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A THING CALLED LIFE

No one can claim to be an expert on life, we can certainly testify to our experience here, but to say we “know it all” would be a fallacy. Yes, this plane, this earth realm with all its joys and sorrows, is a school, but how does it serve us in the after life? What is the purpose of this schooling if we only ought to be here just for a time? The ancient Kemetians (Egyptians) lived their lives preparing to die. Although they had life, they communicated often with what was beyond this life and worked earnestly in preparation for the after life. They are highlighted in history in doing this, but other cultures have done this also.

Someone I know lost their father recently and the family began a squabble over who gets what. She told me that the father came to her in a dream and gave her a message about the troubling situation that was among the family. As she told me the dream, I shot up straight and interrupted her quickly and said: “You are not suppose to see him now. My God, they are interrupting his journey!” I continued to tell her that he has a journey to complete across the river and it was a rough passage. When he leaves the boat, he will be held at a holding post and cleansed there for 45 days of our time here. Time does not exist there. As I shouted this to her (with passion, I have no idea why), I saw the journey. I always see it when I get into these conversations. I saw the dark, dreary, and dismal wet setting. I saw the canoe sailing across the waters and felt the cool, cramped discomfort of the boat ride. Those who rode the boat did not think about the life they just left. This is not the way all people cross, but a large amount of them will cross this way and there is a reason for it.

Growing up I had always been contemplative about life. I could never understand why there was sadness in the world. It bothered me. I thank God for my trusty thumb which was my comforter when I was sad. Most often the sadness would come from seeing other people sad or worried. My enemy would worry for them and joined them in their sadness. I believed in the Christian God back then, I was a child born into this doctrine and for a while it served its purpose, as my wise son pointed out to me, “mommy, some people have a need to believe”. Whenever I saw people in a predicament I would call upon God and pray for them, yuh know that highly energetic, fervent Christian prayer, a greater prayer warrior than I could not be found lol.

When I grew up, leaving the safety of my parents and began to face life on my own, it was tough. The bubble I had lived in all my life, the total harshness of the world sat upon my shoulders and also I was affected even more so by the plight of others. While I had nothing as I walked along life’s way, I was never bothered by that. The material world had never impacted my mind at all. I perhaps had no ambition, in the sense that although I wanted to learn, I had a hunger and a thirst for knowledge, it was never to do anything with it. I had no desire to be a doctor, lawyer, Indian, Chief. The early pregnancy disappointed my parents, shamed them to say the least, and so I strived to earn some degree to let them see that at least I still did them proud. All of that was really for them, never for me. I had no plans for the future, my plan was just to be, yet I worried about what others wanted me to be.

All I wanted to be was happy. If I had food, a roof and health for myself and my children, in my head I thought that was enough, oh and my books. My thumb had been out of my life for quite a while now (sucking my thumb, my fingers are all still here, thank God) and I had missed its comfort, but it would have seemed silly for me to be sucking my thumb along with my children, so I gave up trying to reconnect with it, I had tried several times, I must admit.

Sometime ago I went through a personal hell. I hinted about it here on the blog and although I am very transparent here, I have yet to write about it. The wound is still raw, but its healing. I began to think to myself as I lay in bed with only the hum of the a/c for company, while staring up at a dark ceiling, my room illuminated by outside street lights and what nature provides, a thought comes to me. I have been through a lot. Had it not been for this blog and writing my truth, not caring about your judgment or even knowing who will read this, or if anyone would; had it not been for this platform, many things I now know about me, my life, my journey, my way, I would not have figured out. Yes, I am the teacher, but most importantly I am the student.

I often want my readers to comment so we can have dialogue, but it is sparse, and at times I feel like stopping. In my barely lit room, as I look up to my ceiling, I realize, there is no need to urge you to comment, this blog is really for me. It seems to be my therapy. I am happy for all who are here and participate, but what is important is that this place where I come and write spontaneously, where I joke and quarrel and analyze and share and overshare, this blog is like the therapist couch, it is for me.

Had it not been for it, my writing, my story, I would not have realized that my mother is one of my greatest teachers. She told me to leave her house and what an adventure life has been for me, a fascinating one, with many challenges, but I faced them and overcame. The wicked baby father, although to the physical eyes and looking at it from an earthly perspective wronged me and the children, he did, but spiritually, he and his wicked girlfriend and his evil mother and family woke me up and set me on my path. I would not have realized this had I not written it out. As I wrote the story, telling you all what I went through, sharing my experience in order to teach from them, the realization would come to me that all this that happened to me, was supposed to, it had to in order for me to find my way. I had something greater waiting for me.

Daily as I reflect upon life and the cloud that sometimes comes with it, I realize more and more everyday the wisdom of what is superior to us mere mortals. The sadness I felt for others while I grew as a child showed me that I had compassion, and if I had compassion for even those I had never met then I had a kind heart; and as a human being, I was here to assist my fellow beings. The enemies I have so far encountered on my journey (and counting, mi nuh know why dem nuh guh chuck off inna dem mumma) have their role to play also.

Life is a gift. We must cherish it. Always remember my people, prayer will bring you through. It is more powerful than you think. See the glass half full at all times. , it will allow you to deal with the pressures of life better, if you just keep an optimistic view. Remember to look for the lessons problems bring when faced with them, when the smoke clears all will be revealed. Share wisdom with others, you may save a life in doing this. Love yourself always, this is important. Make quick decisions, and never linger into what is not conducive to your spirit, trust your head, trust yourself. Live!

I love you all,

Obara Meji

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Kay
Kay
4 years ago

This post made me heave a relieving sigh and i felt a certain kind of peacefulness within me that all will not just be well, but that it is well.

The same way your writing for us to read is therapeutic to you is the way I feel when i read your blog.

Please don’t get tired. I too wish more people would participate because there are more teachings in your response to comments.

Remain blessed Ma’am and Lil’Obara too.

Omo
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Omo
4 years ago

Wow, 45days thank u for always sharing,love and light mama

Sharon
7 years ago

Obara, thank you for writing this, it has touched me to my core and I weep tears as I type. Not tears of sadness, nor tears of joy, simply tears of recognition, remembrance, resonance, resilience. Tears of release. I may not comment often. In fact many times, I read your posts and I wonder how you know so much about me and my life, and I am moved to comment, but I want to sit and converse and ruminate and dialogue, and I need time for that… (And sometimes I fear that I might tell too much and I resist.… Read more »

Zulupickney
7 years ago

Oh my god I love this message it is so beautiful & full of wisdom, this has given me more strength to face life’s challenges head on , thank you so much for this Obara may the Divine Energies continue to bless and protect you and yours always, one love….

KTB
KTB
7 years ago

45 days, huh? I had in my mind 9 not sure where that came from. Recently when watching the Gods of Egypt, I noticed the afterlife seem to play a big part of the movie and the world the dead travel was just as you described Obara. Soon rally back…

MTH
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MTH
7 years ago

Special greetings Teach and fellow bloggers. I really appreciate you and your dedication to the blog which has helped many, myself included. I have been inconsistent, but I will be here like back in the old days. I think I have gone full circle. In the bad times it was this blog that helped me. In the good times it was this blog I came to celebrate. Teach, you might sometimes wonder if you are impacting others with this blog, but I am a living, walking breathing testimony. In you story about Killfuss (Sharon and the baby duppy). I learnt… Read more »

lila
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lila
7 years ago

dear Obara, hello everyone, yes you have a beautiful heart and sometimes when I read you looks so much like i’m reading myself and I got teary towards the end. Olodumare continue to bless and uplift you ma’m . Amin
Love and Light.

Cher
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Cher
7 years ago

Excuse my manners hello Obara and ESP members, hope everyone is doing well this day.

Cher
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Cher
7 years ago

Love and nuff respect for you Lady O, your blog is like none other so transparent and down to earth. I appreciate everything you have ever written that I got a chance to read. I for one is very good at having a discussion in person or on the phone but for me to write to express how I feel after you the teacher have written…… no sah maybe one day we could all have a group chat then i believe people would never keep their mouths shut. That was just my opinion! I truly appreciate and thank the God… Read more »

Cher
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Cher
7 years ago
Reply to  Obara Meji

Obara my dear I am here, wow you were thinking of me and my parents today. That is wonderful!!! Hope you and your family are doing well, you know NY hustle and bustle. I have to catch up on my reading, you are always in my thoughts Queen.

SeaQueen
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SeaQueen
7 years ago

Good morning mums and ES family. O, this forum serves not only as therapy for you but for all of your bloggers, myself included. I say that because many times your experiencES serve as a mirror. They allow you to sit back, analyze and reflect on some experiences that a person may have gone through and didn’t understand why certain things happened in their life. I can personally attest to that type of reflection. And say it has helped me tremendously in my journey. You’re story and the way you translate resonates deeply in the hearts, minds and souls of… Read more »

SeaQueen
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SeaQueen
7 years ago
Reply to  Obara Meji

Just showing some gratitude!!

You all mek up name for the group??? We need to start a suck finger support group on here dwl. “Suckfingerites Anonymous”

Mjw87
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Mjw87
7 years ago

Wonderful article sis. Thank you. I am currently going through some major challenges and needed to read this. Talk about divine timing. Keep on keeping on sis. Blessings to you.

Mjw87
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Mjw87
7 years ago
Reply to  Obara Meji

Greetings sis. Yes mi dear, I’ve been caught up with this thing called life….lol.
Indeed I am praying. Thanks sis. Bless

Lincoln
7 years ago

what’s up Sis my teacher- Always hearing you talk about 45 days. You told me this on the 2 death close to me last year.. I am so interested in knowing why 45 days if on the other side there is no “time” as we know it . Also I so believe it is our duty teach others. For many years I have been a mentor and coach to kids, my wife the same. I think this is the best thing we can do for our community and world, nurturing others and teaching them from our experiences. I wish that… Read more »

Lover of light
7 years ago

Hi My Obara I just wanted to tell you sooooo many thanks for being there for me I really appreciate it cause I usually don’t get genuine people in my life. You’re a life changer. I am just getting a chance to reconnect with the blog after many weeks of trials and tribulations. I am reading this post and I like sue started to cry because, all I ever wanted is for people to be happy and as long as I had roof and food for my children and I and some to share I was super happy. But then… Read more »

sue
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sue
7 years ago
Reply to  Obara Meji

It stir my soul teach. Plus I missed yoyr teachings

sue
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sue
7 years ago

Reading this made me cry from start to finish. Everytime I’m trying to leave a ccomment service always interfere and i lose my cool and start cuss nonstop.
How’s the book writing coming along? Hope all is well with you teach

Kevin
7 years ago

Obara. Hope all is well. When you write like this you give me and I’m sure many others who read this blog comfort and make it so much easier to accept and move on from the daily bullshit we all see in our lives. Thank you

IBQueen
7 years ago

I can feel love and realness all up in this post!

Natalie
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Natalie
7 years ago

Hi Ms. Obara,

This post is a timely one. Looking back sometimes when I reflect on my challenges I wondered how did I get through this. Life is really what we make it.

The struggles continue but we cannot give up. There’s so much to be grateful for and lots more to accomplish. A dear friend of mine went to China to do a course. When she returned home she was so grateful for every little thing. She saw a different side to everything there.

We have alot of lemonade to make when life throw lemons at us.

Stay blessed

Nordette
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Nordette
7 years ago

Hello teach,
I always look forward to reading your post and there’s never a dull moment with you. Continue the good work. Looking forward to see what’s next on the journey with you teach.
Nuff respect ✊

Lucinda
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Lucinda
7 years ago

Obara I can feel your pain but in time it will fade away. Then you will think ha, this I had to go through. Life…it is a gift and we all have to appreciate it. thanks cuz part of you remind me of me and the hardship I went through. Thanks again for your words you write from your heart. It helps me to push further my journey
Love and light

Zatthu
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Zatthu
7 years ago

Love this post! Sometimes I feel that way with all my gifts and talents that I lack drive or ambition. My family always says I just go with the flow with no real passion, I am now discovering through my spirituality what that passion is. I have learned through this blog and your writings O that life is not always what it seems. As I try to become wiser in spirit I see people and the interactions in my life differently. I find that finding your life path is sometimes lonely and solitary but this blog is a place of… Read more »

OWASINDA
7 years ago

Another awesome post ! Please don’t stop writing teach! I don’t comment often but I appreciate you and this blog so much. Love and light to you and your wise children and again thank you for all your help.

Carpediem
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Carpediem
7 years ago

Dear Obara, I thank you for sharing your life experiences and knowledge with us here on the blog. This blog is a great forum for shared experiences. If it were not for this blog and your classes, I would never have found out that someone was trying to keep me down (you now wha me mean), preventing me from working, etc and the power of water!! Thank you and keep blogging. Blessings!

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