October 17, 2014 Obara Meji 119Comment

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During these times when the world is in an uproar and fear is having a jolly good time taunting the minds of the world citizens amid the Ebola scare, Compassion needs a place to fit in. I looked at the link of Ebola victims and survivors which blogger Ty has posted in the Let us Pray post and I feel for them.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/10/10/ebola-photos_n_5967682.html?cps=gravity

Mr. Eric Thomas Duncan died of Ebola recently and more people are talking of his irresponsibility of bringing it to America more than feeling sorry for him losing his life and being ill treated (sent home without being checked) by the hospital. To be honest all of those who are saying this have a right to their opinions, and he, if he knew of him being exposed and possibly infected was irresponsible for taking a plane and putting so many people at risk.

In Jamaica there is a saying, “When trouble tek yuh pickney shut fit yuh” when there comes a problem, human beings will try to find any solution. I am not making any excuse for him, and I tend to agree that he may have suspected if not known outright that he may be infected because of being exposed, but perhaps he thought if he came to America he would get help, people in other countries look up to America, and believe that all is possible there. It does not make it right, no it does not, but again, “When trouble tek yuh pickney shut fit yuh”, he may have thought he would be alright in his decision to fly out.

It touches my heart to see suffering of any kind, my kind ah soft heart nuh normal. When my parents were hell bent on me becoming a doctor, I knew I could not. I cried if I saw a movie with anybody ill, and I hated to see even my own blood. Kudos to all doctors and health workers, I pray for them all.

Often times I wonder if the feeling of compassion is suffering itself. I have such soft feeling for people, that I allowed people to use me and often, because I felt sorry for them and their plight. There was the man, who I wrote of here in some of my post, someone I lived with for many years, Mr. High Grade (he was a heavy ganja smoker), he needed to be gotten rid of the moment I got with him. He showed himself, and although I believed him, I worried about where would he go, how would he survive, how would he manage, (he had family, but I felt a deep responsibility for this big knock knee man, knee dem live loving like). I allowed feeling sorry for him to hold me back and make me unhappy for a very long time. While he enjoyed a good life, he never worked, he smoked, cuss and gambled and packed a toops more than a teeley.

It still pains me to talk about that time of my life, so I will stop here. It hurts, not because I loved him, I do not even think I did (sorry fah I am sure, or perhaps him did obeah mi), I told you already that he had shown himself the minute I took him to America, so my feelings had left then, but because I allowed myself to feel compassion, empathy, for an unfeeling, worthless son of a bitch!..ok, ok, I am getting away in this post, I am sorry. Let us continue on the discussion of Compassion. Is it a good thing?, can a soft heart and compassionate feeling for another make you naive or easily taken advantage of?, like me, as in the example I just showed? How far do we take these feelings?

Compassion is good, this I do believe, it is a good thing to have a heart, to feel and care, to assist another with kind and open feeling. With compassion there is love, and love heals.

https://embracingspirituality.com/2012/07/24/have-compassion/

Ọbẹ̀ tó dùn owó ló paá. /
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All religions are valid as long as it teaches peace and love…..Obara Meji!

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Yazzy
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Goodnight my loves! Unuh all de pan a piece a vacation yuh frig! Unuh ladies mussi knocked up ya now… and unuh men mussi need one a MTH porridge pat battam a mawnin!

Mi miss unuh all mi loves! Unuh rest up and have an exciting night… see yall tomorrow!

Cami
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Yazzy! grung inna de early morning yah! dwln. Yes, the vacation nice, we should be rested and back in action in the hours, lol

Yw
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Heeeyyyyy Obara Meji!!!! Cook some food yes. We’ll be there at 6:30 wid di wine and some bisque (yes, Cami, I said BISQUE, hee hee). I soon out again but just checking in. Peace, love, and light and to all a good night. Sleep well and wake up bright for another day that is outta sight!!!

Cami
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Me jus see that you gone fi de night, Yw. Alright, enjoy the rest of your saturday/weekend. Big up to Ty and the boys.

Cami
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If is lobset bisque with light creme…I’m game, lol. Me don’t drink white so tell Ty to carry 2 of her reds. lol

Me ago do the de people dem work and come back. Obara don’t eat too fast ooo.

NuNu, still watching the cow pasture from yu window?! Yazzy, Kia, Toy! Courtney you still in hurricane mode?

Cami
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L.O.B.S.T.E.R….goosh ! lol

Yw
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Compassion….perspective….power…Thank you Obara for this post. When you have a kid that won’t leave home is it compassionate for you to let them stay? Is it compassionate to kick them out?….Curious…If you kick them out because you believe that that will make them more able to cope and survive in the world, then isn’t that compassionate? It is a little long term – short term perspective here; also a bit of intent…and I guess empathy, introspection and ….ok that is it. Will you all help me out with this thought, please?

Will be in and out for most of the day – mostly out but been pondering over this…

Cami
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Morning everyone…me drop asleep and winked @ 3am, lol.

Yw, apologies. You and your excellent questions…it’s compassion to leave the door open to the offspring for when survival in the great, mean world is shaky. More compassionate when you know that one of the bird just can’t survive outside of the nest.

Obara Meji
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I love lobster bisque!!!

Cami
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Bossie I had to apologize because me drop out and go sleep, lol.

Two folds with the open door policy: One it gives comfort to the “baby bird” therefore they can go out into the world with sure because of that sense of security.

Second fold is aiding and abetting a worthless “baby bird” or a scared one that doesn’t want to face the world. Parents compassion will be tested in these instances.

Going to get ready for work, be back at 9″ish”.

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Cami, mi sister, you never have to apologize to me.. Yes, love the open door policy. It creates security and a cushion to the hard, rough world we live in. I think intent on both sides play a role in this issue, though. Can the child do better but just wants to exist and does the parent want the child out or truly want the best for the child….You see here the introspection and reflection is important because you need that to assess your intent behind the action.

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Morning Obara Meji o.

My mum compassionate cause her door is open to all her “birds”. It’s up to the birds to fly on their own and in turn create a “nest” for parents and siblings to come to when in need of a place to rest and begin again or to retire (parents).

Although the compassion can be open to associates for a temporary stay…lol see I already set a limit on that offer of compassion. lol

Obara Meji
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Good answer Cami, same suh

Yazzy
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Sorry guys.. mi run guh watch 2 more LOL! yuh know when I’m into something I become almost obsessed!

Good questions Nunu! Good answers Obara!

NuNu
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It facinating nuh true Yazz! I wish I could understand what was going on

Yazzy
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Ikr Nunu! Mi sorta get it without getting it! All mi know fi sure was mi feel it… so I think if yuh can feel it.. yuh half way get it!

Cami
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Good evening All. Me sleepy so I’m going to nap and come back. MTH, as yazzy stated strong points made.

Obara, yu mek sure take yu stance in the opening….good. Everyone is on point with this topic. Yw, I’ll address the bourgeoisie mind set you mentioned in part 1 of this topic. Haven’t slept since around 1 yesterday…insomnia. Be back.

Yazzy
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Night Cami Cam. Sleep well sweets. We’ll hang later

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Obara n Yazzy unno not alone nor stoopid. I did have one whey cant read big wud n all tun attention ina action. Tru him lazy fi sound it out. Lol me did all resume n job search feem Yazxy. Obara is sekkle fi tru mama wi did a sekkle. Den is pity mi pity him…who gwaan help him blah blah n chixken fat. Mi sehhhh one day i said this rassolle grown man is not my child, him nuh sorry fimi n stap stress mi nerves. I must love me first n more So mi jus plan him move up day lol him neva av teeley is man a steel him did kill mi wit tun mi ina eediat. #Coversface

Yazzy
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Raeeeeee!!!! Kia a beg compassion fi di hammermentz she did a get! Kia, wi ovastan mami! Jack hammermentz blind nuff a wi! MNL!

Obara, two toops numo??? Unuh hout hof horder! LMFAOOOOOOOOOOOOO **singing** “I got da magic stick.. you know if I toops ya once, I’ll toops ya twice!” Woiiieee!

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Hey everyone! Do you sometimes that is why your parents were upset, because they wanted you to become a doctor. Of course having a soft heart people think you are weak and foolish so they come with all kind of cons to tug on your heart strings.

Yazzy
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Today’s JOKE OF THE DAY!!!!!!!!

“He packed a toops more than a teeley”

is miggle day and hi still cyah done laff every time hi memberz dat quote!!! Hunuh have compassion on hi tripe! Plzzzzz!!

A toops more dan a teeley! Mi kakerclaartz!!

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Obara it seems like both you and I know how fi choose dem mi sweetie. Wi did wuklissss badda dan Ty fadda cutliss!

I think it was our compassionate heart that did that… I don’t know what the hell! Mi seh one time me all find mi self hen up a date one duttie bwouy weh cyaah even spell rat or mat or cat! A swear! But he was very good so I had NO IDEA!! now, I don’t judge eenuh… and I wouldn’t a put him pan blasts hif di fuxer neva suh wicked! Mi seh… to get him a job… mi drive him guh pan di interview. .. tell him seh him fi tek di application and seh him needs to guh a bachume and den come in the parking lot where I quickly filled out the info and I don’t know why I so nuff but I actually went in with him this time cah mi tell God seh look mi aguh bold face cah da man ya need a wuk hif him aguh deh wid mi… then I walked into that interview with him and sat there.. legs crossed (and babygirl got LEGS! DWL!) and I smiled and spoke eloquently and I believe my charm got him in the door… THEN!!!… he needed to do a drug test and that was where I panicked caz jus like Obara’s knock knee weh love live loving ex …he too smoked like it was his only meal… mi seh mi did done plan fi dat! I had gotten up very early… taken his son’s urine … put on a pot a wata pan stove and have piss warming all morning as we got dressed.. den mi drive guh store… buy a heating patch… and a stocking and strap on di bakkle a piss to him using di heating patching fi keep fi tempachu warm den him put on him socks and him knee high stocking! Suh when him land di job.. and we were sent to the drug testing facility elsewhere… I told his ass listen when yuh get in the bathroom they expect to hear the flow of urine… suh… mek sure yuh piss likkle inna di toilet… den, pour out di strap on piss ina di people dem bakkle and den finish piss and dats dat! … well all was well mi sweeties! Di bwouy buss! Big time state job weh a pay him decent salary and nuff OT (overtime) fi kill! And bwouy not even stawt wuk good him stawt hype pan mi! When a me affi a fill out bwouy work sheet fi all him hrs him wuk else him wudnt get a dalla! Mi all have bwouy a call mi every mawnin early like clock work fi tan inna my bed and write up incident report like a me deh a wuk… it was brutal but mi dweet tree time a day! Me affi spell out di wud dem slowly and calmly and tell him when fi put full stop and coma! If mi did wicked mi cuda did spell out $uck yuh ***** or ^#&! Off boss and him wudnt know shit him write seh… ole cruff! Kmft…

Sorry… I had to vent!

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mad head Yazzy yaz wad up 😀 😀 yu always mek mi buss outa laff Nunu affi guh triple detention Yazzy, Obara, YW, and Cami .

Compassion is a good thing Obara but ina yu story it seems yu had more compassion for mr high grade than ur self and that is never a good thing. Especially when yu unhappy. Mr. high grade wid di toops more dan teeley grung 😀 😀 !!! Wah kind measurements dat?! Been there done that so I can speak from experience…one day I just get up and say Gyal who you love more yourself or the dutty jancrow???!!! Sed time i stawt plan feem.

MTH
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Just read inthe Jamaica Observer, that the gully queens have opened a shop in the gully. They are selling bun and cheese and such delight.

Now God forbid and one of those ‘queens’ get the Ebola virus nuh done wi wudda dun fa. They have no bathroom facilities, they do everything in the gully. Lawd help wi.

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LMFAOOOOOOOOOOOOO!! Mr. High grade-knee-live-loving-like have a toops bit more dan a teeley!!!! … mi seh a cry mi a cry!!! Why God??? WHY!

I know this is a compassion post so let me get it together… mi read an mi bruk dung fi see di ppl dem a mourn fi dem dead… can’t even bury dem in peace and that shit rips out hany badi wid heart, heart!

Mek mi guh finish read and come … good afternoon mi sweeties!

MTH
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Teach what a lovely poem? A am notalarm per se. I am just mad at out govt and how they are treating us. They are behaving like we do not have the right toknow. I am ot asking to be in the meetings, just come back and tell us something sensible…

Dem a diss wi when dem nuh waan tell us di chute…Oh Nunu, tell Cgoh, sey mi sey howdy and mi feel fi pray fi him.

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Large up ES fambo!!! Obara sass crisse shi wicked looool.MTH dat mi did run guh do!!! Yw seh hyena breath looooooooooool! Nunu yailings! Courtney if yu tink yu did weak yu shuda zimi! Gawd kno shi ketch mi off guard, mi neva ready smdh!!!
is a lady weh always put togedda enuh hair check, nails check, outfit check, hygiene noooo check

Yazzy
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Kia do NOT kill me… bout hygiene nooooo check!

Dear Jeeezas! Have compassion pan mi tripe when mi read dem comments ya daily.. and it stawts to twist up and mi mout wide hopen but nutin nah come! Help mi Jeeezas suh fly nuh guh dung deh and stuck.. den mi breath guh smell like mi swalla a cesspool truck

hamen!

MTH
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Nunu mi gal, wey dey gwan?

Just now, I read an article that states that America can treat mussi up to 9 Ebola patient at a time. If others are affected then health care providers will go to them. Now, when journalist a ax the Chief Medical Officer (or warra har ty-kle, is like shi waa get bringle). Dem ax di big forehead woman wey ugly lacka wah, one simple question, where was the American mad quarantined? No ansa and had the nerve like shi waa have attitude. Information Min. Sandrea Falconer and the Chief Medical Officer, rubbed be the wrong way. They spoke about Tourism blah, blah, blah and economics won (for them) over humanity.

The other day, Michael Lee-Chin donated money mussi amounting to $1 Billion Jamaican Dollars and people dem get inna tizzy. Why? Nuh feem? They said we (Jamaica) needed the money. I am like wtf Michael Lee-Chin, he is free to give away his money. Who is to tell, if he hasnt donated millions and it has not gone anywhere..

They had a committe set up to deal with Chick-V and had a Chick-V hotline. Mi dayeven know if the hotline a wuk yet…Yu know hum much million dem consultants a guh get. Di fassy dem a talk bout quarantine ppl, wey dem set up quarantine place? Yu caan have a room dung a KPH a sey yu have quarantine area.

Yw
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Big up Nuns, Mth, Obara, Courtney and Kia B.

NuNu
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Big up Yw! I’ll be back later people

MTH
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Kia, run guh wash yu face, yu caan tek nuh check? Nunu, Courtney,Kia big up sed speed.

NuNu
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Lolol tell har deh M!

Obara Meji
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Grung@ MTH yuh cyaan tek nuh check lmaoooo

Obara Meji
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Dats why mi live yuh Yazzy, ah suh mi know sey ah you and Ty alone read wha mi write

MTH
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Teach mi put on mi parson collar fi match di hat wey YW bring back fi mi.

Courtney, didnt Gustavo hit your country recently? I prayed for you child. Glad to see you.

I get annoyed and I am asking for prayers that I beat this. My boss was sent some circulars from the govt re Ebola. Now I am terribly angry. Not angry at my boss, I really like that dude. Just angry that it had to take the ‘exposure’ yesterday for these SOBs to act. Where was this info while last month, 2 months ago, last week when Thomas Duncan died? There was no compassion as we saw it as a distant thing. The pictures that Ty sent me tore me up…Compassion and politics apparently donot go hand in hand.

NuNu
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They can’t handle chick-v suh how dem guh deal with Ebola if it ever should hit the island

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Ooooooo unno please have compassion pon me!!! Why di tinkin mout ooman jus come talk ina mi face RRRRRRR all mi nose n eye stawt water kmrt brb

Yazzy
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Kia she single??? Maybe yuh can do her a favor and set her up pan a blind date wid Pastor Halitosis… give her a taste of her own medicine …

Yazzy
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—————— if a laff a pap up! Kia seh rrrrrrrrrr————

Yw
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Kia B, large up!! I wish that she would have a passion for oral hygiene rather than to try to match that of a hyena’s…

NuNu
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Have mercy pon Kia lawd!!!!!lololol

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lol i weak

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Morning everyone

I think compassion is a double edged sword. Its like walking the thin line between love and hate. It shows that you have a kind heart and love for people but it also leaves you open to be taken advantage of and people will try you. I have this associate that i have been wearing loosely for the a while now. When they reached out to me very recently I felt as if the communication was only to offload their issues and maybe guilt trip me into feeling sorry for them, to pick back up our communication. I feel compassion for the person but they showed me who they are and I believe them. Sometimes you must love people from afar like Obara says be careful the energy you bring into my space.

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Hey Court! “Sometimes you must love people from afar”… Court, I’m in total agreement! It’s not a lack of compassion to do so…

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What is up, Ms. Courtney? Have to agree. I believe in compassion but there are always lines in the sand. I do not pray for my enemies; is that lack of compassion? If a snake is known to be aggressive and I decide to help, I must be prepared to be bitten because I know that is quite probable. It would be naïve of me to think that that same snake (wid the history it have) would not bite me…

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Yw, mi wish I was getting these teachingz from long time. .. bout mi de a kneeville a pray fi enemies! Kmft….

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Howdy everyone.

I want to give an account of this Ebola scare from my Jamaican perspective. Teach earlier we were planning to come to Nigeria in December, Nile even went and got vacinations for himself and children. Then we started hearing about Ebola. Maybe, because I had planned to travel to Africa, I ears went up and my heart opened up. I watched the numbers growing and sent up prayers. We (the world) wre just catching our breaths from the Malaysian plane that went missing and the bring back our girls campaign.

I would engage people in discussion about Ebola, but as it was something wey dey all the way, clap a Africa, there was little or no concern. Then it was back to school and all the running up and down and all that brings. However, a little before school opened we had our first Chick-V case. It was said, it was returning student from UWI/UTECH brought it. Even then we were not so concerned, as the Min. of Healt kept hammering home the point that you can cathc it only during the day. Then we kept hearing how many persons were catching the virus and the News was saying only 24. When the virus started hitting persons and/or their loved ones before any real compassion was shown.

Even while I watched my people dying like dogs in the streets, the news reports were so remote i.e. distanced. When it was discovered that Ebola had gotten to America, that’s when we (Jamaica) acted/took note. The news started to bring reports in a more compassionate way. Yesterday, October 16, 2014 news came out that a man who traveled from Liberia to America, then onto Jamaica. We (Jamiaca) were running like headless chickens. Teach, we are waiting to get PPE. We are waiting to train people like porters and police etc. No thought was given to train Tourism workers.

While Caribbean countries like St. Lucia and Bardaos had plans, Jamaica had 0% readiness. If the gentleman didnt come here, there would not be no ban/restriction for travel. Mr. Farrakan will be having his Million Man march on Sunday, no shade, but what it is he is coming here to stand up for? Was there a march when they killed Mario Dean? No? However, Portia is allowing this to happen. Who knows who will come and what will come with them. Also, there were talks that ISIS had beef with some Caribbean people. I will not go there, but a group of people headed by Muslims….

Up to Tuesday, of this week Min. of Health said that they are looking to procure the fever machine and PPE…Ebola has everyone scurrying in Jamica, yet up to a month ago, there was no real care as it was an African virus and the majority of peole wouldnt go to Africa.

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M, your points are always solid and facts filled. Love it… keep it coming

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Have to step out for a bit. Ketch up soon…

Yw
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To me, to me, to me….compassion IS always good thing. I do not think that it makes you naïve. I think that many times we (or at least me) have an inclination as to what a person may be about but it is when we do not listen to that voice inside that we say we are naïve. To my mind, you can be very compassionate but walk right past someone in need…How is that? Well, because the cost to help is too great to yourself or those you may love…Self-preservation is a natural part of our psyche. If helping someone puts you or those you care for at risk, then you have to ask yourself if it is worth it. If it is worth it to you, then you have to be willing to accept the consequences…

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Is it truly always a good thing Yw? Btw, it’s awesome seeing ya back! Yuh cyah tan weh suh long… wi dunce like bat widout yuh.. a Obara seh suh! 😀

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