Good day to all. I have been doing some technical work to the blog and this is why I have not been posting everyday. Writing takes time to do and I can not post when everything is in action according to my assistant. However, today I will do a short post on the symptoms of binding or “tying” as we call it in Jamaica, in other words how to know when someone has tied a person onto them. This topic is important because it happens so often and affects so many lives. It is a horrible thing to do to anyone, and it interferes with the destiny of both the one who did the tying job and the one who gets tied. Why would someone want to bind someone to them? I just could never understand it, but I will tell you how to know when it has happened.
I have written about this topic before. I shared the very personal story of my father and what he went through with a woman’s attempt to tie him ( read here), however what I did not share was how to recognize when it has happened to you. First let me tell you all that the person who is under the spell most often will not know that he/she is under a spell. He/she becomes like a zombie moving through life, yet at the will of the person who has him/her all tied up. In his (and this is for the woman as well) everyday life, he can make his own decisions, he can conduct his life as he or she sees fit, yet when he is around the person who has him under bondage, he becomes a little child. So much that his friends and family sees someone different from who they know and may wonder about the change. Most people who are under the influence of Obeah, as in being tied up, are afraid of the ones who has done the job to them. For the stronger person who is a victim of this, regardless of not knowing what has been done to him, he will not be willing to fall into total submission. His inner spirit will fight, resulting in the couple having a very rocky relationship filled with arguments and problems, but none ever leaving the relationship. I have seen this often. Not all tumultuous relationships are a result of tying, so please do not go pointing fingers at anyone.
If the “victim” of this Juju is normally a very gentle person, his spirit may submit to the binding, but he will have the feeling of despair in the relationship, yet he will not say anything but rather accept his fate with his other half. I have heard of people who felt they had no hope, after being berated and dominated by their spouse that they commit suicide.
There are times, and this depends on the job done, when the person will have stomach problems (a bad ulcer or other stomach ailments). This is when the Obeah has been ingested, which is the most popular binding job. One of the tying jobs which is the hardest to pull (but certainly not impossible for a competent practitioner) is when the binding is done through sex and fluids released. My ex wicked baby father’s wicked woman had tied him like this. It was horrible! It seemed she tied him every which way possible. To this day he has stomach problems and this began when he met and got with the she-devil.
This brings me to warn you all of something that got him into this situation. He had only hoped, according to him, to have a one time fling with this old hobbit (de wicked gal), but she thought otherwise or so she told me once when our tongues met up in quarrel on the telephone. Yes, while she and I was putting down some market woman cussing (tracing to all Jamaicans who know what market tracing is), she calmed down and very calmly begged me to please calm down. It took a hell of a lot to get me off the highest limb of the tracing tree, as I had hoisted my skirts and had flown up there, my mouth spitting fire, (we were on the phone, in person it would have been a fight, not fist with this yam strong gal, but baseball bat and two by fours kind, lol, backle and stone as we Jamaicans do). I was shocked to hear her pleading with me to stop cussing, so I drew a deep breath and stopped, just to hear what she had to say. Then she said, “Obara, it do not mek sense we quarrel anymore, I have tied him (in patois she spoke, but for the benefit of all, mi English it up) up very well and he cannot ever be freed. You cannot get him back. He thought he would make me a one night stand, and I knew that, but I had another plan for him. I did what I had to do, so why should we fight Obara? He can never leave me, so please calm down and just accept it.” I have never forgotten those words, nor have I ever met any other person with bigger balls, lol.
Yes, a sign of tying is when a relationship which was not supposed to go anywhere, suddenly gets serious, to the point of putting the person on a pedestal.
How to know when someone has been tied or binded through Obeah? There are many tell tale signs, some of which I just explained. Others are as follows:
No contact or limited contact with the family.
No matter what the spouse (the one who did the tying) does, he or she is not faulted for it, even if they hit the Pope with a brick in the back of his head in plain view for all and sundry to see, the one tied to them would swear in court that the spouse is innocent.
No matter what the person who did the tying does, the victim will never have any negative reaction to them, but will most certainly defend them in whatever negative they do, even if he/she knows it is wrong.
The victim becomes zombie-like and no longer acts of their own free will in terms of the relationship. If the person who has done the tying calls the victim, where ever he/she is, he will feel compelled to leave whatever he is doing and go to them.
If he had children outside the relationship or during the relationship (he cheated) and although he may love them, he will most often neglect them, or not be as attentive, or in the case of the wicked baby father, figet sey him have children at all, but he will take care of the one who has tied him children even if they are not his.
Please note that if it is a woman who is tied up she will act the same. Also, note that if they are told that they have been tied by anybody at all (even if they are told by family member or even diviner), they will never believe and/or will hate the person who told them so, never dealing with them again. It is a pitiful sight.
I could go on, but this is it for now. I pray that none of you who reads this, will never experiment with this kind of evil practice, or even encourage anyone to do so. I also pray if any of you here are victims, that God finds your relief.
PS: My advice to anyone who suspects they may know someone going through this is DO NOT argue with them. Ever. Under no circumstance. DO NOT tell the person of your suspicions. Remember this person is under a spell and the control of someone else. If you argue with the person, you will be doing nothing more than assisting the obeah to work stronger. You will be pushing that person to wherever they have been programmed to believe is their “safe place”, which is the person who tied them. Quickly seek a competent spiritualist for help.
Obara Meji is a spiritualist, Ifa-Orisa practitioner, and teacher of metaphysics. Since 2011 she has used her online platform to share her personal experiences to those seeking answers about spirituality. Her teachings will expand into short stories, novels, and public speaking to continue her mission of bringing enlightenment to the world.