UNDATEABLE? FAILED RELATIONSHIPS AND THE SPIRITUAL FORCES BEHIND THEM

Humans and animals alike innately yearn for partnership. In the human world, this person we seek may be for marriage and family, while others simply need companionship. However, some people never find this partner, some have never dated, or have experienced several failed relationships, betrayal, or some difficulty in love.

This can be disconcerting to the mind because many people blame themselves, developing self-esteem issues and insecurities. But everything in life has a spiritual connotation to it, whether you believe this or not, and everything must happen for us to learn. However, most often we do not look to the spiritual side of life – and there is where all our answers lie.

All relationships, intimate, platonic, social, family, or even the lack of (intimate) relationship, have a spiritual force behind them. Each human being that resides on this planet has written their journey before entering this world. Within this post, I would like to focus on relationships between romantic partners and those who can not find, keep, or have never had a partner.

This is a common situation that I hear constantly either through those I consult with or in my daily life, and I realize that this is a problem for many; both men and women. At first, when I hear these stories, my mind immediately goes to Egbe (read here), knowing that this is most often a cause to the difficulties of finding (or keeping) a partner.

Egbe

Egbe is not often easily understood, even by those who explain it, but the way to understanding Egbe is to avoid being literal about its explanation. Although the literal meaning is “society”, what it actually is is your “spiritual family” who resides in the world you came from before your existence on Earth. Now, when we think of the word “family”, we naturally tend to humanize what we imagine in order to better understand it. But “family” here simply means a group of members that are connected in some form, and not actual human beings in an alternate reality.

Not everyone has Egbe (a spiritual family) but everyone has Egbe (a spiritual family). In essence, this means that all human beings on Earth belong to a “family” of a larger force (on Earth, we can call this force a community or society; a collective of smaller forces that make up one big force). But those who are affected by Egbe on Earth are those who this spiritual family depend on in their world.

Human life mirrors the non-physical, it is like looking at your reflection over a river. Just as we understand the idea of family, spouse and children here, this is a concept that is simply mirrored by what exists outside of the physical. The difference between them is understanding, but their reasons for being, for existing at all, are the same. We understand relationships as emotional connections. But outside of the human body relationships are contractual – not emotional. This is where the “negative” effect of Egbe comes from, spiritual contracts.

Those with Egbe issues are special spirits from where ever their spirit originates. There, this spirit is a leader depended upon by the group of which he belongs. Because this spirit is already “married” (or in contractual agreement with another force), this contract still exists even if the spirit is on assignment on Earth. The human, having no idea at all about any of this, then faces difficulties in some area: finding a spouse, keeping a spouse, having too many issues with current spouse, promiscuity, or loneliness.

When the human desires to join a new contract with someone else by marrying, what happens then is a conflict of contracts. The new one will have difficulty manifesting because one already exists.

There are various types of Egbe situations, social (those who have no friends, or unable to keep friends, or often face betrayal), children (those who have difficulty having children, miscarriages, problematic children, or children who born but die soon afterwards, etc.), family (issues with family, black sheep, etc.), relationships, and much more.

Since these contracts exist, it’s important to understand that with any kind of contract, there are terms and agreements. Because of this, once this contract is violated, there will undoubtedly be repercussions.

So, what does one do? This is where the importance of initiating or “receiving” Egbe comes from. When one “receives” Egbe, he receives a portal, a port of contact, to his spiritual family. This port of contact now keeps the human connected to the spiritual family, and renegotiates a new contract which both pacifies the spouse/family and frees the human to join the new contract with his/her human partner.

Unfortunately Egbe is not in the Christian Bible nor the Koran or any doctrine, and it is a topic scarcely understood. Because of this lack of knowledge, Mary Catherine stays at home a spinster with 20 cats unaware that her problem is not her.

The Force that Joins the Two Together

We all have our “Heads”. The Yorubas call it your Ori, or your “creator”. In the West, it can be described as your “Higher Self”. It is referred to as your “creator” because it is literally thought of as your first God. The author of your destiny. The force I speak of above is that of your Higher Self, your Head, and this is the force that will bring John or Jennifer into your life because it is your Head that has written that you should marry this person. Regardless of marriage, both should understand that both parties have their own journeys to walk, their own assignments to complete upon Earth.

But let’s say that for some reason John becomes overly possessive of Jennifer, perhaps even jealous of her success, or the fact that she is social, John may now try to control her. Jennifer, patient as she is, will try to conform to John’s difficult demands. BUT Jennifer still has her own Head. Her destiny has already been written and prepared for her, all of which includes John and their life.

However, John’s behavior now becomes an interference in their lives and a conflict within Jennifer’s journey. Both of them have non-physicals guiding their lives, as does all humans. Her Ori now has a meeting with his Ori. Her journey is important to humanity and he is a supporter for her. This is his journey. Something has to be done, because he has been steering her away or controlling her to the point of delaying her purpose. The meetings result in a ruling that they must separate.

How can this be achieved? It will either happen through conflict or death. The heads will make that ruling, and so the force that has brought them together, will be the same force that will separate them.

The point of this is the achievement of destiny. This overrules everything. It is the basis of all deciding factors in our lives; whether the enemy should be punished or simply removed, whether you marry that person or not, whether you get or don’t get that job, whether you are famous or live a humble life. If it is a star along your path to your ultimate goal, it will be. If it will delay your journey, or interfere with it at all, then it must go.

The Test Before the Real Thing

Often times a person will find that their second or third relationship mirrors the previous in almost the same exact way. Perhaps the same place of birth or origin, or same job, same likes or dislikes, same personality, or even similar names. The same is also true in opposite form. Perhaps the previous partner was called Dark, and the new partner is called Light. The former loved fire, and the new one loves water.

Whatever the case may be, you must pay close attention when you notice similarities (or exact opposites) to the old relationship.

There is a reason – a very big one.

Years ago, I told a woman that she will marry a much younger man from across the water. This meant that she would marry someone who was perhaps from another country. Eventually the revelation came true, and she met someone much younger than her, flew to his country and eventually the two married. However, while they were getting together, the woman complained about the guy’s behavior. She complained he was too possessive and too hateful. To be honest, if anyone heard her description of him they would think she was describing herself.

When he moved to her country, it was all well in the beginning. But not even a year later, the two began to fight horribly. The marriage that was destined turned sour.

We had a conversation and I told her that the message was still there: She was going to marry a younger man across the water.

In less than a year, she found a much younger man (even younger than the first), from the same country, the same astrological signs, but one was dark and the other was light. The difference between the first marriage and this one, although there were many similarities, was that the first man that she married was a replica of herself in personality. One may even say she married herself in masculine form. However, the second one, had a clear difference in character. He was compassionate, kind, loving and clearly the woman’s opposite.

Both marriages were destined to be. However, one may ask: “But why is it that the divination did not tell the woman that she would marry twice?” The reason is because although physically she married two different people, spiritually, she married only one. What happens is that there is a mission that must be carried through by partners. The woman, however, is not yet prepared for that journey, so before she can embark on it, the real husband will be sent to her – but in opposite form. Through their relationship issues, she must figure out the issue and solve it within herself. If she has done so, the same relationship will continue but only with a new character. It is much like a television show who changes actors of the same character, but everything about the story remains the same.

The Wrong Call For a Spouse

Often times, humans have insecurities or self-esteem issues. These psychological problems lowers the vibration of the human and throws its whole life in chaos unbeknownst to them. So for the woman who wishes to be married and desired, but she believes others insult her because of her weight or lack thereof, her education, or the gap in her front tooth. Or for the man who believes he is not yet successful enough to be desired by a woman.

Whatever belief a person has about himself is the vibration he emits. Since we are the creators of our reality, persons finding it difficult to connect to his or her other half, this plays an important role. In other words, positive thoughts create positive outcomes. Negative thoughts bring negative outcomes. But it is not as simple as it sounds.

Many people have negative thoughts that are buried so deep into the subconscious, things that have been compiled over the years but have been lost deep within the psyche. These beliefs come forth in times of emotional moments, such as rage or sadness. But no matter how deep these negative thoughts are buried, it impacts one’s life by holding down one’s frequency. And we all have different range of frequency that we emit and depending on how high or how low the frequency determines our reality.

But this frequency is not how you act, but what is within you. You can be quiet but emit a vibration of strength and confidence. You can be loud and emit a frequency of lowliness and uncertainty. Your inner belief is what lifts your frequency or lowers it.

Also know this important tip: When you become firm in your belief, you no longer think about it. You will not have to think about when you will marry because you already believe you will.

This is why we must pay attention to our spirituality and align ourselves with it so that we are able to understand what we are emitting to the world. A high vibration is always better than a low one.

There are many reasons for failed relationships and loneliness, some of which I have highlighted here. Others are generational, witchcraft (let’s face it, it’s real), repercussions from things you may have done in your own life or to others (i.e. dating a married person, or interfering in the life of another negatively, etc.), spiritual attachments (meaning married to material things; this can happen as everything is forces and energy), and much much more.

But just know this: there is a spiritual diagnosis to every situation.

Love and Light to you all,

Obara Meji

An oil lamp feels proud to give light even though it wears itself away – Yoruba Proverb