I have always prided myself on being truthful. I am not trying to tell any of you that I have never in my life lied, of course I have, I suppose we all have, but there are some lies that can cause death, lead to separation of families and more. As parents we watch our children grow and sometimes if we catch them doing something, and we admonish them for it, they will deny what they did, saying it wasn’t them.
This behavior we will find in small children as they grow, no one has taught them how to lie, but the innate feeling of getting themselves out of trouble will make them respond this way for fear of reprimand, not all children however, some are truthful to a fault, I have two of these. Some people are born liars, they cannot tell the truth no matter what, and they have no reasons for lying, they lie just because. Some are professional liars and believe that they have to weave a tale in order to be accepted into society or around friends or with family whatever the case may be. Lies are disappointment to a parent or parents when they find their children claiming this habit, to a wife when it becomes a way of life with her husband and vice versa. I know that there is no way for the world to be truthful, as in everyone, and I cannot reform it or it inhabitants at all, I doubt anyone can, but I believe if we practice to be more truthful, more honest, then trust and faith in each other can be restored.
There are logical reasons for not practicing telling untruths;
Small lies known as “little white lie” can build and become bigger and bigger, even putting you or others in danger, and it becomes habitual.
After a while you become known as a liar, and people jeer, mock and scoff at you behind your back, you become a joke.
I had a friend who I use to attend the revival churches with. The woman had everything at one time in her life. She had a wonderful house, the kind that a celebrity would live in, a restaurant, a husband who I must admit was giving her hell in way of cheating, and money to do with whatever pleased her. She was what is known as a pathological liar, and if you know the meaning of this it is when somebody lies for no rational reason. When I met her she had lost her restaurant, the husband and his many women were spending away her money and she was battling to save her mansion, and also battling to save her marriage to the disrespectful man.
We met at a revival church we both use to attend, yes the same one from the vent post, and she was one who left with me after I revealed things through spirit about the wicked Madda Witch. She was pretty cool, and had come to church, or rather began embracing her spirituality when the problems began, which made her out to lose everything she had. She and I became quick friends and I must say that I liked her very much, but after a while I began to realize that she was a liar, and not a liar who made sense (meaning someone lying to protect their life and safety, there are circumstance where people cannot reveal the truth because of fear or danger, and also to protect their privacy, I can understand that) these were nonsensical lies. Let me give you examples.
We will call her Diane (not her real name) and I will write out for you a little skit/play showing Diane and har liard self
Me: “Diane what did you cook today?
Diane: “Obara, I cooked, Rice and peas and roast chicken, with stuffing, corn, a green leafy salad and I made a carrot cake and a pineapple cheese cake, and I made carrot juice”.
Me: “Wow, Diane, I am hungry after hearing all of that”
We both laugh together, we are sitting in the back seat of the church and church has not began as yet.
Me: “How is the husband, did he come home last night Diane? (we always talk about the awful man, so I could ask that)
Diane: “Yes, mi dear, he came home and gave me money for three months Mortgage”
Me: (being happy for her) “OMG! “Diane, I am so happy, now you can pay the bank”.
and we both laugh together as the pastor climbs the rostrum.
Church is over and we are doing meet and greet. Diane is talking to an elderly revival couple beside me and I am speaking to one of Pastors girlfriends who Pastor’s wife wanted to fight after church, trying to calm the woman down. Diane during church, had catch spirit a couple of times, but no one paid her any mind, so the spirit quickly left.
While Pastor girl friend was telling me that she will get her son to beat up pastor’s wife, if she fight her again, I over heard the couple who was talking to Diane ask her how was the husband, (the whole church was in prayer to save her marriage and home, so it was no secret) I was shocked to hear Diane tell them that she had not seen him for over three months. I thought to myself, well maybe she did not want them to know her full business, but she began to tell them in detail about her filing for divorce and bringing all his clothes to good will. She told them that the bank had foreclosed on the house and she was in deep trouble, she also said she cannot eat because of the stress and that her lights and gas in the house was off, she had not cooked for a month! WTF! Who was being lied to me or the elderly couple? By this time the pastor’s girl friend was talking all along, while I pretended to hear, but in truth I have no idea what the woman was saying, I was too busy listening to Diane’s lies.
I wondered if I should confront her, and the spirit spoke to me and said no, to do so would create yet still another enemy, I should just know that she is a liar, and not take anything she says seriously.
So we all exited the church building. Church was hot today and I jumped revival with the old folks and my gay friend so I had worked up an appetite. I could not wait to get home to eat my nice, succulent roast beef with rice and peas and salad which I really cooked for sure. The food was calling me home, and my mouth watered in memory of it. Diane was the one who took me and my gay friend and my other big woman friend to church in her car, so it was she who would bring us home.
As we got out side, there was a scuffle with Pastor’s wife who was way laying the pastor’s girlfriend to beat her up, the wife had the girlfriend into a wrestling hold and began beating her with the bible, even bucking the woman who bawled out for Lawd God!
Pastors children and us the members were trying to get the wife off, even the other girl friends of pastor were helping, but the wife who we called Madda, was strong and seemed as if she could fight, as she beat Lawrence (the name of girlfriend who was about 65 and madda about 60, Pastor around 70 years old) to a pulp while Pastor stood one side looking on and shaking his head in disbelief,(bwoy church did nice ei nuh) We finally separated the two women, and for that I was glad, because now I could get home and murder the well cooked food I had prepared before going to church, my belly growled in agreement.
My gay friend (who was hungry as I as well and who would have dinner at my house) and I looked around for Diane, we wanted to make haste home, so we eagerly looked around for her, we did not see her, we saw a gathering of church members and wondered if Madda had cornered the girlfriend again, cursing Madda and her fighting ways under our breath we hurried over to help poor Lawrence again or perhaps another girlfriend.
We were shocked to see Diane sitting on the ground, speaking in some kind of gibberish, calling it tongues. My gay friend and I looked at each other, he also knew she was a liar, but he was a nice fellow and wanted to give her the benefit of the doubt, so he went up to her and began to sing revival song, trying to work the spirit out of Diane, (not ah spirit was there, lies!, She wanted attention and was now getting it) the church began to jump poco, revival zion around Diane, including Pastor wife and the well beaten Miss Lawrence all jumped around Diane. I never joined in, because I was upset and hungar did ah masacraw mi! Bob Marley said “an hungry man is an angry man! That was me that day, it was evident on my face. The Pastor saw through her BS and did something mysterious (he was a very mysterious man) which brought Liard Diane out of false spirit and finally she got up, acting as if she was dizzy, but dizzy or not I had to get to my food.
Although I liked her, she was really a nice person, but a super duper liar. I never took anything she said seriously and soon everybody saw it and she eventually moved out of state, she had developed a lying reputation.
This I got from the internet and it is so true;
Telling lies is often a complicated business. People will expect you to reflect the picture you have painted of yourself with the lies you have told. Suppose, for example, that you’ve lied about being wealthy and successful. The people who believed that lie would probably expect you to behave with a little class and decorum. Hence, when you regularly lie about who you are, you may find that you have to play a different part depending on who you are with at the time. Do you really want to live a life that involves playing different characters instead of just being your natural self? If you are constantly acting because of lies you’ve told, it’s easy to lose track of who you were originally.
How do you feel when you find out that somebody else has been lying to you? Most people feel rather angry when they discover they’ve been lied to. When the person that lied is someone that supposedly loves you, the lies can even cause emotional pain. Many loving relationships between good friends, family members and lovers have been completely ruined because of a lie told by one person to another. Is telling a lie worth the distress that it could cause the people around you? Is it worth losing a relationship that is valuable to you? Do you want the people who care about you today to dislike you tomorrow? These are questions you should seriously consider before telling a lie to someone you love.
Here is the link;
There are some people who practice spirituality and are liars, this is not suppose to be so. When a person goes to a spiritualist or a diviner and they are told false truth under the guise that the “spirit says” when in fact these people are false prophets, it nullifies the goodness of others who are truly genuine, gifted and extremely talented. Making all people who are gifted as such seem as if they are the same as the lying ones, when in fact these liars are not even awakened people, they are but thieves in disguise. No deity will support a lying priest or priestess, if they are doing well, their recompense is around the corner, but their lying ways makes people distrustful of true genuine people contributing their gifts to society.
Lies should never once be found among those who are on their path, it sullies the spirit, and takes away from who you are and who you are meant to be. Be assured in your truth. If you have your personal business and you do not want to share it, other than lying, say just that, if questioned by anyone. “I am a private person and my business is my own”. Anyone who does not respect that is not worth you time.
Lying is probably one of the most common wrong acts that we carry out (one researcher has said ‘lying is an unavoidable part of human nature’), so it’s worth spending time thinking about it.
Most people would say that lying is always wrong, except when there’s a good reason for it – which means that it’s not always wrong!
But even people who think lying is always wrong have a problem… Consider the case where telling a lie would mean that 10 other lies would not be told. If 10 lies are worse than 1 lie then it would seem to be a good thing to tell the first lie, but if lying is always wrong then it’s wrong to tell the first lie…
Nobody who writes about lying nowadays can do so without acknowledging an enormous debt to this groundbreaking book:Lying: Moral choice in public and private life, by Sisela Bok, 1978.
What is a lie?
Lying is a form of deception, but not all forms of deception are lies.
Lying is giving some information while believing it to be untrue, intending to deceive by doing so.
A lie has three essential features:
- A lie communicates some information
- The liar intends to deceive or mislead
- The liar believes that what they are ‘saying’ is not true
There are some features that people think are part of lying but aren’t actually necessary:
- A lie does not have to give false information
- A lies does not have to be told with a bad (malicious) intention – white lies are an example of lies told with a good intention
This definition says that what makes a lie a lie is that the liar intends to deceive (or at least to mislead) the person they are lying to. It says nothing about whether the information given is true or false.
This definition covers ordinary cases of lying and these two odd cases as well:
- the case where someone inadvertently gives true information while believing that they’re telling a lie
- I want the last helping of pie for myself, so I lie to you that there is a worm in it. When I later eat that piece of pie I discover that there really is a worm in it
- the case where nobody is deceived by me because they know that I always tell lies
Lying and statements
Some philosophers believe that lying requires a statement of some sort; they say that the liar must actually speak or write or gesture.
“If you tell the truth, you don’t have to remember anything.”
― Mark Twain
“I’m not upset that you lied to me, I’m upset that from now on I can’t believe you.”
― Friedrich Nietzsche
“The reason I talk to myself is because I’m the only one whose answers I accept.”
― George Carlin
“There are three types of lies — lies, damn lies, and statistics.”
― Benjamin Disrael
“People think that a liar gains a victory over his victim. What I’ve learned is that a lie is an act of self-abdication, because one surrenders one’s reality to the person to whom one lies, making that person one’s master, condemning oneself from then on to faking the sort of reality that person’s view requires to be faked…The man who lies to the world, is the world’s slave from then on…There are no white lies, there is only the blackest of destruction, and a white lie is the blackest of all.”
― Ayn Rand, Atlas Shrugged
“There is beauty in truth, even if it’s painful. Those who lie, twist life so that it looks tasty to the lazy, brilliant to the ignorant, and powerful to the weak. But lies only strengthen our defects. They don’t teach anything, help anything, fix anything or cure anything. Nor do they develop one’s character, one’s mind, one’s heart or one’s soul.”
― José N. Harris
“The visionary lies to himself, the liar only to others.”
― Friedrich Nietzsche
― Nancy Farmer, The House of the Scorpion
All religion are valid as long as it teaches peace and love…. Obara Meji!
There are no disappointments in life, only lessons learned!….Obara Meji
I will be continuing the part two of the Myal post next Monday!
Obara Meji is a spiritualist, Ifa-Orisa practitioner, and teacher of metaphysics. Since 2011 she has used her online platform to share her personal experiences to those seeking answers about spirituality. Her teachings will expand into short stories, novels, and public speaking to continue her mission of bringing enlightenment to the world.