August 8, 2011 Obara Meji 74Comment

The subject of a true friend is touchy for me, because I have NEVER had one. I have always wondered why, and even have cried and lamented about it. It always seems to me that even while growing up, as soon as I made a new friend something would come up and we would separate. It was not until I embraced my spirituality that I realized that my Eguns (ancestors), and my spiritual guides were the ones protecting me from I was a wee babe, from untrustworthy people, deceptive individuals. I was marked for spirituality, (to become a spiritualist), before I came into the world and as such could not have certain characters as friends. With age brings wisdom, and I have come to realize that it is for the benefit of me why some people are removed from my life. The woman I wrote about in yesterdays post, I had hoped could have been a friend, but my astral mates made her reveal herself quickly to me. I still like her and will pray for her, but I must thank them for that revelation. For all those who have experienced good and true friendship, I Obara Meji say HOOORAYYY for you!!!. it is good when you have found people that will always be there for you through thick and thin. You must do all you can to uphold this friendship and pray fervently that nothing bad EVER enters the relationship, because PRAYER works, and GOOD FRIENDS ARE HARD TO FIND!!.

Here on Embracing Spirituality, the focus is to teach people how to understand all things that are spiritual, and why, how they manifest through any and everything in our lives. How to recognize the messages that are being sent to us through the many avenues and channels provided to us by the Universe. Often times our messages comes to us through people that we know, or who are family members, mentors, or people who we randomly meet. Sometimes people that we randomly meet becomes our good friends and can often times become a blessing as well as a curse in our lives, if only we relax and watch the signs that will show itself up real quickly. Now you would wonder why would the Universe should send you a bad person in your life, the answer is simple. Bad experiences even if it cost death or destruction comes to teach, not only the victim but the world!. It is difficult to understand I know,  but that is the truth!. For instance, a child is kidnapped, and found murdered, the country is outraged and disgusted that some one could do this. What eventually comes out of this is that a new law is made to protect the children of our land, Read the Post titled DEATH!, and you will realize that death does not exist!.

Often times we have a friend who we believe is true, real and genuine. Sometimes we have been with them for  a while, possibly since Kindergarten. Life becomes good for you and suddenly that friend becomes your worse enemy. Or you marry and begin your life with your lovely husband or wife, seeding up a couple of children and the friend withdraws from you and all of a sudden they are out of your life. The possibility of jealously is there, Jealous because you got married perhaps, or jealous because you are no longer free to roam the streets with them, whatever the case maybe. There is also the friend who suffers from SCHADENFREUDE, who is happy when problems enters the marriage or when the boss threatens to fire you!. When you bring all your hurt and pain to them they secretly rejoice at your hurt. Wasn’t Judas a friend?, What was Brutus to Caesar?, Peter denied Christ. Oh Oprah such serendipity when you found Gayle!!.

Good friend is better than gold someone said and how true is that, but does that really exist?, and I Obara Meji who is asking this question should very well introspect to see if I am truly a good friend myself. It all boils down to compatibility. We should choose our friends I believe, on the basis of the energy that person brings into our lives. For example, If you are a weak person then you should look for a strong and determined friend, who will give you the inspiration to learn your strength and that will be by example, do not get me wrong, because there will be the strong ones who will try to exert power over you which will cause you to run. This strength of character should be also filled with love and compassion. Opposites attracts and I believe that to be true.  There maybe personality traits missing in someone but they find themselves in another who has that missing link and the relationship works because you understand them, and they understand you. Incredible but true. Friendship begins with the heart, and it should be cherished, because we all need each other and no man is an Island. Respect and communication should be the root of all friendship and those two will, bring along trust. Whenever you have a friend, enquire through prayer or meditation what has this person brought into my life, how will their energy assist me to evolve. What contribution do we have to give each other, is this friendship a waste of time. The answer to the latter should be no, because nothing happens by chance, so you have met that person for a reason, the wisdom here is for you to calmly examine their purpose around you!. Oprah say of Gayle, that she is very truthful to her, and that Gayle is happy for Oprah more than Oprah is for herself whenever Oprah achieves anything in life!. Oprah has recognized Gayle’s purpose in her life and that has forged and unbreakable bond. ASE!… It is time to use your spirit of discernment and look for answers, we all have that innate ability. USE IT!!.

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Obara cum talkup the things dem, an tell we if Badmind can affect us ‘telepathically’…? lol

skeptic
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Exactly Sharleen, like when dem start wish bad and all try meddle fi ruin ppl life and relationship. Badmind worse than Obeah… #Realtalk

sharlenerose
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sharlenerose

skeptic, that’s true, its just some bad mind envious jealous emotions are negative and breed negativity that can also affect the new relationship

skeptic
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nite nite, i think not all jealousy is bad where friendship is concerned. if a friend becomes jealous because of anothers new found relationship, which they may be alone themself, i think it’s normal human nature, when it becomes envious and hateful now that’s a problem

Rayne888
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Rayne888

Thank you sharlene. I appreciate it.

sharlenerose
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sharlenerose

happy belated birthday…rayne

Rayne888
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Rayne888

Thank you Obara. I appreciate it. One more year older and so much wiser.

Rayne888
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Rayne888

Thanks maniac. I haven’t really been on the computer. A lot has been going on lately but I’m here and still celebrating.

Maniac
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Maniac

Happy Belated Rayne!!!!!! Yuh shudda mek wi know man…..wi nuh live soh

Rayne888
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Rayne888

Hello all. Sorry for the absences. I’ve been very busy and I was celebrating my birthday. True I would like to think I have a lot of friends. But through the years I tend to realize that they weren’t amounting to anything. They were users, abusers and just plain stuck. I wanted better. Now I can count on one hand whomy true friends are.

Gog3tt3r
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Gog3tt3r

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Wasavirgin

I am now very careful who I let in my ife. When I was younger any batta foot gal I would hang with, and eventualy they brought havoc as my life progressed. I am into the heart of a person, watching and listening keenly to their conversation, and using that to monitor how close they will be in my life. In other cases me tek whey myself!!!

Gog3tt3r
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Gog3tt3r

obara u a mad ooman enuh.. mi seh d riot a get worse

Gog3tt3r
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Gog3tt3r

janet is the left breast by the way

Maniac
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Maniac

Okkkkkkk then…..Gg yuh nuh eazy atall

Gog3tt3r
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Gog3tt3r

no jane is d saaal jill n janet a d breast dem

Maniac
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Maniac

Where is Lady GGGG…..beg yuh come ansa deh fi mi pls an tonks…..who name Janet?

sharlenerose
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sharlenerose

a caan bodda

Maniac
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Maniac

Fram I is birth…….GGGGGG….no sah….she cross it

Maniac
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Maniac

DWLLLLL
Hear di one teacha she

Maniac
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Maniac

GGGGGGGG
Mi juss ah read bout it an mi mine run pon yuh enuh

Bwoy it look like mi affi goh tek da stance deh to!!!!!
Jane, Jill an Janet

Gog3tt3r
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Gog3tt3r

mi pussy n mi 2 breast dem a my bestest fren dem deh..jane jill n janet……..

mi nuh read yet cawz mi a watch d news wid d riot

Maniac
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Maniac

Well Obara, I guess those have to exist to strike a balance

Maniac
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Maniac

BRAP!!! BRAP!!!! SHARLENE
yuh have it down to di TTTTTT

sharlenerose
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sharlenerose

Subject: The issue of “Friendship”

Friendship is not about how long you have had a friend,
for a friendship can last years and just end,
It’s really about the depths you would go for that friend,
the option of saying how are you doing?
the comfort of agreeing to disagree,
Knowing when to step back for a minute is not a sin,
also knowing when to lean forward to offer comfort or some other joy
that a friendship brings…that’s friendship….
All my friends know themselves…when I change my number they get a text…
But you have some red eye, bad mind, grudgeful , degenerate, naw no life, naw no future, dregs of the earth people(not just females) that call themself friend.
Those are not my friends…people who hang around for a ride or you can lend them $20 or $50 OR ANY AMOUNT OF MONEY YOU ARE STUPID ENOUGH TO GIVE THEM…WHICH THEY NEVER HAVE TO REPAY…
 People who talk about you behind your back. Those who are mad for their real friends because you are now with the PERSON she used to be with…
People who want you to hang around so they can know your business, to do what, spread it on the street…for those people I say…nobody caan chat my business like me..that’s why they say” MISERY LOVES COMPANY”
People who are mad because you overheard somebody saying something about you…IT AINT MY FAULT…PEOPLE DON’T LIKE YOU…

Maniac
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Maniac

Now dat yuh menshan ‘forbidden love’…..Obara fram whey day mi fi hosk yuh fi hosk di writer fi wheel an come again!!!!! More stories roun ere

Maniac
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Maniac

Ah dat mi nuh like neida Sharlene @ 17:48…..More while mi feel ah way, like seh ah nuff mi nuff (yea mi noe mi sensitive 🙂 )…….Mi noe sey ah nuff kwestian deh pon ppl mine an dats y mi always ah call oonu out soh…..Believe it or not, each one teach one…..no matter how simple-minded it might look, we can ALL learn from it…..Mi love hear from others, caw mi alone cyaan tink…

No hard feelings, but I know there is a lot to be said and I love when ppl ask questions…..that’s how I learn…..What u see from Maniac is what you get….That’s me!!!!!

sharlenerose
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sharlenerose

yeah…u a go tooo deepp teacher

sharlenerose
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sharlenerose

the only thing i dont like is the fact that you guys are here and you never say anything…if im here having a conversation and me and obara and maniac not talking….dash out a question or a comment…graceeee a whe u dehhh?

sharlenerose
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sharlenerose

no sah obara…obara no sah…a no u dat…anytime anyting come gainst u…a so wha u gwaan cause a no u dis

sharlenerose
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sharlenerose

no sah obara…a dem same bad mind people deh mek me walk wide…no sah…when u see dem u wi know dem

sharlenerose
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sharlenerose

she fool like…same ting me a tell u…obara a who and u?

Maniac
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Maniac

Mi sey Sharlene, mi nah lie mi feel a way…..ah ovah 10 yrs shi an di man deh enuh, an fram dem time deh di man ah leff him wife an alla nung……Mi noe fi a FACT sey him nuh good….but….

Maniac
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Maniac

Yes dee……lolloll
Sharlene ah whey do mumma Obara now sah? Ah who chubble yuh mama?

sharlenerose
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sharlenerose

same ting de gal a ediat

Maniac
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Maniac

Sharlene ah nuff tings shi hear, gyal all call har an ting (not di wife, di odda one…aldoa him tell har sey ah di wife – who him live wid but dont sleep wid, AS IF -mek har fren call har)……mi hear how it goh, an all drop hints; but chue mi noe sey shi goin get depressed to di point whey shi gudda all stap goh werk an ting, mi decide genst it…. As mi tell di smaddy dem whey tell mi, as much as mi hate him dutty behaviah, mi luv har tuh much fi tell har str88888…..

Anyway, odda day wi ah tawk an shi menshan sey shi wudda radda har fren tell har…..long story short, I did…..well him tell har some more BS an dem still togedda…me feel ah way

Way b4 mi tell har, whenever shi tell mi bout enny man whey like har, mi use to encourage har to seek dem out an possibly go for it…..If me have smaddy whey mi consida my ‘fren’ an dem tell mi dem tings deh, mi wudda stawt pree it pon a diffrant level (but then that’s just me)…..

sharlenerose
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sharlenerose

me would have to find a way fi tell her if me love her like dat and me waan she get rid a de nastiness and and rae…if she no lef him me a go vex after me put myself on the line

sharlenerose
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sharlenerose

me no like fast inna people bisness….me believe wha deh a dark comes to light…me nuh like tell gal bout dem man…dem naw lef and me a big bitch

Maniac
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Maniac

Sharlene tell mi how yuh wudda hangle dis…..If yuh have a fren an yuh noe sey har man nuh good, but she tink sey dem relationship perfek an shi happy fi di moas part, whey yuh wudda do?

sharlenerose
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sharlenerose

me a tell u bout mi friend…right now me nuh know

sharlenerose
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sharlenerose

yes mi luv!

Maniac
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Maniac

Mi did ah do sumn Sharlene, mi reach back now

sharlenerose
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sharlenerose

okay so maniac a whe u deh…teacha school gate open de pitny dem a run out…me a go ketch dem…hotgalbrowngal yaw peep and naw talk…gg a whe u deh…grace…rayne…splendid whe in a nouuta jail…hajimass a really u get stab…calling out fi u let us know if u are ok…opti…resident cock…is where is orisapikney u know wha dis a gwaan bad now a how she just drop outta sight so…a she used to start school…a whe u deh? tiffany…de one whe people man love

sharlenerose
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sharlenerose

dats why me say she mad

sharlenerose
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sharlenerose

anytime me really have money me neva deh round her yet…she always stay far…and me and her cant go out by we self…she always invite bout 10 people…know me naw chat to somebody and waan invite me to intimate social setting…

sharlenerose
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sharlenerose

i dont know if its as you say dem happy when u down…cause me a stay wid her from may and now a september and wi a live wid her mother…gal shoulda glad me life a go inna upward direction..wha no fair seh him same one God decide fi answer mi prayers…

sharlenerose
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sharlenerose

i mean is a girl that was always there for me…dont get me wrong….she always have my back…she just mad and mi low her

sharlenerose
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sharlenerose

obara do u think that wouuld have a negative impact on me…her with the tears and the foolishness like a me tell her no fi ask fi tings…and when me tell her she go gainst me

sharlenerose
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sharlenerose

unno know a my morning dem ya…me confiscate the computer

sharlenerose
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sharlenerose

morning teacha where are u?

sharlenerose
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sharlenerose

maniac whe hellu deh

sharlenerose
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sharlenerose

u know say God is a good good…one week to de day after she mek da statement deh she call me and she say to me she dream me a gi har money and she neva waan tek it..and me say to her u stay deh no want tek it and push it pon her…and when she wake up a voice tell her call de bwoy and tell him she need some money and di bwoy gi har…bwoy

sharlenerose
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sharlenerose

a dem people yah mek negative energy come ur way…dis gal work and all…have a man and all me a tell her defend money she deh pon…i dont think i should have to ask…me no care about should or shouldnt…do u have any money because i xyz…and me and u deh…come to find out de way she gwaan like all is well de bwoy no stop borrow money from her…wha?

sharlenerose
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sharlenerose

and yes wid she now me and mi babyfather never chat fi how long…so him start talk and seh him a go send me a money…me meet a guy whe move me from her mother house whe we did a stay and inna one one room de same week whe de bf send the money…she a go tell me say she did a cry and a tell GOD seh it no fair cause no man never give her no money yet…why did gal a cry and apray pon me…WHA NO FAIR?

sharlenerose
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sharlenerose

like me have one friend…luv chat people….me know this so when me ketch a do some dumb shit…me laugh after her…because i have come to know what can be expected from her…mee no have her up…me give har space…sometimes a lot of space..years

Maniac
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Maniac

There is this age old saying that people come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime……My definition of a true friend is one who laughs with me, cries with me, is there to listen to my ramblings (which are many), supports me etc.

For me, my friends should fill my emotional needs much more than my financial ones; and I the same….. I want to know that if something is bothering me, no matter how trivial it may seem, that I can call him/her at 1am and talk. It would kill me to know that my ‘friend’ would secretely rejoice at my hurt, disappointments or even my failed relationship….but then again, we have to face the fact THOSE PEOPLE DO EXIST….

sharlenerose
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sharlenerose

so far i dont know…but it seems sometimes friends leave…or get left behind….some of them may have been like real…but after time you see something different in them

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