Good day to all. I have been doing some technical work to the blog and this is why I have not been posting everyday. Writing takes time to do and I can not post when everything is in action according to my assistant.
However, today I will do a short post on the symptoms of binding or “tying” as we call it in Jamaica, in other words how to know when someone has tied a person onto them. This topic is important because it happens so often and affects so many lives. It is a horrible thing to do to anyone, and it interferes with the destiny of both the one who did the tying job and the one who gets tied. Why would someone want to bind someone to them? I just could never understand it, but I will tell you how to know when it has happened.
I have written about this topic before. I shared the very personal story of my father and what he went through with a woman’s attempt to tie him ( read here), however what I did not share was how to recognize when it has happened to you.
First let me tell you all that the person who is under the spell most often will not know that he/she is under a spell. He/she becomes like a zombie moving through life, yet at the will of the person who has him/her all tied up. In his (and this is for the woman as well) everyday life, he can make his own decisions, he can conduct his life as he or she sees fit, yet when he is around the person who has him under bondage, he becomes a little child. So much that his friends and family sees someone different from who they know and may wonder about the change.
Most people who are under the influence of Obeah, as in being tied up, are afraid of the ones who has done the job to them. For the stronger person who is a victim of this, regardless of not knowing what has been done to him, he will not be willing to fall into total submission. His inner spirit will fight, resulting in the couple having a very rocky relationship filled with arguments and problems, but none ever leaving the relationship. I have seen this often. Not all tumultuous relationships are a result of tying, so please do not go pointing fingers at anyone.
If the “victim” of this obeah is normally a very gentle person, his spirit may submit to the binding, but he will have the feeling of despair in the relationship, but he will not admit this but rather accept his fate with his other half. I have heard of people who felt they had no hope after being berated and dominated by their spouse that they even commit suicide.
One symptom of tying (and this depends on the type of tying done, will explain in a moment) when the victim will begin to experience stomach problems (a bad ulcer or other stomach ailments). This is when the Obeah has been ingested, which is the most popular kind of binding job.
One of the tying jobs which is the hardest to pull (but certainly not impossible for a competent practitioner) is when the binding is done through sex and fluids released. My ex wicked baby father’s wicked mistress had tied him like this. It was horrible! It seemed she tied him every which way possible. To this day he has stomach problems and this began when he met and got with the she-devil.
This brings me to warn you all of something that got him into this situation.
He had only hoped, according to him, to have a one time fling with this woman, but she thought otherwise or so she told me once when we met in a quarrel on the telephone.
Yes, while she and I were cussing back and forth (tracing to all Jamaicans who know what market tracing is), she then calmed down and very calmly begged me to please calm down. It took a hell of a lot to get me off the highest limb of the quarrel tree.
I was shocked to hear her pleading with me, so I drew a deep breath and stopped, just to hear what she had to say.
Then she said:
“Obara, it do not mek any sense that we quarrel anymore. I have tied him up very well (in patois she spoke, but for the benefit of all, mi English it up) and he cannot ever be freed. You cannot get him back. He thought he would make me a one night stand, and I knew that, but I had another plan for him. I did what I had to do, so why should we fight Obara? He can never leave me, so please calm down and just accept it.”
I have never forgotten those words, nor have I ever met a person so bold.
Another symptom of tying is when a relationship which was not meant to go anywhere, suddenly gets serious to the point of the victim putting the person on a pedestal.
If a person has been tied they will:
- Have little or no contact with their family.
- Never fault the offender (the one who did the tying job) for absolutely anything, even if they hit the Pope with a brick in the back of his head in plain view for all to see, the victim will swear in court that the offender is innocent.
- Become zombie-like and no longer acts of their own free will in terms of the relationship. If the offender summons the victim, where ever the victim is, he will feel compelled to leave whatever he is doing and go to them.
- Will begin to neglect their own children with the original relationship and focus on the children of the tied-relationship.
- Hold the offender in high esteem even if the relationship is abusive, clearly unhealthy etc.
Please note that if it is a woman who is tied up she will act the same. Also note that if they are told that they have been tied by anybody at all (even if they are told by family member or even diviner), they will never believe and/or will hate the person who told them so, never dealing with them again. It is a pitiful sight. I’ve been there.
If you happen to have a partner or know someone who may be in this position, please follow this advice:
- Do not argue or get angry with the victim. Under no circumstances! Arguing with a person who has been tied actually works with the spell by pushing the victim towards the person rather than away from him or her.
- Do not try to tell them your suspicions, same reason as number one.
- Be calm and patient! The victim must see you as a safe place rather than a problem they want to get away from.
- Get a divination! Even after you have read this post and the person fits all of the symptoms I have listed, always get a divination. Not only will it tell you what is really going on but there may be more to the story that you need to know. Also this is a great avenue to finding the correct solution to the problem because unbeknownst to many people, spiritual solutions are not always one size fits all.
Tying jobs are most often locked away where no one can find it unless a competent spiritualist sends spirits to find it and pull it. Most of the time people do not rise from tying spells and nothing becomes of their life. They basically remain “zombies”. In other words, if the person were supposed to become great or wealthy in life, this can change if they are tied to a person.
What you must know about tying work is that the work acts almost like a cobweb tangling and trapping a person. This can either completely stop a person’s progression in life or severely hinder it. This is another reason it is a terrible work to do because one of the effects it can have is changing a persons destiny completely.
I could go on but this is it for now. I pray that none of you who reads this ever experiment with this kind of evil practice, or even encourage anyone to do so. I also pray if any of you here are victims, that God finds your relief.
Always remember that there is a solution to everything.
Good luck,
Obara Meji
wish I knew this in my earlier days, *cry* but the old Harlot never end up wid him anyways looool. Thank you obara you opened not only my mind but my eyes to many things, Can’t repay you but thank you my teacher.
I met my partner and we fought about his male friend as she does almost anything that man told him and defends him like no other now i moved out and here that since i moved out he is rejoicing and does as he likes in our home as he does not work. Till today i can’t go there
How do you end this if you see that someone was tight on this act?
Hi it seams as if I am into that type of trap my baby father tie me up for 6 years now too I need help some advice
Good morning,I know of someone who is going through this and it’s every thing that you said
Read the steps are listed
My baby father under a spell true he have a next baby but it comes like the child is not his come like the girl mother tie my baby father
How u pull the person from tie
How doni talk to u in private
You can email me at embracingspirituality@gmail.com. Also please choose another user name, someone here already have this one.
Ok I will thank u
I need your help
My boyfriend is under a spell by another woman and I dnt know what to do…he has all the symtoms it’s so scary at times. Help me plz
Please use another user name as someone here is already using this one, my email contact is on your first comment
I need your help with this person.. some of the stuff that you stated is happening to him… N he can’t do anything .. things always go wrong at times.
I know someone right now that told me he thinks his girlfriend tie him.
It happened to me. This guy from Grenada tied me to him from the time I was 12 all the way up to age 28 or so.. it was a hard curse to break it took me a year of spiritual warfare. I prayed for God to break the curse. After I got married I found out. I confronted him about it in an email. Then I had a dream years later that he signed a paper then passed the pen to me and he told me to sign, after I signed the paper my signature disappeared and he told… Read more »
please can you tell me more about this? What kind of warfare prayers did you use to pray? Did you fast too? Can you please elaborate on this?? I am also experience simptoms of a curse in my life.
Hi obara, can I ask if obeah or the spirit of confusion can cause your partner to be accusing you of cheating as well as arguments .
yes violet
yes Seek spiritual help, if a Pandit is your way to go, then run
yes Seek spiritual help, if a Pandit is your way to go, then run
My family needs your help or advice please. My sister was a pedestrian in a hit-and-run accident in February and almost died. My dad was just in an accident which he doesn’t know how he passed out at the wheel but he did and now is in the hospital with broken ribs and punctured lung. I almost got into a car accident maybe 2 weeks ago and my mother has been waking up with chest pains that she describes as a demon sitting on her chest and squeezing her heart. We are from Trinidad and believe we know who is… Read more »
My babyfather and i need ur help
I have this same issue,therw is this boy that had been disturbing since I was in 100l,i didn’t answer him bcoz I was not interested,hr continued till we got to 400l,he had to break up with his girlfriend because of me. We started dating, and had issues, only for me to find out that the former girlfriend has tied him… I really love him and don’t know what to do.. I need a solution.
I know how you feel my boyfriends x did this too and its ruining our life we need help
I am having these symptoms. My exhusband is with a woman from Jamaica. Can you help me?
Can u help me my son father is going thru this
” thou shalt not cause a witch to live “
how can i contact you
How can you help? I know someone who show these symptoms.
How can you help? I know someone who’s going through these symptoms.
My daughter’s father has all the symptoms outlined here. I need help to help him.
People actually believe in this stuff?
Hi am a victim of this .am going true this right now i need your help please
Quick question – what would happen if you bathed your bedsheets and not your body in a “tie-man” ritual bath soap?
Can 2 people bind one person?
I think im under a love spell with my wife. I dont want to be. What do i do?
A woman has put a binding spell on my husband (through menstual blood i’m told). They have had an affair for 2 years and then he left me and stopped all contact with me and our child. She did this purely for money and not love. Recently he talked to me for a while and without talking about a spell when I talked about her bad character all he would say is they love each other. But he didn’t sound as angry with me as he did some months ago. Then again he stopped contact with me and has done… Read more »
i have emailed you
I need your help email me please, fasttaxsolutions1@gmail.com
I am dealing with the same thing as the person above. Can you contact me?
@Tru, you’re the one who should send Ma’am Obara an email. Secondly, it’ll do you good to show courtesy by greeting at least. Ma’am Obara an Elder and deserves the respect even is she doesn’t ask for it and makes herself plain for everyone to see.
Send email to embracingspirituality@gmail.com
Love and light!!!
HI KAY, COMPLETELY AGREE …IT IS VERY RUDE…WE MUST LEARN TO DO BETTER.
I believe my husband is under a spell. He has this young girl and several other women. And in his eyes they can do no wrong. The young girl has other men and when people tell him that he defends her. I was nine months pregnant on February 5th and my baby died. A healthy baby boy. I believe one of his women who is Jamaican is working obeah on me. I treat him good but he always takes the women side over mine.
I would not even wish this for my worst enemy.
Hi, who do you know? Can he help me ?
Guys I need clarity. I don’t clearly see anything the way it is. I’m confused but I blame no one for this. But is this a curse or a person with personality disorder? I dont like him anymore. I hate him. But Im very obsessed thinking of him all day long. I get stresssed once he gets into my mind. Its like total manipulation. But I doubt it.
Hello I’m 21 years old and the other night I had a dream my moms ex husband and two of his sons were driving and they saw me at the side of the road so they stopped to talk to me and notice something glowing on my foot. We then tried to take the band off my foot and it wouldn’t come off , they tried to burn it and it just wouldn’t come off . I then spoke to someone who told me someone has tie me . But my mom also said dreams don’t come straight.
Hey Obara, Thank Heavens he’s off ur hands lol. A girl broke up me and the good man me have in my life years now and she has tied herself to him.. He has started treating me bad so I moved out with his child and she’s now at the house enjoying my glory and now my life is a complete mess. Nothing seems to be going right and I dnt think he’s aware that he’s been tied, I’ve tried to drop hints abt the drastic change in him even towards his kids. I would really like for this to… Read more »
Has it been fixed?
God what a good post. So informative. Whoa…
But I am grateful for Obara for helping me and my daughter cause what I went through was very nasty and ugly…thanks alot for helping me and my daughter Obara..
Love you Lucinda
Goodnight OM, and lovely bloggers
I haven’t read in a while or comment because baby a buss mi shut …
Anyway my mom have been tied for over 25 years and pitiful isn’t the word, I went to see her the other day and it was like I was dealing with a soulless body, not only dat, spirits tan up ina the home like foundation.. what an awful act to commit.
Hey can u share with me Wat u went through maybe it will help me out
I found false teeth wrapped in papers towels in one my bedroom drawer.my wife said her sister left it there although she has her own house 100 miles away. Also my wife has measuring tape on all the doors in the house.
Can you email me and tell me how she was able to help you
Did Obara help you?
I feel for whomever goes through that cause I went through it and it’s very nasty..my daughter father doesn’t see her for who she is…he always blaming her for the most ridiculous things and beat for it. These woman out there can do obeah but my mother always say…every thing is for a time and have to pay what they have and there is a God..we all have to pray that one day these men wake up and see what was done to them..life
Lucinda I’m going through this now and have been for years 🙁
You have to take action. And God will bless the steps taken. Faith without works is dead hun!
So are you saying that there is no cure for this kind of fuckery? ?
of course there is, but not all spiritualist know the solution, the persons has to be competent
So in most cases the victim won’t know something is wrong so it can’t be cured because I feel that’s what’s going on with my husband and his sons mother we get along just fine until there is a situation involving his son and then all of this confusion comes into our home and he doesn’t see it but I do and I wanted to get it removed off of him if possible? Can you point me in the right direction?
I understand your pain. My husband’s daughter mother does a lot of deceitful things to convince people they are still together and when I would point this out he would make excuses for the longest. I spoke to a spiritualist that confirmed he had some form of juju on him. With that information she recommended that I do house cleansing with sage and a 13 day bath. I also burn repel evil incense, but that method took some time. It was not truly effective until I used selenite to cut psychic cords from him and then prepared a 13 day… Read more »
“selenite” ..as in the crystal??
Can you share more?
This was done to a female in my family. I am crying as I read what you wrote. How do I break this? We are Christians. We have been harmed so bad. Please please please help!
This was done to a female in my family. I am crying as I read what you wrote. How do I break this? We are Christians. We have been harmed so bad. Please please please help!
I would have thought the one with the food would be stronger. A friend of mine tied her man recently. He don’t know she used his seen which you confirmed it can’t pull. i have witness how quickly it’s taken hold. He’s like a puppet. She ain’t a looker and before he was tied he use to cuss her he don’t anymore.
That’s just awful Michelle. What did you tell your friend? I hope you said something to her at least. She’s literally forcing him to like her and stopping him from his destiny. Smh.
She mek a sad mistake, it CAN be pulled, but only by knowledgeable people. She have repercussions fi get. no matter how awful he was to her, she has no right to interfere with his destiny, but he recompense is waiting around the corner for her! she cannot escape it.
I experienced this with someone I know. The man was on the verge of leaving her and she went away for a day and before the day was over he was calling her to come back and they have been good ever since. And the woman he really loves he barely talks to, when he basically lived at her house.
lmaooo l can’t believe him sey “fuckery”
[…] had two questions: Who did this terrible thing to her mother? And what caused it? She had read the Symptoms of Tying and Binding post and saw the signs in her mother and the result after the fact, but amid all this there were […]
Hey I am an 18 y o living in Jamaica and I think my father has been tied. Is there any way possible that my family members and I could free him?
Send your email to “contact Obara” on the home page
My brother as being tied and its affecting our family what can i do without him knowing
I seriously don’t want that this to happened to me a swear, I believe in the lord so I leave everything in his hand.
Help. This happening to me. How to break free? I have the stomach troubles too. Nyah wen
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Macy send an email to embracingspirituality@gmail.com
I know someone who is binded by his babymother. Reading this article gives me confirmation about what I believe is wrong with him. What do to do to unbind him?
Hi Tye, email me.
How do I contact u
[…] who came after me (she was suppose to be a one night stand, but she introduced obeah inna de ting, read here), and began to obeah the hell out of me, for my owna man, can you imagine? I was in hell, crisis […]
This is so crazy! I was dating a guy and everything was going nice. Then one day my so-called friend text him about her mother send some jerk pork for him. According to him it was weird and he wasn’t going to get it but I guess his craven belly make hm go pick it up. Anyway, he picked it up the Tuedsay morning and no later than Wednesday/ Thursday I start seeing changes in his behavior unbeknownst to me at the time that he ate the pork. Anyhow, he was on a trip and normally when he get back… Read more »
@Miss Stoosh, it depends on the kind of tying she did, if it is food it is easier to be removed that the sex one. He will only wake up if she dies, but other than that is has to be broken. This is real people, I Have been through it
How do you get through it? How can someone get this tie broken?
Wow! Yea, it is… I like watch it unfold in front of my eyes. Now, it seems he’s completely turned off from me. I tried to take him out after and he wouldn’t even fix himself up the way he normally does when we go out. It’s truly unbelievable! I do thank you Obara for all your insight.
Hi all. I am so glad I came here. I’m going through it with my children father. We were together for 18 uears and have 3 kids together ages17,16 & 4. He cheated on me with dis young girl and got her pregnant 3 times while he still with me and I never knew. Whrn I did find out I forgave him and went back with him but now he treats me like a dog and he living with her. He never treat me so like what he doing now and I am positive he is tied to her. A… Read more »
Hail Lisa yea mi nuh sorry for him at all. But alot a things happen and him never believe but after awhile him mus see something not right. Him all did sleep pon di floor one time and other unimaginables, foolish tie people do
Yes KB a dem yah mix up yah sweet. But on a serious note, He went out there on his own free will for a “One Night Stand” and get “FIX”, I know you are to forgive and forget, but no sah, and I would think for Obara to “UNTIE” him he had to first believe he was tied and he was programmed to turn away from her and his children so, mi doubt she could help him even if she wanted to.. Mi sorry but mi no sorry fi him at all, that him get Cheaters never prosper.
Lisa mi trace de ole tinking DUPPY Bat outta har cheap clothes, lol, but mi tank har fi tek de ole germs bukit offa mi han, lol
Hi Obara i know him and her didnt live happily ever after…so did u untie him from her or did he get another to untie him. Has the tie been broken between them? Did he get a cut n clear? lol did he ever realize he was tied to her and this is what helped him reach his dark place? mi know u trace her still but share little more lol
I know this is so real.. sad but true, now Miss bad pickney Obara, mi can imagine you a trace off the draws off the Germsy gal, who hype enough fi tell you say she tie the eeediot baby fada, well a that him get fi go cheat pan a sweet piece a woman like you, but is alright you dodge that bullet, everything for a reason, but still mi would love fi hear you a cuss the dutty gal..lmao
I guess in his own way he was fighting her actions. Even though, DANG!!! just don’t tie people. You never know what you are getting yourself into
It is hortible@Nyaha, I saw what it did to the wicked baby father, who was at this evil woman beck and call, but there were times he woke up a second, and beat the hell out of her
I don’t know your situation. But the one I am aware of. Yes it’s like whatever she was doing started to fade and needed to be renewed and he use to beat the crap out of her. Kick box tump especially out on the road beat wid matchete everything. But she fix him right back and he calm as a lamb
good afternoon good people. Interesting post, as usual Obara Meji. I have to admit this “tie” thing is big. Growing up we were told stories about how women (its always how wicked women are, so sad) tie men using different things like their cycle blood etc It was so prominent in my mind. I think often times we hear the negative aspects of our traditions. We grow to fear our traditions because they are associated with evil. I think what you said about not being able to “know” or think for yourself that you have been tied is a major… Read more »
How do you know you are tied?
Lol
How do I get untied?
Hey OM-
I hope people don’t think its always binding- My mother thought my dad left her because of this but I think they really just grew apart as alot of people who marry too young do-
Blessed Love OM—
Hey Lincoln
binding friends wow never heard of that one but I bet it happens- I have known of some instances back a yard where folks were so called binded by they significant others- well so people would say-
Hey Cami and KB
Yoyoeleuthere@gmail.com please contact me. This is urgent!!!! Its my mom
the ties that bind! guess thats where that term came from
Night all
Hi Seeker, it NUH easy fi pull oooooo
That’s what I thought. What a shame if the two of them miserable with each other but can’t get away.
KB, good one and I will add “till death do us part” lol
Yes@binding friends prosperity
I wonder how they feel knowing that the love isn’t genuine. Talk about short changing yourself.
I have heard of people not only binding intimate partners but also their friends as well. Dem just want manipulate people for their own personal gains. Wicked
O ma se oooooo Super Natural
Good afternoon Obara & fellow bloggers… My mother’s husband (because I refused to call him anything involving the word “father” even w/ step on it) tied her. She met him over 25 years ago and since then everything with her changes, he treats her like garbage in public and private an shi nah lef!!! She has abandoned her kids and family and the only thing that matters to her is the kids she have with him, the kids he got while cheating on her and his family so we decided to leave her alone…. She cannot give us (her kids),… Read more »
i personally dont want anybody who doesnt want me.im not going to waste my life and miss out on who is really intended for me. im to curious about the best God have for me
Right, Courtney!
Greetings Obara, Prosperity, Super Natural, and Courtney!
Obara, have you ever heard of somebody tying someone and then regretting it and now they can’t get rid of them? Is it just as easy to untie them if they change their mind?