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‘Should people get married for reasons other than for love’?
Greetings. I am writing to you for your help. I am 27 and having a problem. I am married but I am still in love with my child’s father. After my child’s father got me pregnant, I promised my parentsI would join the church and live a decent life. Eventually, I did. I got married to a young man who is my age and are a member of the church. But, pastor, I am not happy.
I fantasise a lot about my child’s father. He was a good lover and he knew how to excite me. My husband doesn’t understand what to do to satisfy me. Although he is young, he behaves as if he is an old man.
I am sorry I got married to him and I would like to get out of this marriage. I know it doesn’t sound right, but if I don’t get out I am going to go crazy.
My child’s father said he wants me back and I want him too. We have not had sex since I have the child for him. Whenever I remember what we used to do and how I am longing to be with him, tears come to my eyes.
My husband is complaining that I do not love him and I don’t. I have to touch my own private part to stimulate myself. He doesn’t even know how to do that. I asked him to suck my breasts and where to touch me.
What I am asking you, pastor, is for you to tell me how to approach my motherand tell her that I am leaving my husband. What will the people in the district think of me when I leave my husband?
Your marriage is not based on love. You wanted to please your parents because you got pregnant and, were not married and they were disappointed in you. You married another man to please your parents but you were never in love with him. You were in love with your child’s father and you have continued to love him.
Your husband knows that you do not love him. He can feel it. What your husband is not doing is rather unusual. Most men would be happy to fondle their women and to engage in foreplay. So, if he is not engaging in such activity, it is either he is totally ignorant or you have turned him off.
It does not appear that you have tried to make this marriage work because your mind has been on your child’s father. Why haven’t you encouraged your husband to go with you for counselling sessions? Is it that you believe it would be a waste of time because you do not love him? You should go and see your mother and tell her that your husband has disappointed you, you are very unhappy do not love him and want to move on. Tell her how you feel about your child’s father and what both of you have been discussing. Ask her for her advice.
Obara Meji is a spiritualist, Ifa-Orisa practitioner, and teacher of metaphysics. Since 2011 she has used her online platform to share her personal experiences to those seeking answers about spirituality. Her teachings will expand into short stories, novels, and public speaking to continue her mission of bringing enlightenment to the world.