Good day everyone, I pray all is well for anyone who reads this blog post and that you are all awake and conscious of our present lives. I woke up this morning in a rush to go out and buy some things I need and have been putting off for a long time. I do this at times, put stuff off and then one day rush to do them all at once.
I guess this is apart of my natural personality, and even though I become annoyed with myself at times for it, if truth be told I really love and enjoy every aspect of me, even the naive part, (I’m an Aries). Being naive for me is not being foolish although at times I can be, we all are, it’s about being trusting, too trusting.
Life has dealt me some terrible blows because of this personality trait, and it has taught me a lot from the experiences I went through because of this. I ask my self the question recently would I relive some of those awful times? When I trusted someone and they let me down, causing me shame, pain, tears and embarrassment (like what I told you all about de teefing man) and I truly want to say no. If I could erase even meeting this dranco, I would, yet who I have become because of what he and his counterparts did to me, if I were wise, my true answer would be that what I went through taught me a lot and made me stronger, so if that was the benefit of the hell I went through, then I would not change the experience at all.
I have become a new person, much wiser, (I feel) and even more content with my life. They, the ones who put “my enemy” through hell last year 2016, are left in the past while I have risen and have forged on ahead.
So many people are angry and filled with rage. So many carry the past with them, never learning from it, and have burdened their lives and anyone involved with them in this load. Ok, your mother did not love you while growing up. She will be the one with that burden ontop of her if she has a conscience and we all do. I am not dismissing this pain, after all my own only loved me up until I was eight years old, this is how I feel, she might not agree, but this is how she made me feel. The pain of being maltreated or unloved from family, especially your mother is very hard, but how long will you carry this pain? How long will you imprison yourself with what happened in the past? Yes the past affects your future, but really only if you allow it. I must admit there are times when I allow it to come to surface, and this is done when someone hurts me and all the bad things that I have been through suddenly comes flooding to the surface and I feel hot tears sting my eyes.
When this happens, little Obara (my youngest daughter, she is spiritually old) would look at me and say “stop it!” At this moment our roles reverse and I want her to comfort me, and she knows, but refuses because she knows that the tears are not from what I am experiencing at the moment but what that experience has dredged up from the past. So she stays akimbo, and tries her best to shake me back to the present, and while it may take a moment, (because sometimes wallowing in self pity feels so good and comforting) I will struggle to stop de cow bawling and return to my self. Slightly ashamed that I have not washed those memories out of my sub-conscious even though I teach people to lose them. I realize that there is a part of me that likes to hold on to the past, and when I get into my somber mood, I pull them up as comfort.
As comfort? I can hear you all thinking this as you read, but yes as comfort. Perhaps there is a part of me that knows the power of tears and that if I get really upset and bawl dung de place because of a bad memory, destruction can take the culprits. Well no more of that for this new year. We must heal ourselves from the past, as the Italians say “forget about it“.
We must move forward, and if bad things has happened to you on your journey, try your utmost best to deal and then heal from it, you must. This is for you and not the germs bukit them that has hurt or offended you. This year is the year of fulfillment, and until you have learned from your past experiences you will continue to re-live them.
If you find your self with the same kind of man every time you enter a new relationship, this means that there was something from the first one you needed to learn and did not, so you keep on picking him again and again. It is obvious he is not for you or there would not be any breakup, apply this for men also, if you keep getting the same type of women.
For the older people (or anyone) out there who have given up on relationships because “it just doesn’t work out” re-adjust your thoughts, and mentally explore the similarities in all the persons you have been with and find the common trait which did not make the relationship work. Sometimes the fault may even lie with you, so examine yourself also and give it a try again, but re-newed this time.
What you need to focus on now is your health and well being, because once this is with you, remember you are on a journey here in this realm, this life’s journey is bigger than you. Life is just for living, yes I do agree, but while living you must also accomplish. Accomplishing means to most people, wealth and power. For some it means a house, a family, a good job and a dog. For some it just means to exist in peace and no quarrel and for some it is to bring confusion anywhere they go (these people have their place in the world so we cannot cuss them). Whatever life means to anyone who thinks about it, there still remains the fact that whether you know it or not, we are all students here and also teachers and we must journey along through our destiny to be fulfilled.
On this journey we will meet the good, the bad, the ugly (me meet nuff ah dem deh) and the indifferent (oonuh neva know bout the indifferent don’t it?), they will all play a role in our lives. We must all remember to view them all as both students and teachers, because even the baby just born comes into our lives to bring us into another phase of it. This means we must push forward and leave the past (and by the past I mean not dwell on bad things from it, which can affect us spiritually, emotionally, mentally, from going forward).
2017 is the year of 10, which is really the number 1. This means we begin all over again and we make this journey alone. What do I mean? This year will remind us that all our decisions will be our own, we must take lessons from ourselves and allow ourselves to adhere to them. This year will teach us independence and also how to communicate with our own spirit, which most of us ignore. I hope you are conscious enough to get my message, but this is the year that you will (if confident and obedient enough) finally know who you are and perhaps what you will become. You will explore and be more creative, this is the time to let go, release and find yourself, but first leave the past behind.
I love you all,
PS: Blogger Prosperity, I hear a baby crying oooooo…….safe delivery my dear, please help me pray for Prosperity, as I am typing my spirit has tuned into her energy.
The spider that knows what it will gain sits waiting patiently in its web. The praying mantis is never tired waiting all day…….Yoruba Proverb.
All religion are valid as long as it teaches peace and love…Obara Meji
Have to catch up for the month. When academics call one needs to answer. *sigh*
Hope you guys are doing fine 🙂
Hi Butterfly Sister, I’m great, hope you good also!
MOVE FORWARD. That’s my mantra!
Marcus Garvey said, “If you can’t fly, run! If you can’t run, walk! If you can’t walk, crawl. But whatever you do, you must keep moving forward.”
Lovely post for the beginning of the year. Blessed.
Greetings Lady O and bloggers. Thanks for this post Teach. I will affirm that this will be a good year for me. I found out yesterday that the course I struggled with last year I passed. I am extremely happy. I have so much joy in my life right now. My joy comes from knowing I have this forum to express my feelings, be loved, vent and cheer on others. Congrats Prosperity on the birth of baby #2. Sa-Fo happy birthday when it comes. I think today is Yazzy’s birthday, happy birthday Yazzy. Obara thank you for taking the time… Read more »
MTH, prosperity baby nuh bawn yet, but enemies deh bout so we need fi strength har up wid prayers, so de ole dranco dem leave har alone be an mek de baby bawn in peace and Prosperity come through alright.
Good morning mums, glad to know you are safe. Prosperity, congrats to you on the bundle of joy, they are truly blessings and sometimes our biggest teachers! Feel like you we talking to me on this one O. In the past years I have struggle with being present as I have and sometimes still allowed the past to hold me back in a way. This year thanks in part to mums and dayo. I have vowed to be present and have seen myself gaining more patience and calm , as before the past riddled “my enemy” with anxiety. I’m able… Read more »
Mi always love read yuh comment dem Queenie, love and light
Thanks mums. It means a lot coming from one writer to another!!
Where I am now is a product of all the bad I’ve gone through, I always thank the people who have hurt me cus had it not been for them I wouldn’t be here on this path. I have my times where I go in my moods because of the past n I cry and start shutting down but nowadays I can hear a voice in my head saying bawl if u a bawl but mek the past stay right weh it deh n move on. Don’t stay stuck ! It’s true, I find a little comfort in wallowing in… Read more »
Yuh welcome Owasinda, Love and light my dear
Thank you Cami HNY. Someone here is a January baby like my self. I think it was NuNu so happy birthday when it comes!!
Love and light Lucinda
When I read this , I see myself in that story cuz my life was some what similar but I learn to love on my own with my ancestors help and love my daughter with all I have in my heart. My past does come back but what I always tell myself..why I am crying? And why I am keep bringing up my past. .these people who had hurt many of us have move on and live…we all need to let go and love who you are and look how much people we had help on the way…always give yourself… Read more »
Hi Prosperity prayers upon prayers for you! Look at your name hun lol Prosperity! Congratulations Mommy 2x! When our prayers go up, may our ES family blessings rain down! ASE ASE ASE
Ase!!!!!! Thank you KTB
Obara this post was profound!!! Loved it. So much in it resonates with me however this really grabbed me “I hope you are conscious enough to get my message, but this is the year that you will (if confident and obedient enough) finally know who you are and perhaps what you will become. You will explore and be more creative, this is the time to let go, release and find yourself, but first leave the past behind” Thank you my sister! Woooiiieee I have to read this again later wow!
Cami come back ioooo, lol
Morning…prosperity congrats. Lola I’m in the same ‘want a GREAT job’ with you too.
I see you’ll over hear crying…me gone leave unu. Lololol
What prosperity you are having a baby- CONGRATS!! Bless up mommy and pray that all will go well- will it be your first?
Thank you Lincoln. I’ll be a mommy for the second time.
Obara it look like you antenna chune een pon di radio fi true. Something look like it gwan mi love, but mi just a gwan humble an hole mi corner. Yuh frequency tun mummy, mi nah lie.
Bloggers I’m asking that you all pray with me, as Obara implored. Unu remember di time unu pray fi di lady (forget her name) who needed a job and den work offer start tumble dung pon har. Mi need deh kinda prayer deh for all to be well with me. Please and thanks.
Prosperity I’ve got your back. I’ll keep you in my prayers. I’m believing Divine to direct me to a job opening/opportunity – Kindly keep me in your prayer and I kindly implore everyone else too pls. All prayers will be highly appreciated.
Thank you Lola. I will keep you in my prayers for your breakthrough.
Will keep all of you in my prayers too. Prosperity , Obara really have antenas fi true. Before reading this I was here lamenting about some really deep and hurtful events in the past and will soon have to face the people responsible for it. Healing for everyone mi seh. We can do this. Blessings to all.
Great! Ase….I receive that word….This year I will know who I am and know what I will become! I’m excited. Ive been doing a lot of reading and trying to understand the Ifa Tradition. It is NOT easy but I’m eager to learn. Thank you Ma Obara…Ive always wanted the answer to the very question…who am I and what is my purpose here….MY NUMBER ONE UNKNOWN.
Greetings Dear Obara, Greetings Dear ES family. Thank you Obara for another timely post. Sending you energetic Love. There’s a common saying….’ Experience is the best Teacher’ sharing your experience is a common theme woven through your blog. It’s effects leads us to enlightenment, empowerment & positive learnings for us all to stay present in our lives enriching our spiritual development journey (Obara never ceases to remind us to stay present in our lives). Last year November made it a year I’ve been out of the Church, My mother in the past used to quote the Bible or constantly remind… Read more »
Directed by your ori, but as a Yoruba woman you do know that from time to time you must feed your ori Lola so that you can make GOOD decisions, lovely comment as usual.
Absolutely, very Important – Thanks for reminding me Teacher Obara. Your response was very much needed.
Obara my mother your shout out has brought me to tears. Mi a gemini and mi easy fi cry, tek time wid me oh. Thank you so much for all that you have done and taught me. More blessings to you and your beautiful children. When you write about them and how spiritual knowledgeable they are, it puts me in awe of them. Since reading your blog post about 2017 being the year of fulfilment it put me in a reflective mood. 2007 was a challenging year for me. My son was born that year, months later his father was… Read more »
Lawd God Prosperity mi deh yah ah bawl tuh, lawd God!!! Yes mi vulnerable and transparent, caws Aldoe mi know nuff nuff mi ah human being and de human being inna mi have feelings, why mi fi act big, bad and mighty when we all learning together, no sah. You will give birth with ease by the power of Osun my diety, and the baby will be a great blessing. Embracing spirituality third baby aldoe natural keep fi har own quiet!
One more spiritual baby!!!!. Blessings pon top a blessings.
Good day Ms. Obara,
Why yuh mek me cry for the first time this year!!
Am glad I did. Am crying away all negative energy and pressing on ahead. My hurt is diminishing.
This is a refreshing post to start the week.
My motto is ‘Once there’s life…There’s HOPE’.