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THE LESSONS YOU MIGHT HAVE MISSED IN LIFE

It has been so long since I have made a post, I know. I have been a little busy but I am here now! Thank Olodumare!

In my journey I have heard many peoples stories and through them I learn a lot. Although these people may seek council from me about their lives, I realize that as I council them or do divination for them, or even just talk to them – I learn so much.

I am very big on lessons and understanding lessons from life experiences, even if they are not my own. Today, I wish to share some consciousness with you all, as someone I know has just passed a major phase in his life.

There is a young man that I know, and I’ve known him for a while, who often calls me about a new problem with whomever he is currently dating. Because some things I am about to say is negative, and though I am not using his name, I will refer to this young man as “his enemy”.

(if you are new to this blog, negative statements about oneself or those you love should be replaced with “my enemy” if speaking about yourself, or “his/her enemy” if speaking about someone else. This is because negative statements should not be affirmed onto yourself. This was a great lesson I learned while traveling Yorubaland with my tradition). 

His enemy realizes that every relationship he has ever had (and he is not yet 30) has always ended in argument, disgrace, rejection and the women fighting to get rid of him no matter how good the relationship was in the beginning. This young man is very handsome, very talented, and has everything that most women would desire. Yet, by looking at him and his talents and social circles, one would believe that he would be confident within himself and move on when one relationship fails.

Instead, however, when these women begin to reject the relationship, he clings on to them and fights desperately for the relationship, no matter who the girl is or whether or not he is actually interested in her. From a materialistic point of view, many people have asked him “what are you doing with someone like her?” As this young man often searches for unfortunate women with troubled pasts in order to rise them. In other words, he is attracted to women who some may call “damaged goods”.

So recently, as in last week, yet another relationship has just ended. He called me and we spoke at length about it, but as we spoke I asked him the question:

What have you learned?

For a moment he couldn’t answer. I then pushed and told him that one of the things I teach is that when a person experiences the same thing over and over and over again, there is a lesson that they are missing. It is like taking an exam and failing that exam and having to do it as many times as it takes until you pass, which will take them to the next grade. In other words, in real life experience, it is only when facing the same negative situation but later understanding why , that you can be catapulted to the next phase of your life.

As I told him this, I could see where consciousness rose from his head and the light began to shine. He then narrated a story to me…

He told me that the day the girlfriend told him to leave her house, he had 6 giant boxes all packed with his clothes and belongings with him. He called an Uber and lugged all 6 large boxes to the taxi. After filling out paperwork at the Storage center, he asked the clerk, “Who will help me take the boxes to the storage room?

To which the clerk responded, “Sir, this is Self-Storage. You have to move your storage yourself.”

He said immediately he realized that for the first time in his life there was no one to help him. He, at that moment, realized that he had to wake up to his independence and rely on himself. It was a moment that brought tears to his eyes, he told me. And so he struggled alone with 6 heavy boxes, lugging them to the storage room.

It was during this move that the realization came that all his life he had had helpers. He had a mother who sheltered him and gave him anything he wanted, and he was not relied on to do or pay for anything if he did not want to.

So while he thought he was unfortunate in love, the women he dated were not lovers but teachers. The women do not know this, but their Ori and his Ori know who he is destined to become, and so their job was to deal with him harshly so that he can overcome his deep fear which caused him to cling to them. Another lesson he needed to learn was the lesson of responsibility.

I asked him, “When you moved in with her, did you pay any bill?”

He told me, “Well I buy her anything she wants.”

I asked again, “But do you pay any bills in the house?”

He said, “The money I spend on her in food, taxi, clothes, shoes and jewelry adds up to more than her bills.”

I told him that this was not the same. However, In his responses I saw that he could not see his own faults. The reason he had been going through the same situation in relationships, is because he had missed the lesson every time. What he needed to learn from these women  has not been realized. What he needed to learn from life has only just begun the day when he stood in a new town carrying 6 heavy boxes alone.

When life knocks on your door, most often people tend not to hear it. We find ourselves and our paths through our experiences and through our ability to understand things that happens to us, be they positive or negative and how they affect us in our everyday lives.

A person who is destined for greatness will stumble and fall many times. This person may face imprisonment, he may face homelessness, he may meet some of the vilest people in life and have to contend them or battle them in order to survive, they may have to battle their own family. Or he may even go through a dark period of sadness and loneliness. Life lessons are harsh and many people put a rope around their neck because they can not bear the burden that they carry.

But if only they had the insight to know that the person who bears the heaviest load are the ones who are destined for greatness. Many people may read this blog and say,

But Obara, I know a woman who suffered since she was born to the day she died, but here you’re saying that people who suffer are destined for greatness.” 

Please note that all rewards are not given to us here  on Earth. Some people get rewarded for their service on earth in their new life, after they have unplugged from this realm.

People who live and die this way are examples for others. They have made contracts within the realms of spirit to come into life and leave behind a great lesson for others, if it was even learning endurance.

Our experiences through life at times make us wonder about our journey, especially if you are not looking at your life through spirituality. But you ought to know that everything that you go through, every experience that you live, from what you wear, how you comb your hair, who you marry – all of these have some influence on your path and how you go forward in life.

The clothes you wear, up to the color, pulls toward you a particular energy that can take you from one step to another – like the extras in a play working to push you to the next phase of your life. Life comes in phases and these phases only open up when you have gotten the lessons or have understood the lessons made for you. You can only advance after you have come to a realization.

One thing the humans must know is that they should try to understand hardship, things that are not going your way. Sweet things are certainly enjoyable, but when hardship, pain and sorrow comes, humans tend to want to quit or become sorrowful, fearful or lost. But hardships are like the exam you do not know how to solve, but there is a solution if we are able to calm ourselves internally and externally and realize that these impediments have presented themselves because it is now time to move on to the next phase.

As with the young man’s story above, if you find yourself in situations that you live over and over again, then it is time to look into them and think “What is the lesson that I have missed? Where do I go from here when I find that lesson?

Another thing I want you all to know is that there are “waiting periods” in life. Periods where you have no friends, no job, no social life, no love life, and you feel as if you are alone with no plan and no where to go. You can not see the future and you don’t know what life holds ahead.

Know that this waiting period, this time of being alone, is only for a spell. While this is happening, a greater plan is being created for you, and when it comes, it will come with unspeakable joy.

Obara Meji

Eye O Ni Wi Feye Pe Okuta N Bo – A bird will not tell (another) bird that a stone is coming. / One will always save themselves first out of instinct, not wickedness. – Yoruba Proverb

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Obara Meji

Obara Meji is a spiritualist, Ifa-Orisa practitioner, and teacher of metaphysics. Since 2011 she has used her online platform to share her personal experiences to those seeking answers about spirituality. Her teachings will expand into short stories, novels, and public speaking to continue her mission of bringing enlightenment to the world.

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Lateefabiola
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Lateefabiola

Av learnt some lessons here plus what I knew before

Husband of a tied woman
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Husband of a tied woman

Obara,
I really enjoy reading your posts. They contain so much wisdom because they are based so much on your own experiences …not on something you read someplace else.
With that being said, I struggle with what you have said above. I truly get that some people like the man you mentioned must learn his lesson in order to move forward, but I’m going to throw something at you from the Bible because I am a Christian. In the Bible, we are taught a couple of things which are not really highlighted by many modern churches who are currently not teaching Christianity, but something very different (it is something that they have created outside of the Holy Bible).
Start with the children of Israel who went searching for the Promised land and never made it, but instead were left roaming in the desert for 40 years because they refused to hear and obey God’s word. So, God left them there—to roam the desert. This is reiterated in the Book of Jude in the New Testament…that God left them there to roam the desert for 40 years! FOR 40 YEARS! That means they did not fulfill anything in their lives on Earth other than to disobey God and roam the desert – and I would add that this experience was all for nothing – except punishment for disobeying God (I’m blaming them, NOT God).
Now, fast forward to the new Testament. Remember John the Baptist? Well, guess what happened to John the Baptist. He gets thrown into prison for defending the institution of marriage. Then, after spending a very long time in prison, he gets beheaded. Now, he waits for Jesus to rescue him, but after waiting for a very long time, he starts questioning Jesus — after all, we are told that if we wait and we are patient, we will be delivered …however, that is not what happens to John. He dies. (we are not told what happens to him in the afterlife, we simply know he dies and we assume he made it to Heaven).
Almost all of the apostles end up in tragic circumstances … the reason I am mentioning all of this is because in a lot of those cases, their circumstances go from being bad to worse and at least in this lifetime, they are given a very harsh outcome. Now, I am a true believer, I believe that their reward is in Heaven (not here). But you do have to wonder how so many people through out history (no matter how well intentioned), get such a raw deal. They really do suffer – in the extreme. So, while I would like to believe that something good is going to come out of such adversity, loneliness and tragedy, I have begun to wonder if (like John the Baptist), some of us are doomed to destruction no matter what we do. There is a clear Scripture on this including when the Old and New Testament tells us that God HATED Esau but loved Jacob (story of Jacob & Esau).
Because there is a common thread in a lot of the stories you have shared with us and a common thread that runs through other stories where good gets crushed by evil and while good may ultimately be rewarded, there reward is nowhere to be seen on earth (with a human eye).
I have shared with you in a different post that my wife was taken from me by a fat old ugly witch. Even if one is to say that I have karmically received a punishment for something I did (and I do believe we are all imperfect human beings), the punishment does not fit the crime. I have done nothing even close to deserve what I have received…not even remotely. There are people who live for being evil. I don’t see them suffering the way some of us do. It is absolutely bizarre that some who live purely evil lives are seen as having abundant lives and then those of us who wish to love and serve others are simply crushed …. Over and over and over and over again. It just does not make sense. Something is just way off with all of this. Because I do understand that we can gain spiritually by suffering adversity, but some of this adversity seems to be very extreme and very cruel for no apparent reason.
I still need to schedule a reading with you Obara because I am truly at my wits end. I do not know what to do.

Mehk
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Mehk

This is an excellent post as always Obara! I feel as if learning our lessons are also putting it into practice, and I say that to ask this question, does the universe ever test you on something after you’ve learned it to make sure that you actually put it into practice?

OTS
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OTS

Ma, what a wonderful message and a timely reminder that everything we go through is a lesson and we must use our spiritual understanding to find out the truth

le.tigre
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le.tigre

This was refreshing.

Ms. Knowledge
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Ms. Knowledge

You give me great lessons and insight when i read your post. Thank You

Marjorie
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Marjorie

Thank you Obara i did miss you

KTB
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KTB

Ooooook so a the waiting period I’m in now. is there a time line? I understand spiritual time is different from the physical.

KTB
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KTB

Well look like me skull skool or mi head tuff cah I keep repeating grade 5 loooooool no sah mi nah laff cah it’s true! O ma se!

RBH
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RBH

Thanks for this very necessary reminder…your compassion about the subject is palpable.

Life has such an abundance of lessons and the teachers vary so much and are so unassuming sometimes that even when we know to expect anything, we still miss something.

“…all rewards are not given to us here on Earth. Some people get rewarded for their service on earth in their new life, after they have unplugged from this realm.” If you’re not spiritually centered, this can be such a hard pill to swallow.

In the case of this young man and so many others, are there times when egbe is also at play in addition to being taught lessons or is it one or the other?

RBH
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RBH

Thanks for this very necessary reminder…your compassion about the subject is palpable.

Life has such an abundance of lessons and the teachers vary so much and are so unassuming sometimes that even when we know to expect anything, we still miss something.

“…all rewards are not given to us here on Earth. Some people get rewarded for their service on earth in their new life, after they have unplugged from this realm.” If you’re not spiritually centered, this can be such a hard pill to swallow.

In the case of this young man and so many others, are there times when egbe is also at play in addition to being taught lessons or is it one or the other?

Peace Treasure
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Peace Treasure

My spirit is lefted. The guys story is exactly like mine. Thank you for enlighten me.

Charles
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Charles

Woke up this morning to this message of upliftment. Thank you so much Obara.

Kdeishak1
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Kdeishak1

What a lovely and inspirational post. This has a powerful message and came at the right time for me to see this. Because I am going through a waiting period in life now and i feel so lost and at times lonely and it’s hard to have faith that it’s just for a period of time.
Love love love the blog Obara.

sapphiresandsisters
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Excellent post, Obara. I’m currently going though a “waiting period”, which has been very long and sometimes lonely and exhausting. But, I know that something greater is being prepared on the other side. This is a great self-check story. Thank you!

Sharon
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Sharon

Obara Meji, this post is so, so, so, sooooo timely! Thank you much much much!

Natalie Lawrence
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Natalie Lawrence

Hi Ms. Obara,

Great post. Good timing.

I have weathered a lot storms in my life. Lately, i have comforted myself by keeping positive and see the good in all these set backs. Things i used to trip over i leave alone.

It is hard when you have tried all you can and the storms seems not to let up.

I have continue to be grateful for all i have and experiencing. I tell myself this too shall pass.

No regrets right, only lessons learnt.

Blessings

Mo
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Mo

Thank you Obara. I needed to read this. Blessings to you.

Lincoln
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Lincoln

Every thing we go through are learning Chapters in our book of life- Maybe sometimes we go in a chapter and it doesn’t sink in so we need to re live(re read) it before we goto the next chapter.
Some things wont seem to connect till you go further in your life book.

Much love Sis!

Kevin
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Kevin

This article really touches home for me as I myself have gone through and still am going through some of the things stated. The one thing I have realized now though is that once your health is in check you can deal with anything regardless of how hard it may seem at the time. It’s hard at times to see the light ar the end of the tunnel but with the understanding of what Obara wrote it should bring comfort to many who feel therea nowhere to turn. Be strong, stay positive, learn from your mistakes!

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