wi nuh ready. Police run gane fi man an dayeven di have on globs. Smaddy come fan mi. Mi nerves.

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Rayyy go tek up him bahind out a de hotel of course.

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JEEEEEEEZASSSSS CRISSEEE!!!!! M, don’t mek a stawt bawl and gwaan bad! Di blood of Jeeszas is against yuh!!! Stop it!

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Obara, Cami, Yazzy, Kia, unno tek 2 deep breaths and siddung. Mi a guh come wid something that mek mi piss up miself likkle while yah. Mi a chemble.

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A weh ya seh M! Yuh know seh mi fass! Dash out man.. dash out!

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hurry up! lolol

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MTH what if mr duncan did delirious from the 103 fever and couldn’t tell the dr ?! IJS…don’t know where the miscommunication came in at…it’s too many versions of mr duncan’s story and Im not sure what to believe from the nephew, CDC, Texas hospital or the media but i do know SOMETHING IS BREWING PROTECT URSELF N FAMILIES.

Yazzy yu zeet….that just may have been his destiny. His death is bringing awareness to a nation that gwaan like dem invincible n bully.

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Yeah Kia, but that accusation of racism will not fly. Can’t be pulling that card for every thing associated with black people and that is the route that the nephew is attempting to ply and it don’t look good. The hospital don’t owe the nephew/family anything in my strong opinion.

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Kia mi agree wid yuh! Let us pray and protect ourselves and don’t rely pan media… mek wi do weh Nigeria a do cah dem a show wi how dis shit is done but we nah pay dem nuh mine chu dem nu hab nu Merika attach to dem name! Dwl… but a c-russ!

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Cami, Mr. Duncan in my humble opinion could have spoken up. Also, I feel America was re-active instead of pro-active. Before Mr. Duncan, it was a virus in Africa. They didnt realize that it could/would have come to America.

Since the Mr. Duncan thing, is like the news people figet sey Ebola dey a AFrican. All you hear about is what is happening in America.

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Cami didnt see your response. Come yah mi gal mek mi shake yu hand (LOL). I was wondering why on God’s green earth that he didnt mention it to the doctor. When the doctor ‘soun’ him and send him home wid fever medicine, why him neva bwal out an sey doctor, I am just coming from Liberia. Cami he know that the pregnant girl died before he left. I think he was a bit slight with the whole affair.

Before anyone jumps down my throat, just bare this is mind. Nothing in the world that can compare/come close to first hand experience. We see pics coming out of Africa with Ebola patients and we are so sadden. The pic may tell a 1,000 words, but when you are there inperson, seeing, hearing, smelling and caughtupin the moment, that beats everything. Now Mr. Duncan, came in contact with Miss Williams, he knew she died and when he was sent home he didnt stand up for himself. He is a grown man, not a child. Insurance yeah or insurance nay, open yu mouth an sey MI FEEL SEY MI MIGHT DID EXPOSE TO SOMTHING.

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MTH doctors have always stated that they cannot treat a patient accordingly if they do not vocalize their symptoms to them…and it’s true. I nah leave the hospital knowing me feel like ultimate crap. I’ve been to the hospital ER and they taking too long and I fell to the floor and carried on till I got attention, lol.

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Ok MTH- I see where the “nurse’s notes” didn’t make it to the physician. I would fire the nurse! That should have been reiterated to the doctor vocally. The hospital and CDC heads should have made it a point of duty to relate to ALL medical facilities to ask about foreign travels during intake, from the onset of the outbreak in Liberia. That I can fault them for.

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I found this article taht states that the family ‘visited’ him before he passed. Not that completely discredits what the nephew says. Please read this and lets try and reason it out.

My question, if the family visited Mr. Duncan, will the hospital let the nephew blatantly lie on them. Also, if the family was kept away from Mr. Duncan, will the family let the hospital tell such a massive lie and get away?

Either way “Something Is Brewing”. This is where we have to think for ourselves and not believe everything we are being fed.

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MTH, I am aware of racism and how it’s applied and can be applied in a systematic way, such could be the case of why the outbreak is taken place in poor black nations on the African continent.

With that said, I will not accept the argument of racism in the case of Patient zero (Duncan) here in states. Is not everything racist and worth a law suit; when he was speaking to the intake person (may not even have a medical background, just clerical) about his arrival from a foreign country it went in one ear and came back out because they don’t watch news (you would be surprise how many aren’t current on daily happenings), worst he didn’t make mention of it to the DOCTOR or the RN in attendance.

Again, the nephew bothers me.

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Mannas an respect Bubbles. Mi juss a Perry Mason out dis case yah…Mi juss waan get the true (or as close as possible) story…

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Mth the true story was burned with Mr. Duncan. Pray his next life may end better. And maybe is this he was born to do…awareness, reasoning, cures, treatments…

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Yazzy and Kia, I can see where you coming from and if anything Duncan did a “Return to Sender”…

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Kia.. you know that’s exactly how I view his death… as awareness and possibly helping to save us all. If it weren’t for his first case here… we wouldn’t now be doing our trials and errors…. and paying more attention to home and forcing our leaders to have a voice … they had no desire to assist the African countries that were struggling with the disease but now we are forced to deal with it so in a sense it has now humanized us.. cause morewhile America act like dem untouchable and love pull strings and play God and Mafia… suh now it will teach us to have COMPASSION and EMPATHY on other nations as illness nuh have nuh face and it nuh watch color and it nuh partial…

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Cami based on the second link you posted, it states that she (the pregnant lady) was ‘turned away from a hospital for lack of space in its Ebola treatment ward, the family said it took Ms. Williams back home in the evening, and that she died hours later, around 3 a.m.

Mr. Duncan, who was a family friend and also a tenant in a house owned by the Williams family, rode in the taxi in the front passenger seat while Ms. Williams, her father and her brother, Sonny Boy, shared the back seat, her parents said. Mr. Duncan then helped carry Ms. Williams, who was no longer able to walk, back to the family home that evening, neighbors said. I found it HARD to believe that Mr. Duncan did not know.

I was saying that he was smart as he knew he was possibly affected and he knew he stood a better chance of getting help.While other called him wicked, I called survival (even though selfish). Wey mi sey, him did know…

Getting my pop corn and water (mi ease off a soda) and watching this high drama unfold. Something stinks in this saga…

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Onu gwan read…be right back.

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There was a fire drill on my building. Going to read your article Cami.

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