November 3, 2014 Obara Meji 171Comment

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This Thursday November 6th  will be our book club discussion our Ty have provided the material which you will find the link below. She also will be the one to moderate on the topic placed forward. Yw twisted and reshaped our thoughts with this las discussion and it was fun! We all enjoyed it, it was very good, well done Yw, thank you very much. It is unfortunate that I did not see my regulars to show support, but it is what it is, nuff love same way. Book Club begins @ 8pm, please make an effort to be here, knowledge is power, let us learn together.

Oprah needs no introduction, and she is the one to always interview others, but when it comes to her being interviewed, wow! This woman is quite interesting, really interesting, please watch, enjoy and learn!

 

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toy7318
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Obara thank you thank you for this site. Ty you did an awesome job last night. What I would tell my younger self is just because you tell people no doesn’t mean you are a bad person, because everyone doesn’t deserve a yes.

kiabubblez
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kiabubblez

I agree Toy! its not wrong to day no at times

Courtney
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Hey fam

How is everyone really saddened I missed this discussion oprah always gives great commentary. Yesterday was a bit off for me

NuNu
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Good afternoon folks! Hope you all are having a great day

Yazzy
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Yazzy

Nunu Boooooo!!! Happy weekend hottaz! Mi cyah deh see yuh but mi know seh yuh in great hands here and mi content wid dat mi chica. Gwaan tug it out babygirl.

toy7318
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Yazzy Evablessed and Cami Jet set. how are you ladies doing?

Cami
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Cami

YAZZZZZZZZY! hope all is good.

MTH
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Ty I am still a work in progress. Have a great weekend.

toy7318
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MTH I am glad you are in good spirits, ladybug. Have a great weekend.

Ty
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we all are sweetie…kisses to the girls…

Cami
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Cami

Ty! long night last night. I thought about the validation…jury still out, lol

Ty
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Lol…we all need validation in some way or form…but donot need to get drunk in it…if it means anything, I value you and your thoughts, opinions, ideas, prayers, and love Cami….

MTH
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Yazzy, beautifully said. I didnt answer TY’s question, as what would I tell my younger self.

I would tell my younger self to not to be in such a rush. To take things slow and appreciate everything. I would tell me younger self to trust my ori more and try to be comfortable and learn the lesson for whatever stage in am.

Yazzy
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Yazzy

Prefect M! Thank you. Mi happy fi see yuh ya caz I know you been having some issues wit Internet access at work and home…

I loved Ty’s question on what we would tell our younger selves. It forces you to now realize that your entire life has been a learning experience/experiment. It forces you to review your spirit rather than your surroundings and the material accomplishments.

Yazzy
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Yazzy

Ty happy weekend. Mi know all too well bout dem lick and promise blogging ya weh we gotz to be throwin down chica. A suh it guh. 😀 enjoy work…

Yes I’ve been been noticing others around me living similarly or exercising/utilizing our lessons here and I feel absolutely proud!

Ty
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Hey everyone, afternoon to you all…at work and just a drop it and run out…I am happy that all of you could get something out of the book club and also see how all we have learned is used and practiced by Oprah…

For all the bad that has happened to me and has been done to me…I am stronger, wiser, and more confident…I have learned those lessons well and am closer to God and am working on connecting more to me…

Yazzy, MTH, Obara, Kia, Cami and everyone…the love ova ya so nuff..have a great weekend..

Yazzy
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Yazzy

Gm Obara. Gm Prefect M. Gm all my other sweeties and peepers. Ty, you did so very well moderating last night sweetie. Plz pardon my absence of I could have been here I would certainly have made it happen.

I just wrote up a long ass comment and my silly phone just dumped everything! Suh mek a try dis again….

Ty I loved the content you chose. Oprah may have made some choices that most don’t agree with but those were her choices. I respect her as a person and a powerful, strong, influencial black woman that used her platform to do a ton of good but I had also always seen humility in her.

In the vid she struck so many points … but they weren’t her infamous “aha moments” as we were all privileged to have learnt it here! (THANKS OBARA)…

-I loved her ancestral reference
-I loved her heritage reference
-I loved her Ori reference (tho the actual word was not mentioned but thanks to learning about our Ori here we immediately knew to what she referred or described)
-I loved her solar plexus reference (altho again she never used the actual word but her references to her gut feeling and intuitive sense)
-I loved her strong intents and decisive nature.
-I loved how she commands respect, passively, while exuding confidence.
-I loved that she has always been consistent and she speaks openly enough to show sincerity but still allows for mystery ….
– I loved that she has BALLS!
-I love that she finds the time to educate others but always a student and eager to learn.
-I loved her point on validation for we all need validation. Even the greatest energy, God is validated. Babies need validating throughout their growth and development or they sure will wither away or grow up dysfunctional. ..even our ancestors command validation….

Oprah is a profound woman. Can’t take that from her…

Ty, you asked what would I tell my younger self… that’s quite a challenge! Um, I would tell my younger self that life as I know it is an illusion… my struggles are all an illusion but my inner self… has always been resilient and amazingly compassionate and filled with love and I would tell my younger self never to dim that light!

My darling Ty, great moderating again sweetie and my sweetie Obara.. thanks for this amazing space!

Happy weekend all my sweeties…

MTH
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That’s why I love this blog. Teach, yu drape mi up and remind me just how much I have. Each time I get off, I will always remember this day.

Let me add to what I have and continue to count by blessings. I have extremely good health. While almost everyone around me has gotten Chick-V, LIttle M and I have not gotten it. Yesterday, Little M came home and told me she is in the top of her class. Someone sent me their resume to update it as they think I am good in this area.

kiabubblez
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kiabubblez

Good morning Obara MTH I second Obara on that MTH yu my nuh think yu lucky but luk weh yu av instead of wah yu naave

I too enjoyed the discussion last night thank yu TY and others for sharing. sorry I was dozing in n out a sleep.

MTH
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I am reading and commenting at the same time.

1. Thanks Ty for the discussion, I couldnt participate last night, but the info is here
2. Cami I feel you onso much level. I have all my ducks in a row and all now, lady luck has not found me. I have created my own luck and with this new found dispensation of knowledge, things will be changed (Juju or other wise).

3. Teach, I love your description of luck. I see beauty, in all ofyou here and have embraced you all as mentors.
4. Kia, like you, I know Oprah has gotten readings. She has Inyanla and Inyanla is a Yoruba priestess. I know show reading is more than likely to have taken place.

5. What I can say about Oprah is she has some beautiful programs on her station. I love her Master Class. Recently I was watching Ciclyn Tyson and Ms. Tyson gave some pearls of wisdom (combined with what I have been learning on ES, has made me more away and forceful).

MTH
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Morning all, I am here reading and catching up. Seem like a good time was had by all.

Cami
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Cami

Off to bed. Bless up to all.

NuNu
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Lol! Lawd man unoo nuh haffi show mi up suh!

kiabubblez
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kiabubblez

I would tell my youngerrself to love u girl cause u all u got! love ur faults and dont let people make u feel bad about urself. Everybodys different n its ok that u not like them .

Cami
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Cami

Ty and Yw love working on emotions and perceptions…

NuNu next Book Club is your turn.

kiabubblez
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kiabubblez

Yea Nunu u up next

Cami
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Cami

Ty, again good material.

Ty
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I am glad u liked,…

Ty
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Everyone seems to have gone to bed…thanks for coming out tonight…do you all remember, Oprah’s book club? lol..

Have a wonderful night and sweet dreams…

Cami
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Cami

Same to you Ty.

Ty
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Thank you too my fellow ES family for being open, sharing, and loving…

Ty
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Thank you Obara for this space and opportunity to share, blog, and learn…this interview with Oprah shed light on us all, that we have keys right here…we need to continue to use them to continue to open doors…

Thanks Obara for being so open, honest, and sharing with us…

Ty
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as we are winding down, I hope you all got something out of this…if it it is even just confirmation of all that you have learned here thru ESp and Obara already…

NuNu
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I’d say to my younger self. Relax! Learn to focus and pay attention. Don’t let your fears stand in your way

Ty
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my last question to you all, is what would you tell your younger self?

Ty
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I would tell my youngerself: ” you are strong, beautiful, a child of God, loving, and have a right to be here!!!”

Ty
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13. Last but not least…I think the best thing/tip she dropped was that the ultimate goal is to attain the highest, truest expression of yourself

Cami
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Cami

Will it be outside validation that determines you best or you?

NuNu
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That way, you’ll live your best life possible. Amen

Ty
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Yes Nunu

Ty
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12. get as much from your loses and failures as your victories… boy I can attest to this one…

Cami
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Cami

Those 2 are number one teachers and they are constant so them make perfect mentors.

Ty
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some of my greatest lessons in life were from my loses and failures…they showed me my strengths, even when I thought I had none…they also showed me my weaknesses…

NuNu
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Yes Ty, because you learn from them. Great lessons come from things that challenge. Obara teach us that too. Not disappointments but lessons learned

Yw
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Night, night all….busy day tomm….

Cami
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Cami

Night, night.

NuNu
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Goodnight Yw

Ty
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11. fill up yourself then you can give to others…

the oxygen mask analogy, like she said is one with this…

NuNu
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Yes I like that too Ty, if you don’t fill yourself up first you get depleted and wont be of any use

Cami
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Cami

This is why I don’t care about validation…if I don’t approve then what’s the sense of even regarding outside opinion? Yeah, one can be hard on them self and nothing seems right, but that’s a personal battle and no outsider can break through validation. One cannot reach self actualization (Maslow’s theory) base on outside approval…that individual alone will know when they reach that level. Wonder if Oprah believe she reach that level?

Ty
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yes Nunu, we often are looking to others, when we really have to first look inward…

NuNu
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I also like when she says, being born at the right time is important

Ty
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Yes Nunu, she talked about there being a supreme destiny…

Ty
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ok..the hardest one to swallow…there are no mistakes…so true…can be a bitter one to swallow…

Ty
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She also stressed the importance of journaling…which we are all embracing here…we have touched on most of her points here on this blog in some capacity or another…

NuNu
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So, Reason over emotions?

NuNu
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Got yuh Yw

Obara Meji
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I am here

Obara Meji
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Yes Nunu yuh Neva suit nutten yet lol

Obara Meji
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Submit

Obara Meji
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Which two Cami? Who?

Cami
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Cami

“loses and failures” These two.

Obara Meji
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Oh ok Cami

Obara Meji
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Gn cami

Yw
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Logic and emotion still close together, in that, if we always only logical then we become apathetic and if we only always emotional we become vulnerable to predation….balance is necessary

Ty
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I like how she said that although she is not afraid to try anything, she “stays in my lane”…

NuNu
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Validation is important to everyone. All our arguments are really about did you hear me, did you see me, did what I say mean anything to you. True right?

Ty
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so true Nunu, most of our gripes can fall under one of these…

Cami
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Cami

Doing things for validation isn’t good.

Cami
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Cami

I had a coworker (well trained in psychology) tell me that she has observed that I don’t take compliments well…she said that I should just be humble when complimented. Normally, I would pass off a compliment like me swatting at a fly…I still do, so validation isn’t my thing. When I do something I aim for it to be my best and I know it turn out as such…my very best I compliment myself…I really don’t tek compliments because I don’t think its sincere- my perception.

Yw
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Validation does not have to come from without. That is a part of becoming more spiritual (to me) but in that same breath we all seek validation and do not come into form until we feel as if we are at peace with who we are….

NuNu
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Well I think everyone wants to be heard and seen in some capacity or another

Ty
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10. do not only give based on emotions, but also logics…I am still learning this one…

Cami
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Cami

Do not do things for validation should also be added to this.

NuNu
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Yes finding the balance between the two is really important. I like it when she said you have to change the way a thinks you have to create a sense of hopefulness and aspiration so a person can envision better for themselves instead of just pouring money into them

Ty
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9. Gratitude is the single most treasure… I agree with this sooo much

Ty
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What are your thoughts on when she says everyone needs validation?

NuNu
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Yes Ty, you have to know how to use your platform, what propels the action is the intention. Result, consequence and reaction. I like that tuh

Yw
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Choices, choices….intent behind actions. “We all are seeking validation” powerful…

Ty
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8. “what propel the action is the intention”…boom line that… I will be stealing this one

NuNu
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Lol Ty I didn’t realize that you wrote that line Mi like it too!

Ty
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lol…no prob…

NuNu
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Oprah is calculated and she understands what it is to be aware. Did you hear when she said she knows the time here on earth as a human being is very short and she has more to do. She said that what is valued changes with time and in our period fame is valued. She uses the fame to her benefit and the benefit of her agenda, she put on the “swagger” because she knows people will pay attention simply because they value her fame, but it is just the foundation, there’s alot more to be said. She pays attention bwoy!!!!

Ty
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she understands how to use and manipulate energy…she stated that she made a decision to not let TV use her but to use TV to her purpose…

Ty
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7. 3rd law of motion: for action there is an equal and opposite reaction

Yw
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Application of principles or rules to parts of our life….rules of economics, physics, biology, etc…

Ty
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6. perfect your craft…

so ok, you connected, got your life reading, have mentors…then what, perfect your craft…

Cami
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Cami

With opportunity you can perfect your craft.

Yw
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And here is line for you, and you, and you….. Yw iz ‘ere…. Good night all, Ofry was good in this: listen to yourself in the quiet…

Cami
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Cami

“Go placidly amid the noise and haste and remember what peace there is in silence”…think me a follow Ofry…lol

Hi YW!

Yw
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Hey Cams!!! Nice…

Ty
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5. knowing that you hold your future and not others…

this took me a while in my life to learn…no one can deny you of what is yours, they can only delay it..

Ty
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4. …”knowing what you do not like will lead you to what you like, even when you do not know what that is”….profund…

for all who are stuck, this is a great tip

Cami
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Cami

That is most certainly true.

If I’m doing something for someone (admin or project) I ask “What don’t you like?” once I get that I know what to do because I already know what not to do…same method has Oprah’s I apply to my life and tasks.

Ty
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She also touches on women inequality with her pay difference at the job from 1979 to 1980, where she asked for a raise and was given a round about answer…she took this as her que to boogey out of there whenever something else came along…

my god mother used to tell me ” kiss smelly ass until you can kick it, and when you do kick it, do not look back”

NuNu
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Yes mumzy tell mi dat tuh Ty! Kick ass before yuh can kick it

Ty
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My favorite line is her quote from Maya Angelou, ” I come as one but stand as 10,000″….I live by this, I tell people all the time, I am 11th generation from slavery and I have di whole a dem behind me, ready

NuNu
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Yes Ty I love it too. When she said she didnt let race or gender of whoever is in the room get to her.When she said I am from a heritage. I call on my ancestors and bring that energy in the room with me. Wi learn dat tuh!

Ty
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yes Nunu, when I watched it, I felt like it was playbook for this blog…like she is a peeper…

Ty
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she outlined some of the ways to make opportunities line up, for luck phenomenom to happen, and for your to find your path…

NuNu
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Yes everybody wants to fulfill the highest, truest expression of themselves as a human being, it doesn’t matter if it’s being a baker, doctor, carpenter etc. We all have a platform. We learn that here too

Ty
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3. finding your way, and biding your time…she talked extensively about he rtime as a reporter and knowing it was not for her but was wading through to find what she was to be…

NuNu
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I liked it when she said you have to live from the inside out, to follow your instincts, and listen to your gut. Don’t let what the world say is right, detemine your decision listen to what feels right to you. Love it!

toy7318
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Basically she saying trust your Ori… Which Obara has been telling us to do

Cami
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Cami

Hey Toy.

Toy, there are things that many will not do to prepare and connect for that luck.

Ty
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yes Toy, she is, but she also explains that there is more to it…being connected, being prepared, etc

Ty
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Yes Nunu, I like that too…

Ty
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being true to your authentic self is hard, and sometimes may not go with what society deems for you

Ty
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3. finding your skill, your purpose, and being true to yourself…finding that connection…allowing things to align… I feel that is what we are trying here…

Cami
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Cami

Check, check, check…but there’s that human factor that will block the end game which is success.

NuNu
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Yes Ty, the part about connection being far more important than what you do. The connection to your inner self and that higher consciousness/supreme being help you walk in your purpose. We’ve been learning that here

Ty
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2. she also talked about the roles mentors played in her development… I truly believe that you need a mentor to help you and to bounce ideas off of…someone who has done it before to guide you…your path is still your own and often you can even surpass the mentors…do u have any mentors?

Cami
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Cami

I had people who gave me great advise but then when that elusive “luck” don’t show up I got angry and abandon the mentors as being liars and waste of me time.

Ty
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Obara speaks of her Padrino, her mother, and Mr. Pierre…who were all pivitol in her development…

now she is here for us, to mentor and guide us all…thank you

kiabubblez
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kiabubblez

Idk bout that luck thing. It can be ur lifes destiny why things good or bad

Cami
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Cami

Hence, why luck is just a phenomenon to me (losing me money at the casino and not a hint of “lady luck” anywhere near by, lol)

Notice Oprah is a one of a kind on this continent…

toy7318
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I agree with you Kia on that

Ty
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Hey Toy

Ty
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I think luck is opportunity plus action

Cami
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Cami

Opportunity – yes but you have to create that.

action and prepardness… You have to be positioned for that to become luck which I still call a phenomenon because many (my self included) have done all that and luck haven’t come our way…so luck is just a phenomenon.

Ty
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do u argee with her definition and when have you been lucky?

kiabubblez
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kiabubblez

Cami why u dont dig her?

Cami
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Cami

Something off about her…

Ty
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Cami you are right, what you are sensing is that she does not present her true self to you or to the world, many parts are hidden, and rightfully so…she touched on it a bit by saying that she realized that fame was to be used as a vehicle to get your voice heard…

toy7318
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Good night everyone, sorry I am late. I am going to read and catch up

Ty
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WE are looking into elevating and embracing ourselves…what are your thoughts on luck?

NuNu
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I like her interpretation of what luck is, it’s all about opportunity and preparedness. All of it is due to paying attention to what’s happening around you. Know when to wait and when to make a move

Ty
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I agree Nunu…timing is always crucial…

Cami
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Cami

Luck? One has to position themselves to “catch” that phenomenon.

kiabubblez
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kiabubblez

I watched the shorter version video n i can agree with what she said. She is a awake n trying to be the best human she can be. Okay oprah lol i think she over here reading

Cami
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Cami

Me can see right up unda oprah! lolol sorry Ty.

kiabubblez
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kiabubblez

Loool big big oprah a show front mi shame an ano mi

Ty
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1. Luck = preparation meeting opportunity

Ty
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Hey Cami, Nunu, Kia

Cami, we can still learn from her

Cami
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Cami

Not going to take anything from her…just don’t dig her like I do with many females.

Cami
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Cami

Good night Folks. Nice subject matter Ty…not a big fan of her though.

Yw
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Big thoughts in this vid, though: “one and 10,000”, living up to our potential: being the best you you can be…

Ty
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lets dissect some of these

Ty
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I felt like she was putting into words many things we talked about

Ty
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Oprah needs no real intro but I wanted to say she is an inspiration to many and I wanted us to here from her…her goals…her thoughts

Ty
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Welcome, I am so happy you made it, I know you are busy…

NuNu
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Yailings Ty, Kia

Ty
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I am here..

NuNu
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Goodnight folks! I’m almost done with the video give mi a few please

Ty
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Hey everyone, thanks for coming in tonight..

kiabubblez
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kiabubblez

Good night everybody busy tonight?! i dont know much about oprah i havent watched her much since color purple n brewsters place someone can fill me in please

Cami
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Cami

I swear that Color purple role was the most energetic part of that movie, including the dinner table scene with whoopie.

Yw
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“’til you do right by me, Harpo….”

Ty
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very True Cami, I remember that scene very well

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