June 1, 2015 Obara Meji 48Comment

OPON IFA TRAY

Recently a Babalawo asked me why did I talk so much, he said the Ifa oracle said that I always say what is in my mind and the Ifa cautioned me that it was not always a good thing to do. When Ifa speaks we must all listen because Ifa sees tomorrow, so although I have heard before that I speak my mind too freely, and even I have admonished my own self for doing so and have given myself the same advice that I was not utilizing wisdom in all cases, upon hearing this from Ifa, I was sent into deep thought. I had blamed it on being an Aries, my astrological sign, and I have always boasted (not in a boastful way, if you get what I mean) that I do not have any skeletons in my closet and yady yady yah! However as a spiritualist, which differs from what your astrological sign says about you, and by this I mean it surpasses the personality as described, no matter how accurately by astrologers. And this is because as a spiritual person who now is supposed to be learned, having the capability to use more percentage of your brain more than “normal” human beings, having being taught (as I was) by elders without physical forms, we are far removed from any birth charts created for us  or any personality traits connected toward our character as charted by the Universe.

I pondered his words yesterday as I reflected on my life, and wondered, “mi chat too much”? I do not like when someone is too talkative, especially if they have nothing to contribute by way of learning or teaching for that matter. I am a forever student, and will sit humbly at someones feet, if they have something to teach me. If Jesus and his disciples were real and I was with them back in that time, I know that I would have been one of the disciples, imagine that, Obara Meji one of Jesus’s disciple, lol, but Obara Meji is in the seventh place in the unalterable order of Odu’s, so mi larger than what is in that big black book. But I digress, let me continue with my pondering, imagine me laying down in a half darkened room, with two pillows behind me looking up at the ceiling but not really seeing anything as this Babalwo’s voice rang into my head “yuh chat tuh much”. Ok, Ok, he did not say that exactly, after all he do not speak my Jamaican patois, but if “You speak what is in you mind too freely” is told to a Jamaican, all they would hear as translation in their head is “yuh chat tuh much”, am I correct Jamaicans? Oonuh talk up! And I am 100% Jamaican, no mixing to mi ting.

 

I was bothered that Ifa, of all things would say that. I say this because I respect Ifa and I know that Ifa does not say anything without meaning (although it was not a criticism, but a gentle warning)  and so I asked my daughter who must have been wondering why I seemed so distant for a while as I laid quietly. She is a wise little girl (I am a mommy and so I will always refer to her as my little girl all when she is 150 years old) and very truthful, truthful to a fault (if sinting can go suh).

 

She said “Mommy, You have so much to say and you are a natural teacher  and when you speak you break things down so much that if a person cannot understand what you have just said then the fault is with them. Mom I have seen you having a regular conversation and then in mid conversation you stop to explain the meaning of a word, or even a parable you may have used, or if you made reference to a certain culture you then break it down and explain the culture, and this is you speaking regularly to people. This is what makes me know that you are a natural teacher”.

 

I listened to her and I grew misty eyed for a bit (I get like this sometimes, because I feel that I have something here to do and I have not even began,and so when she explained me talking and teaching, it pulled up some memory within my mind that are not of this realm, but yet I cannot explain exactly what is it, a kind of inter galactic connection if you can at all imagine this while not thinking that I am Koo koo). She went on however (this is her truthful mode, set on high now, ) to say;

“I do not believe this is what Ifa is warning you about however, Mom you pride yourself on not holding a bad thought or “Having up” anyone. That anything hurt or bother you,you must address it and remove it out of the way. You have been this way all your life, but I want you to know that doing this is not always wise, because most people in life are not fond of anyone who they believe they cannot fool or who are strong enough to confront them to their face, regardless if the confrontation is non aggressive. If you know that a person is a liar and they try to fool you, often times, just be happy that you are wise enough to see through them, but let them continue in the fantasy in which they have trapped themselves in, or if someone has offended you, not in all cases are you to address it right in that moment, you must be able to wait until another time and then you can sit them down and say your piece or with some people you leave them alone forever. Mom, Ifa is warning you on how not to attract enemies, and although you believe it best to let someone know how you feel it is not always wise to do so”.

I instantly felt better at the words of this young girl, who I now see as the voice of reason in my life. As I have always told you all, you must examine the reason why everyone who is in your life came. We all have a role to play in each others lives, let that role or the lessons not escape us.

I went back to pondering as I thanked her for the clarification. It is true what she said, if someone did anything bad to me I would not let them get away with it, I would let them know that this is what they did, and I did so right away.I did not even do it for me only,but I counted myself as a public defender and would defend others who would not want to defend themselves and it is true that this did attract to me some enemies, but I was brave and bold and outspoken and proud of it. There were those who loved me for my personality and those who (although they said nothing) were less than please with my forthright fullness.

I as Obara Meji have written about my entire life as a spiritualist on this bog site and with me being so honest and sharing about my life has made many people feel comfortable with me for my openness, and even though no one knows who Obara Meji is in person, people feel at ease with me because of what I have shared about me, my life, my family my children, de duttie man dem and all.

Cami, one of our bloggers is as plain as day, and I love her for it. She says it like she means it and that is one of the reasons she is so dear to me. I mention her because I believe that when a person is truthful about their feelings people appreciated them more, I know I do, and I erroneously thought that all and sundry had the same mind as me.

Proud was I to be the “in your face” person (not literally, but you know what I mean), here I was, wanting the love of all human beings (impossible, I know, but you cannot blame me for dreaming big), yet I did not realize that not all people cannot handle the truth or do not like to be confronted especially if it is a flaw within their character that is being pointed out. Now truth be told, it may even go deeper than this with what Ifa says, because I do have a tendency to share my thoughts freely if asked, when most often they should be own my private contemplation. It is very spontaneous for me to share my personal thoughts if asked, and I never saw it as something bad, but then I must remind myself that it is  notall who seem pleased with you are pleased with you, or not all who seem to be happy for you, are!

I chose to share this revelation with you all because I as usual want you to know the lesson I learned yesterday, as we all learn everyday. Wisdom is something that we all must pray for, because it is a light for us on our journey here. I have resolved within my mind to be more cautious and not so open and free with my words and thoughts as how I use to be.

The wisdom of Ifa surpasses all understanding, and it takes a certain wisdom to understand what Orunmila teaches. In my own case, I do talk too much, (I had never thought that, but I have wakened to that fact), there are times when I am suppose to be still and be calm. In my pass relationships when there were arguments, I would go head to head with these awful men. All that was in my mind was that “they would not get the best of me”, and so as they shouted I shouted louder, thinking that “they were men and not supposed to argue with me a woman”.

It is my daughter Osun Karode, who made me know that a book that I had given her to read a while back by L.W. de Laurence taught her that when two persons are arguing one must be calm while the other one shout, if the wise one can do this it will allow the loud one to hear him or her self in the height of their rage or discord, thus enabling them to there after realize their err. She told me this while I was almost about to become upset with some one, and i have kept this teaching to myself for a while, as I wondered about the book that I gave her and I read but this beauty of information missed me. I was happy to know that what I set out to teach her by way and means of spirituality, she in turn could teach me through said medium.

I pondered many things yesterday in light of this Ifa revelation, and saw that when I hear a quarrel even if it is directed to me, I, who would usually want to fight back or defend must try to be calm. The”yuh chat too much” was Ifa’s way of teaching me to be more patient and calm, to be more careful with words and to realize that wisdom is a thing not to be taken lightly, I must apply it in all areas of my life. The dog barks and the cat stays silent, who is wiser?

All my life I have been the way I am, and it took Ifa to warn me through the holy Odu (scripture) which came down for me yesterday that in order for me to have a better, more peaceful life,where I will not create enemies (they will come on their own, so I do not need to attract them myself) by being too straight forward, or by allowing my thoughts to come out as words for ears it was not meant for, or to use language which could allow one to see the faults within himself in an admonishing way or in anyway at all depending on the character of the person, as some people can and will accept correction while others will reject it and become an instant enemy at any ones correction or advice to them on their character or behavior. I have learned a valuable lesson.

Even while writing this post, I am wondering if I am oversharing, but I know this this is not what Ifa meant and by me sharing this lesson that I have learned with you all today, it may allow another, like myself to wake up to their own faults which they like me have accepted for whatever reason.

There are many things if left unsaid could have prevented tragedy or problems, so I believe that this lesson is valuable.

 

Iba Ifa, I thank you Orunmila!

 

Ibi tí à ńlọ là ńwò, a kìí wo ibi tí a ti ṣubú. /
We should be focused on where we are going, not where we had fallen…..Yoruba Proverb!

[Let go of past failures; look ahead positively]

Everything comes when it must, and everything happens for a reason, do not hurry your life, what is destined for you, cannot escape you, just keep the faith, be patient and be prayerful, filled with compassion, kindness and respect for all, let these qualities be among your name, God will fill in the rest…..Obara Meji!

All religions are valid as long as it teaches peace and love….Obara Meji

There are no disappointments in life, only lessons learned!….Obara Meji

 

Orunmila is the Owner of the sacred Ifa Oracle, he is also called Ifa. He is the witness of fate and second to the supreme being to Olodumare (God) in the order of importance of the pantheon of deities. On the first day of the Yoruba week we give honor and worship to him as he is our guide on this earth plane. The following prayers describes in short, who Orunmila is and some of what he is capable of;

Orunmila! eleri Ipin

Ibikeji Olodumare;

A-je-ju-Oogun,

Obiriti, A-p’i jo- iku-da

Oluwa mi, A-to-i-ba-j’aye

Oro a-bi-ku-j’igbo

Oluwa mi, Ajiki,

Ogege a-gb’aye-gun;

Odudu ti ndu ori emere

A-tun-ori-ti-ko sunwon se,

A-mo-i-ku

Olowa  Aiyere

Agiri ile-Ilogbon

Oluwa mi: amoitan

A ko mo O tan ko se

A ba mo O tan iba se ke

 

ORUNMILA! Witness of fate

Second to Olodumare {God}

Thou art far more efficacious than medicine

Thou the immense Orbit that averts the day of Death.

My Lord, Almighty to save,

Mysterious spirit that fought death.

To thee salutations is first due in the morning

Thou Equilibrium that adjusts World Forces

Thou art the One whose exertion it is to reconstruct the

creature of bad lot;

Repairer of ill luck

He who knows thee becomes Immortal

Lord the undesposable King

Perfect in the house of Wisdom

Lord Infinite in Knowledge

For not knowing thee in full, we are futile

Oh, if we could but know thee in full

all would be well with us

 

 

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Zulupickney
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meda ase me nua

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Greetings to the Teach and all the bloggers, I know I am a bit late but never the less I am here. I read this post and trust me, it has taught me a valuable lesson Obara, we really need wisdom in all things that should really be most desired gift. I especially noted the prayer to Orunmila, is it a prayer to be said on a daily basis or just for a specific purpose?

NuNu
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Good morning folks! Mi nuh read di post done or the comments but I had to drop a line. Yail up and have a good day. Obara sorry I didn’t get to return your call yesterday but mi reach home much later than expected

KB
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The lesson was needed i hope i can refrain from speaking in anger. It is a work in progress. I feel like im say what i gotta say cause i dont want have no heavy heart or have up nobody. The dog barks and the cat stays silent, who is wiser? Haha i remember this one

KB
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Evening ES fam Too bad i didnt get this message yrsterday lool when i think the man a try cow me down n my mouth leggo sum bad words. Most time i am silent when ppl cuss cuss but there comes a time when i cant hold my mouth. It depends on my feelings and what is being said. I too am a capricorn like some others here. We will answer if poked alot.

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Good day bloggers, this reminds me of a saying my great grandma used to say; a wise man knows when to speak his mind and when to mind his words. Obara thank you for your wisdom in sharing your lesson from Orunmila and your daughter.

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Good day Obara & bloggers! Wonderful insight and I hope we can all learn to quick to listen and slow to speak. I’m still learning.

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Hi Obara and Family… I know how hard it to exercise silence when you know some is being deceptive. If I didn’t tell people how I felt I wouldn’t feel good it is like water of emotions would bubble inside of me. I am glad I am working on it now.

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Good day Obara and everyone, Thank you so much for this lesson, I do believe that Ifa spoke to you for you and for us, since we are like your Spiritual Children, thereby when the mother is taught is not only for her but also to pass down to her children. I appreciate this very much it is timely information, I too have been too straight forward and I know not everyone understood my way of being like that, I have been told by Spiritual elders that I must not say anything whenever I have a confrontation, especially on my job where there are alot of enemies. But , I thank God for this piece of wisdom and for you and your daughter who were the instruments used to teach us. I love you and this Blog and everyone and all that it stands for, wherever it leads by the Grace of God I will follow, Thank you so much.

Blessings to all!

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Well mi glad you realize by the help of your baby girl (mi know she a no baby, but like you said all when she a 150 , she a still your baby. .lol) that you no chat too much at all , you are a teacher and a true teacher, always make sure her students understand what she is trying to say..
Explaining yourself for clarity don’t mean you a mouth murder (that is a Jamaican thing. .dwl)..
I know some people who aren’t like minded wouldn’t get that you just been you..and take offense to your straightforwardness..but cho a fi dem problem dat..but I think I have learnt a valuable lesson from what your daughter told you from the book, A dog meck noise and a cat stays quiet, who is wiser. ?
Yeah we do sometimes need to kibba we mouth and watch what a gwan more time.
Thank you for this..And thank your baby girl too..

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“Explaining yourself for clarity don’t mean you a mouth murder (that is a Jamaican thing. .dwl)..” Heehee…mouth murder…

Yw
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Is true…and leelee rhyme wid Cami (stress the “I”)…

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Good morning Obara and ESP family. Your message today teaches that silence is golden sometimes, not all the time. Thank you for that. Like you me like for say what pon mi mind, but I have learned sometimes, when we are direct and start explaining in details, others tend to take it the wrong way. So, I still talk, but have learned not to say or give away too much but listen. Thank you again for reminding and teaching us how to control our tongues.

Car
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Thanks Obara as usual for your teaching. I have learnt so much from you over these past few months. You are truly a blessing.

Cher
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Lesson for me, be wise as serpents and innocent as doves. Kibba mi mouth.

Cher
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Answers noted Obara!!!! Thanks so very much. I know I will be a better and wiser person as of today ,from this post and the members comments. Tongue tamed, ears open.

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I thank you too for your words as I have a lot to learn. sometimes i can’t believe I have lived to my afe and not aware about my forefathers spitural ways. As in Jamacia Guyana second settlers were from Africa.

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Iba Orunmila! Morning Obara Meji and the ES crew. Beautiful piece Obara. “… or to use language which could allow one to see the faults within himself in an admonishing way or in anyway at all depending on the character of the person, as some people can and will accept correction while others will reject it and become an instant enemy at any ones correction or advice to them on their character or…” – from the Odu in post. So much here to explore…(1) Facing our shadow: Many people have a hard time getting a full picture of who they are. Often times we choose to focus on perceived positives in our character and overlook the shadow within us. However, it is only by facing our shadow side that we can TRULY improve and evolve. (2) Communication: is a complicated thing because we are at various levels of understanding, emotions cloud our judgment, and we have our own wants, beliefs, and past experiences that, in my opinion, creates a prism through which we look at things (perception). Obara, I love the exploratory part of your personality because although you teach, you are always open to learn. That trait, to me, offers unlimited potential for the evolution of thought but is a challenge because of the above listed complexities of communication and what we are looking for in any given dialogue. So much here but this post is already too long…

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Ahh, oh yes… addition: relationships are challenging because of the communication issues listed in above post. Arguments may be opportunities to address our shadow side. In an argument between intimate partners are there issues of control involved – “Nuh man naw rule mi!!” or ” Mi ah man an mi rule tings!” both of these thoughts from opposite sides come from indoctrinated beliefs that we have picked up from culture or society; they are not real. So much here too….

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Such a tricky thing….. I do not believe in any idea of superiority. They are all intended to keep us separate. Osun stands beside Orunmila when they are together; not behind or in front. They respect and value each other. When we say: holy trinity, to me, that represents the family (levels in this one). You need both man and woman for procreation. Gone are the days of prescribed gender roles.
Quick history recap: woman stay home and take care of house and pickney, while man out a road ah support family. But because man bring in the money he develops a kind of power over woman. Now we have a clear patriarchal society established. Many of the wrongs that men do have been excused under this system (ah suh man tan). However, as women evolve and grow in the workforce and attain financial liberation at a increasing rate, will the same things be done on the other side? If so, that is what we call a cycle of pain and it is still a patriarchal system because it follows the same energy, traits, and outcomes….

Cher
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Charlotte thanks for those pointers, I too am Obatala’s child. Class is hot this morning.

Cher
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I appreciate you sharing that experience with your husband with me Obara! Big up to your daughter for being the voice of reason. Iron sharpens iron. Thank you! Better late than never for me learning and I do know better but why did it feels better voicing my opinion Obara?

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I am glad to be home to read your blog thoroughly. I received the same Ifa January 2015. Ifa said, “do not make anything clear, do not be frank” This was in Ogunda Irete Osogbo. As a teacher and Judge, I as you do, feel that I must be thorough in my observations and judgments. In that same Odu, I was warned of “witches” and “enemies” on my path and at work. Additionally, I learned that Obatala’s children have this unique problem – they offer critiques and try to help people find the best solutions, even when not asked. I have been told all my 70 year old life that I talk too much. Well I became a lawyer and a teacher, a pastor, minister and judge. Professions of the mouth!!!!! Anyway, it’s not the profession it is being wise in what we say. Ifa is right. I do better when I am calm. There are times now that I practice not speaking unless spoken to. It’s hard.
Be blessed my kindred sister,
Charlotte

Cher
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What makes me so sad now is that I did a session with Obara and she did warn me not to argue or be noggin but whenever I would feel the hurt and my eyes tear up I would let him have it.

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Hazy black 2015 same here my happy marriage of 20 yrs is not so happy again since me being so outspoken since February of this year, he is a super calm loving guy by nature and I was hurt and upset and began barking like a dog for months. I was usually a happy giving person, he was not used to me in such nasty mood.

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Hazy black 2015 I too am a Capricorn a full Capricorn and very outspoken! These lessons Obara share this morning is a major wake up for me, despite for months now a voice kept telling me speak less, in fact since February of this year lots of disappointments from people closest to me I was so hurt, angry confused and was just arguing my point daily telling whatever I was thinking, not proud of it but I am telling the truth. Teacher thanks a million again for sharing.

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Powerful piece Obara! Thanks for sharing, everything you said make so much sense, a lot of what you wrote is even familiar to me. In fact yesterday was one of my quieter days. I was relaxing writing a few notes in a book/ Journal that I really need to speak less, no need to prove anything to anyone, and stop fighting everyone else battle. I honestly did not know why I was writing or just the need to be quiet, calls came in I just did not feel like speaking at all, even though I was in a great peaceful mood. Today reading your post Obara just a clear lesson. I am so pleased you were able to speak to your trusted daughter/ confidant and get her honest opinion / translation. Have a great week everyone. Thanks again for sharing your private lesson with me so I too can examine my life.

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Good morning and Blessings to all. Obara I know what you mean although I am a Capricorn and not an Aries I too talk my mind to a falt (especially if I feel wronged) which has always put my relationships in jeopardy. My marrage of 29years is in jeopardy of said. And i have just realized within the last few weeks that sometimes for the good it is best not to correct followup or to just be right. This has led me on a search on the
net for help in spiritual ways to change things in my life which has brought me to your site. I thank you for your openess and teaching tools to help me. I am yet to take my spiritual bath as i am waiting on the right time and day not sure what is blocking me from doing so. I don’t know much but have an open mind and working on faith for change.

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