I thought this to be a good topic to re-post, and I want to ask all bloggers who come on today to give a story about a friendship good or bad, perhaps your own experience or one that you know genuinely of. Let me take a walk in your world today,as I read your tale,and also please give your perspective, opinions or wisdom on friendships and what they mean and how they should be.
What is required to make a friend ship work in your opinion, one which is based on trust, love and loyalty, are these qualities the ones we should base our friendships on? Is there such a thing as a good friend? Is there?
I was born in the month of April, and in Chinese New Year I was born in the year of the Horse, ironically the Horse in Chinese Zodiac occupies the seventh position, as do the Odu Ifa Obara Meji occupies the seventh position in the unalterable order of Odu Ifa. One of the online explanations of the qualities of a Horse is this;
People born in a year of the Horse have a pleasant, amiable, easy-going disposition. With good humor and geniality, they are extremely comfortable to get along with, as they have the ability of instantly putting people at their ease.
Horses are very quick-witted and are right in there with you before you have had the chance to finish what you were saying; they are on to the thought in your mind even before you’ve expressed it. All these guarantee their popularity and a large following of friends.
I do agree with what is written here of my character, yet I have never in my life while growing up be able to have a friend, one who is compatible with me, (until I made this blog, now you all have gone beyond friendship to me, you are family, and this is so because we have like minds). In my real life I am extremely funny, I tell jokes without even trying, my personality is winsome, and I love people. I would want to be my friend, but while traveling along life’s way as I made a friend, after a while and with no quarrel they would go. One woman even told me that I “See” too much. It took years for me to figure out that I was older, way older than most people who I met (spiritually older), and they did not feel up to “Par” with me, as they felt that I was very deep.
Some did not understand what they felt around me, the energy I exuded, Unbeknownst to me was too much for them. I had no idea that it wasn’t me Obara Meji,but my spirit, which is my higher self. They felt something, not knowing what, and so they ran. I have come to realize that I can only have friend who are spiritual and are awake or on becoming awake, the rest of the world who are sleeping are puzzled by my essence/presence. Now that I have realized this, I have accepted it. More on this in another post.
The re-post is below;
The subject of a true friend is touchy for me, because I have NEVER had one. I have always wondered why, and even have cried and lamented about it. It always seems to me that even while growing up, as soon as I made a new friend something would come up and we would separate. It was not until I embraced my spirituality that I realized that my Eguns (ancestors), and my spiritual guides were the ones protecting me from I was a wee babe, from untrustworthy people, deceptive individuals. I was marked for spirituality, (to become a spiritualist), before I came into the world and as such could not have certain characters as friends. With age brings wisdom, and I have come to realize that it is for the benefit of me why some people are removed from my life. The woman I wrote about in yesterdays post, I had hoped could have been a friend, but my astral mates made her reveal herself quickly to me. I still like her and will pray for her, but I must thank them for that revelation. For all those who have experienced good and true friendship, I Obara Meji say HOOORAYYY for you!!!. it is good when you have found people that will always be there for you through thick and thin. You must do all you can to uphold this friendship and pray fervently that nothing bad EVER enters the relationship, because PRAYER works, and GOOD FRIENDS ARE HARD TO FIND!!.
Here on Embracing Spirituality, the focus is to share as much as I know with you how to understand if even just a little all things that are spiritual, and why. How they manifest through any and everything in our lives. How to recognize the messages that are being sent to us through the many avenues and channels provided to us by the Universe. Often times our messages comes to us through people that we know, or family members, mentors, or people who we randomly meet. Sometimes people that we randomly meet becomes our good friends and can often times become a blessing as well as a curse in our lives, if only we relax and watch the signs that will show itself up real quickly. Now you would wonder why would the Universe send you a bad person in your life, the answer is simple. Bad experiences even if it cost death or destruction comes to teach, not only the victim but the world!. It is difficult to understand I know, but that is the truth!. For instance, a child is kidnapped, and found murdered, the country is outraged and disgusted that someone could do this. What eventually comes out of this is that a new law is made to protect the children of our land, Read the Post titled DEATH PART 1!, and you will realize that death does not exist!.
Often times we have a friend who we believe is true, real and genuine. Sometimes we have been with them for a while, possibly since Kindergarten. Life becomes good for you and suddenly that friend becomes your worse enemy. Or you marry and begin your life with your lovely husband or wife, seeding up a couple of children and the friend withdraws from you and all of a sudden they are out of your life. The possibility of jealously is there, Jealous because you got married perhaps, or jealous because you are no longer free to roam the streets with them, whatever the case maybe. There is also the friend who suffers from SCHADENFREUDE, who is happy when problems enters the marriage or when the boss threatens to fire you!. When you bring all your hurt and pain to them they secretly rejoice at your hurt. Wasn’t Judas a friend?, What was Brutus to Caesar?, Peter denied Christ. Oh Oprah such serendipity when you found Gayle!!.
Good friend is better than gold someone said and how true is that, but does that really exist?, and I Obara Meji who is asking this question should very well introspect, to see if I am truly a good friend myself. It all boils down to compatibility. We should choose our friends I believe, on the basis of the energy that person brings into our lives. For example, If you are a weak person then you should look for a strong and determined friend, who will give you the inspiration to learn your strength weak person then you should look for a strong and determined friend, who will give you the inspiration to learn your strength and that will be by example, do not get me wrong, because there will be the strong ones who will try to exert power over you which will cause you to run. This strength of character should be also filled with love and compassion. Opposites attracts and I believe that to be true. There maybe personality traits missing in someone but they find themselves in another who has that missing link and the relationship works because you understand them, and they understand you. Incredible but true. Friendship begins with the heart, and it should be cherished, because we all need each other and no man is an Island. Respect and communication should be the root of all friendship and those two will, bring along trust. Whenever you have a friend, inquire through prayer or meditation what has this person brought into my life, how will their energy assist me to evolve. What contribution do we have to give each other, is this friendship a waste of time. The answer to the latter should be no, because nothing happens by chance, so you have met that person for a reason, the wisdom here is for you to calmly examine their purpose around you!. Oprah says of Gayle, that she is very truthful to her, and that Gayle is happy for Oprah more than Oprah is for herself whenever Oprah achieves anything in life!. Oprah has recognized Gayle’s purpose in her life and that has forged and unbreakable bond. It is time to use your spirit of discernment and look for answers, we all have that innate ability. USE IT!!.
Òní kò lè ba àná jẹ́, ọ̀la kò sì lè ba òní jẹ́, ṣùgbọ́n ìbàjẹ́ ọ̀la, ọwọ́ òní ló wà. /
Today can’t destroy yesterday and tomorrow can’t destroy today, but the destruction of tomorrow is in the hands of today…..Yoruba Proverb!
[Act wisely; don’t sacrifice the future for the present]
Everything comes when it must, and everything happens for a reason, do not hurry your life, what is destined for you, cannot escape you, just keep the faith, be patient and be prayerful, filled with compassion, kindness and respect for all, let these qualities be among your name, God will fill in the rest…..Obara Meji!
All religions are valid as long as it teaches peace and love….Obara Meji
There are no disappointments in life, only lessons learned!….Obara Meji
Obara Meji is a spiritualist, Ifa-Orisa practitioner, and teacher of metaphysics. Since 2011 she has used her online platform to share her personal experiences to those seeking answers about spirituality. Her teachings will expand into short stories, novels, and public speaking to continue her mission of bringing enlightenment to the world.