Hello everyone! I know it has been a long time since I have written a post. I have been extremely busy helping those in need (spiritually) and also busy battling wicked people, the kind who ‘came upon me to eat up my flesh, but in war I am always confident!’ One day I will write a post on the betrayal I have faced this year. When I sat with my elders here in Nigeria, I asked them, where in my Ifa (my destiny) does it show that I would be going through this. Immediately they began to chant a verse from my odu, which explains the reason and the benefits of my challenges. It was a hard pill to swallow, but the explanations made me realize that I had signed up for this.
There were times after I became initiated into this wonderful tradition (The Yoruba tradition), I wondered at some battles I faced. In my mind, Orisha was supposed to save me from those that seek to harm me or try to destroy me. I was a spiritualist (who first practiced Christianity for a while before I left the church where I found no love, as is supposed to be the root of the christian religion), before I came to Ifa, although I had first been a part of the tradition by way of Lucumi, this was because of my dear Padrino. I was never a Lucumi practitioner, but my dear Padrino was and he was one of my spiritual mentors. I know that I had taken the right steps at the time in my life, by becoming an initiate into the tradition, but what I did not realize, was that initiation had now made me even stronger, and by this I was now able and ready to face all the challenges in life that would mold me into who I was to become. Was I ready for the journey? I thought not, I did not even know that there was a journey coming, but there was and I had to face it, and so I did, I had no choice.
If I had been born a coward, (I wasn’t, mind you, I only said “if”) I was a coward no more. My strength and belief was tested and tried as I battled bigger enemies than the wicked baby father and his equally wicked women and family, or The wicked witch, and others that I have written about here over the years. My own God mother became one of my biggest enemies which resulted in her death eventually, (she went against what Ifa teaches). I was her charge, her spiritual child, yet she sought to kill me and for reasons known only to her (read here).
In everyone’s life there are phases we all have to go through. One cannot be spiritually strong without going through hard challenges, always remember this! As a matter of fact, the more challenges one face, the stronger they will become, how about that? I know, it is hard, and as you face life, especially alone and with no one there to assist you, you wonder at different times in your life where is God? Some even wonder, is there a God? I have never wondered this, the teachings of Christianity (Blasphemy) drove the fear of this question so far away that even now that I do not practice the religion, the fear of questioning God is still within, lol.
I know many of you at times wonder, when will all this end? And perhaps for some, it never will. But I challenge you to review your life and all that you have gone through and are still going through, are you the same person as you were before all the battles? Do you still think the same way as you did before? Have you learned from your experiences? Do you now recognize some people or situations that are not good for you before you fall victim again? Do you observe more? Do you introspect more? Do you pray more? Are you closer to your creator or have you now started to embrace your spirituality more? In all that you have been through and/or going through (like me) do you still have the strength to go on? Are you willing to teach from your experiences? Do you think others can learn or benefit from your pain and sorrows, as I have been sharing my own here on this blog, unfiltered?
If your mother has been you nemesis (some parents are, believe it or not) did it make you a better parent, or even more compassionate to others? If family treats you bad, does it make you yearn for a family of your own, one you can love and cherish, such as which you never had? Have you found your talent, your passion, from maltreatment you may have received on this life journey you are on? Are you able to love and be kind to others despite the challenges you have faced in life?
Often times, only the strong ones, those who God knows can survive it, those who are healers, teachers, sages, counselors, artists, writers, storytellers, cultural perservers, etc are chosen to go through the worst of life, perhaps even in the beginning of their lives, only they are chosen to face these things, because of what they have to offer to the world as servants to humanity, teacher and comforters to humanity. We are all students and teachers alike. Some of us have been coming to this realm for a while now to help it elevate, and some, like myself, have volunteered to come back and teach. When we come in, all knowledge of who we are in the world from where we are coming from is left behind, and so to find ourselves and our mission, we have to go through struggles and challenges for us to do so. Believe it or not, the ones who suffer the wrath of family, are often times the strongest ones, and those who have volunteered in. If they have children, then their children are also apart of their soul group, (read here) and have also volunteered to come in to assist them in finding their path. It sounds complicated, but I will be writing about these topics more often for your better understanding.
You must, in your wisdom, know and understand that the betrayer/backstabber has his or her place in this world, no matter if he or she is cloaked with any earthly title i.e. Pastor, Imam, Babalawo, friend, mother, father, sister.
The wicked and evil man or woman who has challenged you in this life, has his or her place in this world, they are our teachers, and the ones who have been chosen to set us upon our new path or to open us up to the new phase of our lives. We may curse them, quarrel with them, hate them, I warn you however never lay a wicked finger against them, (cuss dem if you like, yuh ah human being although yuh learning this, but never harm them) as in (bad) obeah or any other diabolical means. Pray to God or whatever you believe in to remove them from your path. When you pray, hold your head (your Ori) on each side. Lament to your God about your obstacles, never single out a name, because even if you know the name of your enemy, there may be a greater one pulling his or her string that you may not know, so pray against “enemies” and to have victory against them.
The secret to life is prayer, but there is a certain way to get through and in the coming weeks I will be teaching you this.
I love you all
Obara Meji
“One cannot be spiritually strong if they do not face challenges.” -Obara Meji
“Bí igi bá rorò, ó níláti bá igbó gbé.” /
“Even if a tree is fearsome, it must still cohabit with the others in the forest” – Yoruba Proverb“All religions are valid as long as it teaches peace and love” – Obara Meji!
“Bad mind wuss dan Obeah!” – Jamaican Patois!
Cami de name whey yuh cyaan spell ah one ah me biggest betrayer(ole germs, and mi teach day bredda deh nuff tings,when tings, when him deh roun mi, a book and pencil fi write dung all whey come from mi mout him sey), aye sah, anuh silent mi dear, ah guh choo, mi did ah guh choo it. Ah nuh yuh alone people deal wid suh, memba how mi did love Ty and har husband, dem dry up wid mi and as God liveth mi Neva do dese people anything. (mth deh ah Farrin so she nuh need mi no… Read more »
POOF and she appears! lolol Obara Meji, you done know me embraced you full on so you could of at least ring and say bitch and hang up! I would have smile, laugh and wonder if you head tek you rather than say you gone.
Never feel you likkle watchman over pon the next site any hoooooooo!
Me love you same way.
@Nelle thanks so much, good to have you here with us also
Why every post so far it’s like you’re speaking to my life. When I was younger I felt so much stronger to be able to withstand these test. Now I feel tired and these things upset me mirethan before. I wish I can go back to “I don’t give a …. Mentality”. It was so much easier
Yazxy, I man just ah rise, mawnin oo!
Mawnin Obara! Miss yuh e c man! Mi figure yuh deh sleep suh mi n Cami did deh whispa ooo…. Mi hope yuh good eh nuh goodie! Lol @ “Goodie” mi nuh know how mi love pick up slang suh! Cami run een and dash out likkle and gone guh sleep as usual. Lol. Oh I miss this spiritual playground called home!. Ive been away for too long but my spirit always yearned and continues to yearn for this space and it’s energy. I dearly miss all my sweeties. One of my most cherished privileges to have been amongst some… Read more »
Yazz! nicely said down below. MUAH You and Obara time period strech out like elastic but I’ll still come and talk.
Hello other bloggers.
Wow. Oh my gosh. Good to see that you are okay. Though silent,you are in my thoughts. Always checking my emails for the post notications
Sa Foooooo howdy duh?
DREAM: (please read) As I was typing my other post I remembered a dream I had and want to share in here where hopefully people don’t just think it’s crazy, but it was weird. I had (attempted) sexual type sleep paralysis one night but that’s not what this is about. The following night I had a dream that I saw either a lot of ants or a shadow around some shirts in my room in the shape of a heart, and then I got a yucky big heart shaped rash on my back. Before that in the dream, just before… Read more »
Hi Nelle, you are alive to tell your story and to one day teach from, it, good is coming, just wait and see. God’time is divine time mi baby!
This I know is true. Just so hard when you are in the fog and getting beaten. Thanks for the reminder. Been through the bad, and now the worse, but I know old people often say things get worse before they get better sometimes…
Trying to hold on; just me being alive feels like a miracle, but I look forward to sharing the wonders of God when I do get my “good” and breakthrough.
Glad to have you back in cyber world and wishing you the best and victory in your own trials. ES Family will overcome! Ase.
You should have read that psalm for nine days straight, and the revelation would have come, sometimes we get messages like these to help remove negatives or to bring about positives or to clear our way. If you can, read this for nine days at the same hour everyday and be watchful for a change, let us know
Thank you so much for the reply, Obara! I have read it today and will continue at the same time for the 9 days, and hopefully come back to share with the family the revelation or any change I notice or whisper to you. I also started fasting yesterday before I read this, so I am more motivated to keep it up as it was a spontaneous decision — wish me luck. Funny enough, having to read the psalm was the first thing that came to my mind at the time and I did it for the next 3/4 days,… Read more »
This post’s title is like it came straight from my own spirit, heart and mind, and own musings. I thought 2015 was a rough year, I really did. And I did what I could to try to if not fix at least improve things, clear/open paths etc: sacrifice, sea baths and home baths (remembering to always wet my head though I don’t normally if just for pleasure), psalms, plenty praying, in spirit, pages of written prayers, begging ancestors, even some fasting–which if you know me, you will know that is like cutting me off from my only ‘friend’ lol But… Read more »
Hi Nelle, I just wanted to say to hold on. Sometimes I feel like things happen in your life for a season. Just like hurricane season where it’s cloudy, gloomy, bare rain and storms is like the same in your life. I went through a season like that that lasted over 10 years (because I couldn’t find good spiritual help). But I tell you some lessons that I learn couldn’t have been taught in no damn book. Just make sure you do all that you can like you mentioned you have been doing. Keep the faith knowin that your season… Read more »
Lolololol Lincolnnnnnn, yuh lan mi ah gurug!!!!
WHAT!!!! you back!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
thought you left me for another man!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Goddezz welcome I dear, thanks for commenting.
Carp long time honey, how yuh been?
KB, MI an yuh chat all de time, mi know YUH, LOYAL TO DE BONE AN NAH LEFF PUT YUH OBARA
YAZZYYYYYYYYYYYY, LAWKS MI MISS YUH LIKE RICE WIDOUTTEN GRAVY, LAWD MI MISTY!
Where is Lincoln, Nunu, mi baby Toy, Mi mad child Cami and de odd as, I am backkkkkk!!!!
Obara! You dash me wey as if me was under cook rice serve with a well cooked stew! Last time me and you communicated it was all good, then you went silent. The other site had falawano (name spell incorrect ) a write and still you remained silent. The last time I came here was 4/16/16 and you still quiet. You can’t say me dash you way, betray you or anything. Me ask me self wha me do you, but because I don’t have associates for too long (some by choice) I just accepted the silence. But still yet I… Read more »
Yazzy last time I address you hurricane was on its way to Florida…It never came lol.
NuNu had a job keeping her busy
KB and son were on a path
and my positive energy- Toy…I think about you quite often (((MUAH)))
everyone else me missed onu just the same.
Cami!!! Omg, heyyy sweetie!!! Lawd it’s been ages lol. Weh yuh seh, di hurricane never came so mi was never blown away suh mi nuh fi have no excuse fi missing suh long dont?! Lolol. I hope your well boo. Yuh know how life guh already. Highs and the lows… I’m appreciative of its teachings nonetheless. Cami mi have a likkle great news doa 😀 mi pinch yuh tell yuh soon!!!! Obara large up!!! Mi sis Nuns… KB… Toy… MTH, Safo, TY, and all mi other sisters and most Def mi brothers. Love unuh bad se way!! Shout out to… Read more »
Yazzy! lololllllllllll you up like me self yah? lolllllllll Now you come a keep me in a suspense…cho me a come back on when me wake up tomorrow late afternoon, so a hope you ready fi pinch me then.
Cami yuh STILL LOVE SLEEP!!? lolol. Youre too cute. Ok boo. Go get it. Mi wi pinch yuh soon. I’m in Germany so it’s almost 11a here.
Kisses baby girl. So happy to hear from you. Mi just miss mi Nunu ya now!
DWLN! you de farrrrrrr and I hope you enjoy it. A place i’ve always wanted to visit for some unknown reason. Alright make sure you back here around 4pm…and YES me love sleep still, lollllllllllllllllllll
Ok baby girl. When yuh done snooze hit mi up. Obara dem mussi still a sleep as well. Mi jus might head back to bed as well.
Lata sweetie
Yazzzy cho gosh man is years now i doan see yu eno a joke lol but it seem looooong. 😀 😀 😀 emotional is okay mumz miss you to pieces like reeses
KB how you and your son? hope all is well (muah)
Trust me when you in the midst of the storm it’s hard to have a glimmer of hope. Problems mek you weak out bad. No energy, no life like not even your brain can function. But then you just have to pray and ask for strength cause if you don’t fight you’ll surely die….and I shall not die. Not anytime soon, not due to cowardice, not due to giving up.
Not always cowardice. Takes a lot of strength to give up. ‘Letting go is the hardest asana’ (sometimes)/
Greetings my resilient one – Obara. Missed you so much as well as the blog.
Greetings my sweeties here [ESP blog fam]. Greetings to everyone….
Obara, another amazingly timed post! Thanks for the continued love and support thru your teachings. It’s very much appreciated.
“One cannot be spiritually strong if they do not face challenges.” -Obara Meji
Yazzzzzzzy oooo i have missed you mi fren 🙂 🙂 🙂
Hey mi SWEETIE KBBBBBBBBB!!! 🙂 mi bigggg frennnn Bubblezzzzzzzz!!!! I missed you way more sweetie! Yuh done know how mi easy fi get very emotional already so plz low mi! 😀
Kisses baby. So happy fi di link up. Kiss the baby fi mi.
Hi Obara, welcome back! I missed your daily blog. You are right about how we need enemies to help us handle trials and tribulations. But as you have taught us in class, prayers and daily affirmations help to combat the evil the enemy tries to send. Thank you for the advice and lessons on enemies.
Wow….What struck me is that you said don’t call your enemies by name….?? I learned differently…Identify them! But I loved the article and it reasonates with me so well!!! #thePainofBeingDifferent
bwoy this post made me tear up! smh its hard man just so hard at times. at times i cant help but bawl out why do they fight me..whoever my enemies may be may i have victory of them! ase!!!
Thanks for the comment mi bredrin, how wifey and dem pretty babies?
Thank you Lalibela my dear, we must all be there for each other. Iron sharpeneth iron, and the countenance of one brightens the other. Whatever you are facing, just know that you will come out of it stronger
Obara, my sentiments exactly!!!
Obara, she is doing well and the little ones are growing really fast; thank you for asking. I hope for the same on your end!!!
Seemingly, this is the year of challenges. Great teacher Obara Meji, you and your words are a God sent. You represent my hope; I know that you will prevail and as such, there is hope for me. Seeing this communication from you made my day! Perfect love to you and the ones–ashe.
Mawning Joy, how yuh do?
Good morning glad to see you back
This is life my dear friend, but just do your part and hold out a hand to a human being in need of love, care, compassion, inspiration, healing, mercy, etc, one who may need you to pull them up, even without asking. By me writing and sharing my own pain, I believe I am holding out my hands, palm open ready to pull you up!
This year have been very challenging for me, people I trusted kicked me hard, but I have not fallen, Dem cyaan keep mi down!
AMH, THANK YOU FOR STILL BEING HERE WITH ME, HOW FAMILY?
We are growing and learning and loving as best we can. Obstacles come and we hurdle over them, together. The little one has a laugh that could melt the iciest heart and her big sisters are just as beautiful and sweet as the day is long. Mr. is just fabulous, courageous and strong and just wonderful. Thank you for still thinking of us in your difficult times. I have thought some of the same things “why does the struggle never end” “where did I go wrong” when you are in the thick of a problem it is so hard to… Read more »
Thank you for the wonderful advice Teacher! Your strength is awe inspiring. This post was just the boost I needed.
Hey Vanessa!
I have missed you. Thank you. On my journey and proud.